Do you feel stuck? Are you trying to do everything but you still are stuck at the miserable place instead of where you could be your best?

If so, you are not alone.

One of my clients used to be in constant survival.

He could see that he wasn't doing what he really wanted to do with his life.

He knew he loved to learn.

Also: He loved to be in conversations about deep issues where he could distinguish, for himself and another what they were looking at, deeply, precisely and in a way that it altered life. He loved that.

And he loved teaching.

These were the activities he loved to do, and he hoped that people would, at some point, pay for it.

Some did, most didn't, and my client was miserable. His misery was palpable.

When he refused to do stuff, he didn't like, for money... he could not pay his rent. Although he loved that he did that, he hated the result: poverty.

When he did the moneymaking stuff, he was miserable too.

So, predictably, he was miserable, 24/7.

Fast forward: our breakthrough conversation: 'enter the vortex.'

What is the vortex you ask? The vortex is an interesting phenomenon: it has the power to take you down until you reach solid ground, so you can kick yourself off in a direction of your choosing, or, if you flail, it can break your bones... you choose.

Joe (not his real name) was trying to stay afloat by flailing away from the vortex: and it perpetuated his misery.

By willingly entering the vortex, he allowing it to take him down to where he could catch solid ground. he could get to a new starting point, where he could design his business to include all the stuff he loved to do, and maybe none of the stuff he hated to do.

So here is what Joe did: (and you can do it too...)

1. Joe decided to let go and stop calling things wrong... and right. He stopped resisting, he stopped trying and thus he stopped feeling stuck because there is no 'stuck' in reality. He said it and then he felt it.

2. he told the truth about how it is (you are complaining about it, so you can make a list of it... right?) without labeling it right and wrong.

3. he told the truth about how he'd like it to be... without calling what he wanted the right things.

4. he allowed the vortex to take him to a place where he had some time to look

5. he decided to go in the direction of his desire. He resolved to create a business that makes money, a business that uses the stuff he loved to do

6. he found the first action to do, and he made up the end result (goal) he desired to eventually attain

Fast forward a few years: he is now spending 90% of his time doing what he designed to do in a financially rewarding way.

Do you feel stuck? Get in touch...

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This post is a summary of the presentation of Frank Kern about Core Influence.

https://evp-50116959de4b9-dd521b5ed563ee25508422182c681a30.s3.us-east-1.amazonaws.com/core-influence-720.mp4

This is really powerful EXERCISE for everyone. It will definitely change the way of you relate to yourself and your life.

What is your Core Influence?

When you interface with "your crowd" core to core... heart to heart, and this is what you want them to do... interface with you heart to heart... If you do that they will do almost anything.

How to make lots of people do almost anything

There are 2 “easy” steps:

Know what you REALLY want and who you REALLY are.

Know what your crowd REALLY wants and who they REALLY are.

Most of the people have two versions of themselves. The identity they walk around in every day (it’s called the Shell Identity) and the identity they really WANT (that would be the core identity and is considered the TRUE identity).

So what is core influence?

Most influence is done on the surface. That means I speak to you, you hear my words… and your brain uses logic to comply or not. Your response is based on logic and emotion. That would be a surface level or head-to-head connection.

But there is also the CORE level to communicate. In this case, your real self speaks to another's real self. So the number one job is to find your real self.

With proper guidance, the proper inquiry, your "subconscious" will create a new CORE identity for you and this identity is what will speak to your crowd on a CORE level. And when you identify the CORE identity of your crowd and can communicate with it, you will have much more power and influence than you ever thought is possible!

Discover your CORE identity

Our deepest real desires give us clues about our core identity. For example why are you here reading this blog post?

Maybe you want to make more money…. but why do you want to make more money?

This exercise can immediately give you focus, direction, and it can literally lead to replacing your shell identity with the REAL you!

When you are able to communicate from this core place, you are centered, stable and focused.

This total clarity magnetically attracts “matches” and causes you to be exponentially more persuasive. Plus, you just might stumble into a new and better reality:

Before doing this exercise, Frank had thoughts about Porsches, Ferraris, Private Jets, time freedom….

But this attracted “wrong” customers, built the “wrong” business, sabotaged money making opportunities… made him buying things with his money and then worried about the things…

After the exercise, he got rid of the non-fun businesses, the non-fun customers and he got paid a fortune to make fun videos for his friends and help them get rich by helping others… sounds better, right?

Now before we begin you need to be aware of the following:

Goals and Things are irrelevant! Setting goals and wanting things creates an internal struggle that completely inhibits your ability to really get anywhere! The trick is to align your brain and your subconscious. And this is something you will learn right now!

Here is an important formula

E + I = L

E = Experience. We do not crave things. We crave the experience the things give us!

I = Identity. Our experiences, beliefs, and values create our identity. All communication actually comes from your identity.

L = Life. Our experiences and identity work together to form our life.

What We All Really Want Is A New Life!

How to create a new life…

Imagine, you will live 40 more years. So you have 14,600 more days to go before you’re dead.

Your current core identity. How to find it, how to build a better one?

I have written in a previous post that I discovered that my hidden identity is 'worthless piece of junk = unwanted'. I use the word junk, because this expression is a translation from my native Hungarian. In the original the expression is closer to 'nothing' than anything, by the way. But in English, I am afraid, that won't communicate. 'I am nothing', does it communicate? It doesn't seem to have the same emotional impact on me...

From time to time I notice it 'informing my mood, informing my actions.'

I found a blog that I enjoy reading. The writer of the blog is intelligent, inventive, and although we have a different base world view (he prays, I don't) I like his blog a lot. I researched him this morning. All the pictures on his blog are white folks... turns out he is a good looking Black guy from Florida.

Hm. What must be his 'core' identity that he won't show his face on his blog?

If your core identity is something that works against you being whole and complete, you will compensate for it.

Compensation means: you resist... Resisting means you made it wrong first.

Or you try to fix it... and believe it or not, the fix is worse than the original issue. My students who invented, as a fix, that they are special, haven't and cannot amount to anything, because if you are special and you do something, you are just confessing that you are not special. Ugh.

In my course, Soaring Method, I teach how to find your core identity. It is important to know it, exactly, or you will be stuck resisting it. Resisting it makes you ineffective in life. Your life will be build on mud, and whatever you build will become, at best, the Leaning Tower of Pisa... or rubble, as it was in my case with my Amazon business.

So you see, even people as aware as myself find some stuff they are unaware of...

So please make sure you start out on a hunt to find your core identity.

It is not a belief, by the way. Belief is defined best by it's opposite. Belief is the opposite of doubt.

Core identity is cemented: it has no opposite: it is not a belief.

A belief has an opposite! It has doubt!

So you have no doubt on your mind that it's so. You can have only one powerful way to deal with it: embrace it.

And of course you want to find it with all your might. But fighting it will cost you... because fighting what is not true is futile.

Your core identity is not true, and yet it acts as if it were true.

And as long as you are able to embrace it like a broken faced idiot child you borne, as long as you don't try to get rid of it, or fix it, it will let you be, it will let you do anything, go anyplace, be happy, successful, whatever anyone else can be.

But the moment you ignore it, the moment you fight it, it's over: it takes over.

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It is what it is

The hardest thing for anyone is to allow things to be the way they are and allow people to be the way they are, without loss of respect, without calling it or calling them wrong.

I have had to deal with that for at least 40 years... But I think I finally can.

I realized the vast differences in my students in the 67 step coaching program. I realized that each and every one of them are on the level they are. Their level of intelligence, their level of awareness, their level of education, their knowledge, their willingness.

The number of capacities they have... and where they are. That to be considered by me as a place where they are, and not the wrong place. They should be where they are because that is where they are.

And if I want any power in our interactions, I need to consider reality, not should be or shouldn't be reality. How you are is reality. How you should be is should-be reality... i.e. NOT reality.

I know this is quite a mouthful... and it's very difficult to translate it to a lower level language... In essence I said:

Where you are is where you are, and where you are is OK. Not the best, but OK.

A.L. Williams said these immortal words: All you can do is all you can do, and all you can do is enough.

What people understand is continuing doing the little bit the are doing will be enough. NO way!

How does this work from my perspective? When you sign up to a coaching program, like the 67 step coaching, you will do all you can... or I'll throw you out.

And what you can do is going to be different, depending on all the other levels I mentioned above. Depending on your attitude. On your soul correction. Your circumstances.

But wherever you are is perfect for now, if you do ALL you can do.

If and when both you and I honor where you are at, we, together, can cause you to grow. Grow slowly, grow fast... it is not the point.

But if every day, both you and I honor where you are at, you'll grow. Every day, just a tiny bit.

If every day you invest as much as you have that very day, then you'll go far. The sky is the limit.

I just muscletested: I invest 70% of myself every day, every minute. Not 100%. But people, when I muscletest them: they invest 10% or less. Some as low as 1%.

We live in times when you can survive even with 1% investment.

With just doing only 70% of what you can do, not all, if you it long enough, you can reach the sky of your existence. Maybe not all you ever wanted, but a lot of it.

You can grow skills, you can grow capacities, you can raise your awareness, your level of consciousness, knowledge, vibration: everything.

As long as you do at least 70% of all you can do. By the way all you can do will be different every day. For example, today, this morning, I am sneezing and coughing... so likely my 100% will be a lot less than it was yesterday. But if every day you do all you can do, all you can do is enough.

If you consistently do less than you can do... then you won't amount to much.

Some days all you can do is let me know that you are sick, and when you are sick your job is to be sick and do what you need to do to get well. Some days you'll be too tired. Some days you'll be kept busy by circumstances.

And other days you'll be like whirlwind.

Only you know what is all you can do.

But just know: your job is to do all you can do, whatever that is.

My job is to spot you, make you look at things you didn't pay attention, guide you. Lovingly.

Or kick you out.

I am good at both.

All you can do is all you can do... and all you can do is enough.

It could also say: all you are willing to do is what you are willing to d...

The currency of life are capacities and distinctions.

The less capacities you have the closer you are to the bottom.

What? The bottom of what?

The bottom of the power pyramid. Where personal power, personal authority is the currency.

Asking what those capacities are, those seven is a little dumb, but just think about it.

So what does everyone who went to school has to have as capacity? Reading, using language, i.e. writing and speaking, adding and subtracting numbers, recognizing faces, smells, sounds, telling the time, basic stuff.

You may be able to cook.

You may be able to clean.

And of course, you may be able drive...

But these are not really capacities: they use capacities, but they are complex activities. Not VERY complex, and yet, complex nevertheless.

If you look, parents who take their children to play soccer or sports strengthen the base capacities, but don't add any new capacities. Especially if the parent chauffeurs the child to those activities.

On the other hand intelligent parents enroll their children in extracurricular activities, activities that activate capacities beyond the base capacities.

Spiritual capacities... DNA capacities. They are beyond those base 7-8-9.

Playing a musical instrument,

reading musical notes

pantomime

playing chess,

playing bridge (card game),

photography (not just snapping pictures),

art,

acting,

languages,

choir,

debate team,

spelling bees,

electronics,

archaeology,

science museum classes,

movie classes...

Those more intelligent parents are diligently building a human who is more capable and has a chance to be more, do more, have more in life.

Your state of low number of capacities is a testimony of your parents not encouraging you to expand.

Some of my students awakened, activated capacities by virtue of their travels. By virtue of taking jobs that needed new capacities. Started businesses that needed new capacities.

But most people prefer an unchallenged life: it is good enough. They learned their view of what is enough from their environment. That is why it is so rare that someone can break out and be more than what's predictable by the environment.

I recently watched a video where a person was talking to his two brothers who remained limited to what the environment considered enough. But he broke out. The trigger was that as a child he read the Martin Luther King famous 'going to the mountaintop' speech with the right diction, the right emotion. That simple act became the foundation of his future... his future that suddenly required capacities his environment considered beyond what's enough.

Traveling

Traveling to a foreign country can be an excellent starting point for growth. But pay attention: it is traveling in a way where you HAVE TO interact with the locals, where you'll have a tight budget, so you ARE exposed to different cultures, to different ways of communicating. And you need to adjust fast or you will be miserable, or robbed, or even jailed...

But even if bad stuff happens, something quite irreversible happened to you: you see that you could have expand... and you could have chosen to expand. You may be able to see the value of expanding, whereas at home you can just stay comfortably the same.

When I was nearing 18, I went to England to be a maid. An au pair. My father was in the government, we had staff at home. He had a driver, we, the family had a house-cleaner... In England suddenly I was the one doing the cleaning, the clothes and dish-washing, the ironing, the shopping, making and serving tea for everyone... in bed.

Bad news. On my way home, climbing the long stairway off Euclid Avenue, I was listening to Step 21 of the 67 Steps. It's about the superpower of being able to get into a relationship with people. Get into a relationship because you can see how their machine works. and because you see it, therefore you can speak their language.

Everything comes to you through people... and...

...you cannot get more abundance than what your people skills allow you to have.

I have been resigned about my ability to get better at dealing with people.

Resigned means: I have a fixed mindset about it, that says: it may be possible for you, but it's impossible for me.

But being resigned doesn't mean I have given up. I haven't. But every time I read someone's stuff, or watch someone's stuff who is good at it, and maybe that is their superpower, I resent them. I do. Not nice, I know, but it is how it is.

It goes hand in glove with resignation.

And the third R is not that far: regret. (Resignation, resentment, regret, the three Rs)

When I consider that with a little more work, a little more insight, and especially with a little more humility I could get more out of life...

The interesting thing is this: this has been the tenth time I listened to this step.

And in the past 21 days I have taken on connecting to people.

I am giving free strategy sessions. I am bringing more compassion to my interactions. I have even asked for help three times in these 21 days.

Which means: I am not where I was in the past nine rounds of that step in the 67 steps: I have already moved up a couple of millimeters.

Probably this is why I was able to see that I have been resigned, that this step was important to me, and that I can...

I can choose to be on my side, on my life's side, and become more of who I was meant to be... with the secret method...

The secret method of 'Start Starting'.

An object in motion can be redirected easier than an object that is not in motion... says one of Isaac Newton's laws, and it seems to be a real law.

I began with looking at my life as an experiment.

Everyone's life has at least four 'dimensions',

physical,

emotional,

intellectual, and

spiritual.

Spiritual in this context is maybe allowing Life to win, instead of having your life be all about you, all about your self-concerns.

This is the biggest issue people deal with. And issue that I can call a spiritual issue.

This 21-day period began with me reading a book with an idea that knocked me conscious.

The author said that if you succeeded in improving one percent every day in all four dimensions of life, physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual,  you'd become 37 times (3700%) better in one year. If you got 1% better a week, you'd still get 67 percent better.

The difficult part is to sustain the previous growth and build on that!

But... what the heck does it look like, what could you do to get better in the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions?

Once you manage to ask a relevant question, to answer it you need to ponder, you need to look, instead of having a knee-jerk, ready answer..

You are taken out of the same old same old, and you are taken into growth mode...

I don't even think you can avoid it. I have not intended, I have not decided to do it yet, and yet my life has already altered. Just by considering it.

Can you do this if you are interested in only one area... that is all about you? Probably not.

I have doubts that you can grow your earnings without growing your health, growing your emotional health, your intellectual aptitudes, and your spiritual attitudes.

Unless you, the whole of you, opens up,

Power tools: Human Evolution is powered by hate

I searched google to see what others have to say. But every article, every site only talked about the physical evolution, and none talked about the inner evolution: where humans conquer their animal nature and truly become human.

And the sites, books, etc. that talked about spiritual evolution, all touted love as the strongest energy to cause it. But love is only available AFTER a considerable level of spiritual evolution is achieved. Until that point what we call love is craving, lust, urge, but not love.

Whereas hate is readily available. Not hate of another. Not hate of another human, or group. No. Hate of not being enough. Hate of stupidity, bad feelings, misery.

If you are in the habit of ameliorating, avoiding, etc. misery, like Freud says in his famous essays,  Civilization and its discontent.

The life imposed on us is too hard for us to bear: it brings too much pain, too many disappointments, too many insoluble problems. If we are to endure it, we cannot do without palliative measures. ... Of such measures there are perhaps three kinds:

powerful distractions, which cause us to make light of our misery,

substitutive satisfactions, which diminish it, and

intoxicants, which anaesthetize us to it.

To cause self-evolution on the personal level, power tools are needed...

...not the tools Freud says we are already using. What is currently offered in the marketplace is weak, ineffective, and at best consolation.

I have found, and I had 37 years to look, test, evaluate, that a power tool only qualifies to be called a power tool if it can be used out of the box. It needs to be learned... and maybe other things unlearned...

And it needs to be able to raise a person's quality of life (and consciousness)  by at least 10%. Although I saw, in yesterday's Moneyroots, that a simple tool well chosen, can increase that quality of life by 50% if learned correctly and used diligently enough.

Here are the power tools that I teach.

Are there, could there be more? Muscletest says: no.

Tools where a myth needs to be corrected before it is a tool:

wrong... from IS

I

because... be cause

Tool that is visualizing a situation: hitting bottom

Tool where the power source is regret/hate

To my utter surprise, possibility, purpose, meaning, everything Landmark Education teaches don't qualify as a power tool... why? because they are positive thinking weak energies. Because a possibility's shelf life is short... and unless a person has lots of support, the possibility disappears.

Whereas hate requires no words... it is there whether you want it or not.

Evolution Is Powered By Hate

Of course in order to be able to see what drives personal growth, personal evolution, one needs to be able to stand to the side... and look from there.

Helen Keller, a proponent of looking into the future, looking into the light, and not looking into the darkness, the shadows, the current reality. And counter of what she propose, she herself started to become a human when the hate and frustration of not understanding, not being able to communicate became too much to bear.

The idea of light and love, and other kaka came with the Tree of Knowledge, not through experience.

If you are not evolving, if you are not moving in your life, it is because you don't hate anything enough to make it a power tool.

I hated pedestrian living. Hated it with a passion. But couldn't see what to tie my life to until I heard the Rainer Maria Rilke poem: The spirit is only interested in flying. Who is doing the flying the spirit only has a passing inter...

Consolation vs. Transformation?

This may be the first time you'll read about anything like this: arm yourself: it won't be pleasant news.

Most everything that you can get or buy today is consolation. Their function is that you bear being a slave, being a wreck easier. Like Soma in Brave New World.

Health care, mental care, emotional care, all the so-called transformational, energy, healing, meditation programs are all consolation.

What do I mean? If you trapped a lion and kept it in a cage, you would tend to its health, tend to its mood, tend to its mental health, but did not release the lion to live according to its nature, then you would engage in consolation. A lion is only happy when it can live according to its design.

Human being, you, is kept in an environment that keeps you away from your nature. Human being, by design, is an individual: Intelligent, able to intimately connect to its environment and its in-vironment, and this is how it lives a meaningful existence.

This separation of man from its nature has happened in many stages, and today's man, like today's zoo-born lion, doesn't even remember its nature. It is not happy, but it doesn't know why.

When you return a wild animal into its native environment, it doesn't know first how to fit in.

It doesn't know how to hunt for its food, it doesn't know how to be safe, it doesn't know how he is supposed to be with other animals. But it will learn, and it will be free.

The human animal, on the other hand, carries their cage in their mind. There is no need for an actual cage, no need for an actual rope, he is more than willing to perpetuate the cage:

the human animal of the twenty first century is the dumbest animal of all.

Elephants, when they are very young, they are tied with a strong rope to a stake in the ground. The stake is strong, the rope is strong, and the young elephant can't pull it out. Gradually, the keepers swap the strong rope to a weaker rope, and eventually they just have a rope tied around the ankle, no stake, and the elephants don't run away.

They got taught that the feeling of the rope around their ankle meant that they are not able to run away. If you ask someone if the elephant is dumb, I bet they will say they are, but humans are much dumber, you only need to talk to them, say 'no' a few times, and they make their own mental ties that they won't release even in expensive therapy, courses, hypnosis, what have you.

I have been working with a small group of brave people, to develop and test energetic transformational techniques to 'surgically' remove their ties that keep them cowardly, small, anguish ridden, unhappy, and unproductive.

Most people would say that they want to be free, free to be themselves, but when the rubber hits the road, when the moment is near, they cower.

The feeling is much like the lion feels at the moment of its release. The lion had known the safety and certainty of the cage and the daily feedings and discipline. It knows that it is not happy, it knows it's not worth staying, and yet... So it's hesitant, and if it can, it may run back to the cage, where it doesn't need to be a match to life. Where there is no danger of falling short, no chance of failure, no chance of the unknown, with its lurking dangers.

Human being is born intelligent and curious. It only becomes dumb and dull through conditioning.

Your parents treated you consistent with their fears, their insecurities, their dumbness, their dullness. They didn't allow you to bloody your nose and scrape your knees. They protected you from everything, and then put you into some institution where teachers told you to pay attention to the dull stuff on the blackboard, and forget about discovery, play, intelligence. Forget about individuality, forget about freedom,

I really want you to come to my Moneyroots workshop. Now you know.

Does it mean you'll come?

Given that I am begging... probably not.

But what else can I do?

Well, there is a process... a proven, count-on-able process I have learned 35 years ago... and have been neglecting nowadays... So yeah, there is a process to get you to come to a class I consider important... and whether you come or not is really up to me.

Yeah.

In life you get what you work for, what you fight for, what you negotiate for successfully.

I read one person's email regularly. He is the 'brother from another mother'. He teaches to sell... Selling is the highest paying activity.

You see, everything needs you to be sold, all ideas, even your work needs to be sold, or you'll be poor.

I often say: you get in life what you work for. Charlie Munger says: you get what you deserve. And ultimately: you get in life what you earn by successfully selling something.

Your work, your ideas.

Another word for selling is negotiating.

When you look at selling as negotiating you look at it differently than the mainstream teaches.

Jim Camp, master of negotiating says: Negotiation is the effort to bring about an agreement between two or more parties, with all parties having the right to veto.

Veto means: saying no.

Selling is negotiating one of those agreements where one person ends up with the goods, the other with the money...

But let's not limit negotiating to selling.

Today's populace is not even hinted that they have the right to veto... anything.

Today's populace has things shoved down their throats, and like a little baby when told: open big: they open their mouths.

Just look at the family. Look at school. Look at marriage. And look at the workplace.

Do you see any room to say no? Where you have the right to say no, and the other party respects it? No.

So today's populace has no experience of their power, and therefore today's populace doesn't even think of negotiating.

Now, mind you, just saying no can be tricky. If all the power lies with the other, with the system, with the family, the school, the workplace, and all you can do is say 'no', don't expect to be well.

I was taught that from early on.

As a child I exercised my right to veto, but I didn't have the right to veto... did I? So I was beaten, diligently. Or force-fed...

When I was in my third year of architecture school, I had a nervous breakdown. I got well, but my mother didn't want to take me home. She said 'She doesn't want to do the dishes'... I had to stay in the loony bin for ten days longer while to hospital 'negotiated' with my mother.

Although my mother felt guilty, she had the right to veto, and she exercised it. I did NOT have the right to veto... Not about anything.

And about half of my life, or maybe more, was spent under someone's rule.

What I didn't know then, and therefore couldn't do... What I didn't know then, and didn't know I could have learned. And even when I learned, I didn't know it is a power tool and could have turned the tables for me is there is an art to negotiation, and once you learn it, once you master it, you can exercise your right to veto, and you can negotiate anything.

My Friday podcast partner is learning it.

Our calls are in essence coaching conversations, where we deal with issues that come up in life. Hers come up, mostly, in the context of work.

And for a little while, the focus has been: are you driving your life, or are you a passive passenger? Are you the boss, or are you a hapless effect?

Something happens in her business, and then we discuss it. Look at it from left, from right, from above,

Do you think that the words spoken in your head are your beliefs?

What words? you say.

That 'what words?' was two of them. The words are spoken in your head.

There is a whole lot of talking that seems to be going on in your head, and if you think it is you, then they accomplished what they intended: you become a puppet on word-strings.

There is no such thing as a belief, and those words are NOT belief.

Don't believe me? Just add words consciously, and see how much difference they make. None, that's how much.

I myself ran long experiments on affirmations, afformations (those are questions) and I can 'proudly' report: none of them made any difference.

The broadcast

On the other hand, I heard in a course back in the fall of 1991 that there is a broadcast we all hear and we filter out what seems to be relevant to us. so seemingly we all hear a different broadcast.

I started to listen, consciously, curiously, and yet in a detached way, back then. I heard the voice talk about me, about life, about other people, about my chances for success, happiness, and untimely death.

The moment I managed to hear it as radio, I managed to be less effected by it, as long as I listened. The moment I got busy with other things, suddenly the same voices became frighteningly personal.

This was (gasp) 31 years ago, so I've had a lot of practice.

The broadcast didn't stop. I never stopped hearing it. It never changed its tune.

I managed to change my relationship to it. And now, while I still take 8% of it personally, especially when there is some upheaval by some change, my life, my inner life isn't even similar to what it used to be. No misery. None.

I used to be wretched. And I used to think of myself most of the time.

I have attempted to train people in becoming awake and aware of the broadcast. The training did work for people while the training lasted. But this, hearing the voices as a broadcast, needs to be a lifetime commitment to follow, and you don't do anything that long. Something is broken in you that you are unable or unwilling to do anything long term.

You seem to forget everything between moving from one topic to another, from one life domain to another.

Many of you never hear, but that is a different problem.

When I measure: how much you think about yourself, I, in essence, say: how much time you listen to the broadcast as your own voice, as the truth, or alternatively argue with the words of the broadcast that you think is you.

I observed myself last night, reading the Ed Deci book, Why We Do What We Do, and noticed at the end of a paragraph that my eyes were reading, by I wasn't reading.

I was, instead, debating stuff in my head.

Now, that debate had some connection to what I was reading, but that is not the point. I was closed to any new information, any input. It could not have made a difference with me, even if it could have potentially been a life-saver. For me or for you...

I read for you, by the way.

I am more interested in my project: turn around the tide of misery, than in my own money, or my own anything, including health.

Why? Well, that is my passion, and that is my expertise. To return you to yourself, cause you to stop listening to the broadcast, and be your own person, with your own opinion, with your own interest, instead of being separated, alienated from your Self.

There is the broadcast, and then there are millions of helpful morons who join in the chorus of the broadcast, make it their agenda to convince you that what you hear is your belief, and you should change it. The list of phD's, and 'experts' and such people is very long. and you know so many. but to my knowledge no one knows and no one teaches from the big picture...