Here is an identity, a life script I have been a slave to.

I am up against impossible odds... and yet I can win. Look a me! Look at me!

It's both funny and tragic.

It was pointed out to me back 1987, but I wasn't ready to get it.

I KNOW that if you look first, look at what is there to do, the layout, the situation, then the success is almost certain.

But where is the fun!? Screams the identity. Let's make it hard and let's win against impossible odds!

But no matter how smart you are, if you jump in without first looking, your chances for winning are only 30%, depending of course on the difficulty of the game.

Life could have been easy for me. But that early decision that fun is ONLY when you arrive bloodied and barely alive at the gate would not have it.

And like a good little slave bunny, I have been doing everything the identity, my slave driver tells me.

My middle name should be 'Overcoming'. What you need to know about me is I manufacture obstacles to overcome... so I can be that Overcoming hero.

In that fight between the kid and the sumo wrestler, I am really the sumo wrestler, and circumstances are that kid...

Life is not that hard. You do your part and the waters of the Red Sea (Reed Sea?) open.

When I look at the many students I have ever trained, the number among them that was willing to do their part mirrors the situation in the world: there is the 1000 and then there is the eight billion.

Every person deals with the life script they decided on... and the nature of every life script is, interestingly, to do something other than your part. Pretend, complain, play possum, avoid responsibility.

So the one person who muscletest says is doing what is theirs to do is someone who maybe had one interaction with me, so I have no idea who that person is.

So yeah. Life is easy if and when you do what is yours to do.

And counter to what you think, you can do what is yours to do.

It takes two to tango. You are the one... life, others, tasks are the other.

Dance is a dance when you adjust your steps to there is grace, ease, and DANCE.

Just please know: how you have been 'doing' it is not it. Dance cannot be scripted. Also, dance cannot be all about you. Dance is not a fix...

Dance is a lot like marshal arts...

If you pretend, posture, or try to win every move, you lose.

If you are rigid... you lose.

Dance. Pull when you feel like pushing.

PS: Just identifying that I play life this way is starting to at least giving me a choice. Hardest thing I have ever done.

PPS: you don't know what is yours to do? Here is a little help...

Get some clarity

The most important thing that happened to you happened when you were around three years old. It was a decision that happened to you. Even though you made that decision, you are now a slave to it.

Until that first incident you were innocent. Unless you make that decision malleable, that decision you made about how life is, how you are, how it's best to behave, nothing can change about you or your life.

I can pull your anchor to doom energetically, and yet... nothing changes. Because that decision is like a physical skeleton, a framework, that everything, all of your life is built on.

And however you are today, however you approach anything comes from that decision. Entirely.

How the world occurred to you then.

Remember, occurrence is a combination of reality and your explanation or meaning of it.

Example: I was three when my newborn sister died. I was angry when she was born, for what reason I was angry? I don't remember.

THEY didn't take me to the funeral. I decided that it was because I killed her... with my anger.

For fifty or so years after that I wasn't allowed, I didn't give permission to myself to feel angry, let alone express anger.

When I do the work with people, we always have to go back to that first significant incident to make the decision, the meaning malleable.

People discount my efforts. They think: whatever happened is what happened. And try to work on something other, or even to change their dominant behavior.

To no result.

You cannot start in the middle and produce result. You have to start at the beginning.

I, as an experienced outsider, as a neutral observer, I can see your decision from how you are today. From your attitude.

I may not know what happened, but I know what you decided.

Sometimes I need to see you for a few minutes to see, because whatever you do with your body can be a clue.

You avoid, you resist, you deflect, you push back, you are forceful, you flail, you give up, you pretend that you are good, you pretend that you are eager... but it is all invented. By you. To fix what you said happened. To fix how the world is. How you are.

Your work pays off to the degree that you are willing to change your story.

Your story is your worldview... The seed your life is built on.

Very often it is like this:

The world doesn't care about what I want. It only cares about what they want.

They don't care about me, about who I am, about what I even do. They only care about how I do it...

So I'll pretend that I am really really trying. I'll pretend that I am exactly what they want.

I, obviously, haven't done a very good work at making my story malleable, because had I done it, I would have a different life.

You see I decided that nobody wants me. That I am burden. That I have to get everything done myself, because I can't count on anyone.

And, of course, life is a team sport, and I don't have a team. I had, for a short while, at university, but I never nurtured the team, so they went where they felt appreciated and needed. I projected a 'I don't need anyone' type of strength... and why help someone who doesn't need it, right?

But it was all a pretense, because I need people.

I hope you'll do a better job than me

So how do you really do it so it is done, and pulls your anchor up?

You look at what is your dominant attitude today.

If you can't tell, ask someone who is trained in seeing attitudes. Who is able to tell the forest from the trees.

Likely you can't. Likely your friends can't. Mine can't and couldn't.

Here are a few examples:

--Eager beaver.

...every step of the way

Here are a few unexpected ways you keep yourself trapped in your misery:

1. You have a standard for everything and everyone but often not yourself.

How it should be, how it should go, what is right and what is wrong behavior, looks, everything.

You apply these standards to measure everything and everyone... and, of course, everything and everyone falls short... including yourself.

Standards are something that you invented, or alternatively bought into. You relate to them as if they were universal and mandatory for everyone...

It is all made up. There are no standards that survive reality: these are all made up reality, not binding to everyone, maybe not even to anyone.

They are showing, instead, to you and everyone who is in agreement, to how superior you are, how much you know, how special you are. You use your standards to make yourself higher and mightier than others... and you buy yourself the right to judge at will.

When you look, your standards are rigid, and pretty much impossible to fulfill...

In fact you, yourself, fail at each while every standard you tout as a universal rules for life.

Standards are a straitjacket. A standard binds you and it binds others around you... It is not the standards that actually do it, standards are normal, any industry is well to set some standards. No, your standards are a straitjacket because they keep you in the imaginary world of right and wrong, and out of reality.

They are part of the invisible reality, because they are hard to see.

I looked at my Playground students through the filter: do they look at the world through standards, and 40% do. They have a fixed idea

how things should be,

how they should be,

also how their parents, co-workers, spouses, children should be,

...and they are miserable. and to boot, they cannot, for the life of them, see that there is nothing is EVER wrong in reality.

Even with the Seeing Reason DNA capacity.

The standards blind them, block them from seeing reality.

One other thing that is shared in that 40%: they cannot accept, they cannot appreciate that the way to get to a good solution is to eliminate the poor solutions.

They want to get to third base with every ball... they hate to strike out, they hate mistakes.

Every winner in history got to winning through lots of mistakes, lots of missed balls, lots of false starts.

But to this 40%, they cannot even hear it. They only care about right moves... and for the most part, wanting to do the right thing is a certain paralyzing agent. An immobilizer... and these people are underachievers.

Mind you, there are more than one single way to become an underachiever... but this is one of the main ways... trying to do the RIGHT THING every time.

2. Ideals.

Ideals, by their definition, are unattainable. They are pie in the sky perfection, flawless. Flawless does not exist in reality. It is beyond the realm of possibility. The earth wobbles. The weather changes. You are cold and then you are hot.

But for those who are trapped in measuring themselves or their lives against some ideal, reaching those ideals is a must... and because it is impossible they are miserable.

Desire trap is one of the causes and also one of the symptoms of this person...

Having ideals, unattainable 'goals'... is the perfect way to do stupid things, and not amount to anything. The higher that gap between your desire number and your ambition number, the more you are trapped in this particularly nasty trap...

Smart means: being smart in your actions. Stupid means: being stupid in your actions.

It is what it is... as long as you have these things,

At any moment what you do, what you think, what you say either comes from the inside, your core, or the outside...

And depending on the source of the action, thought, you are either true to yourself, or true to something else.

There was a two-part episode of Doctor Who that I watched some years ago, the episode 'Human Nature'. Watch it if you can.

So... in that episode, the Doctor (actor David Tennant) is under pressure from The Family. So he decides to become 'human' and hide his Self and purpose. His sidekick is Martha. Her job is to keep him safe and to remind him, when it is time to return to who he really is.

What is special about this double episode is that we see the same unit, person... from the outside. In one part the Self is in control, in the other the periphery. And we can see the change, almost instantly the switch. Masterful directing, good acting.

If we go back to the warship analogy of the book 'The Art of Hunting Humans', in one part you see the captain... and then you see the crew, and then back again.

Depending on how you look at everything (your worldview), you'll look at stories, other people's lives, in life and on the screen the same way. And likely you see the life Doctor Who was going to live as a human as superior to his captain driven life: to save humanity and the Earth.

He would have a lover, a job. He would be respectable. To everyone's eyes: he would belong. Right?

While he would be cut off from his core, his Self, his purpose, and would become mortal: a dog wagged by the tail.

A country lead by the hangers on, each argue for their self-interest.

What would happen if we created a movie with a person who in one part is being himself, and in the next being the dog that is wagged by the tail, and then back again, paralleling the Doctor Who story? Would you be able to see the difference? Would you favor one part to the other?

The other very remarkable and astute thing was about that episode was that the David Tennant character wasn't conscious of any of it. At all.

And that is very important: when your vibration is low, when your intellect is lagging, the only thing you notice, if anything, is physical or emotional. That maybe you don't quite enjoy work that day. That maybe your back and shoulders ache because you were eagerly leaning forward to suck the morrow out of whatever you were doing.

But mostly you don't know. You are unaware. But why?

Because until you consciously choose to be the captain, and hear all the voices. The voices vying for your attention, vying for dominance. but regardless you do what you are called to do from the inside. Until then you are a passenger in your life, not the driver.

Choose, not decide!

A passenger is taken wherever the vehicle goes. And all they are aware, if at all, is where they went, what they feel, and their thoughts. No matter what.

So the most missing piece to experience life differently in the two states is the conscious choosing to drive or not.

Doctor Who locked away his Self when he was hiding as a human.

You never realized that you have a Self... so it has been as hidden as if it didn't exist.

You and eight billion others.

What cuts you off, very effectively, and maybe even cleanly from your Self is who you think you are. Your Precious I. Your persona.

In my call with Bonnie on Friday, the podcast, I share two ways two people are doing the Prison Break (67 steps), depending on their persona. Two extremes.

One is overeager, every sentence is a new 'delight', a new discovery, 'I can't believe I have never seen this!' exclamation marks.

The other is bare bones, laconic, using very few words: 'this is what I saw'.

If they were travelers,

If you ever tried to meditate. If you are a 'meditator'. And if the idea of meditation brings up bile to your throat...

OK who else? Oh, those who couldn't give a shriveled nut for the idea of mediation... all people...

The only thing meditation wants you is to look within. You spend almost all your life looking outward, and have no idea about what is inside.

Please don't argue. What you think is inside is also outside.

The thoughts, the feelings, the emotions, are still outside.

Outside of what? you ask... Outside of the inside...

When you manage to stay awake, stay aware, and wade through all the stuff, that is outside, even though they are within your skin... you get to a place where what you see is nothing.

No thing. Nothing to see. And you get scared.

You wanted to see what is at your core, and you so an empty space. No thing. No beauty. Not a shred of courage. Or special person. Or brilliance.

So you go back into the world and double up your pretending... but you shouldn't.

The self, the core of a human, every human is no thing. It's energy. It is pure energy. The energy of goodness, and beauty, and courage, and brilliance, and all the virtues you have ever heard of, and all that you haven't.

And if you are willing to consider THAT as yourself, because that is you, then life can change, because suddenly you can be the boss.

Or the word the 'The Art of Hunting Humans' uses, the captain of the ship called you.

So there is a ship called [Your name], and the captain of that ship sits in the middle of it.

I like that book's analogy because it is easier to see that warships have a crew. And it is easier to see when the crew is making their own decisions, completely and absolutely unaware that there is a captain... much like any of the eight billion people today on Earth.

Except the 'Superiors' as the book calls them. I call them the 1000.

Each and every 1000 (Superior) learned the nature of the ship, and the role of the captain from someone who knew. Knew, but not necessarily lived accordingly. Or even have ever made connection with the captain.

Much like I learned to connect to Source from someone who learned it from yet another person, who learned it from even yet another person. And none of those in the chain of communication actually connected.

So knowing how it is isn't enough.

So how come I did, how come I could.

My example can guide you

By the time I got to the point of someone teaching me to connect happened after 18 years of me diligently chipping away at and robbing the crew of the warship ME of their say-so...

The crew is what gets between you and your core. Between you and the captain.

Between you, who you think you are, and who you really are.

There are bigger ships... I am a medium size ship.

So what does it mean chipping away in terms of real life?

Before the chipping away every member of the crew has a say in everything. It is like a democracy of fools. No care, no concern about the whole, no care about the direction of the ship, no care about any other crew member... every goddamn crew member has a say, and it is a cacophony of voices.

When I attempt to teach you something, I become just one of those voices, that is why I have been able to have no results with you. When I speak to you I hear other voices in you speak over me. Argue... or try to interpret... So I am relegated to be just one voice among the many. I am relegated to be one of the crew.

The job is to take the power away from the crew, one by one.

I teach about 50% of those voices in my Invisible Dynamics course...

It is easier to 'dethrone' the voices if you know how...

If you need encouragement to become X you'll never be X

Work sets you free

If you need encouragement to become an entrepreneur you'll never be an entrepreneur.

Context, of course, is decisive... Arbeit macht frei is true... but...

On the gates of hell, on the gates of Auschwitz, Dachau, Theresianstadt that principle feels like mockery. The slogan: Work sets you free through Crematorium number 3. Sob, sob. Weep, weep.

If you need a reason to work, then you'll never do work.

Reasons, like encouragement is outer. Money is outer. Praise, success: all outer. The work that sets you free is inner.

And yet, work sets you free... but what is free and what is work?

Let's start with free... is there freedom without another word? No. There is freedom from, and there is freedom for...

So what does work frees you from... and what does work free you for?

And what is work? Why is it that some activity looks like work but isn't? Homework done with the homework attitude isn't work. Hm.

Looking at the participants in my Prison Break program (or really any of my programs!) something mind boggling is happening, something I didn't expect.

They want to skip the work.

So obviously they think that there is something on the other side of the program, independent of the work... and not the result of the work.

Work, done correctly, is what earns you being worth a damn... or whatever you had in mind when you signed up to the Prison Break program.

You do the work, and the work you do works on you.

For most people this would be the first time in their lives to actually do work. Would be. It will remain a 'would be' unless some understanding penetrates the cultural misunderstanding of life: work is what creates you being worth a damn.

The work you skipped in favor or 'getting it done, the homework attitude' creates you, leaves you not being worth a damn. It's that simple.

But which you? There are two! Which you am I talking about. Which you does the work would create, on which you would the work work?

If you need encouragement to become an entrepreneur you'll never be an entrepreneur.

If you need encouragement to do work you'll never do work. Even if that work would set you free.

But why? Because work comes from the inside. The energy of work.

Most of what you need in life to become happy, fulfilled are from the inside. Encouragement is from the outside.

So thus far every single person that has been doing that program, has done 'work' from the outside... None of it comes from the inside.

Because your connection to your inside can be damaged. Damaged by all the things a child does not easily deal with. Loss, fear. And so, today, instead of having the healthy drive from the inside, you have unhealthy coping mechanisms from the outside. Drive from the identity you invented for yourself.

Unhealthy coping mechanisms are coping mechanisms... they are not who you are.

To restore your connection to the inside, where the inner drive comes from, we need to remove at least some of the coping mechanisms.

This is when we manage to disable them one by one... when we manage to chip away at them, one by one, at some point the inner drive can be felt and can guide us. At what point? Muscletest says when you can reduce the blockage to 30% or less.

Your connection to your inner drive you block by calcified habits... the identity you made up for yourself.

In a recent 'experiment' I didn't intend as that, I saw something new.

One of the really alarming symptoms I managed to make visible is the identity that you are good, blameless, guiltless, and better than god.

You have two selves. Everyone has two selves. One is your real self, impervious to attacks, slights.

'That is not true', you say. 'I feel like I am attacked, I feel every slight is an attack on me.'

Yeah, this is all true what you say if you identify yourself with your precious I, the second self.

The precious I is an invented self, and it is the sum total of all your aspects.

Your behavior, your attitude, your nationality, your religion, your politics, your sports team, your looks, your feelings, your family, your money, everything a person can have. Likes, dislikes, whether you are a morning person or a night owl. Everything.

But the precious I doesn't know about having. For the precious I it is all 'I am'...

'I am my money. I am my religion. And if you say anything bad about anything I am, I'll want to kill you.' says the precious I.

'I am a morning person. I can't. You don't understand! I have to!' it cries.

And then you are up shit's creed without a paddle... for the rest of your life. Unless you find out that you are not all those parts. That you are not your precious I. You have a precious I... like an Achilles Heel... but you are not it.

You are you, and you may conduct your behavior dishonorably, you may have ugly attitudes that are disgusting. but you are not your behavior and you are not your attitude...

Your cells may be dangerously dehydrated and therefore your brain doesn't work like it could, but you are not stupid. you can drink coherent, energized water, eat raw vegetables or juicy fruit, and hydrate your cells. and voilà your brain starts working again.

And this, that whatever you have you have some control over, you can change them without changing yourself, is how it works.

Whenever I ask you to change something, first you feel slighted. Then you get afraid.

The fear is existential. It is the fear of death. You feel like you'll lose your self, if you change. You feel that who you are will die... and obviously you don't want that.

But who you are is not what I asked you to change. I asked you to change a behavior, a belief, an attitude, a habit. Who you are is perfect. What you do, what you believe, your attitude, your habits are what work against what you want: a life you can love. A life you can live powerfully.

So when you identify yourself with your precious I, the one you made up, little by little, piece by piece, delusion by delusion, through defiance and fear, then, of course any change threatens you.

But you are not your precious I. You HAVE your precious I... and it says nothing about you...

But, of course, all the eight billion identify themselves with their precious I. Their looks. Their wealth. The handbag they carry. The figure they have. Whether they have wrinkles or not.

Or there would be not much commerce, would there?

But to your self, who you really are, all those don't matter.

To your self what's important is much simpler. a full belly, roof over your head, restful sleep, companionship occasionally, meaningful things to do, feeling free to be yourself.

Not Jimmy Choo, Louis Vuitton, or wrinkle free face. Or impressing people you don't even respect. Or winning every argument. Maybe making people wrong. It is all only important to your precious I.

I occasionally hear my precious I peep up. What will my brother think of me? What will my university friend think of me? Or what do my neighbors think of me? What will my landlord think of me when they clear out the apartment after I am gone.

But then I just let it go. It is not important to me.

The me that is my self.

My self is young. It is curious. It is fun and has fun. And it delights in tastes, turns of words, colors,

One of the differences is that a 1000 always has a coach or coaches... mentors, people they talk to regularly, who are, in certain respects, ahead of them. People who can see what they can't see.

See principles, distinctions, aberrations, errors, false steps, causation.

Reading is useful. Watching videos is useful. But nothing compares to having a person who makes the conversation two-way. A person who will hold up a mirror to you and...

...show you what you do that is less than advantageous to you.

Of all the people I have ever known the ones that said the hardest things to my face are my favorite people. The ones I hold in my heart. They got me unstuck from a myth, a belief, a behavior, a habit that didn't serve me, that didn't help me to become the best I can become.

But I don't mean nasty people. I mean people who had the courage, who cared enough to show me myself from a different angle, an angle I didn't see.

When T. Harv Eker says: What turned me around to go from serial failure to serial success was a sentence: When things are not working, there is something that you didn't know.

He meant exactly what I am talking about: he didn't see something akin to a character defect...

Most of these are not seen clearly through your own eyeballs... but another person can see them for what they are.

Society, family trains us, diligently, to have those character defects... those myths, beliefs, behaviors, habits that don't serve us.

The other day I drew a diagram of how one becomes more they can be... in the direction to become all they can become.

It is always on a graph of subtraction. All the while all the world tries to teach you to add stuff... so you can buy more of what they are selling.

So the diagram is like an inverted funnel... at the bottom you have all your myths, beliefs, behaviors, habits that don't serve you.

And then, one by one, someone shows you that they make you weak, vulnerable, fragile, and prevent you from succeeding in having a life you love, a life you live successfully.

Many... Thus far I have distinguished about a hundred of those.

The hardest ones to accept are the ones you keep in existence with your words. Your speaking... inside or outside. The ones that talk about you. How you are and how you are not.

And, unfortunately, until you are able to see that words create reality, that words are active and not just descriptive, like paint brushes, you won't be able to let go of the words... and you won't become more, better, get closer to become all you can become.

The words are the myth kind... 'is, I, and because' and every version of them. They seem to describe reality, how things are, how you are, and why... but instead of describing, they actually create it and create it and create it... and unless you get that your words are a myth, and don't serve you, you'll keep repeating them.

Contrary of what the 'positive thinking religion' or the 'manifesting' crowd says...

...adding new words won't help until and unless you weaken the words that need no strengthening to be already there... I am weak, I can't, I will never... blah blah blah.

So you see, the way to move higher is to take away what doesn't work, or at least weaken it so it doesn't dominate.

All hundred, or however many you don't see that you are robbing yourself.

Clients, students who don't move, don't grow, don't see that they are doing something to themselves... that is an uncomfortable thought. So they either lie about it, refuse to accept it, call it my good idea, or feel bad about it AND continue doing it.

One of the most undervalued process is the Amish Horse Training Method I teach.

Unless you hear and see clearly what the voice says about you and...

Bad news. On my way home, climbing the long stairway off Euclid Avenue, I was listening to Step 21 of the 67 Steps. It's about the superpower of being able to get into a relationship with people. Get into a relationship because you can see how their machine works. and because you see it, therefore you can speak their language.

Everything comes to you through people... and...

...you cannot get more abundance than what your people skills allow you to have.

I have been resigned about my ability to get better at dealing with people.

Resigned means: I have a fixed mindset about it, that says: it may be possible for you, but it's impossible for me.

But being resigned doesn't mean I have given up. I haven't. But every time I read someone's stuff, or watch someone's stuff who is good at it, and maybe that is their superpower, I resent them. I do. Not nice, I know, but it is how it is.

It goes hand in glove with resignation.

And the third R is not that far: regret. (Resignation, resentment, regret, the three Rs)

When I consider that with a little more work, a little more insight, and especially with a little more humility I could get more out of life...

The interesting thing is this: this has been the tenth time I listened to this step.

And in the past 21 days I have taken on connecting to people.

I am giving free strategy sessions. I am bringing more compassion to my interactions. And I have even asked for help three times in these 21 days.

Which means: I am not where I was in the past nine rounds of that step in the 67 steps: I have already moved up a couple of millimeters.

Probably this is why I was able to see that I have been resigned, that this step was important to me, and that I can...

I can choose to be on my side, on my life's side, and become more of who I was meant to be. With the secret method...

The secret method of 'Start Starting'.

An object in motion can be redirected easier than an object that is not in motion.. So says one of Isaac Newton's laws, and it seems to be a real law.

I began with looking at my life as an experiment.

Everyone's life has at least four 'dimensions',

physical,

emotional,

intellectual, and

spiritual.

Spiritual in this context is maybe allowing Life to win, instead of having your life be all about you, all about your self-concerns.

This is the biggest issue people deal with. An issue that I can call a spiritual issue.

This 21-day period began with me reading a book with an idea that knocked me conscious.

The author said that if you succeeded in improving one percent every day in all four dimensions of life, physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual,  you'd become 37 times (3700%) better in one year. If you got 1% better a week, you'd still get 67 percent better.

The difficult part is to sustain the previous growth and build on that!

But... what the heck does it look like, what could you do to get better in the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions?

Once you manage to ask a relevant question, to answer it you need to ponder, you need to look, instead of having a knee-jerk, ready answer..

You are taken out of the same old same old, and you are taken into growth mode...

I don't even think you can avoid it. I have not intended, I have not decided to do it yet, and yet my life has already altered. Just by considering it.

Can you do this if you are interested in only one area. if it is all about you? Probably not.

I have doubts that you can grow your earnings without growing your health, growing your emotional health, your intellectual aptitudes, and your spiritual attitudes.

Unless you, the whole of you,

Most lives are like that... never really getting from A to B...

I just read something really profound that can change your life.

Don't think about being consistently great. It's a trap. It's impossible. Think about being great at being consistent. It's a reliable path to growth and achieving one's potential that makes a lot more sense.

Replace 'great' with whatever you are weak at...

One of my students invented herself being excellent... and it has proven to be harmful. It acted like a straitjacket she needed to escape from.

But because she really meant it only for her work, she needs to return to the straitjacket... and run away again.

She could have invented practicing excellence so she can get great at it...

Or she could have done what I have been doing... and it is the secret of my peace of mind. And virtual invulnerability.

I realized some 20 odd years ago that any 'virtue' is always on a scale. When something, even something as edgy as excellence is on a scale, then you can measure it.

On the scale of excellence this effort, this work, this past hour has been 26%.

Oh, OK. 26 is a number, and there is nothing wrong with it. A number is a number.

When you can bring this 'things are all on a scale, measurable' concept to life, then you just bought yourself peace of mind.

You can even compare numbers, and still numbers are numbers, and being a bigger number doesn't mean good, and being a lower number doesn't mean bad.

A student of mine consistently forgets, maybe willfully forgets drinking her coherent energized water. As a result her intelligence drops to 40. To do this work, to have the energy to grok the concepts, you need that number to be 100.

When I remind her that she needs to drink more water, she hates me, she hates herself. The opposite of peace of mind.

Before she can do the work and benefit from it, she needs to get better at drinking her water.

Her current number is 1%. It is a number, as good as any number... A good number can be grown. A bad number is an opinion.

As soon as she creates some structures to make sure she drinks her water consistently, a few ounces every hour, her ability to grok the work will be back to where it normally is, when she is hydrated.

Consistency is a big issue for everyone. Life is busy, and you need to remember to be consistent.

It needs to become a habit. Or it won't happen

So I walk around with a kitchen timer hanging on a rope around my neck. It is set to ring every hour, so I don't forget to drink my water.

We have so many tasty liquids to drink, that we never get thirsty, so counting on thirst is not going to work.

But believe it or not, consistency is king if you want to be deserving, if you want to become worth a damn.

Consistency instead of campaigns. Consistency instead of doing because you have to.

All habits need a trigger. Leaving the trigger to fate is simply stupid. You need to manufacture a trigger, like my kitchen timer.

And in my experience, without forcing, enforcing, making sure the trigger goes off, no new habits can be established.

But if your life is the sum total of your habits, your life will remain as it is... whatever that life measures on the health, wealth, love and fulfillment scale.

So what would you have to hate to finally become consistent in what matters?

Any suggestions? Please comment.

If there is something I hate more than anything is this sense that no matter what I do, it doesn't get me what I want.

A sense of powerlessness. So I use that hate to actually get things done, be consistent if that is what it takes to get the result.