Permission To Be Human

Janelle and Andrea glean lessons about relationships, instincts and privilege through stories about unexpected intruders, Everest base camp strangers, currency exchange mistakes, vision quest seekers and a husband's ex-girlfriend. Can you find the meaning in even the messiest of situations? They definitely try. Includes references to Ally McBeal, Rock Bottom and mouth-taping. You'll hear:

-How Janelle felt less alone once her travel partner left

-Why and when Andrea began to abandon RomCom movie lines

-How white and female privilege impacts our reactions to crisis

-Why developing a relationship with your instincts is so essential

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Janelle & Andrea take on a NYT article by Catherine Pearson about the Top 8 Sex Myths and do their darndest to expand our idea of an orgasm. It's okay to want sex, use lube, plan intimacy and much more. Includes a peek into our own numbers (gasp!!) and a nod to George Michael. You'll hear:

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-Why mixing sex nights with mundane shit works

-The purpose of a Pelvic Floor Specialist

-How Janelle likes to reverse the order of her date night

-Giggle-gasms, sex-wrestling and other varieties of the Big O

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

How do you celebrate the holidays? How do you adapt to changing family dynamics? Who do you become when you visit your parents? Can you let go of form and embrace new traditions? Janelle and Andrea discuss their own memories, what holidays looks like in a post-divorce, polyamorous world and how they avoid the consumerism debacle.

-How to navigate child archetypes during your "home" experience

-Creative ways to shake up gift-giving

-Ideas to to increase "presence" at your holiday gathering

-The power of an amazing (or ugly) Christmas ornament

-Why "chosen family" is one of our favorite phrases.

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Andrea & Janelle attended a Letting Go of Attachments ceremony in honor of Samhain (pronounced Sawwen), a Celtic celebration to honor the end of harvest season and the beginning of winter. The idea? To release one object from their life and allow its energy to nourish another. Includes a nod to Red Hot Chili Peppers, Nina Hagen and Rising Appalachia. You'll hear:

-The importance of a Death Folder

-How less stuff can help us be at home in ourselves

-Why writing your own eulogy is revealing and challenging

-A beautiful poem by Naima Penniman

-Why avoiding the idea of death is the ultimate growth-stopper

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Communication is such a basic skill. And as extroverts, we thought we were pretty darn good at it. But we had to put away our trophies when we realized we may be saying too much out loud. Could it be that our interactions included too many questions? Were we good listeners? Are we just waiting for our turn to talk and then delivering a one-sided speech? You'll hear:

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-The difference between an effective and a crappy apology

-Why telling people every detail of the story is a wee bit overrated

-How to stop talking about mundane shit

-Tips for becoming a better listener--and the 4-H Rule

-The BEST question to ask before you unload

-Intriguing questions to inspire authentic conversation

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Transitions are fucking hard. Whether it's home to college, the death of your mama, a flight across the country or a painful breakup. But when we accept, stay patient, get comfortable with discomfort and get intentional about the space between, we always find our way. Includes references to the 90s television, Noah Kahan, Cigarettes After Sex, TJMaxx and the Smurfs. You'll hear:

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-An essay from Andrea

-How yoga is a world-class metaphor for transitions

-The importance of giving yourself grace

-Why pop culture does not prepare us for change

-How anxiety can cloud acceptance and grief

-Why you should stop looking for structure

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Talk to the hand, bravehearts. And tell it how to make you feel good! We're covering self-pleasure--formerly known as masturbation--in this episode. It's the most natural thing in the world to pleasure ourselves and we'll share our experiences--past to present. Includes a reference from Big Mouth, as well as a nod to Judy Blume and V.C. Andrews.

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-Why the true source of our pleasure is INSIDE us

-Two very different opinions on porn

-Gustav Klimt's contribution to Janelle's self-pleasure evolution

-The benefits of a self-pleasuring in a group

-Why self-pleasuring in front of your partner is a GREAT idea

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Are you craving more intimacy and connection? Here's a conversation that will lead you there. RBDSM stands for Relationships, Boundaries, Sexual Health, Meaning & Aftercare. Yes, this is a conversation you have BEFORE you take your clothes off---and it's such a beautiful thing. We break down the acronym and role-play, too.

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-A debunking of the mind-reading myth that RomComs perpetuate

-Why Janelle requires her partners to be a "fuck yes!"

-How this conversation helps Janelle relaxes her nervous system

-Why Andrea completely rejected this idea upon first blush

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

What if you could ask for exactly what you wanted? What if you could trust and value your own yeses and nos? What if you could articulate exactly how you wanted to be touched? Andrea interviews Janelle on a framework that has helped her give and receive everything (compliments, apples, touch, rides to the airport! ) from a centered and grounded place. Includes a When Harry Met Sally reference and some parenting tips. You'll hear:

-It's as important to receive as it is to give.

-Why consent is way more than a yes or a no

-Why taking a long pause after a hard question is a good idea

-How a 3-minute game will change your sex life

-Why the question "Who's it for?" is so important

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

If there are so much pain and tears and walking through fire, why practice polyamory anyway? Janelle and Andrea discuss the best parts of this alternative to monogamy, why they keep coming back to it and how it can strengthen relationships with both their partners and themselves. Also a story about Folk Festival and a quote from the beloved Alan de Botton. You'll hear…

-How poly led both chicas back home to themselves

-Why letting go of form is so damn essential

-Janelle's story about how the most triggering people can be the most transformational

-Why poly opens the door to more intimacy across your life

-How poly helped Andrea and her husband repair a damaged dynamic

-Why being honest with yourself is a requirement for an honest relationship

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea