Have you ever been curious to explore new ways to communicate through touch? Anne-Lorraine Selke, the creator of Touchcards, shares why she created a card deck that offers people ways to “rediscover the richness of touch with the people you love.” She gives us examples from intimate cards to playful ones, as we offer ways to bring more connection into your relationships through touch. 

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Mentioned in this episode:
Touch pleasure practice
Touch lexicon: What are you saying with your touch
Hillary McBride on embodiment
Bedroom Games

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Engage in flirty conversation to add some playful energy to your relationship. These “Would you rather” game questions offer you an easy way to play together and can spark meaningful discussion if something takes you by surprise! Use this episode on your next date night, long car ride or walk around the block.

Mentioned in this episode:
Bedroom Games
Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden on GoodReads
Toys, Fantasy and Play in the Bedroom
24 Communication Starters and Questions
When a Partner Wants to Try Something New

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We talk a lot about the repercussions of purity culture for women, but what about men? This topic is often silenced, creating what sexuality educator Erica Smith calls a “fertile ground for shame.” She joins me to break the taboo, sharing the after effects men frequently encounter. 

Erica Smith is an award winning sexuality educator and consultant with 25 years of experience. She developed the Purity Culture Dropout™️ Program to help people learn all of the sex education that they missed growing up in purity culture- sex ed that is accurate, queer inclusive, trauma informed, compassionate, and comprehensive. 

More on this topic:
Evolving out of purity culture
Reclaim your arousal mindset
Untangling sexual shame
Masturbation - let’s dig in
Masculinity narratives with Cam Fraser
My letter to young women
Misconceptions men believe about sex
Embodiment and pleasure with Hillary McBride PhD

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Is orgasm a learnable skill? My guest Dr. Erica Marchand outlines the necessary components women need to orgasm in this top 10 episode from Season One. We discuss faking O’s, ranking O’s, and the mind-body shift of allowing rather than making orgasm happen.

Erica Marchand, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist offering individual, couples and sex therapy in Los Angeles.

Learn more about these topics
Answering your questions about orgasm
Faking orgasm
The clitoris - it's a network
Stimulation of the clitoral hood
Pleasure techniques with penetration

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One of the most shared episodes on the podcast, this conversation about pleasure and embodiment offers a framework for understanding a healthier way to be in your body. Hillary McBride, PhD provides tools to help us untangle the cultural scripts we have taken in, along with gentle guidance for how we can reframe sensuality and learn to listen to our bodies. 

Hillary McBride, PhD., is a therapist, researcher, speaker and author

More on these topics:
Mother's, Daughter's and Body Image, read my book review
Dating your body with Aurora
Reconnecting to yourself and to your body
Slow Pleasure with Euphemia Russell
Connecting with our bodies and nervous systems
Healing journey with Ruthie Lindsay
Coming home to yourself with Arielle Estoria

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From logistics on positioning, to setting the stage before you step in - in this episode I talk you through the basics on how to add shower sex to your intimacy repertoire. Showering together has never been more fun, safe and intimate.

Mentioned in this episode:
Pleasure Practice
Uberlube use code CINDY
Shower sex for beginners on the blog

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Catriona Boffard, a Clinical Sexologist, Psychotherapist, Sexuality Researcher, Podcaster and Author joins me to share her personal experience, and clinical expertise in a discussion about women and ADHD - how it can affect your brain, sex, and life. You’ll hear all about orgasms, medications, sexual cues and solutions to common communication challenges.

Catriona Boffard is an expert in the field of sexual behavior, well-being, and mental health, and is particularly passionate about working with people who face difficulties in their sexual experience. She hosts the podcast Asking for a Friend and is an internationally recognized authority in the field of sexuality and relationships.

Mentioned in this episode
Anxiety, Perfectionism and Sex
Mindfulness with Dr. Lori Brotto on the podcast
Better Sex Through Mindfulness book review
ADHD and Tips for Sex 

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Continuing our conversation for the over 50 crowd with helpful tips including transition time, positions, pillows, vibrators and more. Listen in as we get creative with shifts in desire, and tools to accommodate our changing bodies. Learn ways to make sex more interesting. 

More on these topics
Desire styles
Embracing your desire
How curiosity fuels desire
Vaginal estrogen, vaginal moisturizers, and lube for sex
Erectile dissatisfaction vs. Erectile dysfunction
Sexual adaptations and aids for all bodies
Pain and Sex
Arya intimacy concierge and scene guidance use code CS15
When a partner wants to try something new
Positions with props
Tabu Prim Pillow
Why vibrators work for women and how to choose one
Intimate Wellbeing use code CINDY15
Bedroom Games
Coconu card game use code 30PLEASURE
Naked At Our Age book review

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Menopause doesn’t mean your sex life is over. In fact, you may find yourself having the best sex of your life! Join me for a chat specifically for the over 50 crowd. Let’s talk about desire, arousal, and changing things up as we change. Your pleasure matters!

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Mentioned in this episode:
Guide to lube
Perimenopause: Hormones and Symptoms
Permimenopause: Treatment Options
Everything we get wrong about initiation
Two ways affection can deepen your connection
Midlife and Menopause with Heather
Sexual reset for midlife women

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Community guest Kaleigh Osadick joins me to share ideas to remove shame around self-expression. We chat about challenging the norms, and reframing what defines sexy. Learn to role play with her scene creation tips, and gain the confidence to be the main character in your sex life! 

Kaleigh Osadick is an educator, coach and producer with over a decade of experience teaching acting, voice, and embodiment. With a background in theatre, and psychology-through play and voice, she's helped many clients-from students, adults with special needs, and aspiring performers find their voice and power both on camera and in life. 

Mentioned in this episode:
Turn up the volume on your sex life
Arousal and Role Play
Confidence is sexy with Dana
Bedroom games
Toys, fantasy and play in the bedroom 

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