Poly Pocket Podcast

Have you ever wondered how a global pandemic would affect your sex life? Join us, Hunter and Butcher, as we venture down the path of polyamory in the time of COVID-19, sharing our personal experiences and exploring the shifts in sexual dynamics. We dive deep into the ups and downs of managing relationship changes during a unique time in society.

As we navigate these turbulent waters, you'll gain an understanding of how COVID has (potentially) shaped the non-monogamous community. We tackle the tough subjects about the rise in alternative relationships, the risks of suppressing desires, and how a global health crisis can trigger an increased sexual activity. 

By the end of this episode, we will have considered a new perspective about the evolution of relationships within the lifestyle community and how it has adapted to a new normal caused by the pandemic. 

H & B x

Are you feeling drained, stretched thin, or like your energy is being constantly siphoned off in your relationships? Your rescue is here... Maybe 🤔

Listen in as we navigate the intricate dance of safeguarding personal energy, especially in polyamory. We discuss the significance of having allies in this community - those who exhibit empathy and balance and don't allow their kindness to turn them into pushovers.

We bet you've heard about how the world divides into introverts and extroverts, but have you ever stopped to think about how these tendencies affect your energy pool? We draw on personal experiences, opening up about how we recognise when our energy reserves are in the red and what we do to replenish them. We expand on how to identify triggers and dodge our personal energy-draining vibes, ultimately maintaining a healthy energy level and mindset. 

Finally, we tackle the art of protecting and managing your energy. We share our thoughts on setting boundaries, spotting energy leeches, and taking the necessary steps to alter our circumstances. We discuss a completely non-existent flowchart to illustrate the thought process, we underscore the paramount importance of self-care and conserving our energy. 

Pressing play on this episode will arm you with valuable insights on how to handle your energy levels day in, day out, ensuring you're not just surviving, but (hopefully) thriving. 

Make it so!

H & B x

This week we review the Killing Kittens Birthday Ball.  Happy 18th KK!

Our journey begins with the  anticipation leading up to the event, and culminates with the night's unforgettable experiences. We share our stories, from pre-party chats to navigating the charged atmosphere of the party.

We caught up with old friends and had unexpected (and exciting) encounters with new ones.  We danced, we played and we managed to relocate our underwear (never taking that for granted)!

Join us once again for the flagship podcast of polyamory, CNM and, in particular this week, sex parties.

H&B x

Ever been on a date and the person is nothing like their online persona? 

We have all been there and this episode navigates the intricacies of our digital selves versus our real-life selves. We also delve into how to spot and deal with a problematic online persona.

Sometimes, it becomes necessary to don a facade that isn't entirely true to us and there are some advantages and we explore where the potential pitfalls that arise when your online persona is a far cry from your real life.

Enjoy!

H & B x

Ever walked into a party and felt out of place or unprepared? Well, we're here to lend a hand! We're going to share some of our hard-earned insights on how to choose the right crowd for sex parties, how to read people's cues, and why knowing what you want (and know yourself) is key to making the most of your event. We'll also reveal some practical tips like the importance of a good night's sleep, staying hydrated, and keeping protection handy. And remember, if you're not enjoying the event, it's best not to push yourself.

Now, we understand that attending parties, especially sex parties, can be complex and intimidating. So think of this as your guide to navigating the atmosphere, the attendees, and even your own mindset. So, buckle up for a thrilling, enlightening, and frank conversation about the world of sex parties. Trust us, you won't want to miss this.

We often say we are not experts... so instead, we spoke to one! We've brought in the expertise of Elizabeth Cunningham, a seasoned life and love coach with over 13 years of experience in the field of polyamory. This episode is a fantastic exploration of shifting from monogamy to polyamory, managing the complex dynamics, and setting expectations in non-monogamous relationships.

Our conversation with Elizabeth was nothing short of enlightening. She shared invaluable advice on navigating the messiness often associated with polyamorous relationships; managing egos, understanding the uniqueness of different bonds, and advocating love and respect even in the most challenging moments. This episode is not just about learning - it's about unlearning too. It's about letting go of preconceived notions, stepping out of comfort zones, and embracing the beauty of complexity in love.

Elizabeth also shared insights on the art of communication within polyamorous relationships. From handling difficult conversations, fostering trust and connection, to understanding and setting boundaries - it's all about nurturing healthy communication habits. And what's more, we also discussed the concept of 'falling' in a relationship, and how to recover and grow from these falls. Tune in to our episode with Elizabeth Cunningham and prepare to expand your perspective on polyamory and relationships. Don't just listen. Immerse, understand, and transform.

Just when you think you've got a handle on human behaviour, life throws you a curveball. How do we distinguish fantasy from reality? How can you tell if someone has crossed the invisible line, blurring truth with elaborate fabrications and lies? 

This week on the Poly Pocket podcast, we're trying to strip down some of the complexities of human psychology, starting with a hearty debate about what separates a fantasist from a liar. We're bringing our personal stories to the table as we're not psychologists, but we're also no strangers to the art of self-deception and spinning tales. 

Join us as we dissect the potential mechanisms behind constructing fantasies, and how one fails to recognise a well-crafted lie masked as a harmless daydream and then diving headfirst into the what happens when fantasies become destructive? What's the fallout when the lines between reality and fantasy blur to such an extent that it becomes a manipulative escape from uncomfortable truths? 

Come get lost with us in the enigma of human behavior, on this week's episode of Poly Pocket.

NOTE: There is some troubling content at the 10 minute mark regarding homicide and mental illness caused by a fantasy. If this is likely to upset you, we'd suggest skipping the 10 to 13 minute section.

H&B x

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Did you ever find it challenging to share your relationship orientation with your date, even though it's stated clearly on your profile? Are you grappling with how to navigate your polyamory lifestyle while wearing a wedding ring? Well, you're not alone! We're dedicating this episode to explore these predicaments and share our personal experiences, hoping to shed some light on this complex world of polyamorous relationships. We're also sharing our family adventures, as well as a 'hilarious' chicken joke marathon that will have you questioning your life choices!

H & B x

What if there was a world beyond the traditional definitions of love and relationships? A world where you could be you, and that was not only accepted but celebrated? This episode explores the intricacies of polyamory - a lifestyle choice that is often misunderstood and misrepresented. We share personal stories and discuss the challenges we face in maintaining relationships with partners, children, and businesses - a balancing act that is both demanding and rewarding.

Making the leap to live a non-traditional life requires not just the courage to break social norms but also visible examples of successful alternative lifestyles to emulate. Our episode touches on the necessity of creating opportunities and incentives that go beyond quotas and numbers. We discuss the power of vulnerability and allyship in living a life outside the status quo, and the importance of being seen and represented, particularly for minorities in industries like tech, where they are still grossly underrepresented.

Enjoy x