When you ask that question, How did you get to be the way you are? people say: my family, my religion, my past, what happened to me.

But maybe not. Maybe what makes you, every moment, the way you are is not the past, but the future you are living into.

What future? The future you decided on back when you were little...

Let me explain:

Here you are, 2-3-4-5-6 years old. Something happened and you are talking to yourself. Maybe it is under the darkness and privacy of your bed. Maybe you are sitting in a corner, snubbed by everybody else. Or maybe you were just slapped by your father.

'OK. I am worthless. But why? What is wrong with me?'

This is what you ask yourself during this period of wondering about...

What happened? How does this work?

At some point, early on, something happened. You saw someone being beaten, maybe killed. Or you were mistreated, told no when you expected a yes, frowned upon. Something maybe not even very significant in the wide scope of things, but you experienced that maybe life is not as safe as you thought it was, and you are not as OK as you thought you were before.

It is what happened. And if that happened, it will happen again.

And as little as you were with a very limited brain, a very limited scope of life, you started wondering about. About the future. About the why... And because little kids are self-centered, you asked: 'what's wrong with me that that happened?'

And later, maybe years later something else happened, and you decided: 'that's it, that is what is wrong with me.'

And you may have had a series of incidents, but the incident with the decision, maybe insignificant by itself, is where your life-script begins, with YOUR DECISION.

Before that time you had questions, after that time you had no questions. You decided, you killed the alternatives, and now you have your answer. No questions, just answers.

You didn't choose to be that... choice is selecting, freely, AFTER CONSIDERATION. No, you had no freedom, you killed the alternatives.

Most of us ends up with a shade of worthless... and its therefore.

The therefore is a consequence... A future.

You are pretty, therefore you don't have to earn anything, it is due to you.

Or you are annoying, therefore you are always left out of everything. You'll be treated as a pariah.

You are stupid and therefore you'll never amount to anything.

Or you are weak, and therefore you will be bullied... unless...

So there is also an unless? Yes. And that comes from the future... The unless.

Your unless is an invention. Whatever is after the therefore is due to happen, unless you something. See that it's a future?

Unless you are seductive, unless you are very very very helpful, unless you convince everyone that you are really really smart. Unless you know the answer even before the question comes up. Ugh. Unless you are the 'make things happen' person of every party. Unless you dress to the nines, and hold yourself as someone important. Or alternatively unless you can crack some jokes that people laugh at.

Your fake, invented identity, invented to fix the future. It doesn't even try to fix the original decision... only the future.

If you are annoying, offering help will not make you not annoying! If you are selfish, being seductive makes you even more selfish. Or if you are stupid, blurting out the wrong answers will not make you sound smart, on the contrary.

An eager beaver is useful but annoying. Annoying because the behavior makes everyone feel like they are less... Being an eager beaver is a version of superiority.

So is being helpful, being smart, dressing to the nines, having an air of importance,

We used to think that if we invented ourselves as something great, we could be great.

In essence, that is what we thought Landmark Education was teaching, and maybe on some level they did.

The formula was 'Invent a possibility for yourself and your life... so you would say: I am the possibility of being smart (whatever)...'

But what our ego heard is this is how to fix our puny, worthless self, and we either said 'nah, can't do it!' or we got again entangled in the fixing cycle...

I have a couple of students who are disproportionately selfish.

So what would happen if they took on owning that they are selfish. If they took on the context, the self-image of 'I am selfish'.

Are you expecting a surprise? You didn't? You should have...

Here is what would happen: suddenly they would be selfish, but not entitled.

They would be selfish, but not slighted.

They would be selfish, as in 'I want that!' instead of making everyone wrong for not giving it to them.

You see, when you are trying to hide selfish, you put the blame on the environment... and start to behave as if it were their fault... not yours, not your not doing what it takes, but theirs.

Here is another one... bed news/fix combo.

The guy said: you didn't try hard enough... or that is how SHE remembers it.

What she made up as a fix is to be always the one who jumps in and get things done... without thinking, without a plan. Jumping into the pool without looking first if there is water in the pool or not.

Her entire history is a consequence of this behavior. Jumping into action without fully understanding the situation. Jumping in with answers, jumping in with fixes, jumping in with eagerness.

She took over her husband's failing business. A business that had no liquid assets but owed millions to its suppliers.

You can see the jumping into the empty pool syndrome, can't you?

She buys every product I put out. She never considers anything before she clicks the buy button.

Or: She listens to me as if I were god, takes notes, and never considers what I meant, what it means to her.

And, of course she has an answer before she even hears the question.

And the third example I'd like you to look at is this:

The bad news was that she may be bad... Or maybe she was bad. It got never clarified.

The fix: make everyone worse she isn't that bad in comparison.

She has no skills, no accomplishments, nothing to be proud of. But in comparison she is better... So of course she became a counselor, a career advisor.

So she can do officially what her fix is: smarter than anyone. Be the one to tell everyone what to do.

While she is doing nothing, but especially she does nothing well.

In tomorrow's workshop

In tomorrow's workshop we'll look at your situation and endeavor to find your seed level 'bad news' and see that you can own it.

The results will show up in unintentional behavior change. If behavior change comes from effort, you are not owning what owns you.

Unbeknownst to you an inner change happens, where you go from victim to perpetrator... because you are. And your results in life come from the perpetration... so they are not all they could be.

This is how it works in the invisible. If you are looking in the visible, trying to make things happen in the visible, then it didn't work... you unearthed the seed before it could have germinated. Your ego won, but you lost.

If you would like to give it a shot, come to tomorrow's workshop.

Schedule about 3 hours... we'll stay until everyone's issue gets handled.

Remove the fixit mechanism, so you can be yourself

Without great love you can't have hate.

And without great love you can't have courage.

Most of my clients, and I suppose most people are cold fish. The don't feel deeply, there is no great love and there is no great hate in them.

Are the people who are 'pro-life' lovers of life, and haters of death? No, they have no love in their hearts, therefore the hate they espouse is fake. They just want to be right.

The enemy of love is indifference. And the enemy of hate is indifference.

And what allowed for every single evil to happen in the world is indifference.

So I am weeping.

I find myself at the same place a one time teacher of mine found herself: people are indifferent. Indifferent and therefore they are supportive of evil.

So-called 'good people', who do nothing, say nothing.

I have read 1984. It was a good but uncomfortable read. I tried to watch the movie... And watching that made it clear to me, that the horror of that utopia became only possible because people did nothing.

And the ones who did, the mighty few, were killed, or re-educated...

I said for decades that the biggest issue of humanity is courage-deficiency.

But maybe I was mistaken. Maybe the biggest issue of humanity is that they love nothing and nothing. Maybe they come from the same place... Courage deficiency and no love. NO LOVE? NO COURAGE!

They may say: I hate that I am blah blah blah, or I hate that I can't... but that is personal hate. It is the ego that hates, not YOU.

You are not your ego. Not your feelings. Not what has happened to you. You are you, and if you have no strong feelings you don't feel alive, you are dead as a door nail... whatever that is... door nail. Once alive, useful, but used up and make useless... i.e. dead.

What killed the door nail?

How did everything become personal? And unless it is about you, you just don't care.

If it doesn't make you look bad...

If it doesn't make you feel bad...

then it's OK... who cares.

So I googled: What makes people only care about themselves?

Google says that it's part of the narcissistic personality disorder.

Did people's narcissistic tendencies get higher historically?

Muscletest say: yes.

When Hillel suggested that you ask 2400 years ago: If am I only for myself, who am I?

This tendency then was 10%

Today the narcissistic tendency averages at 50%.

Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them. People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others.

We could say that it's an epidemic.

What are the 4 types of narcissism?

As a personality trait, narcissism can be overt, covert, antagonistic, communal, or malignant.

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Researchers and experts typically work around five types of narcissism:

overt narcissism.

covert narcissism.

antagonistic narcissism.

communal narcissism.

malignant narcissism.

How does a narcissist argue?

Ridiculing you. Judging you. Those who live with narcissism may find it difficult to hold positive and negative feelings for someone at the same time. As a result, things may get heated in an argument. You may experience insults, put-downs, and even mocking behaviors, like laughing as you express hurt.

People who live in the right/wrong, systemic judgment paradigm are higher on the narcissistic scale.

From my point of view: can a narcissist change?

According to muscletest empathy is a willingness to feel. Not what many 'expert' websites say...

You live a sheltered life. Either restricted to a small area of the world physically, or to a small area of the world experientially.

So you, just like your cone of vision would predict, have a very narrow slice of reality (the pizza pie) ever seen, heard of, played in, experienced.

One of my 67 step coaching clients says in her reports, on average 10 times each report 'Wow! I have never thought of that'. 'I have never considered that'. 'Hm, I’ve never heard that before'.

Each time she says that her slice of pizza becomes just a little bit bigger.

The size of that slice, the slice that you know that you know is going to be instrumental to living a life you love, a life you live powerfully.

Through about a 100 principles, stories, the 67 step coaching program takes you out of your tiny slice of heaven or hell, and gives you elbow room to play bigger. Better. With more understanding, with more awareness, with more success.

And like a good book that is worth reading, the series of audios is worth listening and pondering about many times... until you can TEACH it.

I myself did listen to all 67 audios for three and a half years, and the only reason I stopped, because I started to do the same with another audio, 'The Art of Hunting Humans'.

People who enlarge their world enough cannot be duped, not by others, not by their 'little voice'...

If you do the program the way it is meant to be done you become the kind of person who can be coached, because life will occur to you as a opportunity, and you to yourself:

Like a musical instrument you can tune.

So what is the way to do the program that gets you that result:

you allow each audio to take you around and show you life and principles in an area of life...

You map what you hear. The principles, map them on your life, on your knowledge, on your experience, on your memes to allow the new knowledge to see them differently (this is the most important step, see below 'clumps'.)

You get into the habit of reading things worth reading, and read a lot. All that may prepare you to be coached.

How not to do it:

I never would have thought, but it is possible to do anything like it's homework. It 'needs to' get done. You 'have to' do it.

The goal is to get it over with.

There is a fallacy, a mistaken belief that it will work without you working it. Even in AA they say: it works if you work it! Meaning: not by itself.

It's the same with everything. Classes, books, private coaching. It doesn't work by itself. Without you 'working it' nothing works.

If you are one of the people who has that belief, even if only to some degree, and most do, you have never gotten to the level where you are actually coachable.

That is the curse of a coach. Therapist's interest is different. They just want you to feel better enough so you come back for another session where you can feel better... again.

But I am not a therapist, and using me as such is misusing me...

Back to the program: at a certain point, and that is different for everyone, you start to feel an uplifting energy, a sudden desire to DO SOMETHING.

The program has given you many of the tools you can use to become worth a damn.

Knowledge won't make you worth a damn... you need to use that knowledge for something that creates value... i.e. is productive.

It is when you use that newfound knowledge for something that makes something. That making, the process, gives you satisfaction and fulfillment. That newfound satisfaction and fulfillment allows for your relationships to work, time to enjoy and maintain good health and vigor.

This program is not business coaching.

It is not health coaching.

It is not relationship coaching.

don't forget that Alex is a money/business guy. so he will almost always focus on the money. But happiness, health, satisfaction, love can be substituted wherever he talks about money

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1. You make better decisions and you learn more by assuming that you're dumber than everyone else.

the reason this was something that took me a long time to learn is that when I was in college it was all about showing how smart you were.

It was about talking more in the group meetings. About raising your hand more in the classroom.

I took that and started translating in the real world and I realized that I didn't learn very much. Because I was the one talking all the time. And it only took a few times of me getting introduced to somebody. Someone would introduce us. And I would basically spend the whole time blabbering on about how great I was and how much I knew, only to find out later that this person was way above me in business and whatever things that I was pursuing at the time.

And then I felt tons of Shame and embarrassment about how stupid I was for doing that.

I had to shift the way that I talked to new people and the way that I entered rooms.

And I'll be real, I still talked probably too much, but at least being aware of that lesson as early as I could. I wish I had learned it earlier.

Fundamentally you can't learn if you're talking and so if you're trying to learn then not talking is the first requisite for doing that.

And if you want to make better decisions than you need to learn. This was a big Epiphany I had.

I got introduced once to somebody I was walking peripherally after I had left. And somebody else went up to them and asked do you know who that guy is? and in that moment I realized that my positioning was now Sky High because I didn't have to be the one to say it.

The idea that I realized was how can I get other people to edify me. Because what I had to allow people to do was to make the same mistake that I used to make.

Which is that someone young someone inexperienced someone less aware whatever would come up and then start posturing themselves and blathering on about everything that they're doing. and me I might be way ahead of them but

But I would listen and see if there's anything interesting. and so in that conversation I learned more than they did.

I learned what type of person they are.

I learned where they're at with their career.

If they had anything interesting that would be worth following up with.

They learned nothing. They felt good about themselves and then later would feel bad about themselves when that other person went over and told them and so I was like: of these two scenarios which would I rather do? Would I rather have someone have a conversation with me and then not know who I was, but be able to learn. because that's the worst case scenario. Or would I rather blather on, learn nothing.

Either I am above them and then they're like well shit that guy he brags or I'm below them and I'm the shit so I stopped doing that so that was lesson number one

2. Respect to be earned is one's own

What I realized and this was something that was really hard for me, is that I had a pretty bad reputation in the very beginning of my college career. in all of my high school career. and it was because I drank too much. I was irresponsible. I slept around a lot. and I wasn't representing the tempers that I wanted to be. and so I felt ashamed of the behaviors that I did but I didn't change them.

And so it was only through a conversation I had with my father where I said 'how do I change my reputation how do I get these people to stop saying this stuff?

Santa Klaus's name is Mikulás in Hungary, and of course Mikulas is Saint Nicholas, and his day is December 6. So today it is gift giving day in Hungary, mostly candy and nuts and red apples... as the song goes... in Hungarian.

When people come to me to have their food list muscletested, they rarely think that the food list will ask them to go back a couple of generations to a time when eating was different: you had to buy ice to have an icebox... You gave away half of your venison, or it would rot on you. You stored up goodwill for other times by sharing when it was plenty.

I am old enough to remember those times.

My favorite candy was burned sugar with nuts... yummm.

You pour sugar in a pan, heat it, when it starts to melt you ad the nuts and you keep the whole thing heating until it becomes brownish...

Caramel is another word for burned sugar...

I think I hadn't tasted real chocolate until 1956. I was nine, and Hungary was attacked from the inside... and we had no food. We lived walking distance from many embassies, including the Austrian embassy, and they were giving out pasta and chocolate. Hadn't eaten pasta, hadn't eaten chocolate.

But we had preserves, among them strawberry preserves. For a reason I can't remember I ate a whole jar and became catatonic from it... My little brother hid in the kitchen cabinet too, he was three, and ate something, so he fell asleep there.

When the shooting came too close for comfort, we all went to the basement.

On November 4, twelve days after the first gunshots... my father came back. His beard grew out, so I didn't recognize him. I fainted from fright when I opened the door and this man with hair on his face was standing there.

When it all calmed down, school re-started.

There was a big change: suddenly there was a class: Religion.

Most of Hungary is Catholic. I stood up at the beginning of the class and excused myself. Roamed the empty halls and felt hate for them and sorry for myself.

Yeah, that was a long time ago. As vivid as if it were today.

I am Jewish. Not because I really know what that means... but I have a concept... an identity, a self-image. A sense of belonging stronger than family, stronger than country.

I made up, probably, that being a Jew means that I am kinda chosen... Chosen to strive to become exceptional to deserve to have been chosen.

So, unlike most people I know who have decided that they are special, my sense, my meaning is to do what makes me deserve that chosenness.

So for me someone who decided that they are special, therefore they don't have to do anything, be anyone, measure up to anything is as alien as Christianity itself. It.makes.no.sense.

Being superior with nothing to back it up? That is being a fraud.

99% of humanity is a fraudster... They have a self-image that is higher than what they have deserved to view themselves. By their actions, by their behavior, by their values, by their whole being.

But it is a lose-lose proposition. That self-image holds you back, because you now allowed to do what would earn you the privilege to view yourself as high as your self-image, because then everyone would know! And to boot, you have impostor syndrome, because you actually KNOW you are lying.

Entire nations of liars, shysters, not just the politicians, doctors, chemists, marketers, money-people.

My hunch is people don't call their politicians on it, because the politician is just like them...

So what is one to do if one is interested in integrity where they can love themselves and they can live a life they love?

One needs to invent something new... something that allows them to have integrity, allows them to grow, allows them to be proud of who they are because they worked for it.

I watched this Belgian three and a half hours of utter 'nothing is happening on the screen' fascinating film.

It was a perfect illustration to many of the things I see, many of thing things I say, many of the things you experience and you don't understand why.

In the very first Forum I participated in in June of 1985, the Forum Leader was screaming as he came down the side steps of the auditorium. He was screaming: You have your shit together! But that is all you have together!

It was weird.

I didn't have my shit together... so I didn't know why he was saying that.

This film showed me exactly what he meant.

You have rules, you have habits, you know what you are doing much of the time.

As long as it goes smoothly, you are OK. Bored but OK. Life is working, so OK. No worries.

But the moment something isn't working, isn't going smoothly, your life goes out of whack, off the rails, and suddenly everything goes wrong.

Yeah, the smooth is an illusion. It is temporary. Like the smooth surface of the lake. Even one raindrop scrambles that surface.

What is natural to do, because scrambled creates fear, fear of death, is you pull in the reins, and try to make even tighter rules...

And then you complain that you are not living, that you don't experience life fully.

When people come to me, they are in that 'I have my shit together' stage in their lives, where life is meaningless, empty, but manageable.

Whatever I have to say is like the rain drop: scrambles it all, and makes it unmanageable.

A skillful manager intentionally causes this scrambling, throwing the monkey wrench into the works where you had your shit together.

So you wake up from your somnambulant 'having your shit together', so you can start, suddenly awake, do what would take you where life is not empty, where you are living fully.

When you have your shit together, you are the kind of person who wonders WTF happened, when something happens.

Remember, there are three kinds of people: people who make things happen, people who watch things happen, and people who wonder WTF happened.

The manager's job is to force you to make things happen.

The 'I have my shit together' is an ess. Evolutionary stable state/strategy... no growth, no joy, no nothing other than survival. Empty, but bearable.

When things fall apart, there is a need, there is scrambling for a new ess...

Depending on the manager, and depending on you, you'll get to a new ess in a few days, and the memory of the monkey wrench is a memory now.

Most of my students are like that. The new ess is just as empty and dead as the previous one. They are like the standup-doll, bounce back... i.e. never reach a new state where they make things happen, and where making things happen is part of the new ess. (1)

Others remain scrambled, and scramble for new rules... and, of course, suffer, because they are not making things happen, and an ess is not happening. (2)

And yet others feel scrambled, but never quite see what would allow them to get better. They remain 'wondering WTF happened'. They have never made things happen, and don't even consider doing that. (3)

There, I mapped out my clients...

Sometimes, occasionally, I stumble onto someone who doesn't quite go back to the 'I have my shit together' state, and therefore can actually grow.

The secret weapon of this person is a strong distaste, a strong dislike of how they are. And because they can momentarily connect the dots, they have a level of clarity that how they are is what causes what they see/do, and what they do causes what they have.

The 'how you are' is your self-image.

Ascension? I mean going to the next level of evolution, to live in the 'Promised Land'.

I am talking about looking deeper with the intention to see what is cause, what is effect.

It is both a habit, to look only at the surface of things. But what stops one to look deeper? What is that creates the habit of no curiosity, and therefore no interest in looking deeper.

Some cultures have developed the habit to ask 'why?' five times... so they get to the root of things. It is, I hear, a Japanese technique... although I don't think it is taught in school, though it should be.

What happens when you ask 'why?' five times? You ITERATIVELY often get to the root cause of an issue, a behavior, an emotion, a reaction.

If we looked at a fruit bearing tree, we would look to see what makes the tree bear better fruits than trees in the same species.

Most people look as far as the branch that holds the leaves and the fruit... Looking deeper we would find the trunk of the tree. Even deeper: the roots. Even deeper we would have the seed, even though it has already died into the soil. And even deeper we would have the soil... that must be different to make the fruit be tastier.

It is a habit to look deeper that the fruit itself.

Whether you want to fruit to be different, or want a different fruit altogether, unless you get to the root, you'll be spinning your wheels.

In reality everything, and I mean when I say EVERYTHING is both a cause and an effect...

And unless you get down and dirty, and in however many steps to get to the root, you'll be an ineffective human, and will suffer a lot of frustration.

Unfortunately deep thinking doesn't qualify someone to teach. And people who teach are, nowadays, people who can talk but can't think. Don't think. Don't want to think. Or if they think, they are shallow thinkers.

So we are all taught by shallow thinkers... i.e. people who don't get to, don't even try to get to the root.

Especially self-claiming gurus... teachers of spirituality, or teachers of self-improvement. Incurious plus intellectually weak people.

People who probably never ask 'why', and settle for some theory that is about as accurate as that children are brought by storks. Or they are from cabbage heads... in some other cultures.

So, as a result a teacher like myself have the situation I find myself in: I try to teach pigs to fly.

I don't mean that my students are pigs. But their propensity to look deep is as natural as pigs' propensity is to flying.

Unless you participated successfully in some education that at least looked to some levels below the visible, you can't even fathom that you could.

Even though in every field this is a must, or should be a must, it seems that even the teachers don't look, or if they do, they don't teach the students to look. They teach them to just passively accept what they are told.

I have two students who, through the discipline they studied and are licensed to practice, have somewhat prepared to do the work that is required if you want to become all you can become.

If.

Who have the intellectual capacity to track the cause-effect chain to closer to the seed level. That at least when I hold their hands they can come with me.

The rest lets go of my hand already at the first imaginary level... and start engaging in fantasy.

Tracking is the code word here. Track what happens when you move a part... what happens as a necessity...

This is easier to demonstrate on the spine.

If you manage to get a correctly constructed skeleton, or the model of the spine (about $30 on Aliexpress, including shipping), you can start getting curious what happens when you move a segment of the spin...

First off, reality always changes... but from our perspective, this is the correct question to ask:

Why does reality SEEM to change when you use different words?

There is reality, that is, at best, a collective hunch. Even what we do seem to see from reality is just isolated fragments, and we don't see their connection to the whole. So reality is an unknown, unknowable entity as of now.

So what we call reality isn't really reality. In fact, depending on the person, it can be as 'unreality' as 100%.

The reality we live in is called 'perceptual reality'. It occurs to be true, it occurs to be reality, but there is a fly in the ointment... There is glitch that hardly anyone talks about.

We cannot perceive what we cannot name. What we don't have words for.

So we diligently interpret everything we seem to see, seem to hear, experience, and in the moment we interpret it, it stops being perceptual reality... and begins being a meaning.

So our 'perceptual reality' really isn't perceptual, so we made up a name for it: occurrence...

And depending on how effective you are in life, it can be 30%-100% made up.

This is where your astuteness shines... Astute means: accurate in naming. Accurate in interpreting.

And humanity's accuracy in naming has arrived to an all-time low: Back 2000 years ago it was 10%. Admittedly less things needed to be named, interpreted, find meaning for, so the accuracy came more from there than humans being smarter. They weren't... But they weren't less smart either. Humanity remained intellectually the same, albeit it seems to me it is getting dumber... but maybe it is only due to being overloaded.

Anyway, what is the source of the seeming change when you change the words?

All words are interpretations. Even words that you use to invent, or words you use as affirmations, they are all interpretations, and the accuracy of the words, the accuracy of you matching the words to feelings, behaviors, is crucial.

This is where the most mischief happens when you want to 'declare' something you want... but you have only a vague concept of what you are talking about.

Unfortunately.

This is where the 'famous' sayings from the est training, or the Forum are most valid: you don't know your ass from a hole in the ground. For you everything is the same as everything else.

Because unless you know exactly what you are talking about, and it is exactly what you mean, your affirmation, or your invented anything will be ineffective to change what you see, to change anything.

Here is an example of accurate and inaccurate language, what you REALLY mean looks:

I invented for myself to be stupid... AFTER I'd observed a number of very successful, very rich businessmen, who were actually quite stupid in my view. Stupid as in not witty, not knowing much, not cultured, not educated, not using big words. I had no idea about their intellectual ability, how could I? But to me, an educated white chick, they seemed stupid.

So the stupid I invented is someone who doesn't have to look smart to become successful. Someone who can make a mistake, and not be devastated.

My previous identity was 'brilliant' and I was not successful. I dazzled people or I bored people. People didn't want to hang out with me, because being with me was like being at a university lecture... not fun.

But stupid didn't stop me from being overwhelmingly intellectual, it only excused me from being mortified when I made a mistake, or even being afraid to make a mistake. But my conversations were still a lot like a university lecture... so I continued to have no friends.

So next I invented being a bumbling idiot.

And idiot savant, more precisely.

Yesterday I was on a health consult call... and I enjoyed it. I felt a lot of permission to be myself.  And as a result I gave the dude more than I normally give, not much worrying how much he gets. I was just in the zone.

And I learn something that can revolutionize what I teach... among other things. I'll listen to the call and cut out part that I think are revolutionary or new, and either sell them, or just post them, have to hear them again to decide.

It was when the dude (really the client, but I'll just talk about him as 'dude', no disrespect is meant... just lightness.)

So when the dude mentioned that he regularly muscletested I asked him to turn on the eye switch. And when he did, his tangerine spot lit up.

Holly cow, THAT I'd never realized, never noticed before...

So in essence, unaware of what the heck I was doing, back in 2012, I taught people to turn on all four switches.

And switches have the tendency to stay on quite some time, the eye switch turned on stays on for an hour, so I guess all the switches stay on for about an hour.

So it wasn't the method that failed. It was people who didn't use it, didn't intent to use it, just wanted to experience it while on the call.

I tend to be dismayed by that...

'when your actions align with the truth of reality, things flow'

I found that half-sentence on a 'kismet' site... very interesting. Interesting because we don't have much access to the truth of reality. So we, humans, interact with the mirages, the myths, the shadows of reality, never even considering that the reality is different from what we fancy we see.

So the 'gods' smiled at me but how were my actions aligned with the truth of reality?

On the surface they weren't. Ultimately I had a way to teach intention that was... ahem... not quite how it is done really. So one could claim that my actions weren't aligned with the truth of reality, so the 'gods' should frown.

But, although it is counter intuitive, 'gods' like people who take imperfect actions, because

only objects in motion can be redirected.

And I was in action, so I could be redirected. And that is exactly what happened.

And now the whole picture of how to turn the switches on and start living the majority of time on the vertical plane has been revealed. To me.

Now comes a very important question I'll attempt to answer:

Can you carry your horizontal plane behavior, world-view, self-image to the vertical plane?

Let's look at it through an example that may be easier to visualize: You have a river you need to cross to get to the Promised Land. Like Moses in the Bible: the Promised Land is on the other shores of the Jordan River...

And Moses got stuck on the 'wrong' side of the river.

He got stuck because 'god' said he ... Oops, whatever he said he did, or was, or had. Not part of this discussion.

So let's imagine that you are on the Jordan side where Moses was, and you desperately want an easier life, a better life, you want to be a better person.

The dinghy, that is a small vessel able to carry one person as a passenger and one person who rows... the pilot...

Is there room for your bulky worldview that is counter to the truth of reality? Your self-image that is counter to the truth of reality? Your behavior that is counter to the truth of reality?

For example, if your worldview is that things should just happen to you, without you putting yourself at risk by working towards them, then the answer is: probably not.

Like the woman in the very beginning of the book Psycho Cybernetics, the woman who had the nose reshaping surgery, you would continue seeing what you have always seen.