What am I saying when I say 'the design of human being', or when I say 'humans are designed to be...'?

Where do I look?

The Old Testament, the Five Books of Moses says that God created Adam to his own image.

Trying to reconstruct god from humans is a tricky proposition.

What we would get is a passive, combative, argumentative avoider... who has more common characteristics with sheep than with someone or something that created worlds.

So that direction of thinking is not going to lead us to what the design must be.

So how about going the opposite way, examining the god of the Old Testament, and see if we can see the design of man from that?

We see this god do some stuff, for six days and then disappear... Maybe it's busy somewhere else... but no, this direction is not going to lead us to the design... unless that IS the design... the kind of human who has campaigns for a few days and then quits... And that is not good news.

The third way to track what the design must be is the DNA.

Not so much what is active in the DNA, but what isn't... the potential.

Back in my architect days

Back in my architect days I was fascinated with the idea of the small house that is designed with the big house in mind.

My Starting Point Measurements have a measure: #40. Can you plan long range?

Only one out of twenty people I measured had that measure as 'yes'.

It is the capacity to think that way. The thinking that is needed to design and build a small house with the big house in mind. (Begin with the end in mind, as Stephen Covey said)

That is what tells you you need to learn skills, gain experiences that seemingly don't do you any good in the present circumstances... but do with a forward thinking mind... with the end in mind.

Forward thinking is rare.

I have known that, because one of my teachers, Ben has been jabbering about that for years, with biting contempt... He is a world-building forward thinking dude... and he is forced to deal with the 95% who aren't.

But the gene for forward thinking is there... But unfortunately it needs to be turned on for it to enable forward thinking.

Forward thinking is needed to some degree in almost everything... chess, shopping, marriage, skill building, and, it is, of course, missing for 95% of humanity. The opposite of forward thinking is winging it.

Jumping in without looking.

This gene inactive in the DNA tells the whole story of the design.

Using another area of life where you have a lot of genes waiting to be activated, and aren't is healing.

Or politics. Or child rearing. And what to eat and how to eat to have a lot of life in your years.

I have been activating DNA capacities for 13 years now.

Turns out that unless you consciously use a capacity I turned on for you. Unless you use it in the way that you need it, unless you reorganize your life to need it, it, the gene, turns off.

It is as if the design held up a middle finger really high.

We, humans, have set up our life for comfort. And when our comfort is disturbed, we complain, force, cajole, manipulate to get it back.

So, we humans are more interested in being comfortable than growing.

But being comfortable doesn't need those capacities...

...except when the comfort is threatened by nature: storms, earthquakes, wars, inflation, pandemic, shutdown, prison, etc.

Then we need those capacities, but then it is too late. It is like wishing you had an umbrella when you are soaked to the bone. Wishing you knew how to swim, as you are drowning in the ocean. Wishing you didn't indulge as you are vomiting.

And while you are comfortable,

You Can't Catch What You Don't See or Activators Are Not Magic Bullets

I have been doing the Daily Connection for 10 days: one major activator a day. It's quite new to me. Before September 27 I only activated individuals. Since then I am only activating groups.

It's a whole different ball-game. I need to be aware of every single person's energy at the same time: they are all in my head. Also, each person resists an activator download in a different way: I need to say the right thing for each to allow it through.

Quite tasking, if you ask me.

I consider this group my testers without the commitment of a 'single tester.' A 'single tester' commits to getting the activator, using the activator, and then giving me feedback so I know it works and what may be missing that I need to add to it.

The group activation is different. It is more similar to how it will be with the people who will get these activators in the end, the countless millions, billions... however many will want to get them. That is what Planetary Ascension means: at least 8%, the critical mass of the entire population.

The Daily Connection group has no commitment, they have made no promises.

And I am not sure if they are getting the results they could be getting, because they are not talking.

I have been discussing this with my favorite testers.

These are the results, so far, of my conversations, summarized:

You can't catch what you don't see.

Most of us live in an imaginary world of our own, with a distorted view of the world and ourselves. On one hand we see ourselves as better that we are, on the other hand we see ourselves worse that we are. But what is common in both distorted views is that we don't have any distinctions. And we are wrong. Both times.

For us everything is the same as everything else.

It is like calling every kind of snow snow, regardless of the size of the flakes, the wetness content, the slipperiness... Skiers have some distinctions. Did you know that the Eskimos have 43 words for snow? Or the color black: there are at least 43 shades of black... but we can't see them, we don't have words for them, they don't exist for us. Black is black, and that's that. Or red, maybe blue. Or depression. I could bring thousands of examples.

The problem is not necessarily with snow, or black... the problem is that regarding our mindset, regarding our behavior,

we can't change what we don't see, and therefore we are condemned to stay the same.

And if you don't have a name for it, then you don't see it.

It's perfect if you like how you are. But if you don't, or you you do but don't accomplish much of what you would like to accomplish in life, then you have a problem.

You can't change anything that you can't see. You can't change anything that you cannot label accurately.

And if everything is the same as everything else, then you won't ever catch anything worth changing... might as well give up now.

Example: If your definition of selfish is wanting something for yourself, you are s.h.i.t out of luck.

Selfish is like snow: has 43 different shades of it... and some selfishness is good for you and some selfishness is bad for you. But you only have an on-off switch, so you become selfless... which is worse than selfish... you just gave up the part of you that you got from God, your Self, to be a human being with...

Or look at fear:

for you every fear is an instruction to quit doing what you are doing and hide. But did you know that fear is really an opportunity to summon courage? That fear can have a life-saving aspect, and a life-wasting aspect? I bet you didn't know that. So you can't tell when to face fear with courage and when to run for cover...

The activators are like garden tools...

I think it was Hippocrates who said: 'Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food'

He didn't know that what we call food in the 21st Century isn't food. That there are more chemicals in what we call food than in actual medications.

That we now are sold 'food' that our body does not recognize as food... Plants and animals from far away lands, or designer plants and designer animals, that no living creature recognizes as food.

Cows', sheep', even pigs' body don't recognize corn as food. They get sick from it.

Same with genetically modified alfalfa, soy and soy bean, and beets.

If you looked before you say 'food', you would know that.

If you were interested in what really matters: you would know that.

But the 'food' industry, the chemicals, the designer foods have already corrupted you: you just want to sit and eat.

No one is there to be curious. You are now a cog in the machine. A cog that consumes and justifies the existence of the 'food' industry.

Curiosity needs energy, and you have none. You may have energy to consume... that's pretty much it.

Now, onto healing:

What Hippocrates meant  true.  What seems to be the truth about all living things is this:

If the living thing gets all the right food, and all the right circumstances, it is able to develop along the gene defined line and be well.

To do exceptionally well: it may need more of the right food and the right circumstances...

What does this mean about you?

Everything.

If you are not well, that means that you haven't been getting the right foods in the right amounts, in the right combination, AND the right circumstances.

Hippocrates and I don't talk about supplements, and magic potions, and crystals and prayer and super drinks and all that kaka.

I looked at a black obsidian this morning. It is a beautiful stone. Shiny, black, and a lot of people attribute healing power to it.

They wear it in their pocket, they wear it on their person... and they hope that it will change how they feel. But if what is wrong with you is that you don't have the right foods and the right circumstances... what can it do? Even if it had some power, and I doubt that it does... what can it do?

It is like Tai's chef example he uses so often: you need raw materials to cook a good soup.

If you don't have some of the essentials, like salt, and onions and garlic... it won't be a good soup.

Now, let's suppose that you have a session with me and I set you on the right path: and you now know what you are deficient in, what you aren't supposed to eat and what you need to eat, in the right combination and the right amount, you drink the energized water... now what?

For the most part, unless there are hidden chemicals in your food, you will get well.

But what about toxins that you have gathered in your body through decades of eating the wrong things?

Muscle test says that you don't need to do a special detox, no matter what Dr. Schulze, or other doctors say.

Your body will now purge the toxins at its own pace, with the energy it now has to heal itself.

Some 20 years ago a naturopath refused to take me as a client. He said that my body didn't have enough energy to heal itself. I begged him, and he took me as a patient.

His specialty was colonics, with a detox method. And to eat he prescribed brown rice and water.

And no matter how many cleansing colonics I got, I didn't get well.

Why? for three reasons:

1. Brown rice is toxin for my body.

2. He didn't insist on me consuming the daily 90 essential nutrients

3. He didn't insist because he had no idea what my body was going to do well with.

Humans see the world through words... and then get trapped in single words that cause the world to be a dark dank place... No one wants to call home.

What would have to happen so that on this dark Monday morning you suddenly get how this human condition works, below the visible?

And if you got it: What would you do? What would you do if you got that you live your life through words and more words? Not any words, mind you, but powerful words said with power...?

Wouldn't you flock to the schools, the teachers, to the gurus who can help you learn wordcraft?

Wouldn't you suddenly want to read? Stories of people who got it, stories of people who live it?

Like I did.

For the first, I don't know, 15 years of my life I read stories... Then I got caught up with the world, and I started to read books that were hellbent on teaching, so I chew myself through them, but scarcely any wisdom stuck to me.

Followed about 40 years of nearly unconscious years, trying to learn stuff instead of learning to live, until one day I woke up and turned to stories again.

I learned then how to be, how not to be, how it feels doing something, and why I would want to do it. Not because the stories told me, but because I saw it. I saw it.

The movie screen of your mind has no raw material

When I talk to people, they have no ability to see on the movie screen of their minds scenario playing out that tells them what to do, how to do it, how to feel while they are doing it.

That... or they are always in survival mode...

I had an intimate three-way conversation with two women yesterday.

In that conversation the idea of hitting bottom came up.

Hitting bottom

When you hit bottom, you suddenly have solid ground under your feet. You know where is up and where is down. You can kick yourself off from this ground, and shoot up all the way to the stars.

People descend to hellish middle places, where the water is murky, and it is not clear where they can go, what they can do.

So they survive... or if they feel danger, they flail.

Flailing is splashing around, desperately to stay afloat and stop the sinking.

You can't tell how far the bottom is... not mentioning the fact that socially the bottom is a slight, a bad word... so you are trying to avoid it.

So you barely live. You never have a moment of respite to just sit around and look what is what and what it is that you could do, able to do, would enjoy to do to get back to the top.

Your top, but top nevertheless.

Your imaginary top:

Nobel Prize winner without a degree,

world famous billionaire without work are imaginary tops...

Even self-expression is imaginary top unless you have a Self to express.

I know, your imaginary top feels like an invention, but it is more like a fix... A fix you are not willing to really undertake, because it would take doing something... actually doing something YOU said you would do. No, better to fantasize.

If you read books, stories, you would know what one must do when one is drowning, and one finally hits bottom.

Life for a human is best when one can feel the ground under one's toes...

When there seems to be nothing you can do, when you just lost the ground.

But humans have that miraculous brain that can conjure up stories other people wrote, stories of people who were in situations similar to yours... and without anything changing the solution, the direction, the thing you can do emerges.

But for that you need two things: you need to have a lot of stories that you experienced vicariously through books, and movies, where you were washed away by the story, so it is now stored in your muscle-memory not just your m...

The most important thing about life is that each person is born into the world way after the party has started. Or the game.

And there is no manual. There is no real rule book. So we stumble and fumble and meander, and make up s.h.i.t...

One of the most harmful made up s.h.i.t. spewed out in the world to hapless people who are trying to figure out the game of life, how to win, how to get what you want is the so-called:

'law of attraction'

70% of all people would probably get irked by what I am going to say in this article. The people who have handed their lives over to this flawed idea.

70%. Who in spite of all the evidence, still hope that this so-called law is true. They still hope that it will get them what they want.

It is 70% of all people, 100% of all my clients and students that believes in that non-law, untruth.

I can't say it never works. All exceptions strengthen the rule... Even a blind chicken occasionally finds a seed. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.

But something that is an exception to the rule is a terribly weak idea to build a life around. A terribly ineffective concept to live life by.

For one, the so-called law doesn't differentiate between thinking, thoughts, and beingness. They think they are all the same, which is far from the truth. In essence 97% of all people don't know how to think, they have thoughts instead. Thoughts from another source, not their own. The little voice.

So the idea that you attract what you think about would only apply to the 3% that definitely don't need it.

In essence if you attract, you attract what you are... And what you are is your beingness.

And people's beingness, judging from my clients and students, is not in harmony with what people want... Exactly the opposite.

They're projecting. Projecting their own beingness on other people.

Many people want what other people have. Just want it. Fixated on it. And then they look at all people suspecting or maybe even 'know' that they want what they have. Everything... their time, their freedom, their money. And ultimately, maybe, even attract people just like themselves... wanting what they want, and never willing to give anything in return.

People expect to see what they are. Confirmation bias.

If you consider yourself replaced, all you'll see is that you've been.

If you consider yourself threatened, all you can see is that people's behavior and everything threatens you.

I can give you plenty more examples of you attracting what you are..

The law of attraction is amateurish way to figure out how the world works. How to get what you want.

It is not the first attempt, and probably not the last. Kabbalah is one of those early attempts, and it wasn't the first either.

Kabbalah's truth value is 30%. Puny but enormous in comparison. The law of attraction's truth value is 1%.

It reflects humanity's descent to having thoughts, living in their mind, never even looking in reality, let alone pondering it.

For most people, as many as 99%, the connection between words and beingness is tenuous at best.

Beingness is a dynamic. Dynamic or dynamics is a set of inner tensions, forces, that cause resistance, movement, or holding... If you can't feel what is going on inside, the invisible dynamics, that you can't cause a beingness... and you are left with the dynamics that cause you... With thoughts that think you. No power. No say in the matter.

Hoping. Muttering words. Generating want and need and greed.

All harmful inner dynamics.

Kabbalah is mistaken in somewhat the same way. Or at least if we understand the words the way we do. Kabbalah says that desire is important. But if and when it is for ourselves only,

Now that I am aware, awake to this whole issue of judgmentalness, I am starting to see how people are now judging...

Judgment is wholly inside the black and white paradigm, Robert Hartman called it the 'systemic judgment' paradigm.

In that paradigm something is either wrong or right, and there is no cure...

Here is what, repeating from the title, a teacher of mine says about a mindset... in his case in marketing.

He says it is a bad wiring... but what do you with bad wiring?

You untangle the wires and reconnect them correctly. That you cannot do inside the 'systemic judgment' paradigm, because there it is impossible. Same with mental/emotional hangups... If you have a hangup you can look at it, and change your mind given enough proof that what you have been thinking wasn't a good match to how things are in reality.

Judging is not the only result of bad wiring. Another one is not assuming the boss position in your life.

I don't mean bossing people around. That is also bad wiring.

No, being self-possessed... self-directed, self-determined.

Knowing what is your priority, and holding to it steadfast, even when other people try to tell you that their priority is more important than your priority.

This whole conversation is what I had yesterday with Bonnie in our Friday podcast call. 90 minutes of chock full of nuts.

Why is so vital, so important for you to be the boss? To be the one who calls the shot?

Because unless you do, you are not even a person. You are pushed around like an object, with your permission or without won't matter. If you are pushed around, you are an object.

And then the only recourse you have available for yourself is judging. Complaining. and self-hate, even depression.

Becoming a person, becoming the boss is a process and will probably take a long time, because it has many aspects, many phases, and each needs to be practiced and made innate separately.

Obviously I am not saying: be a boss over other people, unless you are actually their boss. But if you are, don't be a buddy, don't be a pal... it is bad business to do that.

One of the most important distinctions of being a boss is 'having'.

Whatever wants to boss you around is a 'thing' that you could have power over if you just mastered having.

Having needs you to have a little distance from it, and a little freedom from it, or you have handed your power over to it.

And even though we all have power over stuff, potentially, but we don't take it.

You literally refuse to take the power, the steering wheel, the controls and then you complain, gossip, judge, weep, and have no life, no Self, no joy, no nothing.

All because you don't learn the distinction 'having it' and don't fully practice it in life.

Resisting: who has the power?

You may think that resisting gives you power, but what has power in the moment of your resisting? The thing you are resisting. You cannot just walk away from it... it hold you right there, resisting it.

And you may think that avoiding gives you power, but just like with resisting, you are hooked.

You justify? Who has the power?

And you may justify, explain, but sorry, you didn't exercised your power, and explaining it won't make it so.

Why is there a distance needed between what wants to call the shot and your eyes? When the thing is close to you, when you are maybe even in the midst of it, you cannot be the boss... you are the effect...

To be the boss distance is needed. Emotional, intellectual, physical distance.

Just put your palm close to your eyes... You can't even see it, and it becomes scary.

Fear: who is the boss?

Are you the boss or fear is the boss?

In the land of Israel 2000 years ago only 10% of people were wholly judgmental...

It isn't the Bible, it is what the church says, right and wrong, is that encourages you to judge.

Judging something or someone wrong causes an immediate reduction of tension.

Tension between high emotion and the resting, neutral emotional state.

It's the law of thermodynamics (Physics anyone? First law of thermodynamics, also known as the law of conservation of energy, states that energy can neither be created nor destroyed, but it can be changed from one form to another.). Heat moves to cool. A ball that you throw up returns to the surface of the Earth, often through your hands.

If you can't bear the tension, if you are a pansy, you judge. But either way, the emotion needs to come back to neutral.

There is a species of birds that have to come down, right after birth, from a pinnacle they nest on to a ravine where their food is... sounds weird but that is what the members of this species, arctic barnacle geese have to do to survive. The little chicks, covered with soft feathers, need to fall off the height, hitting every rock... and most of them ends up fine... some die. But the ones that live will live.

Here is the video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H1S6UCX4RAA

I don't judge. Instead I opinionate. I assess. They are not the same.

Judging happens in the black and white paradigm.

Opinionating/assessing happens in the extrinsic paradigm where things have more facets that just right and wrong.

Here is a judgment about someone killing another with one hit: 'that is wrong!'

Here is an opinion about the same thing: 'huh, that hit was disproportionate to the offense!' Watch the new facet!

Interestingly, my judging students cannot hear, cannot see the difference. So judging is not only in the speaking, judging is also in the listening. It is the paradigm, not just an isolated action. They hear wrong in everything... and even the details also mean to them wrong, wrong wrong.

The 3 paradigms of value

Because I live in the higher paradigms, extrinsic and intrinsic where you can feel, I HAVE TO FEEL what a human is designed to feel when I look at something violent, or unfair, or nasty, or treasonous happening. And feeling those feelings creates tension... like a ball that is thrown up high in the air.

For a while I hold the tension. But when the tension becomes too strong to contain, I sob. I sob for a few seconds, a few minutes. I feel the pain, I feel the sadness, I feel the grief. And I feel the shame, the regret, the anger... whatever feeling the incident makes me feel.

One of my students doesn't judge, but has too low TLB... so she chooses to leak, chooses to reduce the tension in other ways, like marijuana.

That tension, by the way, is similar to creative tension. So if you cannot take one, you also cannot take the other.

And if you can't take the creative tension, you'll be stuck at the bottom of the totem pole.

Judgmental students' TLB is also low: they never trained themselves to see themselves able to take what is coming...

They judge so that they don't have to feel anything. Or so that they can feel high and mighty.

They don't cry because they don't have to. They'd released the responsibility of feeling their feelings, feeling bad for people, feeling bad for life. Released their responsibility to be human to judgments.

They wiggle off the hook. If that is not enough, they justify. 'See, I am good, because I am the one judging!'

They don't know that there is no joy, no happiness, no fulfillment off the hook, only on the hook. (This must be another false belief, or a group of false beliefs. We'll look at them later)

You won't be surprised that 70% of you will choose 'happiest looking', because what people think, what they say about you is more important to you than how you feel. And that makes you an eight billion... unfortunately.

What do Sophie's 1000 do that you probably don't

The only real difference between you and the 1000 is your relationship to what you do. The 1000 cause what they do. Nearly 100% of the time.

Whaaat?

You see, it is difficult to teach how to cause... because the distinction is missing.

It can only be seen from what it isn't. What isn't causing. In some way, what isn't choosing... although the overlap is only 30%.

Choosing is easier to demonstrate...

The Chocolate or Vanilla exercise from the Landmark Forum does a decent job at it.

But causing? Can you see from the outside if someone is causing what they do or they do it because they have to, or do it because want to do it, or do it because they are bored...

Every time you can say: I am doing this because... you are assigning power, assigning cause to something other than yourself.

I just realized I never CAUSE eating when I eat... That is one area where I am not causing...

Let me explain: I watched this Italian series, part of Walter Presents, where the police inspector could see and hear the dead and the last thought they thought or said. And they didn't shut up until he solved the murder.

I can relate.

As a true empath I feel something 24/7, less early in the morning when people are sleeping. And I have to muscletest if the feeling is mine, lest I act on the feeling as if it were mine...

And the feelings I feel are only the unpleasant ones... I think. And the unpleasant things are hard to be with, so I unconsciously do react... and that is how I eat everything, except my breakfast.

I get up around 4 am, and have breakfast around 6:30, so right around now. When I feel hungry I muscletest if I am really hungry. But I don't eat because I am hungry. I eat because I eat... I eat because that is what there is to do. In the morning I cause eating. It is not the clock, not hunger, not an intolerable feeling that causes it... like later in the day. Later in the day when I don't cause any of my eating...

Although I decided last night to cause not-to-eat when I am miserably tormented by someone else's emotions. Including emotions of the actors in movies... ugh.

What will I do instead? I don't know yet. I'll, maybe, just sit with it, knowing it doesn't belong to me, and allow it to ravage me... (Note: I tried it. At first try I managed to hold off for two hours... and then I lost it... But I can see that I can get good at this... with practice.)

This will be one area where I will bring causing to my behavior... Consciously.

You see, with your own emotions: when you allow them to be, they allow you to be. But what about emotions that don't belong to you?

OK, you say, causing my relationship to what I do. Why is it so important?

Really good question, let's see if I can answer it for you.

You see, there is a life-experience and there is a life-experience.

If you are like a beach-ball on the big ocean, if you have no inner motor, no rudder, no causing, then when the weather is nice, you feel good. When you are blown into some bay with beautiful colorful houses somewhere on the shores of Italy, you love it. But all you can do is all you can do without motor, without rudder, without causing, all you can do is praying. Praying for the wind to be kind to you. The currents to go in the direction where you want to go.

You can also be like a volley ball, being caused by other people...

But if you are causing yourself, then you are causing your life.

True,

How the famous 'probable future' can correct missteps, acting blindly without ever looking where the path leads?

In my experience, if you can allow your eyes to look into the future, you can see that unless you change something, you'll get to a point where there is no more road... no more future for you... And that may allow you to take the plunge, and change your fundamental and limiting core belief about the world...

Because the issue is not what you believe about yourself; the issue is what you believe to be true about reality.

I call the way of looking: sober eyes.

Sober as in not drunken. Neither from fear, nor from excitement. Nor from hope. Not from arrogance or superiority complex. Nor from a lest known impediment, called 'wrong belief'.

The opposite of sober eyes is eyes rendered not-seeing by some emotion.

Underneath every emotion we'll find words... words we say about what we see. The meaning. The interpretation. The famous naming of the Bible in the Garden of Eden.

We could say that homo sapiens is the species that doesn't see unless he names what he sees. That he only really sees and knows what to do with things that he recognizes.

And therein lies the mischief. Because words inherently carry emotional content, they are not inert markers, like markers of items on a police photo of an accident or death. They already mean something. Already and always. And the wrong beliefs come from the meanings.

And let's not forget about the astuteness of the naming... specifically the lack of astuteness.

It may be true that the big fish eats the small fish. But it is not true that that is bad. And it is not true that small fish is therefore doomed... lots of small fish continue living.

It may be true that some people are born to privilege... but it is also true that the rule of life is you get what you work for, what you fight for, what you negotiate for... successfully. And the exception only strengthens the rule.

Two of my students believe that special people, successful people didn't have to, don't have to work for what they want. They just get it.

The way he didn't have to do anything for much of anything that came from his mother... when he was a child.

Magically.

The interesting thing is: he has loads of proof that this isn't how it work. He has been in my classes for ten years. And yet, the belief doesn't change. It is etched in his mind as the truth, and robs him of a life he could get if he changed his mind.

We all have at least one 'wrong belief'. All of us.

The main wrong belief is being stuck with anything being inherently wrong... anything. Including death, pain, suffering, poverty, racism, rape, stealing, killing, or god forbid, being judgmental.

In reality there is no inherent anything other than the laws of physics, the laws of nature, completely independent of your opinion.

So don't judge, although having an opinion, good or bad is not judgment, or not really. Others' and even your wrong beliefs are just not inherently true... that is what is off with them.

Bring understanding, compassion, sober eyes to it. Compassion is sober, by the way. It is not an emotion. What you may feel is pity: condescending. Ego. It's not wrong either. It is what it is: condescending.

We seem to live in an age where most people have at least one major wrong belief.

Wrong belief is when what you believe doesn't coincide with reality. When you believe that the world works not the way it works, but the way it should or shouldn't work.

A delusion.

And humans, it seems, today are divided around or on the basis of their wrong beliefs. And no sober eyes about it either. They passionately judge the world from that wrong belief... and not from reality.

Today's article will be illustrated differently. I'll use unrelated funny pictures... like the New Yorker magazine does.

Why? One of the ways I have opened up my tiny box is reading humorists' take on the world. See the funny in everything. In every single thing.

Another way to open up your small box is to read, watch good movies or TV series from different cultures.

I subscribed to the Premium channel of Masterpiece Theater and PBS on Amazon Prime. Walter presents... I am watching my fourth series, British, Belgian, Italian, and now French. All in their original language.

I have, before, watched a lot of Singaporean, Korean series as well. Israeli movies... They are on Netflix, and I cannot watch Netflix now: it doesn't work on my machine.

It may be important to watch the undubbed version, although I have watched Danish and Swedish series dubbed... but being forced to read the subtitles focuses the attention.

The more effort it takes to acquire something the deeper it goes...

Also, you can only see something in the contrast... or it is invisible. Meaning: your own. You may think that it is the right way to think, it is the only way to think, but in the contrast it is clear: different human cultures make different rules up, and they are all rules.

There are videos on youtube where the video creator shows the weird things of a country: very educational, a wakeup call.

The weird ways they eat, weird ways they talk, weird ways they choose is what's important to see.

Even when you travel, you may not see how people live, how people talk, how people love.

I lived in Israel for three and a half years, and I never knew, never saw. I learned more from the movies.

When you live in a tiny world of yours, everything about you is too important. Too vital. Too scary.

But when you can expand the world your problems, your circumstances, your issues will be just a drop on the ocean.

Why is that important? Because if your stuff is too important, then you'll be always unhappy. With yourself, with your life, with everything.

I found this out in a weird way.

A few years ago I started to go to a senior exercise class. It was mainly about preventing falls... seniors are so prone to.

So many of the exercises were about balancing on one foot. It is not easy so even the teacher would lose his balance occasionally.

When he did he laughed, and the seniors laughed with him. I didn't. You see I considered mistakes nothing to laugh about.

Looking back I am pondering who that serious unforgiving b.i.t.c.h. was... but there you have it. I was like that.

I learned to laugh at my mistakes in that senior exercise class... giving up that mistakes are serious. Giving up that narrow visual field where a mistake occupies your whole world and you are screwed... unless you make no mistakes.

The visual field where if you did well, you passed. If you didn't: you failed.

In that world I needed a lot of patience to allow the mistakes, the wrong, the imperfect, and felt magnanimous about myself... But I was really intolerant.

Not surprisingly I made a lot less money then...

Because living in the black and white world makes a lot of things, a lot of people wrong. And repels abundance... the wrong abundance, the wrong friends, the wrong love, the wrong this and the wrong that.

Thanks to that class leader laughing, I slowly left that black and white world.

Mistakes are not wrong. Whether they are inside or outside.

And the more you can allow them to be not-wrong, the less energy they will use from you, and the more energy you have left to do things, to love, to laugh, to learn, to grow.