You don't live successfully. Your desire is much higher than your results. You are often, maybe always disappointed in the world, in yourself... but you don't know exactly what is wrong.

So first let's look at what is the underlying issue, because there must be an underlying issue if you don't live successfully, right? The natural state of things is that you live successfully.

There is a cause and not living successfully is the effect. So what is the cause?

Self-concern seems to be the main cause... But let's look: is it the self, or is it the concern that is the real issue?

It turns out that concern itself is the issue.

Not only self-concern, but any concern.

Concern for world peace also takes you out of living successfully.

Concern for black lives, concern for me-too, concern for the economy

Your concern for who will win this or that

Concern for ending the pandemic takes you out of living successfully

Concern for anything...

How? Why? How does it work? Why will any concern take you out of the flow of life?

My assertion is: concern is counter to living life successfully

I don't like the results that defining gives you, but in this case, because these are opposites, one will define and also distinguish the other.

When I that say one thing isn't (distinguishing)... the other thing, its opposite, must be.

Concern takes you out of the whole. Living successfully must happen in the whole. Concern and living successfully are truly opposites.

Your concern takes you out of the flow, out of the process of life... and, you guessed, living successfully must happen as a process, in the flow.

Concern is a fixation, and life doesn't handle well any part of it to be fixated... it considers it a blockage, and rushes up against it. Blockage is the cause of death...

Therefore you feel that life is attacking you. You are unaware that you yourself caused the conflict.. Because of this lack of awareness you get even more concerned... tighter fixated... ever tighter.

Watch this short video with Amy and Arnold Mindell, amazing psychologists... 2 minutes. Explaining process, the process, the flow of life.

https://evp-50116959de4b9-dd521b5ed563ee25508422182c681a30.s3.us-east-1.amazonaws.com/process.mp4

I am observing students as they go from 30% to 70% to 91% to 100% concerned, completely unaware of the inner workings of concern, so they don't even attempt to release it.

My theory is that there is a misunderstanding of reality, misunderstanding of life that is underneath it. In other words, a faulty worldview.

Life is a process. Reality is a process. Nothing and none of it is fixed. All of it is in movement, all of it is changing. Even when to the unseeing it looks fixed, even when for the person who lives in their mind it looks unchanged.

The only permanent rule in this universe is IMPERMANENCE. The only constant in life is change.

I now ask the question: to what degree does concern block their ability to be in the flow. In addition to of asking: what is their about-me score, which is a measure of their self-concern or their lack of humility, their inability to see reality, and measure it in measure 37.

To what degree does concern block your ability to be in the flow?

You see, nothing is certain about you, nothing that is part of you. Your name, your date of birth is not part of you... and therefore they remain the same. But your heart rate, your intelligence, and your blockages are changing, moment to moment.

Unless, of course, you fixate on them.

It seems that the higher the concern, the more you tend to be stupid, or blind, or self-promoting... the harder you try to be different than you are.

This article is from 2012... but it connects to self-image, so it is evergreen and timely.

I know, I know, I haven't been writing as many articles as before.

Have I dried up? I don't think so.

So why have I been so quiet?

You deserve to know.

In the beginning of May (2012) I asked for and was given the tool to give people a tool to energize their water.

When you drink water that energizes your body, when you drink water that returns, each time you drink it, some of your cells to their normal state, your life becomes more consistent with life than with death.

The Dark Forces, whoever they are, 'got wind of it' fast, and they started to pummel me with all kinds of destructive energies.

I am not quite sure what it is about water that pisses them off so much, but it does.

My sites got shot down, my servers got attacked, my webinars were attacked, my person was attacked.

Then they went straight for my water.

I can take it, but it's a lot of storm to weather, lots of time to repair the damage, no matter how well I am.

And when a week or so ago I started to work with my students on the distinction of love and what an activator must have to make it available for the first time for humanity, all hell broke loose.

The enemy, the antithesis of love is self-concern.

So the Dark Forces, smart people as they are, did the unthinkable: they started to broadcast worry, grief, anxiety, sadness, and fear, to me and to my students.

As far as I can tell, their aim is precise. I don't see or hear it effecting the general population the same way as it's been effecting us, the handful of brave pathfinders.

The main suggestion of these feelings is to just quit. Quit trying, quit living. Just hide...

I can't seem to find in History incidents like this before, but I am sure there have been. Where despair, sadness, a general sense of doom and worry squash even hopes.

All these feelings counter love, counter joy, counter genuine happiness.

There is no expanding human being, the Original Design type of man with these feelings dominating.

These feelings are like the poison that stunts growth. They rain on your parade. The gloom and doom the Dark Forces have crated to enslave all of humanity.

So, while this is happening and I need to take care of myself and my students, so we can be well, regardless, I have been reading feverishly on what we can do to not just recover but to triumph over or maybe even use the dark energies to grow.

The technique we are experimenting is the technique of magicians.

Of course there is no magic in it, no magic, no supernatural, but it sure works as if there were.

The secret is to alter perceived reality.

Altering reality is not supernatural, because we don't actually alter the real reality, only the perception reality.

Human beings, given that we only have a limited perception of the world around us, we live in a perception reality.

That fact is actually what causes the most trouble among people: people look at the same thing and see different things.

What we are willing and able to see is what is called our worldview. It is but a 1% of what's there.

Having an inflexible worldview (or view of reality) is why people live in a repetitious, predictable world: their lives seem scripted, dull, and uninteresting.

Now, please observe your reaction to what I am saying here: if you think: bs, then your basic ability and willingness to grow and shift and change your worldview is missing.

You can stop reading here: you'll hate it, don't tell me I didn't warn you.

On the other hand,

'They' don't just talk much about your desire, to whip it up, about your why, and about goals, they also talk an awful lot about your self-image. They want you to create a self-image that is like god... perfect... flawless... blah blah blah.

Oh, and they call it self-esteem.

Esteem or estimating is guessing the value of something. Underestimating, overestimating... But value is not real. It always in the eye of the beholder. It's not intrinsic to the subject.

They suggest that overestimating your value will be good for you. Bah humbug.

What they don't say, because it is in the invisible, therefore they cannot see it, is that your self-image is like a two-sided coin. Two sides, one body...

One side is some version of worthless, created by an early incident.

Self-image is how you see yourself, moment to moment.

If you have people around you, then they, like a mirror, tell you what they see, how they see you. With their words, with their actions.

You, instinctively, pay attention to disapproval signs... it is innate to do so. And over time you gather enough of those, and the result is a self-image of worthless, or some version of that, by age 3.

Another way to see yourself is from the inside, or through an actual mirror, or as in Narcissus' case a body of water. You see yourself as beautiful, priceless, prince, god, princess.

Yet another version of self-image is a fix.

You did something that brought in praise, or laughter, or smiles, and then...

...you decided: that is the way to beat worthless.

But unless you consider all three versions of self-image an opinion, you'll be stuck on the hamster wheel of the worthless and its fix.

You, me, everyone.

It is a machine we are born into... and it won't let you go.

I am, for example, worthless and therefore I am always on borrowed time. (there is always a therefore!!!) This is why I am always prepared to die... have been doing it, annoying everyone, for 75 years. It's like hypochondria, not more attractive than that, and also not more pleasant to have it.

You may have been trying to compensate for being worthless by being funny... or more likely forcing being funny. Many comedians cover up misery and low self-worth with fun and humor.

Or was it important that you are trying to be?

Or maybe your 'winning method' is being seductive. Seducing people to give you worth, to see you are worthwhile.

Smart, educated, sophisticated, commanding, or alternatively, submissive, appearing weak, confused, kind, loving, caring also are tools to win in changing your image to more favorable in other people's eyes.

So what can you do so you can have more than just a thing and its opposite?

What can you do so you can be free to be yourself, warts and all, and have a fully self-expressed life?

Big question, and slim pickings in answers.

The other day we looked at that, and I suggested that we could make up a new image, and start being true to it.

You see, most misery comes from the gap between what is real and what you imagine. Between what happens and what you expected to happen. Whether it is about you or about other people, about what's happening. About everything.

My story

Some more than 30 years ago I had a magazine. I sold advertising to pay for it, otherwise it was given away for free. Like a lot of websites nowadays.

90% of the income came from arrogant, mafioso type club owners whose clubs showed partially dressed women dancing... aka gentlemen's clubs. And of course, by the nature of that business, they were all nasty bastards.

They gave me checks on closed accounts, they promised and lied...

So one day I decided (listen up this is what the method is!

Yesterday I was working one-on-one with a client.

I asked her to stick/push her chest out and she didn't know what to do.

After watching this video I see that her thoracic spine isn't flexible enough.

So this is a somewhat disappointing thought, but if someone wants to activate the power, they will need to make their spines more flexible... or they are sh!t out of luck.

Here is a video of a trainer showing how to push your chest out...

https://evp-50116959de4b9-dd521b5ed563ee25508422182c681a30.s3.us-east-1.amazonaws.com/STICK-YOUR-CHEST-OUT.mp4

Can't do it? Then you need to train your spine, so it becomes limber again.

The wave cannot go through the spine if it is not flexible enough. The wave is what turns on the three power switches...

If you don't specifically address the flexibility of the spine, then by now it is probably stiff... And that is how most chiropractors make so much money.

Had I known what I know now, I would have saved a hundred grands and hundreds of hours a year for 30 years.

I am 75, and finally I don't need a chiropractor, my spine is as flexible as that of a 18 year old... in spite of sitting all day.

My breakthrough came with buying the trueback and using it several times a day.

Backwards and forwards. If you don't know what it means, you probably don't have the trueback.

And with using that I suddenly had access to the switches, and now they are on all the time...

So the moment I notice they are not on, and to me it is obvious, I become miserable, complaining, feeling like a victim, I whip out my trueback and use it for a few days again.

And here is an instructional video on how to use it.

https://evp-50116959de4b9-dd521b5ed563ee25508422182c681a30.s3.us-east-1.amazonaws.com/TrueBack-Instructional-Video.mp4

But honestly, this is not how I use it. I stay on it for 15 seconds max in each direction. Instead I do it several times a day. But it is your choice.

Honestly, if your back is not flexible enough, you won't be able to turn on the wave...

So even just to turn on the intention the trick is in the spine.

I had an interesting and diagnostic experience yesterday

I linked to a page on my old training site in the article. It is free to see that page, but you need to register as a free member. So the link took you to a page said: you need to register.

One person logged in and watched the video. Accidentally or coincidentally, it was the same person who connects successfully and has been for many years. He also had the intention switched on...

The rest said, 'Oh well'.

I said 'Oh well' once in my life, and I am still ashamed of it. It happened 34 years ago.

It was when I gave up my dream to lead Landmark Educations courses for good.

So my readers, by the hoards, say 'oh well' habitually. As a habit, as a 'this is how I live my life, if it takes any action on my part, then f... it.'

No curiosity, no wanting to find out what the heck I am jabbering about... No. Just 'oh well'.

I had a dude email me about two reports I sent out to him eight days ago. He didn't bother to go to his spam folder to see that maybe it got caught in there as spam. No. Instead he assumed that I didn't do the work for him for eight days.

If you ever wanted to know what people with low vibration do, here it is, two examples.

They don't consider that they didn't see everything, that they are making decisions from insufficient data.

If you only hear a small percentage of what I say: that results in insufficient data. You act on it and of course it doesn't work.

By the way the dude who successfully learned to connect to Source has, by now, also learned to activate his intention. Of course, I say. But you don't understand why... Why does he when you don't?

Maybe because he is not as happy as one could be with what is. How his life is going. What he is accomplishing. How he feels about himself and his life.

Maybe that is all he needs. That is all he needs to find and use the tools I offer.

He may be like me in a way. He may not be able to see much future for himself, but not much future is better than sitting on your ass doing nothing... daydreaming about castles in the sky. Because that is what most people do...

If I were allowed only two measures to take of a person, their desire number and their ambition number, I would already know where they are in the continuum between low vibration and high vibration.

Desire is a parasitic energy

Desire uses the mind. And in the cave of the mind you can imagine all kinds of things: it cost you nothing. As you are imagining the good things, you already experiencing them, don't you? And that is the point.

All you had to do is fantasize. No work, no effort, no risk taking is needed. And you can already have what you imagined. In the mind, but in feelings too.

So what will you do what enjoyed what you imagined? Do you know?

You will do nothing... Until your desire is high enough, and then you just go and imagine it again... and like masturbation, it fulfills you somewhat...

What happens to your life? Nothing good. Nothing productive... Maybe you spend too much time on fantasizing. Maybe you spend some of your workday with it, and the quality of your work suffers.

There is a Jewish saying: you dream of eating chocolate, but when you awaken you find your hands only hold the content of the potty... not chocolate.

So yeah. If your desire number is high, I already know who you are, even if your ambition number is somewhat higher than the masses'.

Every MORON teaches you to whip up your desire, to whip up your WHY...

And when you look, they give you the key to the kingdom of hell. Masturbation... not fulfillment.

At a point in my life I had a side-gig of being a sex therapist.

Whatever you want to do, you can do better with intention

Sounds like an advertising, and maybe it is.

An emasculated, disempowered human, of course, can't even fathom that they are 'created' powerful.

When I ask people in my circles if they feel powerful... they don't.

Powerful means: able to make things happen.

Power has measures... in fact vehicles, even computers most important selling point is their power. HP (horse power) or Mherz...

So why are some people powerful, make things happen, fast, and without much fanfare, effort, visible suffering while others aren't?

I say that the difference between powerful and powerless is a set of simple switches. All three are in your spine. All three come with the hardware: your body.

The Delorean of the Back to the Future could be driven as a car that takes you to the grocery store and back. And it can be driven to take you the future or the past... Same vehicle, different user.

Turns out that people think it's the machine.

But even when intention, the switch is on, a person can behave like a garden variety hapless person... so having the switch on is not enough. You need to intend something. Intend to make something happen.

One of my students writes: (I edited it slightly for clarity, she is in Europe)

Hi, Sophie

You know those days when it seems that nothing is working? I had a time like that yesterday and half of today.

Even the switches seemed to have no effect, because I think I didn't switch them. Today I decided to actually do it, not pretend that I do. Not listen to my mood or mind or whatever else is there that I can be jerked by and just do it. Just like I did it before, I know it works and the difference feels from the earth to the sky.

I have energy to do and deal with whatever. This is amazing.

Then I read your article (your articles make more sense now if I read them with the intention on) and something caught my eye. It's not like you didn't say it before, but... you know... I didn't listen...

You said that when something is hard you can have joy, that only if it's something hard for you, then you can get light. If life is not giving you a challenge, then you have to create it for yourself.

I remember doing that in the past, basically I got out of my comfort zone, and when I failed I gave up. Mostly my main focus was on what I did wrong and that I can't do it.

But, now, having permission to fail (and being a loser), I can do whatever...

I have an example and I know it's not the same thing, but somehow seems to be connected.

Today I burned part of the meal I was making for my boy friend. I made the dish again and that was it.

And now, sitting here I am looking at my reaction I am surprised that I forgot about it. I rapidly did the steps to get the smoke out, clean the pan and then cook the dish again.

It wasn't a big deal!

I have taught to many people how to turn the switches on. So it seems that the issue is not with the switch, not with people not knowing how to turn the power on, the issue is people pretending.

Pretending that it doesn't work. Pretending that even with that they are powerless.

I wonder what cost people are unwilling to pay, what payoff they are holding onto. (Payoff is from the racket dynamic.)

I remember in Landmark Education they used to say that people go back to how they used to be, even after being shown for three days what is possible, and what has always been possible.

But why? Because knowing that they could have turned the power on, and live powerfully and they never did... that makes them somehow wrong.

If suddenly they could do what they could never do, then they would, retrospectively wrong.

I finally figured out what it is that attracts me to certain novels, certain movies, certain TV series... and repels me from others. What it is that I am muscletesting.

I am looking for goodness.

But goodness only exists in contrast.

So only the books qualify where the main character has both good and bad and in the struggle, the good wins... Also where the evil is strong, the pull to give up or to give in is strong.

As the Kabbalists say: only if and when you overcome the Opponent that you are good... for the moment.

The harder it is, the more resistance you have from the Opponent, the more light it will get you... just like in a light bulb: the more resistant the filament the more light it gives out with the same voltage.

And the more often you win against the Opponent, against the evil inclination, against whatever it is your soul correction, the more light you get, the higher you go, the higher your vibration.

The pull of complacency, the pull of wanting a smooth life, the pull of 'not so bad' are the enemies of raising your vibration, becoming all you can become.

Of my students who oppose the Opponent the least often, or not at all are the ones who never rise.

Acting counter to your self-concern is the most obvious move to get light.

Kabbalah explains the light as energy, as electricity.

The higher the resistance, the more light is generated.

Same everything else... except the resistance needed.

Of course I know that I am talking to people who have gone to school and yet are uneducated... so I'll explain.

Resistance is like friction... friction generate heat. So the higher the friction, aka resistance, the more light is generated.

It is true for light bulbs. If you still have some incandescent light bulbs, you can observe. the thicker the wire inside the bulb, the lower the wattage... Wattage is consistent with the amount of light the bulb will give out.

In 'spirituality', in LIFE, this is the same.

Activities that are easy will give you very little 'light'... or no light. Light is expressed in both satisfaction and wages.

Students who go against their own grain, against their own evil inclination, against their own Opponent, get more light, and if they do it consistently, they raise their vibration.

It is as simple as that.

One of the secrets I have managed to get, so far, enough light to be well and to be successful, according to my own value system, is all my shortcomings.

Because for me everything is difficult and hard. And when it isn't, by chance, I do what I need to do to make it more challenging, to make it harder.

Because it is true: you can only get light when it's hard. And whether it is hard because life throws something hard at you, or because you pro-actively create challenges for yourself, like I have... it won't matter in the end.

You'll get a lot of light, JOY, a life you love, a life you live powerfully.

And that is what Kabbalah teaches you. The science of getting. A five thousand year tradition of getting. Getting light. Knowledge. Wisdom. Love. Joy. A life you love and you live it powerfully.

When I watch people who got it easy... for whom it took next to nothing to have what they have, there is no joy.

Just like humans cannot appreciate a free lunch, humans cannot appreciate what comes easy.

It is a lot like love: you don't feel it when someone showers love on you. In fact it's annoying. But when YOU love, it is like heaven. Warming, joyful, and suddenly the whole world brightens up.

The same is with everything: if it has taken you a lot of work, hardship, savvy, maybe even sleepless nights, you'll love what you have achieved more.

I had this weird question this morning: what would I miss if I were 'torn' away from 'home'?

I would miss playing Freecell. Maybe I would miss my first cup of tea in the morning. I would miss writing an article. I would miss talking to you.

Citizen Kane missed being young. Sliding down the hill on his sled... the rush of the slide, the freedom of winter, the yelling...

When I look back, leaving a country is a lot like that.

I had snow-sledding in my childhood, but I don't miss it. I had a family, but I don't miss it. But I do miss driving almost on the level of the Danube and seeing the sky reflected in the water... The sky made the Danube blue... even though if you looked from a different angle, you could see that it was dirty... brown.

What would you miss?

When you go away from something you are almost always going towards something. Something new... and there is a road... until you get there.

Today I imagine death like that. Not a void, but a new place... and I feel I am sitting in a train looking out at the fields... on my way.

Does what I would miss strong enough to keep me here?

It is a useful exercise to ask these questions, so you can, maybe, make some changes if there is not enough to keep you playing this game of life.

Are you playing, or are you the ball that life plays with?

Thanksgiving, says life, and you dutifully overeat. Christmas, you dutifully buy the gifts you are supposed to buy. Deck the halls... Life is using you as a ball... Life is having fun. Do you?

There is a brilliant question a psychologist asks women on the verge of wanting a divorce.

She said: Ask yourself this question: When it was the best: was it really good?

When I look at what I miss, I miss what was really good when it was the best. The rest: meh.

But it is really up to you. Even the relationship. Even sex.

If you expect Life, or others to give you something to miss, you won't have anything. What makes something memorable, what makes something worth missing is what YOU put into it.

You could, like me, slide down in the snow, and say 'meh'.

You could, like me, participate in relationship halfway... and say 'meh'.

The quality of your life depends 91% on what you put into it, and only 9% on others, or on the circumstances or what you HAVE.

I know you hate me now. But if your life is not spectacular. And I doubt you would read my articles if it were. It is not spectacular because you put in the 'meh'.

And when you put in 'meh', you get, at best, a 'meh' life. If you put in 'I have to' then you get a life that is drudgery.

There is a huge misunderstanding humanity-wide. That what you GET is what matters.

But because life is energetic, because humans are energetic by design, you only experience the energy of what YOU GIVE. What you get you don't feel. You, maybe, feel your reaction to getting it, but it has nothing to do with the energy you got.

And if I am any way like you: I don't feel love, caring, coming to me. My reaction to what I think is love or caring is at best 'meh', but more often irritation. Huh? Yeah. Irritation.

But when I give love, when I give caring, it feels like heaven. It feels soooo good.

I know, you don't know how to give. Or you are like most people: you feel that if you give you'll have less. You live as if life were a zero sum game... so you withhold, you withhold yourself, your love, your caring, your energy, hoping that that way you'll have something.

And to your utter surprise you are empty, and you FEEL empty.

While I don't. And I am a giver.

A year or so ago I suggested to one of my students that he sets out to make me proud. And promptly he stopped doing what would make him successful,

The other day I wrote about 'It's the system, stupid!' the cause of misery.

The question I am not sure I answered is this: what is this system?

So in yesterday's Friday Podcast, I looked with Bonnie, what is the system, really. The Friday Podcast is a one-on-one coaching. I am the coach, and Bonnie is the coaching client. It is real, not play acting.

And what I saw is that the system is really the seed level of a person, of an organization, of a business. The seed level.

The seed from which everything grows... Everything a person does, thinks, feels come from that seed. Has come and will come...

And regardless of what happens to that person, their experience of life remains the same, as long as the seed remains the same.

It is relatively easy to see what the seed level is: it takes expert questioning, so for an expert it is easy.

Bonnie's seed level is 'I don't have anything to give'

It's the seed level of scarcity. Most people have a version of that seed level, but how it is worded is what will be probably the most important...

Scarcity is the norm for humanity, on this level of evolution, a sense of scarcity.

But scarcity is not real. Scarcity is an interpretation. Just like alone is... tons of people feel alone in a crowd, or at the Thanksgiving dinner table.

Scarcity is a feeling... a feeling of having nothing to give... or not being enough, or not being a match to life, or not being smart enough, pretty enough, loved enough, not belonging, not appreciated, not noticed, not understood, not not not.

All those people who create vision boards, or daydream, or post on reddit think that they can cause abundance... but what they don't know is that unless the seed level changes, they will experience scarcity in the most abundant of circumstances.

Unless someone can connect the seed level mindset, worldview, scarcity with their behavior, feeling, attitude in the present, their actions will be always misdirected. This is what is called: connecting the dots!

Misdirected mostly mean: not get the result they hoped to get.

But what directs the actions in the present? Mirages, I say. Mirages of success, or love, of pleasure, of abundance. And like any 'self-respecting' mirage, they direct the hapless victim to the middle of the desert dying of thirst... OK, not literally, but when we really look, that is what everyone's life seems to be: actions that take them deeper into what they don't want. Scarcity.

So, if you get my drift, you want to find out exactly what is your seed level, and connect the dots... see what actions, what attitudes, what remedial/fixing actions are taking you deeper into the desert.

Without really seeing what is so, being maybe mortified, ashamed, sad, whatever, and yet coming to terms with what you've been producing... that wasn't what you wanted to produce, you can't do anything about your seed level... THE SYSTEM.

How long will it take?

I don't know. It depends, so it is personal.

The most important element is having room for what you don't like, having room for what you don't want.

Room. Space.

Having room means simply that you don't react to it. That you don't resist it, don't try to fix it, don't lie about it, don't pretend it is not true. Not as a conscious act, but as the result of the having room...

And therein lies the difficulty.

---One of my students just managed to make room for stuff she doesn't like... She started 14 months ago.

She learned to turn on her intention eight months ago but didn't actually use it until just now. Muscletest says: the moment she intended to intend, meaning it wasn't just a move she learned from me... instead it was something that she saw as the means to escape miser...

Some people, a few, will know where to look. The rest is clueless.

So why would they be clueless?

Because they can't connect the dots.

What is connecting the dots?

It is seeing the relationship between seemingly unrelated things, seemingly unrelated data.

Seeing what is cause, what is effect...

Well, a poorly constructed system, by necessity, causes a poorly functioning organization, whether it is a life, a relationship, or a business.

And then come the disappointments, the complaints, the arguments, the confusion, and the feeling that no matter what you do, it won't matter.

People who can't connect the dots will NEVER look at the system. Never look at the seed level, the foundation, the ground rules, the setup.

On Monday I had the good fortune to coach three people. All three can't connect the dots. All their issues came from the unseen, the unexamined, clumsily put together 'system'.

These cases are incredibly educational... I am not sure I am allowed to share much, because like a doctor, I am really not allowed to divulge much about people's businesses...

So I'll attempt to tiptoe around the personal details.

Here it goes:

Case #1:

There is a professional contract between my client and her client. The client's client is a restaurant. It is to create a document that will allow the restaurant to expand... and the bank to give a sizeable loan.

The contract is set up poorly. (system!). The issue is that my clients needs to set up a marketing plan that would have a chance to generate more disposable income than the loan.

Because the restaurant has no idea what marketing is, the contract should be, correctly, for a marketing team, the whole plan and its execution... About the same monetary compensation as the desired loan itself... and not a document to dupe the bank.

Which, to me indicates that unless my client becomes a marketing agency, this assignment is committing fraud... and of course she doesn't want to do it.

Marketing agency? Yes. Can she do it? Yes. Is it difficult? Not really. Takes some learning, but not difficult.

The system, the foundation, is flawed... And my client can't win unless she attends to the foundation.

Case #2:

My client is monitoring her employee's performance, and prepares the billing for the services rendered. To her surprise, her employee discounts the service, and even lies that the buyer is an established client.

Turns out that the employee contract my client had her employee sign allows for that.

So the contract gives free reign for the employee to

1. set herself up as the good guy and

2. Shortchange her employer.

The problem is only partially with the employee.

The contract assumes that people are good and their intentions are honorable. But reality doesn't confirm that. In our reality, on our evolutionary stage, humanity is dominated by the desire to receive for the self alone... meaning: unless someone is shortchanged, today's humans are not happy. Ugh.

The contract needs to be re-written where all employees need to present a unified front, and unless they do that, they are at fault. If the employee wants to give part of her share to a customer, as a gift, they can do that. They can do whatever they want with what belongs to them... not what belongs to the company.

I bet no employee would be discounting and covering the difference from their paycheck after the updated contract.

Case #3: This is not a business case... this is a holiday case.

My client needs to visit three families during this week. Her track record is that when she spends any time with any of her family,