As parents we have a tendency to only talk about risk and danger when it comes to sex. Instead, if we change this focus to responsibility and joy, our boys will view sex differently, their partners differently, and make safer, healthier, and wiser choices. In this conversation with Dr Justin Coulson and Peggy Orenstein, they discuss where challenging male sexual behaviour come from and how to give your boys a healthier understanding of both the physical and emotional aspects of sexual intercourse.

 

Timestamps

• 00:19 Dr Justin introduces Peggy Orenstein
• 01:42 Where do challenging sexual behaviours come from?
• 03:50 What is it like for boys growing up?
• 08:57 Why does ‘masculinity’ impact on boys’ sexuality?
• 10:43 The disconnect in boys’ behaviour at home and outside - assault and consent
• 15:21 Expectations put on boys
• 16:46 Vulnerability and ‘The Hook-Up Culture’
• 19:23 Tips for parents for a conversation about ‘good sex’
• 24:06 Pornography
• 26:46 Talking to your kids about Pornography
• 33:37 Consent 
• 38:14 How to teach consent? 
• 44:16 Summary of key points so far from Dr Justin
• 45:50 Gay boys are a model of consent
• 49:04 Central take-home messages
• 51:53 Last message of hope from Peggy

 

Peggy Orenstein

Peggy Orenstein is an internationally-recognized speaker and author of, among others, the New York Times best-sellers Boys & Sex, Girls & Sex,  Cinderella Ate My Daughter and the classic SchoolGirls. A contributing writer for  The New York Times Magazine, Peggy has also written for such publications as  The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, New York, The Atlantic and The New Yorker. She has been a featured expert on television and radio programs throughout the world. Her TED Talk, “What Young Women Believe About Their Own Sexual Pleasure,” has been viewed over 5.6 million times.

Digital Resources

• Chanel Contos - the consent petition
• Peggy's website
• Resources for positive sexuality
• Talking to younger kids about sex

Books

Boys and Sex | Peggy Orenstein | Available in Australia | Available in America

Girls and Sex | Peggy Orenstein | Available in Australia | Available in America

Cinderella Ate My Daughter | Peggy Orenstein | Available in Australia | Available in America

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