Permission To Be Human

Janell and Andrea love art--especially mixed meda. They live within it, they travel to see it and it makes them feel free and alive. From pussy willow branch curtain rods to birthing chairs and Indonesian doors to dramatic outdoor murals, they give permission to love what you love, and create with wild abandon. So many nods! Everything, Everywhere All at Once, Ann LaMott, Museum of Contemporary Art, Tracey Barnes, Meow Wolf, James Turrel, Christo, Shakespeare's Ophelia, Meow Wolf, Clyfford Still, Denver Art Museum, Waldorf Schools, Bobbi MacGee Lopez, Boombox Design, ARTMA. You'll hear:

-Why doll-faces put a cap on creativity

-How art can be a lived experience

-Why Andrea thinks art is the meaning of life

-Weird things that happened at the MCA Denver

-Good reasons to start painting a mural in your house

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea.

It's Friday night….and I feel alright. Dating apps again! Yes, for real. Janelle and Andrea share their own experience with logistics, strategy, profiles, methodology and why being direct is best. You'll hear:

-Why saying "Thanks But No Thanks" is a sign of respect

-Profile ideas (they read theirs on the podcast!)

-The definition of Sapio, Demi and RBDSM

-Why they prefer daytime dates

-How to put less pressure on the whole damn thing

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea.

Janelle and Andrea talk online dating apps at mid-life and how much more invigorating they can be when you know who you are, you know what you want and you don't have to check so many damn boxes. There's a nod to the definition of a Braveheart, an invitation to Janelle's intimate retreat at the Goddess Temple and a mention of our favorite dating apps, including OkCupid and Feeld. You'll hear:

‌-Why dating apps serve as a reflection of your own evolution

-The different--and valid--reasons we got on the apps at all

-Why saying "Thanks But No Thanks" is a sign of respect

-Janelle's dating journey: monogamous & single, poly & married, solo & poly

-Why taking a good look at your life helps you determine who you're seeking

-The definition of a "Comet" relationship

-Why getting specific--bathtubs and Broadway shows--is such a good idea

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea.

Think you know what BDSM is? Think again. Andrea interviews Janelle about her training to be a Pro-Domme and the resulting deep dive into her psyche. They talk archetypes, pain, ritual theater, spiritual growth, the containment of energy and the freedom possible when you're allowed to desire what society told you not to. Nod to Om Rupani and The Matrix. You'll hear:

-Where BDSM and Burning Man intersect

-Why dominant and submissive are not hierarchical

-The difference between non-consensual and consensual pain

-How clothing is Janelle's favorite kink

-Why Andrea no longer feels shame about what she wants

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea.

Do you know how to ask for help? Is it a challenge for you? In this sweet, bite-sized episode, Andrea and Janelle break down very simple human experience, offering personal stories, useful steps and a convincing argument for why asking for help makes the world a more connected place. Includes a nod to the movie "Enough Said" and the book "The Field Guide to Getting Lost" by Rebecca Solnit and Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent. You'll hear:

--Why asking for help is a skill and a gift

--A framework for anyone who might be afraid to ask

--Why you shouldn't always be helping your child

--The difference between requests and demands

--Why trusting someone's yeses and nos is required

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea.

Janelle and Andrea take on menopause. Doctors may not have the answers, but women's collective wisdom does. Can we embrace this time as a sacred life cycle and an opportunity for rebirth? Can we share our stories more? Hear a transparent dialogue about symptoms, frustrations and what worked for us. Includes a nod to Anita Diamant's book "The Red Tent", a quote by Ursula K LeGuin, the podcast We Are More Than Menopause and Isabella Rossellini's article about getting denied by Hollywood after age 45. You'll hear: ‌--Why Janelle & Andrea are having the best sex of their life now --How HRT worked for Andrea --Why we need not be at war with our body --How Estradiol cream solved sandpapery, painful sex for Janelle --Why a Diva Cup is economical and environmentally better Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word. If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you. With heart-shaped sunglasses, Janelle & Andrea

How long should friendships last? Can you honor the present without projecting onto the future? Janelle and Andrea have a real-time recognition of their own relationship and dissenct the end of another. In the process, they invite Brave Hearts to embrace impermanence. There's a nod to The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships by Harriet Lerner. You'll hear:

-Why some friendships need to end to make room for another

-How marriage and friendship is pretty darn similar

-The concept of a Soul Contract and why it matters

-How to recognize co-dependence in a friendship

-Where Andrea's cultural conditioning of "permanence" appears

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Andrea & Janelle still consider themselves polyamorous. In this episode, Janelle interviews Andrea about the benefits, what she misses about monogamy, the triggers that have disappeared, the triggers that still remain and what it's like to have no outside partner when your husband still does. There's a nod to Jerry McGuire, The Way Knows The Way by Lyndsey Scott and Rhaina Cohen of the New York Times. You'll hear:

-How little she misses about monogamy

-The relief, purity, clarity and validation she's found in poly

-Why Andrea's seeking an Even Keel Kind of Love

-Why she's stopped trying to change her husband

-Andrea's emotional maturation--less blame, more ownership

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea.

How frequently and frivolously do you give away your energy? Do you have a leak? Are you carrying too many keys around? Could your backpack and your mind be lighter? As a Mom, are you helping or enabling? Janelle and Andrea urge the Brave Hearts to protect their attention. Fun nods to Tim Ferris, Humans of New York and Rachel Rodgers' "We Should All Be Millionaires" and more. You'll hear:

-Why Andrea sometimes wants to shave her head.

-The power of outsourcing!

-Why you should just stop (!!!!) planning so far ahead

-How Janelle feels 50 lbs lighter after releasing one thing

-A bit about hiding calendars

-Why you should C yourself out of A & B conversations, lol

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea.

When Janelle got divorced, she kept her married name. And she does not have kids. Andrea wanted to know why. Thus began the flow of conversation about why we change our name, why we don't, the power of that little ring around our finger and the debunking of some very traditional assumptions about marriage. Includes a nod to ayahuasca, the Antwerp Diamond District and East of Eden. You'll hear:

-Why Janelle considers her ex-husband lifelong and chosen family

-A surprising definition of divorce

-How to marry yourself and what that even means

-Why Janelle calls her step-son her spirit-son

-How East of Eden inspired Andrea's marriage mantra

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea.