Empty Nest Quest

Parenting from Self-Trust: Breaking Free from the Helper-Fixer Trap


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Ever caught yourself frantically trying to teach your teen everything before they leave home? That panic isn't helping either of you.

Healing specialist Liz McNulty joins Melynda for an illuminating conversation about the subtle ways our fears manifest in parenting—and how to shift toward something more powerful. Through personal stories and professional insights, they explore the paradox at the heart of effective parenting: when we focus on our own alignment rather than controlling our children's experiences, everyone benefits.

"When I was being the fixer," Liz explains, "it's because ego-wise I wanted to be seen as someone who helped. That has a shelf life. It burns me out and doesn't create lasting change for the client or the child." This wisdom applies equally to parenting and healing work. The alternative? Radiating our authentic presence and trusting others' capacity to grow.

The conversation weaves through powerful examples—like when Melynda let her young daughter witness her setting a boundary with an angry client, providing a model of self-respect that lectures never could. Or the moment Liz caught herself mid-argument with her teenage daughter, recognizing she was projecting her own fears rather than respecting her daughter's wisdom about what she needed.

Their insights offer liberation for parents approaching the empty nest phase. Rather than obsessing over what you haven't taught your almost-adult children, consider what they're learning from how you embody self-trust, boundary-setting, and authentic living. Your example speaks volumes more than your instructions ever could.

Ready to shift from fear-based parenting to something more powerful? Listen now, and discover why your radiance might be the greatest gift you can offer your children as they prepare to leave home.

We want to hear from you! Reach out to us on socials or at [email protected] to share how our conversations are landing with you! xo-Melynda and Jennifer

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Empty Nest QuestBy Jennifer Dollander and Melynda McCutcheon

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