Plan Simple with Mia Moran

Do you ever feel like you’re just going through the motions, getting by on autopilot, even with the things you supposedly want to do? Kelly suggests living more consciously by thinking of your life as an exciting, ongoing project. 

To do that, you can use the Project Me Life Wheel, which has eight areas of life on it:

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You do a quick assessment for each area of your life, using prompts, to see how things have been going in each area. It isn’t about making your life perfect. It’s more about seeing what areas of your life are pretty consistently going okay and where you might want to put some attention. 

From there, you take ideas about changes you want to make and create an action sheet. The key is to make a choice to focus. Even if you feel like all areas of your life need work, choose where you will focus this month—and remember you can choose a new focus next month. 

For December specifically, having a plan can make what can be a hectic month so much better. Start with questions like What was the best part of last December? What was the worst? What do I have to do? What do I want to do? Then think about what you want more and less of, what you will stop and start, what your challenges are, what you need to figure out. What is your holiday wish list? What do you want from yourself? Take all of that to create your dream December. 

Write down how you want to feel this month. Keep it front and center. 

Then make sure you are incorporating what you want into your day. That means making a plan for the day that includes the things you said you want and avoids the things you didn’t want.

Once you've filled in all these lovely little spaces and Once you've gotten clear about what you want out of December and what you don't want, … make sure that you're doing things each day from that in December. 

Bio

Kelly Pietrangeli is the creator of myprojectme.com and author of the book Project Me for Busy Mothers. Kelly is on a mission to help women step out of auto-pilot and into higher levels of conscious living. As a mother herself with two teenagers, she understands the struggle with the juggle. Her website and book are a treasure trove of resources and inspiration.  She also runs an online membership club called Project WE to help women who want to work on their lives alongside Kelly and a super supportive community.

Links

• Plan your dream December
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• Life Wheel 
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• Mia’s Advent Calendar Making Class
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• Mia’s Make Today Matter 5-Day Challenge
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3 doable things

• Assess your life. Take a few minutes and look at the different areas of your life. This doesn’t have to take long. Make it fun. Take yourself out to a cafe and give yourself a little time. Give each of the eight categories a rating of 1–10 (10 doesn’t mean perfect). Pat yourself on the back for things that are going well. Notice where you might want to shed some attention in the next month.
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• Pick one life area to work on. Choose one life area that could use a little attention. What’s going to make a difference here? List 1–3 things you can do to make an improvement in this area.
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• Plan your Dream December. Get really clear on how you want this month to feel. Know what you want more and less of. Think back to last December to learn from it. Then design a December you love (right now is a great time to be doing this work). Keep your vision front and center and use it daily to set up a plan that aligns with your vision. 
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Are you the planning type or a go with the flow type? 

It’s possible for a plan to give you more freedom. 

Leonie talks about setting goals, seeing dreams, setting a vision of what you want to create, and working with the energy you have. 

86% of people do not think about goals or do not set goals. 

80% of people don't think about their goals at all. 

16% of people will think about their goals, but never write them down. 

3% of people will write their goals down

Just 1% will actually think about that goals, write them down and regularly review them. 

It's that 1%, that tiny, tiny 1% that are among the most successful people in the world. 

The closer you stay connected to the vision of what you want to create in your life, the faster it's going to manifest for you and you're going to keep pouring more and more energy into it. 

That means your goals workbooks (however you document goals) shouldn’t be pristine. They should be dog-eared. They should feel like very like well-loved companions who are the guiding light for your journey for the next year. 

You don’t have to do it all in one sitting. In fact, making a plan takes time and thought. The week before New Years and the month of January are a wonderful time to make your plan for the next year. 

Dream big. We only get one round at the rodeo and it's so much more fun to be achieving your goals.

Leonie’s life and biz workbooks are an amazing way to write down those goals in a place you can keep coming back to them. 

Bio

Leonie Dawson is an artist and illustrator with a $10 million business. She started her business about 10 years ago and works about 10 hours a week, leaving her time to be with and home school her two girls. She says, “We have a pretty gentle creative life together. We just spent a lot of time together and I feel really, really blessed that I've been able to have businesses that fulfilled my creative urges and more than abundantly take care of us as well."

Links:

• Get Leonie’s workbooks.
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• Get all 14 talks + planning sheets that make up the Make December Matter Experience
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3 doable actions:

• Look at the past year. Look at what worked, and at what didn’t. Take time to look back and have gratitude and insight and clarity for what's happened.
• Understanding that is a huge piece of the puzzle to setting goals moving forward.
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• Make a hundred list. Make a list of 100 things you want to do in your business and in your life. It can be really hard coming up with a hundred things, which means you stretch in all different directions. It's a really exciting list to tick off.
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• Give yourself a deadline. You don’t have to complete your planning workbook in one sitting. Take time to do the year in review. Take time to think about the questions and dream. But give yourself a deadline. Then choose what works for you—setting aside a little time each day or doing a sprint to finish it up. But finish it … and check back regularly throughout the year. 
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I am kind of obsessed with this time of year — the good, the bad and all the wonderfulness in between.

I think it can be magical for women, for families, for relationships, for the birth of our biggest ideas.

But it can also easily be quite the opposite.

That is the part I want to protect for both you and me, and our kids.

In today’s episode, I reflect on some of my biggest lessons learned, why I am so passionate about this time of year, and an event that I curated and is coming up in one week — Make December Matter.

I created Make December Matter so we can all make this our most magical holiday season — which leads into 2020 being a year that really stands out in our lives.

You can sign up at www.makedecembermatter.com.

We’re actually more comfortable in uncomfortable stories than we are at making changes. – Amanda Kingsley

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m super excited to talk with both Amanda Kingsley and Jen Heilman from Connected Grown Coaching. Amanda and Jen are life coachings who use feng shui in their practice to integrate environment and mindset. 

They have a very holistic practice and that mind, body, spirit, and, the thing often left out—space—all affect our lives. If the mindset work people are doing doesn’t match their environment, things are sustainable. They don’t stick. But when you put the two together, magic can happen.  

Think about decluttering your home to declutter your mind, or the idea of making room for growth or change. And then there is the energy with which you hold things. Are you holding things that clutter up your life, or is there a different energy there? It matters. 

We talk about: 

• Finding your “why” word and learning to tap into it

BIO

Amanda Kingsley is a certified life coach. Jen Heilman is a Life Coach who understands the power of your surroundings because she’s also a home designer and feng shui expert. Jen is a mom to two kids and Amanda is a mom to three. They both live in Western Massachusetts and coach women all over the world.  

LINKS

• Facebook @connectedgrowthcoaching

Doable Changes from this episode:

• FIND YOUR WHY WORD. I have my clients find a word for the season, but Amanda and Jen recommend a foundation word. There’s a good chance that these words work together, and either practice helps guide you. Use the link above to find Amanda and Jen’s Why Word workshop or start with the question “How do I want to feel in the next 90 days?”

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Kirsten Tyrrel, an entrepreneur and podcaster and host of Marvelous Moms. One of the things that I love is that she ends each interview with the question: What makes you a marvelous mom? It catches people off guard, because we have a hard time saying what makes us marvelous moms, but we should all answer that question daily!

We talk about her homeschooling her three kids. She tried it originally a couple of years ago, but realized it wasn’t working. Then she felt the urge to try again, because it felt like such a good fit with entrepreneurship—and she could take a long family vacation when everyone else was back in school. Plus it fits their free-spirited family to do a lot of immersive, exploratory learning. 

Kirsten talks openly about her big dreams, including her decision to become a millionaire and an epic trip she wanted to take—and then makes them happen. She talks about pushing through places where a lot of people give up. 

We talk about: 

• Starting from nothing and pushing through challenges and even failure
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• How success breed success because once you do something you have faith you can do the next thing
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• When people tell you things will be hard and choosing to make them easy
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• How much kids learn naturally when they aren’t in school
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• Setting boundaries, creating habits and then letting things FLOW
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• The power of authentic experiences and connections
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BIO

Kristen is a passionate entrepreneur who calls herself a connection strategist. Through her gift and skill of connection, she has built 7 figure businesses, has a thriving network of like-minded women, and has hosted a live event with 1,000 people and celebrity keynote speakers! She’s the creator and host of The Marvelous Moms Club podcast and the Kirsten Tyrrel podcast to share even more of the behind the scenes about her business and life as a mompreneur. She’s also the mom of three beautiful, amazing children.

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• https://www.kirstentyrrel.com/
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• Marvelous Moms
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• http://www.marvelousmomsclub.com/ 
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• Kirsten Tyrrel Instagram
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Doable Changes from this episode:

• EXPLORE THE IDEA OF EASY. Next time somebody tells you that something is going to be so hard or you feel yourself starting to fall into the mindset that something will be hard, pause. Ask, “What if this were easy?” Approach whatever it is you are doing with the idea of ease and see what falls into place.
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• SAY WHY YOU ARE A MARVELOUS MOM. Try answering this question every day. Say, “I’m a marvelous mom because …” It could be something you did that day or something you know or have learned about yourself. Say it aloud to yourself. There is magic in hearing it. Write it down. There is magic in that too.
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• STATE YOUR DREAM. Whether you share it with a podcast to millions or tell one supportive person, say your big dream aloud. Even it if’s scary or feels hard or you have no idea how to make it happen. Start by saying and owning your dream. 
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On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m really excited to talk with Heather Maguire, about intuition. Heather is an intuitive, a medium, and the mom of two teenagers. 

Intuition is knowing things without thinking it out or without a known reason. Our intuition is so important but so often I hear people saying it isn’t really their thing. Heather says, “A lot of people who feel like they don’t have an intuition or they don't hear it or connect with it are people who have an idea of what it's supposed to look or sound or feel like. Part of developing your intuition or beginning to hear your intuition better is understanding what your intuition looks and sounds and feels like.” 

So sometimes we don’t hear our intuition because we haven’t learned to understand our own intuition. And many of us aren’t really in tune with our bodies, which makes it harder to connect with our intuition.  

We talk about: 

• Getting more comfortable in our bodies by regularly practicing feeling different emotions
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• Understanding the difference between fear and intuition
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• How things keep coming back to us if we don’t listen to our intuition
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• How doing a little less can actually help us move forward
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• What happens when you trust and give up the need to do everything ourselves
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• Using planning in a healthy way to make space for what’s important
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BIO

Heather Maguire is intuitive and medium who offers private sessions, group events and workshops. Her readings provide clarity and uncover what's below the surface but impacting your daily life and your ability to accomplish your goals. Her intuitive sessions are like a comforting, therapeutic conversation that leaves you feeling safe, grounded and loved. Having been intuitive her whole life, Heather has always been fascinated by the connections between people and the conversation beneath the conversation. She enjoys helping people uncover their own intuitive abilities and believes that at the end of the day, what matters most is honoring the truth of who you are. She likes to say, "You're not broken. You're not an accident. Who you are is who you are meant to be. You have permission to love your whole self!"

LINKS

• https://unconventionalintuitive.com
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• ThinkU
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Doable Changes from this episode:

• TRUE/NOT TRUE EXERCISE. Stand up, take a few deep breaths and clear your energy and then just start playing around. Think of things that are true and then think of things that are not true. See how your body reacts to known truths and known untruths. This will help you understand how your body reacts when you aren’t sure about things.
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• JOURNALING TO GET OUT OF PANIC. We use journaling for a lot of reasons. Try using it to get out of panic. Start your day by writing down all the thoughts flooding into your head. Read it through to see what you are feeding yourself. Then help the pendulum spin by writing some new thoughts. 
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• FEEL YOUR FEELINGS. One of the big blocks to our intuition is not being in our bodies. One way to start to change this is to practice feeling our feelings. Take 10 seconds each day to fully feel your feelings (you can practice with a chosen feeling or let yourself fully feel something that comes up for you). Feel it and then move on. 
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As long as you take care of your health and you really try to live consciously, life just gets better and better. – Natalie Matushenko

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m so excited to have Natalie Matushenko back on the show. Natalie is a leadership coach, teacher, adventurer, and a really good friend. She’s dedicated to women living passionately, and so she’s hosting a summit on how to lead an extraordinary life when you’re over 40. I’m part of the summit and really excited today to talk to her about what she’s learned as she gets ready for it!

Natalie talks about her own journey of hormone-related issues, health scares, relationships falling apart, things that seemed OK for years suddenly not being OK … She said, “I’ve been doing personal growth for 20 years and it still felt like my entire life was turning upside down.” So she went looking for answers and talked to a lot of amazing women … and put together a summit for us. 

When we talk about this time of life, being over 40, going through perimenopause, a lot of us think about hormonal fluctuations. This is real! But Natalie also links these physical changes with the soul work of asking what you need to change or let go of and really stepping into our own power. 

We talk about: 

• Shame around getting older and why we don’t talk about what’s happening to us
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• Ways to balance hormones in addition to hormone therapy, like diet, meditation, and exercise
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• Sex drive increasing and how to take advantage of that (plus orgasms are good for you!)
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• How kids leaving home is a transition, but also an amazing time for you
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• Simple practices for raising our happiness set point, like practicing gratitude, acceptance of what is, and noticing the good things in your life and paying attention to them for 10 seconds.
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• Abundance, money archetypes, and how little changes in your surroundings can bring huge changes in your life
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BIO

Natalie Matushenko helps soulful, ambitious and multi-passionate women uncover their purpose and start passion-driven businesses. She’s been on her own journey to explore the changes in life after 40 and brings together an amazing array of women experts in areas ranging from hormones to money to sex to beyond in the Women Living Passionately Summit. She’s the also mama to three girls.

LINKS

• Extraordinary Life After 40 Summit
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• Uncovering Purpose with Natalie Matushenko
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• Shashi Solluna
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• Susan Bratton
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• Pleasure is productive with Janna Denton-Howes
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• Plan for Sex with Caitlin Cogan Doemner
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Doable Changes from this episode:

• LEARN MORE. One of the first steps to making a change is knowing your options and getting information. Sign up for the Women Living Passionately Summit. There is so much good information for women over 40. Sign up, then set aside time to watch the interviews.
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• TAKE MINI STEPS TO HAPPINESS. Try simple, quick, throughout the day practices: express gratitude, accept what is, notice and take time (10 seconds will do it) to pay attention to the good things in your life. Identify three-five times during the day you will do this or set a reminder on your phone. Take those 10 seconds … then see if you find yourself doing more on your own.
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• TALK ABOUT IT. Talking about what is happening in our lives and our bodies helps us learn more and understand that it’s not just us. Topics of health and sex and our bodies have been silenced for a long time. Putting this stuff on the podcast and in the summit is important, but you can have important conversations too.
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I recently ran a live event for a small group of women where we sat around my kitchen table and planned Q4 — October, November, and December.

Each woman came to the table wanting to get really clear on how to finish this year in business strong.

As we went through the exercises, however, the stories we heard were about household goals, relationships that needed attention, and food habits that wanted to be cleaned up. 

And sitting there, with this group of AMAZING women entrepreneurs, I was reminded of why I do what I do, and that no matter how big our goals are we need our food, our home, our relationships, and ourselves to feel nourished. 

This week I have been doing a fascinating exercise myself around simplifying. I bought Courtney Carver’s course, Soulful Simplicity. As Courtney was teaching to clean out spaces, I also was prompted to clean out all my closets and the basement from my own coach. 

Here’s the interesting part… every time I set my timer, leave my computer and declutter, amazing things happen in other areas of my life.

The only reason I make the time to do the work in a course or from a coach is because I make a plan. My plan gives me the structure to show up to the life I want to create — even though I may think I have better things to do than clean out a closet in the moment.

On this week’s podcast, I talk you through the process that I shared with the women at the kitchen table.

I also made you some worksheets so you have a place to answer the questions for yourself.

You can download the planning sheets here »

In case you just want the prompts for your own journal, these are the questions we answered.

I recommend setting a timer for 15 minutes for each prompt and trying to focus on the task at hand for the full 15 minutes. If 15 minutes comes and you feel incomplete, make a choice as to whether you want to set the timer once again. Know that you can feel complete with the 15 minutes.

PLANNING PROMPTS

1. What does your life look like 5 years from now? If you have young children I would imagine 10 years from now. Think about what a day looks like. You can reflect on what just happened and what you are looking forward to on other days, but get yourself through a whole day.
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You’ve got this!

I ask people how much money they make, how they do it, how much money they take home and so naturally people come into my show and they tell me “I’m nervous.” – Claire Pelletreau

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m so excited to talk with entrepreneur Claire Pelletreau, who teaches online business owners how to use Facebook and Instagram effectively for their businesses and runs the Get Paid podcast. She’s also mom to a 3 ½-year-old. 

Claire isn’t shy about talking to people about money. So we dive right in about money—making it, spending it, budgeting it, and how people are nervous about talking about it. Along with that, we talk about childcare, stay at home moms and working moms, breastfeeding, and the guilt and judgment involved. 

We talk about: 

• Choosing childcare that works for you and the outer or inner judgment about childcare
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• Making friends and working as forms of self-care
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• The pressure put on moms to breastfeed
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• Making decisions for your business that move you toward bigger goals and the ones that work for the immediate situation
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• Discomfort about talking about money and learning to deal money
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• Secondary infertility, depression, diet changes and how budgeting changed the mindset around IVF
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BIO

Claire Pelletreau is an entrepreneur who teaches people how to run Facebook and Instagram ads for their businesses. She’s the founder of the Get Paid Podcast. She lives in Philadelphia with her three and a half-year-old daughter and her Argentine husband. 

LINKS

• The Get Paid Podcast
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• https://clairepells.com/
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• The Clean Plate
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• YNAB
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Doable Changes from this episode:

• OWN YOUR SELF-CARE. If you love your work and talking about work, own that. Let that be your self-care. If you feel like something else is fun or gives you joy, own that. Sometimes the definition of self-care is too narrow and we judge people for not taking care of themselves. We all have different kinds of self-care. Know what yours is.
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• FIND YOUR PEOPLE. People who “get it” are so important. We get to talk to them about things we love or even do things we love with them. They help and support us in what we do. Think about who in your life supports you in the different parts of your life. Who supports you in your work? In your lifestyle? As a parent? In your healthy living? Often we have different people we turn to in different parts of our lives. Look for—and connect with—your people. 
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• DECIDE WHERE YOUR MONEY IS GOING. Whether you use YNAB or work on budgeting on your own, try this. Know how much money is coming in. If you are an entrepreneur and it isn’t regular, start tracking so that you can see how much comes in and when and maybe notice trends. Then decide ahead of time where your money is going to go. 
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To go from that place of “I know” to “I actually treat my body in the way that she deserves, in the way that she really needs to be taken care of,” there’s a huge gap in there for most of us.

– Nina Manolson

On this episode of the Plan Simple Meals Podcast, I’m delighted to have Nina Manolson back. She’s been on the podcast twice before, and I always love talking with her. She’s a holistic health coach and health and wellness coach, and I love her approach to food and body.

We start off talking about compassionate eating and how just saying the word compassion can help you soften. But we often don’t extend compassion to ourselves, and then we add a push dynamic to our relationship with our food and our body, which leads to tightness, restriction, and striving. Compassionate eating isn’t about your eating plan … it’s about how you treat yourself with whatever you are eating. 

A lot of us know what we need to do, but we get caught up in managing food and body, but the management model isn’t very successful. And what if you don’t know what you should be eating? It comes back to compassion and listening to yourself and what you need. 

We talk about: 

• Living “next door to your body” and how living in your body helps you learn what you need
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• Getting support to learn to interpret what our body is trying so hard to tell us
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• Recognizing that some experiences don’t serve us—even if they might seem healthy on the surface (Nina shares her conclusions about a rock climbing trip that wasn’t serving her)
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• Being body current—responding to the body you have now, not the one you want to have next summer or the one you had back before kids or 30 years ago
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• Hormonal changes, how our body is always changing
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• Developing a compassionate relationship with yourself and quieting your “mean mirror” voice
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BIO

Nina Manolson is a certified holistic health coach, a board-certified health & wellness coach, a certified Psychology of Eating Coach and Teacher, and she has a masters in counseling psychology. She is passionate about helping women end their food and body struggles and begin healthy, vibrant living that becomes a habit and easily fits into their busy lives.

LINKS

• We Got The Body Thing Wrong
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• Compassionate Eating Course
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• Get Along With Your Body with Nina Manolson
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• Eating on Purpose with Nina Manolson
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• A Day in the Life of Nina Manolson
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• Nina’s Decadent Dandy Drink
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Doable Changes from this episode:

• LISTEN TO YOUR “MEAN MIRROR” VOICE. To start being more compassionate with yourself, start simply by listening to the conversation that is currently going on with you and your body. Notice that conversation and put a label on it: “Oh, that’s my inner critic” or “That’s my mean mirror voice.” We need to hear that voice so that we can start to cultivate a voice of compassion or kindness toward ourselves. 
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• CALL YOUR BODY BY A LOVING NAME. To get into a relationship with your body, stop referring to your body as It. Start talking to yourself kindly, using the word darling or lovey or some other name you’d use with someone you love.
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• ASK: WOULD I SAY THAT TO SOMEBODY ELSE. When you find yourself talking critically to yourself, ask, “Would I say that to my daughter?” or “Would I say that to a friend?” or “What would I do if I heard somebody else say that to my daughter or a friend?” Use those cues to help you find a kinder way to talk to yourself.
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