Pitching the Truth

Why do people see unfortunate events in their lives as obstacles rather than as opportunities to grow?

In this week's episode Greg Paul, discuss that misfortune is your opponent --challenging you to show what you are capable of overcoming in your life.

It is a lesson that Greg Paul had embraced and we hope you enjoy it.

"I judge you unfortunate because you have never lived through misfortune. You have passed through life without an opponent— no one can ever know what you are capable of, not even you."

 -Seneca

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Topics Covered

01:12 – Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and Stoicism

01:40 – The misfortune that fell upon Greg that pushed him to reinvent himself

02:14 – What people do when they encounter misfortune and adversity

03:41 – Disservice by sitting here complaining or not getting up early in the morning to get things done

06:07 – Greg as a sprayer kind of spraying out all the different ideas he has, all the different struggles that he was having

06:13 – Getting laser-like focused on one specific idea, one specific purpose, one purpose that could be helpful to serve someone else.

07:17 – Doing greater things rather than dwelling with life's misfortunes

09:27 – Vagabonding and doing the thing to be of service to others

11:13 – What is more with Greg, his mission to help former felon to transition back to the society

Takeaways

"I've been a bit of a sprayer myself kind of spraying out all the different ideas I have and all the different struggles I'm having."

"This misfortune, this struggle that we all have is a gift to grow. "

"Rather than looking that misfortune. Looking at that waste of time and thinking to themselves, 'What am I going to do? What am I going to do to change it?'"

Resources

• Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
• Seneca
• Vagabonding by Tim Ferriss
• The Truth About Lies: How Admitting Nothing Can Cost You Everything

Connect with Gregory Paul

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• Pitching the Truth Podcast

Every day our words affect others either in a positive or negative way.

In today's podcast, I share how different people and their words helped me to succeed and to sometimes fail. Take a lesson from my experiences and go and change someone's life today.

"I now realize the importance of having yourself surrounded by people that will give you the words that are really, really important and honest. Not only the praise but also the words of doubt or the words of discouragement or the words to, to basically let you know that, hey, you're not on the right path. You're doing things the wrong way or you're not being honest. You're not being direct."

-Gregory Paul

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Topics Covered

01:30 – Greg's mission and involvement in Denver's criminal justice reforms

02:04 – The impact of the power of words to Greg's life growing up becoming a pleaser and trying to figure out everything on his own

04:20 – Robin's impact to his life, being the only person that praised him and became his positive influence to his life

07:01 – Shifting gears, moving to Colorado with Robin, believing in his capacity and that he can do more by listening to Robin's words of encouragement

08:14 – Powerful words that made him successful- being salesman of the month, breaking sales target after sales target

09:30 – The Positive impact of people around him

10:25 – The fall of his success—nobody told him that he is about to make a big mess

12:20 – The words of discouragement from his supervising officer inside the facility, an accountability he got from his sixth officer who believed in him and recognized his efforts

 16:57 – Giving positive vibe and casual conversation to people we meet

17:20 – What is more with Greg, his mission to help former felon to transition back to the society

Tweetable Takeaways from this Episode

• "At the end of the day, words matter. Everybody in there was just negative. So I spend most of my time ignoring everybody. I literally wore head wore earplugs all day long. To this day I still prefer to have something in my ears to kind of soften the noise because it really does bother me to have to listen to other people's negativity."
• "Words such as you're a convicted felon, you're wired differently. You're never going to change. These were words that were said to me by an officer that looked across from my desk, her desk at me, and basically had complete control over everything that I did or whether or not I went back or I stayed out."
• "Probations supposed to be about rehabilitation. It's supposed to be about helping people become better, helping me go into society and become a better person, but the words that were chosen were never literally, it took me five, five, or six different supervisors until somebody actually said the words to me, Greg, you know what? You're doing a really good job."
• "The power of words matter. Every single day. We can hurt somebody or help somebody with our words. We can be positive and encouraging."

Resources

• The Truth About Lies: How Admitting Nothing Can Cost You Everything

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Greg was interviewed in CJ Evolution Podcast, a show that put a twist on traditional criminal justice professions and provides tools to set yourself up for success in your career and for the future.

In this episode Greg shares his story how he owned his mistake after he defrauded a lot of people out of a lot of money, deceiving Peter to pay Paul, got arrested, did some time incarcerated, and now doing the right thing. Taking full responsibility for his actions.

"Greg, man, you're in the minority man. I really appreciate you coming on the show. And I what I mean by in the minorities, you're one of those rare individuals out there, who actually has taken responsibility for some of the actions that you've done throughout your life and again, that's an admirable trait man, because me being a cop or a long time, you hardly ever see that."-Patrick Fitzgibbons, Host of CJ Evolution

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Topics Covered

02:10 – Greg's background, going stray because of his bad choices despite growing in a very supportive family

5:60 – his family's reaction when they heard that he was arrested and was facing theft charges.

08:20 – Time for reflection, how his time in prison affected him as a person

09:07 – Choosing motivation over blame

10:24 – The support he got from family and friends: the regular visit from his daughters and friends, books they bought for him to read

13:25 – From making millions of money to suddenly losing freedom

14:00 – Greg's biggest takeaway from his experience

15:45 – His struggle integrating back into the community as a former felon

17:15 – What he did after he went out of the facility, how we make ways to pay his restitution

18:43 – The power of owning his mistakes, things he did to keep going-speaking for Prisoner's Against Crimes, Defy Ventures and other speaking engagements

23:35 – How his relationship with his friends got affected by him being in prison, losing the majority of his friends after

26:00 – Meditation, journaling, reading, exercises- developing a powerful routine helped him go forward

29:09 – If he could go back and change anything, what will it be? After the 2008 market, he should have fired all his employees and filed bankruptcy a day after instead of fighting to come back up

30:30 – Connect with Greg Paul

People Mentioned

• Jordan Belfort – The Wolf of Wall Street
• Eliot Marshall

Resources

• The Truth About Lies: How Admitting Nothing Can Cost You Everything
• Prisoners Against Crimes
• Defy Ventures

Connect with Patrick Fitzgibbons

• Podcast
• Twitter

Connect with Gregory Paul

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• Twitter
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• Pitching the Truth Podcast

Do you tend to blame others for your problems when things go wrong? In this weeks episode, I will explain why I NEVER let myself become a victim of my own actions and previous crimes. I was reminded by three separate random people this week that most people hide and blame others for their past mistakes. We all need to be more accountable for the outcome of our lives. Step up or shut up.

"You have the power to change anything."

- Gregory Paul

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Topics Covered

01:42 – Feedback about Greg's book, The Truth About Lies

03:05 – Greg's as a guest to Patrick Fitzgibbons'Criminal Justice Evolution Podcast, him openly sharing his story, his insights a former felon

05:24 – Are you a blamer or an Action taker, someone who is driven to better life situations

06:51 – Using struggles and life adversities to bounce back and live a positive life

07:51 –  The power to change anything

Tweetable Takeaways from this Episode

• You forget the perception that other's will have doubts about your work is going to be much different than from you as the creator.
• Think about what is important in your life, thinking about what kind of influence you can have.

Resources

• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies
• Patrick Fitzgibbons' Criminal Justice Evolution Podcast

  Connect with Gregory Paul:

• veracitygp.com
• Facebook
• Twitter

Super Ego is here to run the show and you do not even know how he got control. He has been planted in your mind by your parents and other past influencers when you were a wee little boy or girl.

Come and find out why past beliefs that are not your own must go in order for you to grow.

"One person you should live for, yourself. You shouldn't be spending all this time and energy trying to please other people. You shouldn't be feeding your super-ego."

-Gregory Paul

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Topics Covered

01:22 - Greg's random conversation with David – his coach and mentor

 02:09 - What is super-ego?

02:43 - Greg's experience and realizations about his super-ego.

05:40 - A responsibility, leading by example.

06:53 - Ask yourself, is super-ego where you want to be?

07:42 – Super-ego is your own kryptonite.

08:35 – What is really important than super-ego?

10:33 – Reflect on your own path.

Tweetable Takeaways from this Episode

• Why I get off from helping people, get off on trying to be the savior, the fixer, the man that comes in at the last moment to save the day.
• Super-ego gets beyond your ego. It's like your ego on steroids, it's your ego with a cape, it's your ego that has to command at the last minute to save the day.
• One person you should live for, yourself. You shouldn't be spending all this time and energy trying to please other people. You shouldn't be feeding your super-ego. Pretending by doing a good deed, people will give it back to you.
• One thing I noticed about super-ego it's your own personal kryptonite, it's your own personal drain, it will suck the life out of you because before you know it your life is not your own, your spending all your time and energy trying to help other people rather than sitting back and trying to build yourself, trying to think about who you are, what it is you want.
• People need to recognize that what's most important is finding your own happiness, your own joy through whatever that may be.

Resources

• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies

Connect with Gregory Paul:

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How important is it to be pushed to grow every day? Listen and learn about one man's journey about how he wished he was pushed more and regrets lost opportunities 

"People need a little bit of push here and there. Because everybody is uncomfortable, everybody is scared. They second-guess themselves."

- Gregory Paul

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Topics Covered

01:47 – Greg's high school opportunity at Lawrence Academy

03:14 – Being pushed in certain directions that makes life easier and overcoming adversity

04:00 – How they pushed to raise their 3 daughters in Boulder, Colorado

07:26 – Push or be pushed? Or both?

08:45 – How Greg 'push' and support his daughters with their decisions

13:43– The need for people to believe in something

13:55– Greg's regret to not going to Lawrence highschool

14:34 – Greg's surprise trip for his brother

Tweetable Takeaways from this Episode

• I want to be able to be there to try to help them decipher what is going on and figure out what is the best plan of action.
• People need to be pushed but at the same time, they need to want to be pushed.
• I think people want to be lead.

Resources

• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies

  Connect with Gregory Paul:

• veracitygp.com
• Facebook
• Twitter

Men are fading away from the community and the cost is high. Male suicide is at an all-time high and it is time to take action. We must surround ourselves with the set of friends that can act as our sounding board and can help us get our craps together.

Listen here as Greg Paul shares his insight about why he failed without a tribe and learn why having your own crew behind you is so important.The people who know you so well that you don't care to show your true self around them.

"Men need other men to hold them accountable."

- Greg Paul Kotsaftis

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Topics Covered

03:19 – The need to have your own tribe

05:47– The tribe of men you need

07:20 – Role of Greg's core group in his life

09:22 – Type of person you should be with

11:13 – Greg's regrets on neglecting friendship

12:31 – What being around other people means to Greg

Tweetable Takeaways from this Episode

• I need to remember not to do it alone.
• When things get bad, I felt alone. I feel I don't have anyone to turn to.
• We are designed to be in a tribe of people. We are designed to be around other people.

People Mentioned

• Tai Lopez
• Jocko Willink

Resources

• The Tai Lopez Show
• How Discipline Sets You Free with Navy SEAL Jocko Willink
• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies

  Connect with Gregory Paul:

• veracitygp.com
• Facebook
• Twitter

How can the act of telling the truth influence your life?

TJ Dunhoft is a life, life purpose, and dating coach. He is the founder of Authentic Self,LLC. His mission is to help men and women achieve and sustain love and family in their lives.

Listen here as TJ shared how Greg impacted him to be an authentic vulnerable communicator, how they recall their coaching days, how Greg helped TJ consensually leave his fading marriage. Also, TJ shared some insights on how couple must work on their relationship to maintain they sexual polarity to achieve and sustain a good relationship with each other.

"The more vulnerable and honest I was. I felt like the more space was available for love."

- TJ Dunhoft

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Topics Covered

01:10 – TJ Dunhoft background

02:42 – How Greg and TJ met

04:03 – His challenge being attracted to another woman despite being married

05:40 – His major take away from his coaching with Greg

06:50 – Being in the authentic genuine vulnerable place

09:21 – Impact of being direct and honest

10:30 – TJ's divorce with his wife

 15:18 – Importance of stepping back and freeing the space so the things you like will manifest

16:33 – The universe' challenge to us

18:09 – The biggest regret of people: missed opportunities and broken relationships

18:50 – Importance of maintaining a sexual polarity that couples have for each other

22:14 – Working for the relationship

23:25 – Men and women's life purpose for each other

26:20 – Men and women's virtue and characteristics and how to stay in sexual polarity

Tweetable Takeaways from this Episode

• Your life purpose is searching for you too.
• I was getting lessons that I needed to learn, experienced I need to experience so that I can heal and liberate other men and women going through similar issues.
• When you kind of step back a little bit or allow time to heal from a negative occurrence it is amazing how it is serving you.
• People are so close to the painting they cannot see the whole picture.

People Mentioned

• David Deida
• Karen Brody
• David Wygant

Resources

• TJ's Ebooks
• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies

Connect with TJ Dunhoft:

• Instagram
• Facebook
• tjdunhoft.com

  Connect with Gregory Paul:

• veracitygp.com
• Facebook
• Twitter

In this world, everybody is moving so fast, everybody is running quickly. Do you take your time to analyze and think about the outcome? Why do we always want to cram into making a decision? We are always in a hurry but at what cost?

Every day we make decisions that influence our life and the life of others. The world applauds the fast thinker and mover but what are you missing in the process.

Enjoy this episode and learn to say "No" first.

 "Take some time to say 'No' first."

-Gregory Paul Kotsaftis

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Topics Covered

02:39 – Controlled decisions: Think before you speak and act

02:55 – Long-term and short-term impact of your decisions

03:43 – Indecisive moves and decisions Greg made for his car dealership business

04:19 – Greg being the 'man on a hamster wheel'

06:00 – Greg's habit before he makes his decisions

08:45 – What to do before we reply to any text message we receive

09:30 – How you should decide when someone asks you for a favor

09:56 – Importance of saying 'No' first

11:15 – The freedom you get from slowing down

People Mentioned

• Ed Tate
• David Wygant

 Tweetable Takeaways from this Episode

• . Take your time to think before you speak.
• I really take the time to make sure that the decision of what I am going to tell them and what I am going to talk to them about is been really thought through.
• Every single word I try to choose and use. I try to make sure it is coming from a place of love and kindness. It is not coming from a place of anger and manipulation.

 Links

• http://veracitygp.com/
• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies 

Eliot Marshall is the owner of Easton Training Centre, a former professional mixed martial arts (MMA) fighter and a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu black belt under Amal Easton. He is also a former contender in The Ultimate Fighter Session 8 and the Ultimate Fighting Championship's (UFC) light-featherweight division.

In this episode, Eliot shared how he overcame his depression by choosing to own his situation and ask other people around him for support. They also talked about how we are brought up with the mainstream media screaming, highlighting and emphasizing each other's differences causing people to crave for validation, connection and sense of belonging especially when they are outcasted by the people around them.

"We need to reattach to one another in my opinion."

-Eliot Marshall

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Topics Covered

02:00 – Eliot's professional background

03:29 – Michael Vick's abuse of his pit bull story

04:42 – why men struggle to show vulnerability and feelings

05:50 – Eliot's talks about the connection with others

08:45 – Speaking about anything anytime just to get that little conversation 'nugget'

10:15 – Eliot's childhood being an outcast growing up in an interracial family

11:33 – Eliot's struggle fitting in

15:35 – How he decided to tell everyone about his breakdown

16:20 – Mainstream media screaming how different people are from each other

18:05 – How he shared his breakdown story to the school

19:05 – People's feedback from his announcement of sharing his vulnerable moment to the school

20:57 – Being accountable for your own sh*t

21:40 – Midlife crisis

Tweetable Takeaways from this Episode

• To survive you needed other people. If you got separated from your tribe, it was anxiety driven, depression, you are freaking the f out because you are going to die.
• Biologically we need other people it is just what we need.
• We do not hang out with people that literally are just next to us. And I think that is one of the biggest problems that we have in our society. One of the leading causes of anxiety, depression, suicide epidemic that we are looking at.
• If we can talk more about our similarities, we can talk more about our differences. I think things will be better for us.

People Mentioned

• Michael Vick

Resources

• Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions
• Gregory Paul's Book- The Truth About Lies

Connect with Eliot Marshall:

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• The Gospel of Fire Podcast

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