Okay, my friends, today I will talk about some untruths, or better, lies about the work, and see how when we treat them as true, we damage our careers and the quality of life.
I will relate to my work experience, and to the lies that may be related to the profession of a coach and refer to examples from the work with our clients. In a company like ours,(EMI – Coaching and Consulting) where ‘coaching’ and ‘consulting’, or training and consulting are selected and used as ‘tools to help individuals and teams excel in their professional potential by bringing a fuller personal life’.
As a profession, it is relatively new, and many people ask different questions, often with the curiosity for a new thing. And often the perception of this work is far from true, but I see these same wrong perceptions for the work in general that I try to bring to your attention in this episode. You can call them wrong perceptions or the wrong assumptions, but in reality, I think they are lies we are taught about the work we do. And depending on how we perceive and build expectations from the work we do, that is how we perform and then suffer the consequences of our efforts in a job not meeting our expectations. In other words, these wrong perceptions/ expectations are the lies we often believe about our job:
It should give us:
1. Full financial coverage
2. Meaning of what we do in life
3. Wonderful relationships with our peers and our superiors
4. And it should be definitely in the field of our first graduation
This generally is a utopian idea.
We may not necessarily like the work that provides us with the material goods, that pay our bills, and if it happens that you have all these four expectations fulfilled as all in one, it is a great blessing. But the message that I am trying to pass is that each of us adults, should get out there in the work market and contribute to the wellbeing of the family, liking or not the work we do. The other point to make is whether you like the work or not, your dedication must be great and controlled by you, under your control, aiming to justify your compensation and adding even more value.
It is only logical, that while you do that, immediately, start thinking and preparing for the work you aspire to have. This depends on how talented you are at a certain field and at what stage are your talents being trained into tradeable skills to use in the work market. But while you have the basic job, (as we call it in the PTTP program, the first pillar), you have the possibility to develop horizontally (trying to find another employer in the same industry) or create a venture (second pillar) using your talents and the current skills created. Here is also the value of volunteering your services (the third pillar) to a group of people who really do not have the means to pay. You do this work not expecting anything in return, This will give meaning to your life. On the other hand, this unpaid, volunteer job with beneficiaries people that do not pay you, but who are there to help with their feedback and actually give you a work market validation that we all need. This is how we strip our main basic job from all the extra expectations that are hard to achieve as all in one. This is priceless in value. You see and practice an aspiration, and you understand that by giving, you become richer
In the episode, we dwell more on a message from a listener that happened to be an old acquaintance of mine that asks specifically about the questions I raise and the lies that we cloth our basic work with.
Hope you enjoy listening and I am really looking forward to seeing what your experiences are related to your work,
Miqesisht, Elida
Mirë, miqtë e mi, sot do të flas për disa të pavërteta, ose më mirë, gënjeshtra për punën, dhe shikoni se si i trajtojmë ato si të vërteta, duke lene te na dëmtojmë karrierën tonë dhe cil...