Permission To Be Human

Dear Couples, Feel Like Sleeping Alone? Gasp! Let's Talk about It

It's changing the way people sleep. It's shifting the way people sell houses. It's stopping the energy leak. In this episode, Janelle and Andrea talk about their experiences sleeping alone, the braveheart behavior it required, the pressure of intimacy. There's a nod to: the movie, "The Last Waltz", Emily Nagasaki's book "Come as You Are", the TV show "Donna Reed", The New York Times article "I Love You, But I don't Want to Sleep with You" by Ronda Kaysen, the podcast "We Can Do Hard Things" and finally, Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and Three Minute Game. You'll hear:

--Why our grandparents were our first ever model!

--How a garage sale changed Andrea's life forever

--Insights for courageously addressing intimacy confusion in bed

--How sleeping alone relates to the Crypts and the Bloods

--Why having her own room helped Janelle exhale

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#TheLastWaltz #michellewilliams

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Roses, Buds & Thorns: Everyday Life with Andrea & Janelle

Andrea & Janelle discuss their roses (what's blooming!) thorns (what's a PITA) and buds (what they're excited for) in this every-day-magic episode about their lives, with talk of insomnia, aging parents, self-care and housemates.. There's a nod to Amtrak, Rocky Mountain Folks Fest, Burning Man, RBDSMA conversation, Waldorf, the Boy Scouts, Nuuly, and "Repentance & Repair" by Danya Ruttenberg. You'll hear:

--Andrea's struggle and celebration of her teenager

--Why Janelle repurposed her anniversary

--All about clothing rental, the Goddess Temple, modern soul and choir

--How Janelle is building apology skills

--Why Andrea calls Folks Fest the Colorado Cape

--How Janelle's embracing community leadership

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Braveheart Conversations Inquiry & Insight: Psst! Disappointing Others Can be a Gift!

Braveheart Conversations are all the (cou) rage now. They inquire and Janelle and Andrea offer insights, with lots of juicy, glittery tidbits. In this Braveheart Conversation recap, they discuss relationship balance, hard conversations, permission to be your full self and capital B for Boundaries. There's a nod to Tristan Taormeino's book Opening Up and Galaxie Glister, our favorite glitterati. You'll hear:

--Why balance (in sex, love and everything else) is a big fat illusion

--Hands-on tactics and skills for hard conversations

--How caretaking (gasp) is sometimes in conflict with self-joy

--Why disappointing others is inevitable-and also a gift

--Why Hilary Clinton was right about the village

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

What's Erotic Wellness? Just the Most Important Health Hack Ever

Janelle went to see a pelvic floor specialist so she could tend to her erotic wellness and nurture her life force. Confused? Andrea was too, so she interviewed Janelle. This isn't your mama's GYNO or massage therapist. It's a sacred space-holding for holistic pelvic care that helps you feels safe in your body. There's a nod to Caamp's song "Life Force" and Bessel Van Der Kolk's book "The Body Keeps the Score". You'll hear:

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--Why we must tend to our womb like we tend to our teeth, skin and bones

--A definition of holistic pelvic care and why it's different than a papsmere

--How your womb matters even if you haven't given birth

--The prevalence of sexual shame, even without Trauma

--All about non-sexual touching in a typically sexual place

--Exactly what you're storing in your labia!!

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Size Doesn't Matter: Giving Ourselves Permission Starts Small

Where could you give yourself more permission? Have you been doing something so long (waxing your eyebrows, tolerating your slow computer, denying yourself naps) you're not sure it's serving you anymore? Can you reject the rules? Janelle and Andrea share their permission lists--stuff they've accomplished and what they're still working on. There's a nod to LVDY, 3-5 Club and Lift the Spirit Choir. You'll hear:

--How Janelle listened to her body and stopped working out

--Why Andrea still doesn't send out Christmas cards

--How far Andrea had to go to learn to do nothing

--How our memory often underestimates (or overestimates) our suffering

--Why no one is to blame for this permission conundrum

I hereby give you permission to wear glitter, cowboy boots or you flavor of flair anytime you want!

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

How Janelle Became a Better Lover: Sex Tips & Myths

Why the fuck do we think we should be able to read our partners minds in bed? It's total bullshit, so let's stop the madness. Janelle and Andrea bust myths about sex and pleasure and tell us why there's nothing wrong with simply telling our partner (of 2 months or 20 years) what feels good right now! There's a nod to Harry & Sally, Danielle Steele, Cosmo, the RBDSM conversation and good old Namaste. You'll hear:

--Why you should bring curiosity to bed

--A story about an overzealous kisser

--Dish about faking orgasms

--How your courage will give your partner courage

--Because I liked something one time doesn't mean……

--Why attunement and attention matter

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Aging: Approaching 50 & Trendy AF

Janelle and Andrea talk about embracing their age, how they got here and why they'd never go back, There's discussion about dressing for the divine, how good it feels to know ourselves and how perimenopause shocked the hell out of us. There's a nod to Tamsen and Midlife Muse. You'll hear:

--A new name for crows feet

--Why having friends of wildly different ages makes a big difference

--How your expression matters more than your outfit

--Why we don't want to be our 30-year old selves

--Common cultural shaming and how to meet it with grace or snark

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Of Money & Men: Presence, Payment and Power

Ever questioned who pays on a first date? Dread the conversations about it? Janelle and Andrea offer real time navigation and discovery (with plenty of awkwardness!) as they attempt to answer difficult questions about this and whether the issue of equal pay impacts this? No answers here--just an invitation for deeper discussion. There's a nod to teenagers, Deadpool, Alison Armstrong's book "The Queens Code", and Polarity Coaches David Deida and Om Rupani. You'll hear:

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--A lot about dancing with the feminine and masculine

--Why the person who pays doesn't actually have all the power

--That it all comes back to Communication. Capital C.

--How the safer sex and the money conversation are critical when dating

--The currency of presence, radiance & attention in a culture that dismisses it

--A reason to examine your own judgments about the masculine role

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea.

Braveheart Conversations Q & A: We're Spilling the Tea

Based on their first In-Real-Life, Braveheart Conversations event at the Goddess Temple in Denver (Philly and Boston too!), Janelle and Andrea tackle questions from their audience. From boundaries and BDSM to sexual education and self-pleasure they share their experiences and insights. There's a nod to Jamie Wheal's "Recapture the Rapture" and Carolyn Elliott's book "Existential Kink", as well as Glennon Doyle's podcast, We Can Do Hard Things. You'll hear:

--How to get clarity on your true desires (Hint: its about permission)

--All about the Mind-Heart-Gut-Sex decision-making process

--How to handle hardcore jealousy in a polyamorous relationship

--There IS such a thing as adult sex education. No, really.

--Mic drop statements about boundaries (not the usual yadde yadda)

--Thoughts on how grief, healing and sexuality intersect. Eek!

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea.

Season 2 Announcement: How to Give Yourself Permission

Just a snappy little message to the Bravehearts from Janelle and Andrea that we are celebrating 49 episodes! We are taking a brief pause before we launch Season Two July 2nd. AND check out permissiontobehuman.live to join our new IRL events: Braveheart Conversations and Braveheart Retreat.

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth.

The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses, Janelle & Andrea

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