perimeno-PAUSED

Peace sounds simple until you try to keep it. In this episode, we talk about what it really means to find and protect our peace in midlife when life is full, loud, and constantly asking something of us. From family dynamics and relationships to work stress, overthinking, and expectations, we unpack the ways our peace gets disrupted and why it can feel so hard to hold onto it. We get honest about boundaries, the difference between avoidance and real peace, and the habits that pull us out of alignment, with plenty of humor and relatable moments along the way. At the core, this is about learning to choose ourselves in a grounded and intentional way so we can build a life that actually feels good to live.

About the hosts:

Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.

Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. 

Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Spring is here, the astrology is astrology-ing, and we are talking about renewal, fresh starts, and what wants to bloom in this season of life. In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather explore the energy of spring, the pull to begin again, and the difference between reinventing yourself and returning to yourself. We talk about what we are releasing, what we are calling in, and how midlife gives us a more honest, soulful kind of renewal. Part seasonal reset, part cosmic pep talk, part group exhale.

About the hosts:

Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.

Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. 

Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

In this episode, we talk about crying at work, almost crying at work, crying in the bathroom at work, and the very blurry line between being professional and being an actual human being. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather unpack the moments that push us over the edge in midlife: overwhelm, criticism, hormones, burnout, being asked for one more thing when we are already hanging on by a thread. Funny, honest, and deeply relatable, this conversation is for anyone who has ever blinked at the ceiling and prayed their dignity would hold.

About the hosts:

Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.

Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. 

Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Have you ever walked into a room with purpose and then immediately forgotten why? Same. In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about brain fog, missing words, lost phones, misplaced glasses, and the very specific midlife experience of feeling like your brain has 47 tabs open at all times. We get into stress, sleep, hormones, perimenopause, and the strange mix of humor and fear that can come with forgetfulness. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re losing it or just overloaded, this one is for you.

About the hosts:

Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.

Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. 

Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Why do our brains jump straight to the worst possible outcome… even when nothing bad has actually happened?

In this episode of PerimenoPAUSED, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather dive into the fine art of catastrophizing: that familiar midlife mental spiral where a neutral situation somehow turns into a full-blown disaster movie in your head.

About the hosts:

Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.

Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. 

Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Something happens in midlife where your tolerance for nonsense drops dramatically, especially when it comes to bad customer service.

In this episode of PerimenoPAUSED, we talk about the small moments that can instantly ruin your day: endless hold music, being transferred five times, chatbots pretending to be human, subscription services you can’t cancel, and the mysterious manager who never appears.

About the hosts:

Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.

Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. 

Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Why does my body feel like it’s completing a security update without my permission? In “What Is This Body Part?” we get into the very real, very absurd physical changes of midlife, including new pains, new textures, new “wait, has that always been there?” discoveries, and the constant mental math of “Is this hormones, stress, aging, or just Tuesday?” It’s equal parts validation and comedy, with a side of practical self-trust: when to shrug it off, when to check in with a professional, and how to stay kind to yourself while your body rewrites the rules.

About the hosts:

Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.

Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. 

Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Perimenopause is ready to throw hands 😅 In this episode, we unpack the random rage, tears, and emotional whiplash that shows up out of nowhere—and what to do when you can’t tell if you’re “fine” or five seconds from a meltdown.

In “Why Am I So Upset?” we talk about the emotional side of midlife and perimenopause from the hair-trigger sensitivity, to the irritability, the grief-y feelings, and the classic “I don’t even recognize myself right now” moments. We share what it feels like in real time, what helps (and what doesn’t), and why you’re not broken...you're just offline for repairs.

About the hosts:

Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.

Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it.

Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Imposter syndrome: that voice that shows up right when you’re stretching into something new.

In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather share our own stories of reinvention: leaving jobs, moving states, launching new work, stepping into leadership, and saying yes before we feel completely ready. We talk about what it means to feel like an imposter even when you have the experience, the proof, and the receipts. We unpack the fear, the self-doubt, and the strange truth that growth often feels exactly like uncertainty.

About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

For Lunar New Year, we wanted an episode that feels like a reset without the pressure to “new year, new you” our way into burnout. In this conversation, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about fresh starts and beginning again in midlife by releasing what no longer fits, and choosing our next chapter on purpose. We get into the small, practical ways to turn intention into real movement and momentum. Expect laughter, truth-telling, and the kind of reflection you would have around a kitchen table with women who get it. If you are in a season of reinvention, career shifts, relationship shifts, identity shifts, or body shifts, this one is for you, and a reminder to start where you are, honor how far you have come, and step into what is next with more clarity and self-trust.

About the hosts:

Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.

Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. 

Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.