Holding Your Own
This piece is called a whole thing your own. There are many things that come with being a man. Holding your own is one of them. Every man must eventually be able to hold his own. That is he must stand on his own two feet and face life and all the triumphs tragedies and trials that are a part of the human condition.
Please do not confuse holding your own with doing it alone. This is neither feasible nor practical. I personally do not believe it is possible. You as a man must decide for yourself. Solo sports are a prime example that the world is too large and complex to face alone. Even masters of solo sports such as golf and swimming need coaches cooks trainers and competitors otherwise they would never know where mistakes were made how to fix them or if the planned and applied remedy actually worked.
No man becomes a good man without knowledge preparation and experience. To be successful every man must be able to recognize when he needs help and he must learn to accept help that is offered freely. He must also learn where and how to seek the help that he needs. It is not weakness to realize that tooth heads or sets of hands are better than one.
Each man must learn the difference between foolishness that is refusing to use all available resources and options and bravery which is refusing to give up following a doable but difficult course of action. Learning this necessary skill can prevent unnecessary delay or possible physical injury in pursuit of one's goals.
Throughout your life, you will find yourself group up with various people of varying mindsets and talents. Some you will be drawn to others you will not. When you are younger these groupings are less your choice than they will be as you become older and discover and develop your own talents and personality.
As unpleasant as it may be to spend time with folks you may not understand or care for this is also a necessary part of life use these interactions to learn the art of working with people you may not like or even feel that you need in order to accomplish your goals.
At times you will be the best in your group. At other times you may find yourself struggling just to keep up. Both these situations are normal and beneficial. Being the best teachers you confidence. Discovering that your best effort may not be good enough keeps you hungry for the top spot and teaches you humility as you mature, you will find yourself gravitating towards some people and high tailing in a way from some others this to is natural and normal.
Even if at times you are not fully aware of your reasons for doing so there is nothing wrong with choosing your own friends. I believe that you should never place yourself in situations in which you feel uncomfortable for whatever reason but do not go around creating enemies for yourself arbitrarily there enough of those out there just waiting to make the presence is known.
And important part of holding your own is your proven level of revive reliability, if you give your word you should keep your word therefore be careful to whom you give it so it's not to commit yourself to something that is not in your better interest or even your personal choosing.
Also when you do give your word be certain that you are able willing and in a position to deliver just what you say people will be moved by your enthusiasm, but they will judge you by your actions.
