MAUDE: Today while reflecting on what contributes to our peaceful harmonious way of being together, we zeroed in on the way we move through our lives separately within our connectedness. We are well matched in our desire for independent action, … How Does Trust Grow and Support Non-Interference in Your Relationship? Read More »

PHIL: We’ve written before about how to accept the differences between people, especially in a partnership, but a whole other aspect of differences is the pleasure and richness that they offer. As someone we interviewed said, “It would be so … How to Greet the Differences in Your Relationships as Blessings Read More »

Maude was talking with a dear friend who is in a harmonious long term relationship, and was relating an incident that had occurred between her and her husband earlier. It seems that they have their phones synced so that when … Why Sitting on Your Hurt Feelings Only Makes it Worse Read More »

This week, in lieu of our regular post, we have a guest post from Fred Owens. He’s been blogging on various topics for 20 years at Frog Hospital. After reading ours, he decided to turn his pen to relationships. We … A Story of How Good Relationships are Out There for the Taking Read More »

PHIL: Many years ago, when I was squatting in London with a bunch of other people, I wrote a proposal that we should all find a place in the country and move there. I even organized a visit to a … For the New Year, Share Your Loves and Longings in Your Relationships Read More »

PHIL: I am giving a talk this week on cooperation in society and how it requires both trust and shared intention between people. The intention comes from our shared stories about who we are and what our goals are. The … Every Relationship has Shared Stories at its Heart – What Are Yours? Read More »

A reader emailed us about last week’s blog: “It sounds simple but not easy. I certainly haven’t mastered it yet!” We maintain harmony in our relationship the same way a bike stays in balance when being ridden. It happens with … Why Those Little Differences Needn’t Be a Problem in Your Relationship Read More »

PHIL: The obvious way that you compare things is by looking at how they differ. Which oven is self-cleaning? Does this bank charge overdraft fees? Less obvious is to look at the similarities, because they don’t help you make choices … How Can You See Differences in Your Relationships as Welcome Additions? Read More »

How do you sustain a long-term relationship, whether it is with your partner, friends or family? With a new relationship, there are whole new areas to explore that can take years, but as time accumulates, you tend to feel that … How Do You Keep All Your Long-Term Relationships Vital and Fresh? Read More »

We have been discussing relationship decisions with a few of our friends who are venturing into partnerships, are at the point of “should we live together?”, or are working through some of the complex issues of becoming a couple. We … What Kind of Commitment Do Each of You Want in Your Relationship? Read More »