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Have you and your partner argued more since you became parents? Is it hard to juggle it all, making you feel resentful about who does what in your home? Perhaps you are less satisfied with your relationship now that you are also managing the needs of a baby or several children?

In this episode, I cover the second of three threats to relationship connection; parenting. 

Subscribe now to not miss the final episode, on how health problems can cause stormy seas in your relationship. 

Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here

To spend 90 days to develop love and compassion for yourself, join the online course, The Compassionate Couple, here

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This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media

Do you feel anxious when you do new things, not feeling confident? Are you hard on yourself, thinking that you're not good enough if it isn't perfect? Perhaps old beliefs hold you back in life.  

We cover:

• Meditation calms your brain and anxiety

• Being brave and being scared goes hand in hand

Chloe’s books:

The Confidence Solution

www.calmer-you.com

Download your free 4 min audio to give yourself a Self-compassionate break, here

To spend 90 days to develop love and compassion for yourself, join the online course, The Compassionate Couple, here

Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk

Instagram: @the_thomas_connection

Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection

Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay 

This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media

Have you been on the receiving end of an infidelity, having been cheated on by a current or previous partner? Perhaps you yourself have been unfaithful to someone you loved?

Then you know how the trust gets shattered and how it leaves you feeling a full range of emotions, from sadness, anger and anxiety, to guilt and shame. 

If you haven’t experienced infidelity, tune into this episode to understand the risk factors for this happening in your own relationship. 

This brief solo episode of Pause Purpose Play is based on chapter 21 of my new book, The Lasting Connection, about developing love and compassion for yourself and your partner. 

In this episode, I cover the first of three threats to relationship connection; infidelity. 

Subscribe now to not miss the following two episodes, on how parenting and health problems can cause stormy seas in your relationship. 

Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here

To spend 90 days to develop love and compassion for yourself, join the online course, The Compassionate Couple, here

Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk

Instagram: @the_thomas_connection

Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection

Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay 

This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media

Why do we feel so bad at times? Why can’t we just be happy all the time?

Because we haven’t been taught how to understand ourselves, and what it means to be human, and instead chase constant happiness and think we have failed when things aren’t ‘perfect’. 

In this podcast episode, Dr Soph, Clinical Psychologist and Author of ‘A Manual for Being Human’, talks about how we can understand ourselves and show compassionate curiosity for the full register of emotions we experience across our lifespan.

• Struggling against our emotions

A Manual for Being Human by Dr. Sophie Mort

@drsoph on Instagram

Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here

To download the free 5 min audio of the guided meditation Self-Compassionate Break, go to www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/break

Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk

Instagram: @the_thomas_connection

Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection

Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay 

This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media

Do you struggle to be in the present moment with your partner when it comes to sexual intimacy? Do you find it difficult to talk about your desires, fears or needs when it comes to sex?

In this episode, I explore the physical intimacy, not just through sex, and explain why quality not quantity is key to a lasting connection.

This episode of Pause Purpose Play is based on chapter 20 of my new book, The Lasting Connection, about developing love and compassion for yourself and your partner. 

Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here

To spend 90 days to develop love and compassion for yourself, join the online course, The Compassionate Couple, here

Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk

Instagram: @the_thomas_connection

Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection

Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay 

This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media

Does your brain run a million miles an hour, and it's hard to stop?

Michelle Minnikin is a Chartered Psychologist and Coach. She’s the Captain of Work Pirates and Co-Founder of Inspiration North. She was diagnosed as having ADHD just before her 42nd birthday and suddenly her world made sense!

We talk about 

06:00 Thriving off rules, structure and routine

12:58 Fulfilling potential and recognizing strengths

15:18 Hiding coping strategies

17:59 “Good girl” conditioning

19:10 Using up energy to “fit in”

21:37 Rejection sensitivity dysphoria = the pain of criticism

22:30 Neurodiversity

23:26 The diagnosis stopped feelings of ‘being rubbish’

26:00 Anger over being mistreated

28:53 The strengths of ADHD

31:29 ADHD in men and women

33:40 Calming the brain with medication

35:50 Coming to terms with your true self

43:48 Playing Big

Michelle Minnikin | LinkedIn

Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here

Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk

Instagram: @the_thomas_connection

Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection

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This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media

If we want to both survive and thrive in our relationships, we need to allow the time and space to heal from hard times, as well as take the time to turn up the fun and build intimacy together in the good times.

This episode of Pause Purpose Play is based on chapter nineteen of my new book, The Lasting Connection, about developing love and compassion for yourself and your partner. 

Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here

To spend 90 days to develop love and compassion for yourself, join the online course, The Compassionate Couple, here

Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk

Instagram: @the_thomas_connection

Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection

Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay 

This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media

Catherine Hallissey is a chartered psychologist, parenting coach and mother-of-five young kids. She's the founder of Reclaim Parenthood, an online parenting membership. She helps parents use the power of relationship and connection to address parenting challenges, create more peace and harmony at home and help children become more confident and resilient.

8:00 Restraint collapse and comparing home and school behaviour

Find out more about Catherine at www.catherinehallissey.com

Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here

Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk

Instagram: @the_thomas_connection

Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection

Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay 

This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media

Have you ever tried to have a date night that turned into a disaster? An attempt to do something you once enjoyed together that ended up with an argument instead? 

In this episode I explore turning a mirror on ourselves, to find the things that we are doing too much of, not enough of, and those things we are doing right, to help us turn down the heat in our conflicts.

This episode of Pause Purpose Play is based on chapter eighteen of my new book, The Lasting Connection, about developing love and compassion for yourself and your partner. 

Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here

To spend 90 days to develop love and compassion for yourself, join the online course, The Compassionate Couple, here

Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk

Instagram: @the_thomas_connection

Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection

Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay 

This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media

In this episode, I talk to Bec Milligan about combining EFT and good nutrition to rebalance your busy life. 

Bec is a Nutritional Therapist and EFT (emotional freedom) practitioner with a special interest in guiding busy women from borderline burn-out back into balance, supporting both the physical symptoms and emotional triggers that the pressures of a fast paced, juggling it all life can have on the mind and body. 

We talk about - 

6:31 Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

11:09 Bec’s personal journey

15:59 ‘Optimal’ health

18:20 Living in the moment

20:24 Rejecting not being good enough

23:15 Not punishing yourself with healthy choices

25:35 Adding good stuff, rather than taking away the bad

28:03 A process, not a diet

29:02 Micro changes you can make

• Regulating sleep, eating and waking

36:40 The social value of less nutritious foods

39:06 Eating healthily most of the time

40:24 Seeing your symptoms as signs

41:53 The inability to slow down

45:59 Fad diets

Find Bec on Instagram @becmilligan_

and find out more at https://www.becmilligan.com/

Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here

Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk

Instagram: @the_thomas_connection

Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection

Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay 

This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media