There are certain parts of our personalities that are unpleasant to experience. They can be socially undesirable to talk about. They are things like: anxiety, guilt, embarrassment, narcissism, selfishness, and more. We don’t like to talk about them, we don’t like to feel them, but we could all benefit from learning to be a little […]

Where do you feel like you belong? Maybe it’s with your family, your co-workers, or your peers. For many multiracial people, such as myself and many of you, finding that sense of belonging isn’t easy. We balance our own identities with what others think about our identities, and those perceptions can stop us from feeling […]

“Who hates Koren?” Those three words used to cause me so much pain and suffering. When I was in fifth grade, I received a note after library class with those three words listed at the top of the paper, along with signatures of my classmates. At this point, I have forgotten who gave me that […]

There’s this mantra that I’ve heard Brené Brown use that says “Clear is kind.” And I think that applies to so many situations, like your communication with family members, emails, and the thoughts in your brain. It’s much kinder to be clear about what’s okay and not okay than to not speak up. That voice […]

Can you feel something if you don’t have a word for it? When you don’t have language for something, you tend to have trouble understanding it. Because our culture doesn’t have an expansive emotional vocabulary, we end up having issues articulating our emotions and being able to identify and work with how we feel. In […]

How often do you find yourself doing all the work for someone else’s vision? The word “we” is thrown around in meetings, yet you’re the one taking responsibility for “our” goals and vision. Or, you get an angsty email from someone and you make it your personal mission to solve their problem. This, friends, is […]

I know my values well and I use them to guide me in my life whether it’s as a parent, in my business, or as a leader. The best part of this is that it helps make decision making much easier and clearer. I waste less brain juice and don’t spend time questioning those decisions […]

2020 has been an emotional roller coaster. We began the year thinking this would be an exciting start to a new decade only to experience a pandemic. But it’s not just COVID wearing us down. It’s our government, the economy, the racial injustices, the decision fatigue.  If you are feeling exhausted right now, it’s okay. […]

Taking care of yourself is important, especially at this time. Many of us have reservations about self-care. We wonder whether we are doing it the “right way” and whether we deserve it. But we tend to forget that the best way to take care of yourself is different for every individual. Join me in this […]

Right now in my state, people are having a civil outcry about being forced to wear masks. And I get it, they’re hot. They add more laundry to my workload and require me to remember to bring them everywhere. I don’t like wearing masks and I’m not a fan of them. But, my friends, I […]