Paula Eder, The Time Finder Expert

Childhood lessons about time can turn into time myths that we carry into adulthood. If you don't explore those beliefs, you find yourself thwarting your own efforts and not understanding why. You do the same things over and over, working against yourself and not knowing how to stop!

In last month's Finding Time E-zine we started to explore the baggage that we all carry -- messages and myths about time that we learned when we were younger. But things you learned and believed 10, 15, 30 or more years ago won't necessarily serve you well today. So what I'd like to do is give you a tool that you can use over and over to shine a light on some of your own, personal time myths.

Your history, your family values, and the behaviors you observed as a child all contribute to the ideas and feelings that you bring to your time today.

Your history, your family values, and the behaviors you observed as a child all contribute to the ideas and feelings that you bring to your time today.

I am not afraid of big projects at all, but where I get stuck is in knowing when I am finished. Sometimes I miss a deadline, not because I haven’t done my work, but because I am still editing and polishing it. I want to do the best job I can – so how do I know when I'm done?

Once you start moving toward your goals, how do you maintain your momentum?

The key – and what I'd like to explore in the exercise that follows – is to give yourself what you need. And you can do that by creating your own, personal Empowered Compassion™ Toolbox.

Whatever your age, and whatever tasks you have on your to-do list, do you sometimes find it difficult to stay energized and on track? What do you do when you feel stuck and discouraged? What helps YOU get moving again? Listen for some ideas from The Time Finder ...

I like my job well enough. It's comfortable and I'm good at it, but it's no longer very challenging. I worry that I'm stagnating. Meanwhile, my dream is to start a Doggie Day-Care Center with a good friend. Can you give me some help with navigating this decision?

In today's world, there's often a great deal of pressure to act quickly – and sometimes that's wise and important. Other times you're better served if you step back and slow down. But how do you determine which course is more helpful in any given situation?

When you make a decision you set your course. Depending on the size of it, you may just be plotting your path for the next moment, or you may be determining your direction for many weeks and months to come. So how do YOU decide?