Gissell Colon and Charleston discuss the true meaning of Labor Day, emphasizing its roots in the labor movement of the 1880s and the sacrifices made by workers for rights such as shorter hours and fair pay.

They highlight the debate over the holiday's origin, with Peter J. McGuire and Matthew McGuire as key figures. The conversation touches on the historical context, including the Pullman Strike of 1894, and the shift from May Day to September to avoid radical associations. They stress the importance of recognizing essential workers who still labor during the holiday and the need for continued advocacy to preserve labor rights.

Charleston and Gissell Colon discuss the societal pressure to suppress softness, particularly in men, and the consequences of doing so. Charleston recalls being ridiculed for prioritizing rest over partying, leading to exhaustion and reliance on energy drinks. Gissell shares her guilt for self-care, emphasizing the importance of self-care for productivity and health.

They argue that softness is often misunderstood as weakness but is essential for authenticity and well-being. Both stress the importance of being true to oneself and not conforming to societal expectations, advocating for self-care and genuine emotional expression.

In their discussion, Gissell and Charleston explore the complexities of emotional regulation and coping mechanisms after significant losses. Gissell shares her struggles with her father's passing, the overwhelming silence, and the longing for his presence. Charleston reflects on the end of his marriage, grappling with his identity post-divorce and the subsequent challenges of rebuilding trust. Both speakers underscore the importance of resilience, learning from past experiences, and honoring their deceased parents' legacies. They also delve into gender differences in handling grief, advocating for open expression and self-reflection as essential components of healing.

Ultimately, they agree that evolution involves discarding what no longer serves one's spirit, embracing growth, and finding ways to continue living meaningfully.

Gissell and Charleston discuss the pressures of societal expectations and personal growth. They share their experiences of working long hours, financial struggles, and the challenges of single parenthood. Gissell recounts her journey of leaving a relationship, working multiple jobs, and pursuing education while raising her daughter. Charleston reflects on his own struggles with financial dependency and the realization that he was always putting others before himself. They emphasize the importance of self-care, the slow progress of personal growth, and the need to stay focused on one's own journey rather than comparing oneself to others.

Gissell and Charleston reflect on their past struggles with self-expression and identity. Gissell, who had papillomatosis and couldn't speak until age six, now emphasizes the importance of finding and using one's voice. Charleston, who grew up on Chicago's West side, discusses the challenges or early sexual activity and the pressure to conform. Both agree on the significance of self-acceptance and the power of voice. They encourage their younger selves to embrace their vulnerabilities and to keep growing without fear of judgement. The conversation Highlights the resilience and growth they've achieved despite their hardship.

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Ever catch yourself nose-deep in your phone… and your nostrils? Yeah. This one’s for the distracted, the overstimulated, and the lowkey nose-pickers of the world.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why we do the weird things we do when we think no one’s watching from scrolling in a daze to going elbow-deep mid-scroll.

It’s funny, it’s awkward, it’s a little too real.
Come laugh with us. Or cringe. We won’t judge. Just bring tissues.

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Gissell and Charleston discuss the nature of love and obsession, prompted by a listener's question about a love spell. They explore how love can feel like a force, driven by oxytocin and dopamine, and the difference between love and obsession. They debate the concept of obligation in marriage versus commitment, with Gissell preferring the latter. They also discuss the challenges of early marriage, the importance of communication, and the potential for love at first sight.

Ultimately, they emphasize that love is a personal experience and that commitment should be based on mutual goals and genuine effort.

The Prison of Perfect

We all want to get it right. But when “perfect” becomes the standard, it can steal our peace. In this episode, Gissell and Charleston unpacks the highs, the harm, and the hidden weight of perfectionism and what it really takes to let go. A must-listen if you’ve ever felt like you’re never enough, no matter how hard you try.

In this first episode, we share the real story behind Patio Talks.Why we created it, what it means to us,and what you can expect from this space going forward.

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