Polyamirite

Episode 010: Expectations and Romance

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 010: Expectations and Romance

In this episode, Chelle and Denis discuss their initial perspectives of romance, including:

- Separating romance and love (the ability to show romantic gestures to those that you are not “in love” with)

- Intellectualizing romance

- Chosen wounds and how wanting to be chosen shows up in relationship

- Navigating non-monogamy without controlling partners and living your own life

- Learning how to love yourself through the process, while creating space for your own autonomy

- Expectations (both spoken and unspoken)

Hope vs. Expectation

- As always, romance TO BE CONTINUED…..

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

Episode 009: Navigating Opening Up

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 009: Navigating Opening Up

In this episode, Chelle and Denis discuss Denis’ story of opening up in non-monogamy, including:

- Navigating opening up, prioritizing commitments, and NRE

- Navigating open up when you have observed non-monogamy from the outside into leaning into it with your own experiences

- Learning how to navigate the world with others with boundaries and love, while recognizing we are navigating in a different way than we are used to

- Navigating boundaries with time and energy allotment with partners when you need to reel back on adjusting commitments made with others

- Defining polyamorous identity while not actively dating and learning to understand yourself better, regardless of your level of activity of “dating”

- Creating your sense of identity not around how much you’re dating, but how you view the concept of love, relationships, and connections.

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

Episode 008: Embracing Varying Relationship Depths

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 008: Embracing Varying Relationship Depths

In this episode, Chelle shares her reflections and explores the complexities of navigating relationships at varying emotional depths. Key topics include:

Understanding your relational ecosystem and recognizing the unique contributions of each relationship

The importance of introspection in assessing emotional needs and energy dynamics

Effective communication strategies to create space for honest dialogue and boundary-setting

Handling emotional disparities and the toll of differing levels of investment in relationships

Celebrating relational diversity and trusting the natural flow of connections

Chelle emphasizes the value of intentionality in navigating the emotional layers of relationships, reminding us that love is abundant, and each connection offers something unique.

Until next time, keep growing, loving, and embracing your poly-amazing selves! Connection, NOT perfection.

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Episode 007: Poly-authentic (Part Two)

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 007: Poly-Authentic (Part Two)

In part two of this episode, Chelle and Denis continue their conversation related to their experience of developing their authenticity in the realm of polyamory, including:

- Showing up as yourself/authenticity to show others the “best version of yourself”

- Navigating when you notice others in their inauthenticity

- Accountability and insight of values, including trust

- Challenges in people pleasing while trying to enact authentically

- Holding boundaries in accountability

- Self-reflection on how one individually shows up in relationship/social situations

- Dreaming of future goals of authenticity

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode 006: Poly-Authentic (Part One)

In part one of this episode, Chelle and her close friend Denis share their experiences of developing their authenticity in the realm of polyamory, including:

- Identifying authenticity in polyamory

- Creating an understanding of cultivating how we add value to others lives vs being “needed” in others lives

- Identifying your own sense of self

- The difference between selfishness and being well-boundaried

- Feelings of inferiority and leaning into your insecurities to learn to love yourself and take your power back

- Humans bringing different things out in you

- Values alignment

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode Five: Afterships, FTW!

In this episode, Chelle and her former partner and current BFF Brian share their story of their "aftership," in the initial stages of transitioning back to a friendship. They share the story of starting talking again and how this came to be, how they navigated the thoughts that came up when nostalgia hit, accountability and reparations, navigating expectations and labels, getting in their own way, and stepping into gratitude with their renewed relationship. To quote Brian: "What we have is what we built."

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode Four: Relationship Re flections

In this episode, Chelle and her former partner and current BFF Brian share their story of their former partnership in the transition from a sexual & romantic relationship to de-escalating, including all the twists and turns along the way. They tackle sharing details of their relationship firsts, people pleasing, growing together, learning to pivot, comparisons and insecurities, placating needs for needs of others, navigating the end of the relationship while being in relationship with others, communicating their own needs in relationships, and navigating their first heartbreak in polyamory.

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode Three: Coming Out as Polyamorous!

In this episode, Chelle shares some resources available out there for your polyamorous coming out journey, as well as her own personal experience with coming out as polyamorous, including the raw peaks and valleys of this experience over the last 5 years…. SPOILER ALERT: not always easy, but totally worth it….

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

References:

Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships, Episode 92 - Should You Come Out of the Closet?

Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships, Episode 414 - To Come Out or Not to Come Out with Marth Kauppi

Pincus, T., & Hiles, R. (2017). It’s called polyamory: Coming out about your nonmonogamous relationships. Thorntree Press.

Episode 2: WTF is Romance, Even?

Welcome to Polyamirite Episode Two: WTF is Romance, Even?

In this episode, Chelle shares some of her own raw, authentic, and challenging internal processing regarding her experience of learning the differences between emotional connection and romantic connection. She shares some of the insights gained from research, talking to many polyamorous folx, and the conclusions she has made for herself related to her own experience of romantic connections. SPOILER ALERT: Chelle sucks at understanding her feelings!

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart

Episode 1: Origin Story!

 Welcome to Polyamirite Episode One: ORIGIN STORY!

 In this episode, Chelle and her husband, Michael, talk all things starting out in polyamory….from broaching the subject of opening up, being "Charlie Day'ed" with a barrage of resources, being left alone for the first date, finding your individual autonomy and sense of self, and COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION!

Join us as we share a piece of our origin story, with all of the laughter, honesty, and accountability that we could muster!

Three take-aways for newbies: read, listen, and find a community!

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Music Credit: Kevin Burdick, “You Still Melt Me.”

Art Credit: Kat Fiscaletti, @katfiscalettiart