When you come from a fixed place, a fixed worldview, a fixed 'IS' then of course you are going to look for the answer... a fixed thing... that will match what your worldview is, completely.

But unfortunately to you there is no 'the right answer', the perfect match... because everything in reality depends on everything else.

It is a lot like a jigsaw puzzle where each puzzle piece is a jigsaw puzzle itself.

So it is no wonder that most people never amount to much if anything, if their thinking is that there is a silver bullet, and answer, that solves everything.

There isn't.

But when I work with people, when I look at their numbers, their numbers show an eerie consistency with their thinking.

The more they are willing to engage with a world that is infinitely complex and yet it has a deep simplicity, the higher their numbers and the more effective they are in managing their lives.

This puzzle is infinitely complex and yet simple

Raising your numbers, raising your consciousness, raising your integrity, inventing yourself anew are all part of this infinitely complex and yet simple puzzle.

It is impossible to get traction if you can't handle the complexity, AND if you can't see the simplicity, if you cannot connect the dots.

I have been working on this issue for about ten years. I see both dimensions more fully, both the complexity and the simplicity.

In today's article I'll speak to both... in a bits and pieces type of article... I hope you'll enjoy it no matter where you are on the evolutionary scale.

OK. Puzzle piece 1: Responsibility. Taking, declaring ownership over what you say, what you do, and your relationship to it.

Obviously a lot to look at, both in the present and in the past. What owns what you say, what you do, and your relationship to it... now. Where did it come from. What decisions you made about the world, yourself, life... and what did you say: 'therefore the way to win in life is...'

It is one thing to see that you decided how the world is... and quite another to see that it was your 'the answer' of the simpleminded... 'the truth' of the simpleton.

And you may even see that for the three year old child that was totally normal, and fit well with their undeveloped brain... but to bring it to 30-40-50-60 year old you is quite another thing.

Not normal, even if 99.99% of all humans did that.

Not long ago I was teaching some questions that can trigger responsibility, ownership... It fizzled out. People took it as 'the answer' and it was not as satisfying as they expected 'the answer' to be: it didn't solve any problems.

They could not see that nothing solves your problems: you do. Not something. What you see, what you say, what you do as a result of seeing it.

No one, not even one of my students considers themselves as cause, even after I turn their 'responsibility gene' on, and keep it on, by turning it on and turning it on.

It seems that responsibility needs a willingness to cause... instead of being an effect, assigning cause to things... even ideas.

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Seeing the forest for the trees

Werner at an event video 1:30:00

https://youtu.be/mahAeGpktdA?t=5305

The important thing that Werner says in this clip is this: you made all the things up, the things, ideas, worldview about you and others... you made that all up. And if you made that all up, you can change it if you want to.

What does that mean?

You see, everyone had a situation, a moment of rude awakening in their life, most at age 3, when children first experience that they are separate from their parents, where the first inkling of self appears to them.

And in that incident something happens that is not to their liking....

How you look at today comes from a worldview that you created for yourself at or around 3 year old age.

You can go and learn anything, philosophy, theology, Marxism, and yet, at the root of your worldview, the way you look at everything was created by an upset 3-year old.

At age 3, with very rare exceptions, we are all, when I compare you to an adult, dumb.

Even geniuses, like the little boy who played chess... emotionally, even these young geniuses are little kids... no sign of mature sensibilities.

In the novel, Sense and Sensibility, the younger, overexcited sister, even at age 16 is emotionally immature.

Emotional maturity is being able to see reality independent of one's desire.

Ohoo... that means that most everyone is emotionally immature, doesn't it? Hell yeah, that is exactly what it means.

But why?

Because that early incident when you created your worldview never got resolved.

What happened in that early incident is that either

You wanted something and it wasn't given to you (thwarted intention),

You expected something and something else happened (unfulfilled expectation)

Somehow you could not be yourself and be accepted (undelivered communication?)

The worldview that was built on the top of this upsetting circumstance is now how you live... against this never distinguished, never analyzed backdrop... aka context.

The first gives you the worldview that 'I can never get what I want'

The second gives you that 'what I want should happen automatically, without me having to do anything for it'

And the third says that 'I can never be myself.' That 'I have to mold myself, discipline myself to be able to be acceptable, but that is all I can hope for.'

So what is there to do? What CAN you do?

Even though I learned 30% of my methodology from Landmark, and 10% from Kabbalah, neither of them have EVER succeeded dislodging that worldview so the person (1) can have freedom, and room to be ANYTHING. (2) Do what needs to be done. (3) Be who they are.

I lead only experimental workshops. Even my one-on-one calls are experimental.

Experimental means: I don't know, going in, what to do to take the client, the student, to the Promised Land... whatever that means to them.

I go where the conversation takes me.

Recently we have been going where no man has gone before... (Star Trek anyone?)

And some 'useless' tools suddenly become useful, like the three categories of upset... from Landmark.

In the Landmark seminar where I learned it... there it was used to dissipate upset... But it never touched the roots, the seed level... so it was a temporary salve...

And when nothing changes... nothing changes.

Now, truth be told, we, this group and me, have been trying to look at the original incident from left, right and center... And so far we have been unsuccessful, or largely unsuccessful at changing the seed level: the decision.

The worldview.

The person with the particular worldview can rarely see themselves... I am the teacher and I have been sitting here for some time, guessing which one is mine.

Your worldview is hidden from you... like a blue drone would be invisible in the blue sky...

That is why it is silly to hope that reading an article can give you what you need...

Anyway, it is your life, what do I care...

The art is to be able to look at what is happening from a different angle without taking the mind to that new vantage point with the eyes.

The mind is what we call 'backdrop' in this work: it is more visually, kinesthetically accessible.

The DNA capacity that allows that is the Driftwood capacity,

In life, you have as much room to be as your environment grants you.

Room as in elbow room...

The environment you are in, at home, at work, at the pub, at the club, in the community van...

My brother has a lot of room to be when he is with his friends.

Then he is funny, he is smart, maybe even glib... that is the only place anywhere he has some room to be. Maybe he had room to be at work... he is retired now. Everywhere else he is under the 'thumb' of someone... under the tyranny of someone when he should be different, do different... never OK, never enough, never the one...

Except maybe his grandkids? they still adore him? for how long?

I left Hungary to have more room to be someone more than who I felt the environment allowed me there to be.

You marry someone with the hopes that they will grant you being... but this doesn't work out. People marry for their own reasons not yours... They married you to fulfill their own agendas.

Living life with people is an obstacle course, and communication is key.

Everything can be resolved in communication... but none of us know how to communicate. We talk. But communicate? We don't.

So it is not surprising that if we cannot communicate with a fellow human with whom we supposedly share a language and maybe our bed, we also can't communicate with our cat.

I can teach you a thing or two about the moves in communication with people

I can also promise that everything can be resolved in communication...

And I am almost certain that what you think is communication isn't.

I had cats for 20 years. And I never learned to communicate with most of them... except maybe the first male cat I had: we had a non-verbal connection...

I have no cats now, but I still love cats.

They may not love me though... just like people may not love you, like you, tolerate you... and it is you who is at fault.

Of course, no communication will change the fact that if you have a cat, they run the household. But for many that is no problem.

If you want to get along with your kitties or kitty, (or people) learn their language so you can have a happier relationship.

Most people are unaware, unconscious, or just simply don't care about the feedback they get. Most of my clients are that way... no adjustment, no awareness, no improvement... They are locked into 'I am this way and this is the right way to be' mode... and thus they are inflexible... not liked, and not successful.

From time to time I manage to get through to a client and tweak their behavior or communication. The resistance is tremendous. More often than not I need at least an hour conversation for them to relent and at least try.

Everything you ever wanted comes from other people. And therefore communication is the most determinant of what you get in life: the quality of your life.

But For some reason, it is communication that gets the least of our energy

Even though it is 90% determinant of the quality of our lives and actions.

The 80/20 rule

Vilfredo Pareto, an engineer, observed that 20 percent of our efforts produce 80% of our results.

Effective communication produces an even higher percentage of the results; it's 90%.

But like with nearly everything, your instincts say the opposite of what would work. The polar opposite.

So you do the unimportant and ineffective 90% of the time... with no results or meager results.

You listen to your instincts and you lose.

It takes courage to swim against the tide. To communicate. Even with your cat... lol.

Why is communication so effective? Because we live in a word-based world, and words create worlds...

and words create context for everything.

I look at my dreams as guidance.

Now, you need to know that I almost never dream a whole story... I dream moods. Some situations.

Last night I dreamed about going back to Israel, meeting people I had known, experiencing their attitude towards me. Wasn't pleasant.

And just before I woke up I was shown the theme I am going to write about.

You see, everyone wants to know what they are supposed to have as a purpose to their lives. Even some students, inexplicably ask this question after years of studying with me. Boggles the mind.

The answer to the questions is simple. Ask a better question.

A better question would be how to live life that it's enjoyable, fulfilling and financially rewarding at the same time.

That question has a lot of potential.

And the answers can be learned to follow, one at a time, until you get to the enjoyable, fulfilling and financially rewarding life.

No one profession will answer that question... not even a field...

So, let's look at some principles that if you faithfully follow them, by surrendering to them, you'll become that rare happy person. Shall we?

Principle #1: nothing that is easy is fulfilling. Maybe filling... as in fattening, but not fulfilling.

In fact, most depression, most blah comes from living an easy, comfortable, unchallenging life. It brings with it the feeling 'Is this all there is?'

Life wants more life... and can only have more life through MEETING challenges.

Anything that feels good in the beginning will be unfulfilling on the long run.

A thing that is easy to do, easy to get, will be unfulfilling.

Anything that doesn't show resistance, especially in the beginning, will be unfulfilling.

Anything where you don't need to work to get the result will be unfulfilling.

And all these will leave you and your life feeling empty.

The issue with this principle is your TLB score.

Your TLB score, your Twitchy Little Bastard score tells me how much unpleasant, difficult, challenging thing you are willing to wade through.

At present 93% of people who ask me to measure their TLB score is a TLB 1, which means they are not happy, they are not fulfilled, and their lives feel empty.

It also means that I most likely won't be able to make a difference for them. They will not do what they need to do to get the results they seek, because they are unwilling to go through the difficult.

Interestingly, a TLB 2 person is not twice as willing; they are 10 times more willing.

You can raise your TLB score by voluntarily challenging yourself. In all or any area of life. Taste, food choices, reading hard stuff, learning a new language, learning a new musical instrument, going to bed at the same time, getting up at the same time, saying no, etc. Lots of ways you are a putz... so lots of ways you can get your TLB score higher.

TLB 1 is a putz... Busy getting nowhere.

What is underneath a low TLB is a worldview that you should always get, GET what you want. Without doing anything, even if the thing you want belongs to another person.

Principle #2: come from your strength. Now, this sounds easy, but it isn't.

I had a call yesterday with a student who's been stuck. TLB 4, by the way.

In the call it has become clear that people in his life, at least in his experience, have forced him to be different than he is.

He is kinesthetic... meaning he naturally lives on the Tree of Life.

But our culture, education, other people live on the Tree of Knowledge, where being swift, getting things fast (wrongly, by the way) and blurting out wrong answers really fast is the way to be a winner.

One of my students got offended when I suggested that she does her homework instead of having excuses. She left and she stopped visiting my site... I felt the 'F... you' from her... When I asked if she was angry, she said... 'No, I just need to grow thicker skin...' Her health number is 7%.

One of my students took two years to finally get employment. In her last job she felt judged... for being different. She is Chinese in a predominantly White country. Once I adjusted her diet... she is flying. She went from 10% to 50% in her health number.

Another student is judgmental and doesn't listen. She lives in systemic judgment of black OR white... even in the areas of food, marriage, children, smart... not a single step outside of it. Her health number is 7%.

If you are well, you can be in any state, not just in the systemic black OR white state, at any time

If you are well, you can be in any state at any time. You can be in

Systemic aka judgmental mode,

extrinsic aka 'is it useful?' mode, or

intrinsic mode: the 'benevolent all seeing god' mode.

The lower your health number, the more systemic you are. 

So let's look at an example, for starters. Let's look at a frequent situation in my own business: rejection.

It will give me an opportunity to explain two things with one example...

I often tell people that I can't work with them because their vibration is too low, and because I feel what you feel and it makes me sick. Their emotions make my adrenaline glands pump. Their emotions make chemicals in my body that can kill me, that make me fat, that make my muscles hurt.

I tell you I won't work with you, because I love me more than I love you...

...so I choose my health. Because 'If I am not for me, who is for me?' the famous Hillel quote.

Your adrenaline fatigue, your low health number, your poor sleep, your low attention span, etc. all come from the same chemicals I am trying to protect myself from: your own reactions to your harsh emotional reactions. Your own reactions to things you misunderstand, to your cognitive biases, to your black or white view of the world.

When you ask for a health evaluation, I won't take you on unless you can really benefit from it. If you have no energy to step out of your black or white view of the world, you can't and I won't step out of it...

And yes, your vibration is a very reliable indicator of your narrow view of the world... If it is under 170, you live in Life or death, black or white, good or bad, stupid or smart, possible or impossible, nice or nasty...

So, first let's see where, on which level of value am I standing when I say all that?

Am I standing in systemic? No. How do I know? There is more than black and white... 'too low vibration' has more facets than one. Remember:

systemic has two facets.

Extrinsic has some facets (the soup can be tasty, hot, thick, colorful, etc.), and

intrinsic, like a diamond, has hundreds of facets.

I say I stand in the extrinsic view, when I tell people I can't work with them.

But no matter where I look from, I can look at anything, including you, and form a systemic judgment, or an extrinsic judgment or an intrinsic judgment.

Do I say they are bad, wrong, worthless?

No. I don't say that. That would be a systemic judgment. I am not saying that they are bad, wrong, or worthless. I may say they are demonstrating psychopathic tendencies, or that they are greedy, or needy...

But ultimately, in my 'rejection' I said that feeling their feelings is unpleasant and harmful to me as a person.

So that was an extrinsic judgment, from the extrinsic level... my feelings, my health, my well being.

Why can't doctors, pharmaceuticals heal cancer?

Cancer is like squatters... they move in when there is no one living there... and then use all the facilities, all they find to wreck the home, like a parasite.

You can kill them, you can burn them, and kill and burn the house/apartment/body with them.

So doctors, similarly, can cut cancer out, they can burn it with chemicals, radiation, but they can't heal it. Why?

Because cancer is a spiritual disease, not physical in its cause. Just like squatters.

There is a discrepancy, a gap, a wide and deep chasm that just begs to be filled.

Everything has two levels, the visible, physical level, like the trunk, the branches and the fruits of a tree. This is where medicine, this is where pharmacology work: on the symptom level.

And then there is the below the surface level, the invisible as I call it. You can call it spiritual level. The root and the seed level of everything.

This level is largely unknown, unaddressed. This is the reason most everything anybody ever says, writes has such low truth value... they are stuck in the visible, the symptom level.

When I first visited Green Lakes in Syracuse NY, I knew I found the ideal environment for the work I was destined to do: to dive into the invisible and distinguish that world for others.

Why Green Lakes?

Green Lakes is a meromictic lake, one of those lakes that has a surface level and a hermetically separated deep layer. Why? I forget, but for our purposes I don't think it is any more important than gossip.

What is important is that this is the nature of reality: the surface level and the hermetically separated deep reality.

If this is true that the deep layer is hermetically separated, it has to be true everywhere, both in the micro and the macro. Deep simplicity.

And although I have mapped out some of the deep layer of reality, I can't say with certainty that this separation is true everywhere, so I am going to take Source's word for it: Source says it is true everywhere.

Back to cancer.

Cancer seems to be an opportunistic disease... meaning.

We still live in the paradigm in 2022 where all diseases are caused by pathogens... so what I am saying here you won't be able to confirm on a google search: and I you can call me, if you want a kook. I am OK with that.

So what is the opportunity that cancer uses?

Just for an FYI, cancer cells are always present in a living person. Cancer cells are a side-effect of life. In the normal course of events the immune system, especially the white blood cells are on the hunt and kill these cells before they can clump together and form a tumor.

When a person tries to maintain an image, a self-image, a public image, a fake persona, then this strong attention on this paralyzes the immune system.

Positive thinking, avoiding negativity, pretense, etc. are part of that image issue.

You want to be well thought of... and you have your attention on that. You hold your breath, you are not free to be, warts and all, you are cautious, step lightly, or some other way don't allow yourself to be yourself, so you block the flow, and you pay the ultimate price.

If you think that the world, the Universe is based on a principle of punishment and reward, you are mislead.

The Universe is energetic. Your intention doesn't matter, only the energy of your actions and your attitude matter.

You may mean to be kind, non-confrontational, maybe even loving. But the energy of your attitude and your actions may be the energy of superiority, omnipotence, or simply pride or contempt.

And, of course, you need to hide that. And of course, you need to not know what you are covering up.

And, alas, not many people on Earth can help you uncovering,

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