Playing The Fool

Hi loves, it’s Jarna. Today’s episode of Playing The Fool is a little different - it’s not really an episode, but more of a “mini love note”.


So Liv has been unwell with a chest infection, Shane is away for work an extended period, Will is 21 on Sunday and to be honest the week was a lot. I sat down to record this week, but it just wasn’t flowing and if I am really honest I actually couldn’t stop crying as I was trying to talk about parenthood and Will and I was a mess. So I decided to honour my capacity and my emotions and put a super quicklove note out to you instead.

I want to remind you (and myself) that it’s okay to be of your WORD TO YOURSELF before everyone else.


It’s okay to say no when you’re at capacity.



It’s okay to let a few balls drop and still feel proud of the choices you’re making.



There was a time when I would’ve pushed through no matter what, recorded at 2 a.m. just to make sure something went out. But I’m no longer a stand for that. I’m learning to live inside my values, to prioritise what truly matters, and to meet my own needs from a place of love and gentleness.


So instead of a full episode this week, I’m choosing to be present — to hold my daughter, to care for my family, and to rest. That’s what feels most aligned for me right now.



This is me living in integrity.

This is me leading with love.



This is me hoping that this gives you permission to do exactly the same and choose yourself too.



With love,
Jarna 🤍

I can’t believe we’re already at episode 20 of Playing The Fool! Honestly it still feels wild to say that out loud. When I first started this podcast, I had no idea what I was doing, no fancy studio, no perfect setup, just me, my laptop, a mic, and a message I felt deeply called to share.

This episode is a bit of a celebration and a reflection. I talk about what it’s been like to allow myself to begin - to show up as I am, even when it feels messy or average. Because the truth is, if I had waited for it to look perfect, I probably never would have started.

I share how I’ve learned to embrace the beauty of “average embodiment”, not trying to look shiny or polished, just being real and trusting that it’s enough. I also talk about how that same energy has flowed into my coaching, where I’ve seen firsthand that the most powerful transformations often start from the simplest, scrappiest beginnings.

Later in the episode, I guide you through a simple visualisation script that my coach once shared with me, imagining waking up in a life where a miracle has already happened. It’s one of my favourite practices, because it helps you connect with what’s truly possible for you beyond your current consciousness. 

And from that place, I bring it back down to earth, Practical and Tangible things you can start to DO today. I truly believe when our environment supports us, it becomes so much easier to stay grounded, well, and emotionally balanced.

This episode is a love letter to anyone who’s been waiting for the perfect moment to start. Here’s your reminder - you don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to begin.

If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Come join the conversation on Instagram @jarnasaunders

You can also visit my website at www.jarnasaunders.com 

This week on Playing The Fool, I’m diving into something that has been one of the most challenging and transformative parts of my relationship — parenting.

Last week, I talked about why being a “high maintenance” woman actually makes you low maintenance in the long run — because when you have high standards for how you love, communicate, and show up for yourself, life becomes more peaceful, grounded, and aligned.

But this week, I wanted to explore a truth that hits a little closer to home: how parenting can quietly create distance between partners  and how healing that gap starts with awareness, not blame.

I open up about my own experiences with Shane the times we clashed over how to parent, how my fears shaped my reactions, and how his confusion or frustration often came from his own old wounds, not from who he truly was in the moment.

I also share one of the most vulnerable parts of my parenting journey, a moment I deeply regretted  and how I used it as an opportunity to repair, rebuild safety, and model accountability for my kids.

Because parenting isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence.

 It’s about showing our children that love can evolve, that even when we mess up, we can come back softer, safer, and stronger.

Every child deserves to feel safe.

 Every woman deserves to feel seen.

 And every man deserves to be loved for who he’s becoming, not just who he’s been.

Let’s stay connected! You can find me over on Instagram @JarnaSaunders

 or visit my website at jarnasaunders.com 💌

This week we’re reclaiming a phrase that’s been used against women for decades:
 
High. Maintenance.
 
Not in the “she’s too much work” way.
Not in the “she’s demanding and dramatic” way.

I’m talking about high maintenance as a devotion to your wellbeing, your energy, your standards and refusing to outsource that responsibility to anyone else.

Because the truth is:

When I am high maintenance for myself, I become low maintenance in my relationship.
There’s no guessing games. No unspoken resentment. No martyrdom.
Just two adults who know how to care for themselves first, and meet each other from overflow, not need.

In this episode I talk about:

·  Why discipline kept me safe, but devotion makes me soft, open and deeply honest with myself.

·  The difference between what I want vs. what I actually need — and how devotion helps me listen.

·  How claiming my “high maintenance woman” era has made my life simpler, smoother and so much more loving.

·  Why self-responsibility is the sexiest form of feminine power.

If you’ve ever been called too much, too needy or too intense - good.
Let’s make “high maintenance” a mission statement.


Let’s stay connected! You can find me over on Instagram @JarnaSaunders

 or visit my website at jarnasaunders.com 💌

This drop-in meditation is a space to pause, soften, and come home to yourself. It’s not about clearing your mind or getting it right, it’s about reconnecting. 

Whether you’re feeling scattered, stuck, or just need to catch your breath, this is your invitation to land gently in your body, to listen in, and to return to the part of you that’s always been steady beneath the noise. 

Come back to centre. Come back to you. 

This week in the Heart of the bar, I’ve been reflecting on human needs and what it really means to take radical responsibility for our lives. For me, that looks like choosing myself again and again, even when it’s uncomfortable, even when it hurts.

In this episode, I share the very real and humbling story of picking up a little pink 2kg dumbbell, wobbling through lunges, and waking up so sore I could barely sit down. What surprised me was how much joy and pride came with that pain, because it reminded me: I started.

Here’s what I dive into:

 ✨ How I shifted from victim consciousness into empowerment

 ✨ The lessons I’ve learned about strength,both physical and emotional

 ✨ What it feels like to be a beginner again and how I worked through self-judgment

 ✨ Why soreness in our muscles mirrors the discomfort of emotional healing work

 ✨ How taking even the smallest steps creates massive change

This episode is a love note to starting again. To choosing yourself. To remembering that even when it feels messy, awkward, or painful, you’re building something powerful.

Because pain doesn’t mean you’re failing. It often means you’re growing.

Only two spots left this year for One-on-One sessions.  Visit the website here! 

This week’s episode is all about slowing down, choosing joy, and really celebrating the wins - even when it feels uncomfortable to share them.

I open up about why I chose to push back the launch of Fool School and what that decision has opened up for me and my family. From creating more space to support my daughter through her dyslexia journey, to experiencing the synchronicities and financial success that come with alignment. This week has been a powerful reminder that there’s no rush and no urgency when you’re living intentionally and trusting the process.

Is there a loving arse kicking in here, of course.

Change doesn’t happen by chance it happens by making a DIFFERENT CHOICE. Let me show you how.

If you’ve been needing a little nudge to pause, reflect, and celebrate your own progress, this one’s for you.

What a crazy, heavy and confusing week it has been??

This week I had to slow right down, literally. After slipping a couple of discs in my back, I found myself in tears, resting, and coming to a place of surrender. 

In this episode, I share how surrendering, nurturing myself, and letting go of launching Full School this year actually opened up space for more clients and more abundance than ever before.

I deep dive into commitment and re-commitment and take you through exactly how that looks for you and just some real talk on taking back your power.

💌  If you are wanting to work together this year I have two more spaces left. 

I have put the links below with all the details of how my One on one spots work.

Connection Call.

What do you actually have control over babe? If you said yourself then I whole heartedly agree. So why do we spend so much time trying to control so many things that are completely outside of our control?

This week we deep dive into -

• The reminder I needed to give myself: permission to let it suck sometimes.
• How focusing too much on outcomes can take away the joy and magic of creating
• What’s been going on at home this week (spoiler: total chaos) and why vulnerability matters.
•  The difference between what I can control and what I can’t—and how I find my way back to myself.
• Why slowing down, setting boundaries, and making myself a priority keeps me grounded when life gets messy.
• How I’ve shifted from trying to control everything to focusing on influence and trust.

This episode feels is a very honest take wading through messy middle and reminding both of us that growth doesn’t come from perfection, it comes from showing up.

In this episode, I share a fun but surprisingly powerful experiment I set inside The Heart of the Bar: seven days of wearing red lipstick. Now, I’m not usually a bright RED lipstick person, but this practice became an anchor for me, helping me slow down, check in with my body, and show up with intention no matter how I was feeling. 

I open up about the resistance, stories, and fears that surfaced - not only for me but also for the women in the group and how something so small created massive shifts in courage, confidence, and playfulness. I also tell a sweet story about my daughter jumping in on the red lipstick challenge and what that taught me about the ripple effect of modelling courage.

The red lipstick isn’t really about the lipstick, it’s about choosing to show up differently, stretching past your comfort zone, and anchoring yourself in presence and play.

It’s about Playing the Fool.

Because if you always do what you have always done you will always get what you have always got. You have to CHOOSE to change babe. I am about to launch something really exciting so make sure you are following me at @Jarna Saunders so you get first option to join.