Permission To Be Human

78: Part 5/12: Pillow-Screaming & Active Listening: How to Talk about Sex Series

Janelle and Andrea share how talking about sex comes back to communication skills, yo, (ones you were probably never taught) including active listening, nonviolent communication, emotional release tools, the RBDSMAT framework and itty bitty conversation hacks. They've both come a loooong way. But don't let your masculine take over--these are not achievements, they're skills that take years to put into practice. Have patience Bravehearts! You'll hear:

--Why pillow-screaming was perfect for Andrea during difficult convos

--How simple touch relaxed Janelle's nervous system

--Why taking responsibility for your emotions is KEY

--When Janelle learned communication is not a personality trait

--Andrea's relief: Her big emotions were just energy!

--How Janelle's lover felt like they'd been on 30 dates after RBDSMAT

--Location. Location. Location. Why it matters for hard conversations.

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

#77: Part 4/12: Get Permission to Follow Your Pleasure with Sex Therapist Megan Phippen: How to Talk about Sex Series

Y'all ready for this? Janelle and Andrea interview sex therapist Megan Phippen and there are too many mic drops to count…..as she explains how she helps clients claim their desire, authorize their sovereign self, connect sex and spirit (!!) and go from pressure and performance to patience and pleasure. Fun fact: Sex hormones and stress hormones cannot be released at the same time. There's a nod to Christine Caldwell's book "Bodyfulness: Somatic Practices for Presence, Empowerment, and Waking Up in This Life". You'll hear:

--Exact phrases to begin the sex and intimacy conversation

--Why the conversation should be a co-created effort with lots of curiosity

--How to go from pressure and performance to pleasure and patience

--Why taking sex OFF the table works for mismatched desires

--How to navigate desires that don't feel aligned with your identity

--Lots of compassion for our evolving bodies

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

#76, Part 3/12: Talking About Edgy Topics with Couples Counselor Dan Jedynak: Sex & Intimacy Conversation Series

Andrea and Janelle interview somatic couples therapist Dan Jedynak on how to talk about sex and intimacy in brave relationships. They explore embodying your desire, and the importance of curiosity, play, compassion and a TWO person system to find healthier dynamics and deeper connections. You'll hear:

--The "me vs. we" mentality and why it matters

--The benefit of touching yourself!!! to understand what you want

--Where Leadership fits into sex talk

--How to change your relationship dynamic, with analogies to backroads.

--How your tone of voice and body language says it all

--Why journaling our desires is a place to start

Dan Jedynak is an individual and couples counselor. He sees clients in person in Boulder, CO and anywhere in the world, virtually. Learn more at Dan Jedynak

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

#75: Part 2/12: Andrea's Story: The Sex & Intimacy Conversation Series

Janelle interviews Andrea on what happened when her marriage's sex and intimacy stalled. including how she: regained her motivation, navigated different communication styles, and realized understanding herself better was the first step. There's a nod to Emotional Release Tools (ERT) from International School of Temple Arts (I.S.T.A) and Susan Cain's Book, "Quiet". You'll hear:

--Why you have to move at the speed of the slowest processor

--The problem with blaming your emotions on everybody else

--Good News! You don't have to change.

--How Google Calendar and gymnastics practice was a hack

--Tips for creating a conversation "brave space"

--How to leverage lack of connection to begin your conversation

--Psssst. Sex outside the marriage can help

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

Part 1/12: Janelle's Story: The Sex & Intimacy Conversation Series

Andrea interviews Janelle on what happened when her own sex drive didn't mirror her husbands, including how she navigated the hurt, the right approach, concrete tools for conversation and inspiration to be brave. You can do it and this will help! Includes a nod to ISTA retreat and Betty Martin's book, "The Art of Giving & Receiving". You'll hear:

--How to tap into your body (not your mind) to see what you REALLY want

--Why the first step is deciding what sex and intimacy means to you

--How to reexamine your idea of marriage

--A complete reframe of the term "boundaries"

--Why the result of genuine connections is worth the awkwardness

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

Season 3 Announcement: How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex and Intimacy

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills. Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

Struggling with Anxiety? Five Surprising Steps to Finding Ease

Life will never be easy, but EASE is possible. Andrea interviews Janelle about how she finds ease on the reg, including letting go of expectations, resistance and the need to know-----and that last one is a doozy. Being in ease takes a shit ton of practice, but you can take this journey! There's a nod to Dan Harris and Marth Beck. You'll hear:

--Five steps to finding ease in everyday life

--How to increase our capacity for discomfort--not pain

--Janelle's visceral details of DISease and how she noticed them

--Why planning can cause so much anxiety

--How Janelle released the need to know at Africa Burn

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/Shout out to https://www.SpiritCrowns.com

Braveheart Conversations Inquiry & Insight #6: Grief, Intimacy & The Masculine.

Every Braveheart Conversation is packed with vulnerability, verve and so much insight. Andrea and Janelle offer thoughts on processing grief, healing masculine wounds and overcoming the lonely of lingering within. There's a nod to Liz Gilbert, Tim Ferris and Alison Armstrong's book, "Keys to the Kingdom", and our episode "Trigger Warning: How Janelle Went from Feminist to Feminine." You'll hear:

--Why identifying your own masculine and feminine is the first step

--How anxiety and productivity can stop grief processing in its tracks

--Why its good to question and define our own version of intimacy

--Different ways to be in relationship: The H vs. the A

--Why there's nothing selfish about choosing ourselves first

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/Shout out to https://www.SpiritCrowns.com

Bravehearts in Action: Quitting Corporate, Mesh Biker Shorts & Single at 60

Remember, a Braveheart is anyone who has found or seeks the courage to confront their limiting fears and beliefs around breaking societal norms. Here are Bravehearts in Action! Boomers! Middle aged males! Twenty something musical protoges. There is no one way to be a Braveheart, and sharing your story gives others courage. There's a nod to: Maria Popova and the Marginalian You'll hear:

--How even Boomers are embracing unconventional formats

--What Andrea heard pre-threesome and why she still remembers it

--Why quitting corporate was the right decision for Kelly

--How Janelle's clients' mesh biker shorts received such radical acceptance

--About a single 60-something refuses to be caged by societal expectation

Write to us now! Let us be your cheerleaders. #juilliard #youarebrave #mariapopova #marginalian

Artner Music:

https://open.spotify.com/artist/6yW4pWoKTZKx9KPIrshlii?si=sIbHYF7DTTqDihwL_itLoQ

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/Shout out to https://www.SpiritCrowns.com

Meh About Sex? Consider an Erotic Massage. Seriously.

Feeling stuck or stifled in your relationship with yourself or your partners? Janelle and Andrea normalize this VERY taboo topic, and discuss about how this new form of wellness is helping people orgasm, heal, shed their shame and claim their pleasure. There's a nod to the Hakomi Method, and the book "The Body Keeps the Score", by Bessel VanderKolk, M.D., Women's Health Magazine and author Arielle Domb. You'll hear:

--Why a stranger's touch can build libido for your partner

--That it's not just for men, yo

--How it helped Janelle release ancestral shame, guilt and fear

--Why one woman called this "30 hours of therapy"

--How it helped a Braveheart say "no" for the first time

--Why Janelle calls her erotic massage a Goddess Activation Session

Women's Health Article: https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a62640928/women-erotic-massage-experiences/

Sacred Eros: https://sacrederos.com/

Janelle Orion: https://www.feelwildlyalive.com/

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Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.

With heart-shaped sunglasses,

Janelle & Andrea

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/Shout out to https://www.SpiritCrowns.com