Pitching the Truth

Greg has been a career salesperson, entrepreneur, and business creator most of his life. But the time came that he had a hard time to keep the truth. His business struggled, he chose to live a dishonest lifestyle, that eventually brought disheartening consequences to him and to the people he loves--even caused the loss of his own freedom.

Some mistakes are greater than others but you should know how you'll be able to bounce back and take a REBOUND even if your failure threatens to crush everything you've worked so hard to build.

In this episode, Greg shares important insights and strategies he did to BOUNCE BACK and REBOUND from his life's adversity.

Here are Greg's Proven Strategies to Rebound from Adversity

1. Reflect and own up your mistakes.

Like what Greg did on his first day on the prison cell, he wrote letters to people he hurt and offended asking for forgiveness and owning up his mistakes.

1. Tune out from all the negativity.

Wear your "earplugs". Chose not to listen to all the distractions and negativity that will hinder you to move forward.

1. Seek Clarity.

You can choose to meditate, pray, read, and write or journal to clear all your thoughts.

1. Develop a routine.

As Tim Ferris said Routine means freedom.

1. Control your distractions.

Chose to eliminate your life's distraction in order for you to reach your goal and destination.

1. Take action and move on.

Find for solutions and interesting things to solve your adversity. Eliminate your life's anchor from moving forward. Do not get sucked up by other people's negativity that tells you cannot do it.

01:47 –  Greg's business story: car dealership, wine store, real estate, and auto repair shop

04:17 –  his business downfall—the end of the lying game

09:06 –  Greg describes what it is like inside the prison facility

09:50 –  How Greg distracted himself by praying, meditating, reading and writing

11:55 –  How Greg develop a daily routine to cope up with his days inside the facility

13:05 –  the power of meditating, praying, and journaling routine to gain clarity

16:35 –  ways can control your distractions

18:26 – the power of reflection

20:13 –  Greg's powerful tips to overcome adversity

• I started to read because I realized I had to distract myself. I would not accept that I was in prison. I would not accept that I was in jail. I would never accept this reality.
• Freedom could be anything.
• When I meditated I was no longer in prison. I could literally tune out the world. My thoughts are so deep, my mind is so clear.
• With the power of routine. That is how I overcame the obstacles of fear, worry, anxiety, shame, anger, and frustration.
• When you are trying to overcome adversity, it is so difficult because you are so distracted. But you can choose to shut it off.
• You've got to hustle to overcome adversity.

• Marcus Aurelius- Author of Meditations
• http://veracitygp.com/
• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies

When it comes to relationships – it is recommended to start with honesty.

Honesty is a sign of wholeness, confidence, and self-love. Honesty equates to trust and intimacy. And it determines the longevity of any relationship.

In this episode of Pitching the Truth, Gregory Paul dive deep the three major points of how an open, honest and direct communication can impact your relationship where is with your family, relationship and business.

Family

• Affects your upbringing as a child when you have open communication with your parents. It does not have to be monetary support, could be moral support, guidance, direction, and insight.
• Can avoid further consequences if you share your struggles with your family instead of figuring out everything on your own. Prevents you from choosing the deceitful way out.

Relationships

• You can get what you want from the relationship.
• You can do a check and balance on the people in your life that are worth keeping.
• You can test people especially friends if they are worth keeping or not. By being direct and honest with the people you are with you can directly qualify if they are worth your time or not.
• Help you honor your own time.
• You can be honest and let people know when you think you need more time on yourself. Make them understand that this is what you want. Just let them know and see how they will react. The majority, these people will react in a kind generous way.
• Being blunt and honest will make you more empowered in making your own decision.
• People respect and seek your opinion more.
• Save your valuable time by being bluntly direct and honest about what you expect from your relationship, by stating you want, dislike, favorites, and passion. You just have to lay you cards from day one.

Business/Career

• Saves your credibility. When you are in your building your career, you need to be direct and honest with everybody that you meet. Never talk smack behind your co-worker back just to try to improve your position.
• Brings you solid reputation. Client honors every deal you make with them.

• In relationships, people do not communicate directly and honestly.
• Shame is what kept me from admitting my truth to other people because I was scared of the outcome.
• People are scared to expose themselves. They are scared, to be honest, truthful and direct because they are afraid that someday someone just going to shun or outcast them.
• You'll never know when your time is up. So why would you waste it in a relationship that was not really fulfilling or was not really working?

• http://veracitygp.com/
• The Drama of the Gifted Child
• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies

In this episode of Pitching the Truth, Gregory Paul dive deep on ways you can do your reality check with your relationship, not only to benefit the other person but most importantly for YOURSELF.

1. Family

This is the toughest part because as they say "You can pick your friends but not your family."

• Reflect on how you want to manage your family. Step back and take inventory of your life and decide what is important.
• Talk to them intimately. Be direct and honest. You have to do this to benefit yourself not the other person. Creating a space for a truthful, direct and honest dialogue can create a deep great conversation with your family. If you can lay down what you want, your partner will be more likely to do the same.
• Do not be afraid to open up to your family.

1. Friends
   • Take inventory of who you surround yourself.
   • Avoid negative unhappy friends because you cannot benefit from them. But try to change them in a way that you are direct and honest.
   • Try opening up to your friend about something that's worrying you in a deep conversation. Not just to rant.

1. Finances

• Be honest and direct the struggles you are facing with regards to your business.
• Admit your own mistakes.
• Ask for support and financial pieces of advice. Do not try to sort things on your own.
• In instances, when someone asks you to lend them money, ask about their business plan and how they plan to pay you back. It is okay to be direct and question them. There is nothing wrong with that. When it comes to finances people do not pay attention to what is happening and what is important in regards to the drive of the individual that you are lending the money to.

01:30 –  Greg's early relationship with the wrong person

05:34 –  Greg's relationship check with his brother and how it opened up a closer tie between them

05:49 – Greg's deep talk with his partner, and how the conversation led to a more structured open relationship

07:07 – reasons why men need a solid core group to discuss their issues and personal struggles

07:54 – how Greg's relationship struggle led to the lost his own reality

11:44 – The Drama of the Gifted Child

14:05 – Your relationship with your Friends, family, and finances

• You cannot be afraid to speak your truth. You cannot be afraid to be a little bit direct.
• People are not getting into their truth because they are afraid that somebody might reject them or get mad at them.
• Lying, manipulating and trying to create a persona that you think others will approve of is a common problem that people out there is doing to impress others.
• Being direct and honest and expressing how you feel and what you want out of that relationship is extremely important.

• David Wygant
• http://veracitygp.com/
• The Drama of the Gifted Child
• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies

Society places a high value on truth.

In this episode, Gregory Paul tells his own story with honesty, vulnerability and raw reflection. As he tells us how keeping the truth led to a dishonest lifestyle and brought disheartening consequences to his life and to the people he loves.

After the loss of his business, his family, his home and his freedom Gregory Paul was left with nothing. He was left with literally two black duffel bags of clothes, his bike and living in an apartment alone, depressed and broke.

He had to start over from scratch.

He had to live the second half of his life, recreate himself, and be functional again. Through his years of searching, meditation, reading, journaling and praying, he resurrected himself and his career.

Follow his story through this podcast, take the life lessons as he journeyed from the peak to the bottom and back up again.

Watch him as he lives his life again, now in a direct, honest and upfront way. Far from the deceitful, and untruthful life he used to choose.

• Why speaking the truth is important?
• How can the loss of freedom be a big blessing and help you redirect your life?
• How being truthful and honest benefits you and others?

00:41   -           Greg Paul's personal and business background

02:17   -           being the very first eBay car dealer during 1995 internet boom

05:27   -           Financial Crisis of 2008--the fall of Greg's car dealership business

09:09   -           Greg's darkest days-- robbing Peter to pay Paul, one debt after another

11:10   -           his car dealership business shut down

13:18   -           40 counts of theft, being sentenced 6 years plus 20 years of probation

15:17  -           how first night serving his sentence gave Gregory Paul a full sense of relief

16:13  -           how reading, meditating and praying helped him

18:43   -           starting a new life with 2 duffel bag

20:32   -           being an open book to Julie -the girl he is dating

23:18   -           how being truthful and honest benefits you and others

• A lot of people get caught up in things that they do not really understand.
• Every day that I was trying to fix these problems, I was not doing it from an honest direct perspective. I was too scared to be vulnerable.
• I see people walking into their lives every day in a zombie life state, kind of I was. Just going forward thinking, "If I just do these things, will get better."
• No matter what good you do, second chances do not happen the way they should in America because of online reputation.
• Direct, honest and upfront is the way I try to live my life every day.
• People are trying to create an image that is not really them.

• Project Angel Heart
• http://veracitygp.com/
• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies