Permission To Be Human

87: Erotic Wellness Practitioner Janelle Tells All

In this episode, Andrea interviews Janelle about her path to be an Erotic Wellness Practitioner and explore how she works with couples to reawaken their sex life. They cover intimacy education, somatic therapies, emotional release, cultural stigmas, holistic health and how much we have to unlearn in order to enjoy our pleasure. Seriously! She's a Braveheart out to change our culture! If you want to empower yourself and your partner, as well as understand your own erotic energy, start here! There's a nod to the Center for Intimacy Justice and ISTA.

You'll hear:

-Why a relaxed state is the gateway to pleasure

-Why establishing trust with women is Janelle's first priority

-How "flow" and "eros" actually play together Where porn fails as an educational platform

-How social media censors our everyday sex ed (yes! Its happening right now!)

-Why "your pleasure is my pleasure' is a way to hide

Learn more about Janelle at feelwildlyalive.com

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

86: Permission Coach Andrea Enright Tells All: It's OK to Want More & Here's How to Get it!

In this episode, Janelle interviews Permission Coach Andrea Enright, who shares her own struggles about following life's script and coming up empty. She then explains how through insights, reflections and radical acceptance, she helps forty-something women who have the "mid-life meh's" to R.I.S.E, and come home to themselves. Using her own haikus, shell analogies, accents, musical lyrics and unbridled passion, Andrea does NOT gloss over the difficulty of releasing our own deep cultural conditioning and evolving into radiance. There's a nod to Winter Icely and Mad Men. You'll hear:

--Why she helps women do the hard shit: leave the guy, quit the job, change their life

--What Andrea had to unlearn from Hollywood, capitalism and Catholicism

--How Andrea's coaching and the R.I.S.E. model helps women find freedom

--Real life success stories of transformation

--Why you're not alone in this feeling of "mid-life meh"

--How permission starts small--color your hair purple, stop working on the weekends, start ice skating again!

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

Re-Issued. Original air date 10/24/2023

22: The RBDSM Conversation: It's Not About Kink, but the S Does Stand for Sex

Are you craving more intimacy and connection? Here's a conversation that will lead you there. RBDSM stands for Relationships, Boundaries, Sexual Health, Meaning & Aftercare. Yes, this is a conversation you have BEFORE you take your clothes off---and it's such a beautiful thing. We break down the acronym and role-play, too.

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-A debunking of the mind-reading myth that RomComs perpetuate

-Why Janelle requires her partners to be a "fuck yes!"

-How this conversation helps Janelle relaxes her nervous system

-Why Andrea completely rejected this idea upon first blush

Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth. The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships. Freedom is, in fact, the new F word.

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

85: Part 12/12, Janelle and Her Lover Talk Awkwardness, Vulnerability & Pleasure: How to Talk about Sex Series

In a detour from their usual dynamic, Andrea interviews Janelle and her lover, John, about their sex and intimacy conversations amidst their soul-led, comet relationship! Yes, you read right. Comet. There's deep honesty, vulnerability and some serious WTF moments as they explain how they took responsibility for their own experience and got oh-so-vulnerable, even amidst an awkward conversation, which led to more pleasure. There's a nod to the RBDSM conversation, ISTA and an explanation of comet relationships.

You'll hear:

--Why a lack of agenda can lead to a lot more ease

--How to recognize and prevent intimacy loss when discomfort sets in

--An example of Janelle voicing of her own boundaries around 10 PM

--How a reflection plus a request enhances communication

--Why processing triggers can turn into a feedback loop

--How deep vulnerability led to more pleasure! Seriously!

--How they navigated a feeling mismatch in their sexual experience

Watch John's film The Village of Lovers Watch The Village of Lovers from Jan. 13 to Feb. 2

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

84: Part 11/12, Braveheart Hillary Asks What Do You REALLY Want from Sex?: How to Talk about Sex Series

In this episode of Permission to Be Human, hosts Janelle and Andrea engage in a deep conversation with single Braveheart Hillary Mendoza about navigating difficult topics, the importance of self discovery, the polarities of head vs. heart, giving vs. receiving and abundance vs. scarcity. There's deep wisdom and self-awareness. You'll hear:

--How Hillary learned to work with her body (not her head) to make a decision

--Why fixing herself didn't fix the issue

--How the Permission to be Human workshop helped her identify a damaged dynamic

--Why knowing how your own love expresses has to come first

--That if we want to avoid suffering, we must voice our desires ASAP

--Why 80% of intimacy satisfaction is only good enough if its the RIGHT 80%

Learn more about Hiillary and Archipelago Clubs at archipelagodenver.com

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

83: Part 10/12, Sexual Exploration After 50 Years of Monogamy: How to Talk About Sex Series

Andrea and Janelle engage in a deep conversation with Braveheart and former emergency physician Doug Yeakel about his journey navigating the complexities of love, communication and vulnerability in relationships. He reflects on his own bravery and curiosity to share what's on his heart, explores the idea of love beyond traditional boundaries and the significance of body awareness in understanding one's sexuality. There's a nod to Sam Harris, the book "Cosmo Genesis", RBDSM, full body orgasms and agelessness as well. You'll hear:

--Why naming your sex conversation with humor helps you own it (Doug calls it Book Club)

--How Doug put his vulnerability on a platter

--Why bodily presence is so critical for the hard conversations --Why sharing the last 10% of your desires is so fucking important

--How different types of togetherness can help you feel loved in new ways

--Why aging does not have to limit capacity for love and exploration

--How sexuality, plant medicine and mountain biking can lead to new states of consciousness

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

82: Part 9/12, The Repair is Where the Juice Is: How to Talk about Sex Series

Janelle and Andrea interview intimacy and relationship coach Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates about their own REPAIR process. Bravehearts, here's the holy-shit-this-is-it, articulate culmination of navigating difficult shit! Hazel Grace explains how Resourcing, Empathy, Permission, Acknowledgement, Impact and Restore create "safety and scaffolding" so you can arrive at complex shared realities, and restore integrity and deep connection. There's a nod to the Esalen Institute, where Hazel Grace is a teacher.

--Empathy isn't just for others--you need it too.

--How to avoid scope-creep and contain the conversation (yes, those are PM words!)

--Why "story hygiene" matters--clean, update, renew!

--The significance of curiosity and reflective listening (I heard this, did I get it right?)

--How to get beyond "agreeing to disagree" to deeper understanding

--Why restoration helps the brain rewire and rebuild trust

Learn more about Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates at

Dr. Hazel-Grace

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

81: Part 8/12, Bringing Reflections, Death & AI into the Bedroom. (Seriously!) How to Talk about Sex Series

Good news Bravehearts! Rupture and repair can strengthen your relationship! And AI can help. Not even kidding. Janelle and Andrea interview Braveheart, author and passionate ceremonialist, Yana Rumi about the importance of ritual, reflection and curiosity when navigating difficult conversations. Truth: Love is not enough--because it can't replace self-awareness. Janelle tears up. Andrea had a good cry afterwards. There's a nod to Artificial Inteligence (a surprising tool for practicing your desires), ISTA, the word "compersion" and the concept of polyamory. You'll hear:

--Exact instructions for container setting

--Essential Inquiry: Do I want to be connected or do I want to be right?

--How to navigate a mid-conversation trigger

--Why reflection instead of defense will solve 90% of your issues

--How to lead with curiosity, rather than crisis, in every conversation

--Why he ceremonially "killed" his current relationship more than once.

--How rupture and repair REALLY DOES strengthen relationships

Yana Rumi's first book has just been published: Simple Magick of Health & Prosperity: A Practical Guide to a Magickal Life. Buy here: Simple Magick of Health & Prosperity: A Practical Guide to a Magickal Life

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

80: Part 7/12, Become Your Own Lover: How to Talk about Sex Series

Bravehearts! These are the instructions you've been waiting for. Articulate, calm and compassionate, intimacy guide Briana Cribeyer builds a bridge between your pleasure and the REST OF YOU, and lays it all down: You cannot communicate gracefully with a partner until you know what's within. You'll hear:

—A reframe and cliff notes of the RBDSM conversation

—How to Emotionally Release without exhausting your system

—Why expansion requires contraction (hint: it's uncomfortable)

—How self-pleasure is just a start---can you become your own lover?

—Why it's worth asking: do I need to outsource my pleasure?

—The value of speaking your desires out loud

Briana Cribeyer is a transformational facilitator, and relationship and intimacy guide, and has led trainings in 50 cities across the world with performers, artists, authors and CEOs. Beginning her career in social services and education, leading to non-profit management, her most common thread--and I love this part-- is a desire to serve. She sees all of her past career as energy work, supporting individuals and groups to find their own innate power to heal. Briana believes that deep radical love, coupled with ownership and self-responsibility, will shift the trajectory of humans on the planet. She seeks out farm-to-table meals in every city, likes a nice rock-climbing session and probably has too many plants and journals to count!

Learn more about at www.brianacribeyer.com

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

79: Part 6/12, The Art of Asking for What You Want: How to Talk about Sex Series

In this episode, Janelle and Andrea discuss the Wheel of Consent with educator, playwright and pro-domme Carmen Leilani De Jesus. They cover how to get curious about what we want and ask for it (no small task) and how we can find a win-win! There's real-time embodiment exercises, several mic drop moments (Andrea shrieks!) and actionable homework for Bravehearts. Includes a nod to the Pomodoro Technique, "The Art of Giving and Receiving", by Betty Martin, the Wanting Game and the Three Minute Game. You'll hear:

--Where to start when approaching your partner about sex

--Why pleasure is an INSIDE job (and you can take responsibility for yours!)

--Why "giving you pleasure gives me pleasure" isn't a win-win

--How the basics still apply: Trust, Value and Communication

--Why consent should be a mutual understanding of desires and limits (or willingness with limits!).

--How saying our desires out loud can help us embody them

--Why Janelle likes to have sex and THEN go to dinner

--The lowdown on creating somatic bookmarks in your body!

Connect with Carmen:

www.consentisapractice.co

IG = @‌consentisapractice

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We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure.

You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.

Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues.

If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you.

With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea.

Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/

Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/