Poly Pocket Podcast

Are you ready for a wild ride? Strap in (strap on!) as we recount our thrilling adventure at the famed sex club, @swingersclub_fatamorgana in Amsterdam. Get a glimpse of the atmosphere, better than expected buffet, and 'excellent company'. 

Brace yourselves, as we take a plunge into the world of sex clubs…

So here it is… an informative, eye-opening discussion that could very well be your first step into the thrilling world of sex clubs and parties! 

Care to join us? Find the link in the bio! 💚

Episode 69!!! (sorry, not sorry)

Ever wonder what life's like in Amsterdam's infamous Red Light District? Imagine the vibrant bustle of the pubs, the openness of a sex club, and even a spontaneous decision to get inked. That's exactly the kind of whirlwind adventure we embarked on during our weekend in Amsterdam. From stumbling across a group of South Africans in a pub to kicking off candid conversations about our open relationship, we embraced an exploratory spirit that set the tone for a truly unforgettable trip.

We found ourselves drawn into the heart of Amsterdam’s open lifestyle - it was an adventure like no other. As our journey unfolded, we ventured to Fata Morgana, a sex club on the outskirts of the city. We were met with unexpected sights, sounds, and experiences that culminated in a surprising nine-person orgy. But this trip was about more than just the physical. We delved into BDSM, explored the power of trust, and even managed to squeeze in a champagne breakfast at the airport and a Himalayan massage that was painfully unforgettable!

Amsterdam's polyamorous culture was a revelation. We explored the candidness and normalcy with which the Dutch approach their adult relationships, a stark contrast to the culture back home in the UK. This trip was filled with much more than the typical sightseeing - swinging, drinking, and a whole lot of open conversations. From the pubs to the art exhibitions, from the School for Life Cafe to our experience in a local sex club, our Amsterdam adventure was nothing short of transformative!

Unpack your running shoes and prime your ears for a wild adventure through sports, love, and life! Join Butcher and myself as we traverse the untamed terrain of football matches, half-marathons, and the riveting world of polyamory. From casual vanilla dates to tackles on the pitch, we're sharing it all – even the moments that had us questioning, "when do we reveal our relationship status in all its non-mainstream glory?"

Ready to delve into the delicate dance between honesty and privacy? We're getting real about our own experiences, discussing how our lifestyle choices can impact dynamics with family, friends, and colleagues. It's a tricky balance, we've discovered, with potential misunderstandings lurking around every corner. Listen in for some enlightening anecdotes and tips on how to steer these tricky conversations with tact and sincerity.

Join us as we explore how we would (or would not) approach telling people about our lifestyle choices.

Movie reference is Flatliners (1990) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0099582/?ref_=ext_shr_lnk

... and in case you missed it, Butchers team won 10-0 🙄

Are you ready to challenge your preconceived notions about societal norms? We welcomed Claire Doré, the Wild Woman CEO on Instagram, for a rich exploration of these ingrained perspectives and how they shape our lives. In an eye-opening conversation, Claire, an embodiment coach extraordinaire, helps us spotlight the uncanny mirroring of boardroom behaviours in the bedroom and why women often hold back from articulating their desires. 

Diving deeper, we examined how generational and cultural norms shape our relationships and decision-making processes. We hash out the tightrope walk between forging a path of independence for the younger generation and respecting the old ways. Claire imparts invaluable advice on navigating tricky conversations with those who hold opposing viewpoints, emphasizing the importance of understanding and compassion. 

Wrapping up our session, we broached the controversial topic of sexual liberty. Claire took us on a sneak-peek journey into her upcoming book, detailing her personal voyage of sexual self-discovery and how dating became her healing balm. We also discuss the potential backlash against sexual liberation and how having a strong support system can make all the difference when standing against the tide. So folks, pull up a chair and join us for this thought-provoking discussion that’s guaranteed to reshape your perspectives!

Pull up a chair and join us as Butchers hike through the beautiful valleys of Wales ends with mild hot tub drama. A lighthearted moment among friends that led to an unexpected conversation about our sexuality and lifestyle.

Navigating the complex world of relationships can be quite a handful. But there's nothing a bit of open communication can’t solve, right? From the raw honesty required in our interactions to maintaining emotional and physical bonds, we have it all covered. Throw in some tips on sexual health, and you have a guide to managing relationships without the messy complications. And, if you thought that was it, wait till we dive into the deep end of jealousy, admiration, and the role they play in our relationships. 

Don't wait, tune in, and let's embark on this journey together.

None of us travel alone and we become the people we are today because of the people in our past. This week we shout out to our ex's and thank them for knocking some of the rough edges off our younger selves.

We also talk about our recent holiday to France where we did not just sit around eating cheese and drinking wine 😏.

At the end of this episode there are bonus musical and football sections for those with more time than sense 😅

So whether you're a seasoned polyamorist or just curious - you're sure to find something worth your while in this episode of the Poly Pocket Podcast!

Ever wondered about the power of language in shaping intimate relationships? Here's a conversation that guarantees to enlighten you, using candid discussions and our personal reflections. Our episode today takes a deep dive into the dynamics between partners during intimate moments and how it can dramatically shift depending on language and communication. We highlight the importance of choosing the right language modes - from hyperbolic expressions to more direct communication, and how they contribute to enhancing or hindering relationship dynamics. 

Moreover, what could be more relaxing than recording this episode in the serene(ish) French countryside, with a glass of rose and the soothing sound of nature (and a tractor) in the background? 

Enjoy the frogs, butterflies and lakeside chat on this weeks episode.

Ever thought about why breakups in polyamorous relationships feel so final? Well, that's the topic we're exploring today.

We explore some of our personal experiences and consider whether it's the absence of sexual connection, the unique glue binding polyamorous relationships or that there is nothing unique about polyamorism that makes these breakups feel so terminal.

We're also delving into the  power dynamics within polyamorous relationships. You know those relationship escalators, the standard steps like dating, moving in together, marriage, and having kids, they can sometimes work a little differently in polyamory. When things end, there's not just two, but multiple hearts involved, making the situation increasingly complex. But fear not, we're discussing a potential solution: de-escalation, a strategic stepping back on the relationship escalator to alleviate unnecessary pain and confusion.

So, whether you're curious about polyamory or you're already a part of the polyamorous world, we've got an enlightening episode just for you. Let's get the conversation rolling!

Links:
Tiddlywinks - (I was right!) https://www.roshambopodcast.com/episodes/tiddlywinks

When we think about trauma and jealousy, we often overlook the profound connection they have with our bodies. Join us in a captivating discussion with dance movement therapist, Orit Krug, as we explore this intriguing correlation. Orit's expertise in the field unravels the mysteries of how our bodies react to trauma, with responses like fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, and how these can be linked to feelings of jealousy particularly in relationships.

Ever wondered how a simple touch can bridge communication gaps in a relationship? Orit guides us through the fascinating world of dance movement therapy, demonstrating how physical gestures can offer vital insight into the language of our bodies, and subsequently, our relationships. We discuss the tale of a couple struggling with shared responsibilities and the power of a simple touch in fostering a deeper connection and understanding. This episode is a treasure trove of valuable knowledge about the close relationship between our bodies and our minds, and how a deeper understanding of this connection can help manage trauma responses and foster healthier, happier relationships.

And if you're in a polyamorous relationship or curious about them, this episode will not disappoint. We delve into the importance of secure foundations and effective communication in maintaining balance and harmony. And, if you're looking for holistic ways of healing trauma, we talk about how the potential of movement therapy to heal trauma. Get in on our conversation about Orit's services and an upcoming retreat in Costa Rica. Our chat with Orit is not just enlightening; it's an invitation to a journey of self-discovery and healing. Embark on this journey with us—you won't want to miss it!

You can read more and contact Orit Krug here - https://oritkrug.com/

How well versed are you in the dark art of gaslighting? Imagine a situation where your reality is manipulated, your perceptions warped, and your emotional sanity questioned. That's the shadowy territory we venture into in this episode, as we expose the enigma of gaslighting within polyamory relationships. We scrutinise its forms, tactics, and its insidious effects on the human psyche. We'll guide you on the less-traveled path to distinguishing gaslighting from self-discovery.

Ever wondered how gaslighters ply their trade, or why it seems so hard to call out within the polyamorous community? We dissect real-life incidents, laying bare the manipulative techniques of gaslighters and how they exploit our personal experiences. With no traditional framework in polyamory, we'll arm you with our experience of identifying deception and, hopefully, defend yourself against it. We'll also share insights on how gaslighting can, shockingly, be a response to trauma.

Finally, we'll delve into the unique challenges and nuances of non-monogamous liaisons. From the appeal of purely sexual relationships to the complexities of navigating romantic entanglements, we cover it all. We emphasise the importance of reputation awareness, support structures, and self-protection in the polyamorous community. By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped to spot gaslighting in polyamory and navigate your way through it. Join us on this enlightening journey.