We each feel complete, and being together adds to us, in contrast to having a sense of neediness and wanting a partner to complete us. We are together by a choice that is made from a place of joy in the possibilities, rather than out of fear of being alone.

We hold that for two people to be in harmony, they have to have matching core values. In order to find whether your values match with a partner, you need to examine what your values are, who you are and how you interact with the world.

The common wisdom about relationships is that there will be times of conflict. But even though that may describe the majority of relationships, we say it is not inevitable and there is another way to interact that is conflict-free, non-adversarial and peaceful.

The direct experience of mutuality is a critical aspect of a peaceful and conflict-free relationship. It is the sense of being in the relationship, rather than just being our individual selves. It brings you in touch with the very essence of intimacy.

You do not always have to struggle in your relationship. Open your minds and your hearts to another way and transform it into one full of calm, peace and joy. You can create a life without hardship and difficulty.

Our work involves re-framing relationships as conflict-free ones. This transformation is a change in perception, one which leads to knowing that your partner is a unique individual, that you are both on the same side, and there are many different ways to meet your needs together.

In order to have the kind of relationship that brings peace and mutual happiness, it’s necessary to know you’re both committed to the relationship; that you’re in it together. It is so important to know that you’re both on the same side.

Making lists and keeping score is one way that people have a relationship. It makes it transactional. The alternative is not to keep score, but to believe that your partner brings different skills and talents to the relationship.

The very differences which can cause tension and distance in a relationship can strengthen and enrich us if we let go of seeking agreement through sameness or of being right by demanding identical points of view.

Communication is vital in relationships. If you don't bring up what is really important to you, your partner will not know. None of us are mind readers! If you avoid things because of fears or projections of dissonance, they will fester and can cause greater distance and misunderstandings.