Parenting Paused

Kindness is a BIG word right now! We often hear in the parenting world that kindness is being nice and if your child is being mean, our goal should be to change their behavior to something more agreeable.

Do you see kindness as only "good"?

Do you feel the need to change your child's behavior if you perceive it as mean?

In this week's podcast you'll hear how kindness is not so black and white and how you can turn it into a beautiful tool for yourself and your family.

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Kindness is not about Being Nice

Take a Purejoy Parenting conclusion quiz! Read these scenarios and discover where your mind takes you!

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Your son has been playing video games for the past several hours and says he doesn't want to go for a walk.

- What's your first thought?

Your daughter stole her sister's clothing to wear to school.

- What do you conclude about her?

Your preK just pushed a kid down a slide at the playground.

- What do you tell yourself about them?

Explore what it is like to suspend your conclusions, stay with the sensation of discomfort a little longer, and learn about the practice of "Aware Listening".

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Are your Conclusions True?

Are you feeling "shoulded" on in your parenting? You should do this and your children should do that. Are you organizing your life to avoid the discomfort that comes along with all of the "shoulds"?

What is it like to try something new?

Are you ready to be the expert of you?

Are you willing to welcome that discomfort as a friend rather than a foe?

In this week's Parenting Paused Podcast, explore what this counter instinctual work is able to offer you.

Trust Your Biology

In this week's Parenting Paused Podcast, the topic is Parenting Biology... a much different topic than Parenting Psychology!

Have you considered how much of your parenting wisdom comes almost thoughtlessly, through an innate system of biology? Or, are you more likely to trust a parenting "expert", book, or trusted friend or family? Is there resistance to seeking internal guidance?

In this week's Parenting Paused Podcast, the invitation is to open up to trusting the inner wisdom that is already present. You trust that your heart will beat and that your breath will come. You trust that the sun will rise in the East tomorrow morning.

This week, consider trusting yourself and your inner wisdom as a parent!

"Grown ups are boring!"

I remember when my child said this to me. My first thought was, "Well of course we are. We have to be! We are parents and have chores and bills and jobs and meals and our own parents to take care of!" My second thought was, "Good point... Why do I have to be so serious?"

Do you remember thinking adults were boring when you were a child? Do you have a tendency to bring heaviness to your parenting? Take a moment to consider the possibility of bringing child-like lightness to your day.

Explore the root of seriousness in your parenting and discover ways to, Lighten Up!

Imagine being at the beach, watching the waves at a distance as they rumble under the surface, rise to a peak, then fold on to the shore, sending fizzing bubbles over your toes.

Are you able to stop that cycle in anyway?

Now imagine watching the waves of emotions inside you as they rumble under your conscious surface, rising to a peak and then folding on to the shore... how do you feel when you sense that discomfort?

Discover more, now!

Are you upset when your kids don't like you?

Before listening to the podcast, take a moment, either right now or later in the day, to truly contemplate this question.

How does your answer impact how you parent? How does your response alter how you relate to your own parents or other parents?

In this week's Parenting Paused Podcast, discover how to set your child, spouse or others FREE from your need to be loved.

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Projection in Parenting!

What does that even mean?

Let's say your child hits someone at a playdate. Or your teen just arrived home late from a party. What happens to you right in that moment? When your mind starts to fill in a story between the gaps of what actually occurred you are projecting either the past or a future outcome on the moment.

Imagine meeting each moment as if seeing for the first time. How would this change your relationships?

Curious?

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Are you a Parent Pleaser? You've probably heard about People Pleasing, saying "yes" when you really don't want to, etc. This strategy is used to protect yourself from feeling an emotion by ignoring your own personal boundaries. (Essentially, purchasing love).

How does this work in Parent Pleasing? Well, do you act a certain way with your child to ensure you always feel kind and loving?

Here's the same question from a different view: have you ever perceived your child as demanding or entitled? Could it be that this is a backlash from saying "yes" to your child when you really meant "no"?

Intrigued?

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When did you have your last emotional meltdown?💥 A fight with your spouse, your kids, a coworker... Did you say something in the moment you wished you hadn't? 😫

So much of parenting advice is about supporting children to emotionally regulate, but what if you are struggling with how?

In this week's Parenting Paused Podcast, discover an easy signal that supports you in unlinking your emotional energy from your actions.