PoojaA Sharma

You are entitled to feelings of guilt not only with the faults you have committed. Sometimes even if you are not living up to the expectations of others, the environment around you will create a feeling of guilt in you.

Things do not stop there, you will also get the gift of guilt if you are not living according to the standards set by the society.

Ironically, the definition of guilt is different in the books of wisdom.

But this definition has been distorted by different minds of the society.

Then we raise questions about the stress, frustration and anxiety that worsen mental health and sometimes lead to suicide.

Many of us, on a daily basis, feel guilty for many activities.

Half of these guilt feelings are unfounded.

Like, if you are voicing your opinion in business meetings or team meetings, you will start calculating your mistakes in your opinion

By comparing with the views of others.

Because of the fear of being judged by the superior.

which actually happens.

Most of the faults that arise in our mind for ourselves are based on our judgmental nature.

Because we are living in a society of judgmental minds.

The irony is that we are also part of this judicial thinking.

I have my own experience on this point. Every time I do whatever I do, like speak to discuss some point, after some time I feel like why am I talking about this topic.

Because I feel like they are judging me on these points and somehow I want to be good at their judgmental views.

When someone gave me a lift, I got confused whether to sit in front or behind. The mind starts calculating If I sit in the front does he think I am very candid and modern, if I sit in the back does he think am I her driver.

If I talk to someone with a smile, will he consider me more frank and modern? If I speak less then will they consider me very proud and arrogant.

This type of calculation of the mind all the time, what to do and what not to do, creates a feeling of guilt.

Moreover, the origin of the creation of all these evils is only a judicial society and we are an important part of this society.

In this era of life, many qualities are required to improve the standard of living. So, we all are learning these qualities. One of these things is confidence. It would not be wrong to say that without confidence we cannot get anything desirable. That's why everyone wants to be confident. How to become confident, we have heard this from many mouths.

By being good listeners, we follow that rule and become confident.

The irony is that we wear the armor of confidence just to appear confident. This armor protects us not from fear of humiliation but from external humiliation. In short, we convinced the world but not ourselves. It is only a cause of stress, frustration and anxiety when you are not succeeding everywhere. Because the definition of confidence we have taken wrong. Confidence is not about boasting about your qualities, but how much awareness you have about your weakness and strength. Because awareness of your weaknesses helps you examine the limits you set for yourself. At the same time the awareness of true strength helps you to organize yourself and make the right choices.

Learn to gain confidence from within to handle the pressure of inner turmoil and not just to show it to the world.

The feeling of moving forward boosts your confidence to live life your way. Why do we always consider success only by climbing the standard of success set by others.

Once we understand the power of internal competition, half the rivalry is gone. Also people will be more comfortable appreciating the achievements of others.

I have visited many institutions and am amazed to see the lack of appreciation in the eyes of the young changemakers.

Are we grooming the youth as robots? Instead of creating a sense of competition against others, we should teach the true meaning of competition.

Competition means searching for new innovation with an attitude of persistence without losing humanity, confidence and integrity to guide the world in a new direction of knowledge.

In contrast, nowadays competition is defined as targeting others to reach the criteria of success.

This very definition is the cause of stress, frustration, demotivation and lack of confidence.

Let's change the definition of success, it is not a competition. It is just a footstep and approach to seek knowledge voluntarily.

मन का पंछी करे सवाल, चारों और ये कैसा बवाल,

कोई हंसे तो कोई रोये, फिर भी झूठे सपने संजोए,

मन का पंछी करे सवाल,चारों और ये कैसा बवाल।

जितनी छोटी जिंदगी, उतनी छोटी सोच,

यहां रोटी की नहीं, कुचलने और आगे बढ़ने की भूख,

जितना अहंकारी, उतना सबपे भारी,

झूठी शान, झूठी इज्जत का अधिकारी,

लेकिन फिर भी जितने की बाजी मारी,

क्योंकि अंधों की बस्ती में काने राजा की सवारी।

मन का पंछी करे सवाल, चारों और ये कैसा बवाल।

ये कैसा इंसान जो बूने जाले, फिर हाहाकार कर दुनिया को भ्रम में डाले,

छल, कपट और ईर्ष्या द्वेष इसके सुखद प्याले।

मन का पंछी करे सवाल, चारों और ये कैसा बवाल।

झूठ बोलने पर लगे लॉटरी,

सच बोले, तो छूटे प्यारी नौकरी,

तलवे चाटे , तो तरक्की की पूरी तैयारी,

बस यही कशमकश, सबके मन में जारी

न जाने कब तक यही कार्यक्रम जारी।

हज़ारों उल्झनों में फसे अलफ़ाज़, मन का पंछी करे सवाल,

चारों और ये कैसा बवाल।

-पूजा शर्मा

मेरी छोटी सी कहानी

आत्मविश्वास

There are many words that begin with the letter e. One of those words is "experience". There are many definitions of the word experience in each mind according to its experience of life. But one thing that makes this word beautiful and more meaningful is to accept the truth and learn for the future from our experience at different stages of life. We have heard many times that life experience makes us more mature to make difficult life decisions. But new experience brings new ideas and new thoughts bring many reasons to make life happy. Perhaps in the early stages it can cause anxiety and stress. Because not everyone accepts change easily. It is our acceptance of the present situation that helps us to think differently. In short, if we do not accept the present we will always force ourselves to point to what we do not have. But we accept that whatever we have or wherever we are is the fruit of our actions. We will feel free to think of other options to grab future opportunities. These opportunities will bring more new experiences of life.

When the courage is high, then what should be afraid of the depths of the sky,

When there is strength in the wings,

then what should be afraid of the shadows of worries.

There will be hardly anyone who does not want to give wings to their dreams to fly as much as they want.

But just having wings doesn't mean they want to fly. To fly high, we must have a clear vision with a meaningful mission.

Because a clear mission always leads to a flight of adventure.

Sometimes life experiences fill life with the burden of disappointments, low self-confidence, stress, lack of interest in innovation of new life.

This burden weakens our wings. Certainly weak wings don't fly high.

To fly high we need to know our strength to improve and overcome the weakness of our wings. Apart from this, we have to train our mind in such a way that it can accept the threat and obstacles as a great opportunity of life.

Life depends on how we define it. Life can't be easy for anyone. Whether they are rich or poor.

It always finds a way to make us more friendly by testing us and increasing our will power to pass the test. So it would not be right to compare your life journey with others.

What is difficult for us may be easy for them or vice versa. The only thing that matters to live life in every circumstance is the way to live it to the fullest.

Instead of spying on others' paths and their lives, we'll be more joyful if we focus only on us. Because knowing ourselves and making choices to be selfless, makes our lives more comfortable and joyful.

The journey can be more interesting if there is a proper map of the path and the correct address of the destination, as it makes us more confident. Conversely, some prefer to follow a curved path to reach an unknown or known destination. Only living life to the fullest matters.

Chasing dreams is one of the best feeling. But the chase only makes us dreamers. To make them come true, a stronger weapon we have is practice.

We have heard and read many times that practice makes a man perfect. Ironically, we believe in it but do not apply it in pragmatism.

Continuous practice of learning makes us more competitive. A learner never believes in perfection, he only believes in continuous practice. The habit of practicing learning what we want gives us a goal to go further.

Setting goals is another challenge, but practice makes us practical and helps in setting realistic goals. When your practice of learning becomes continuous to achieve targeted goals, opportunities become paths.

Because a practical and determined mind seizes opportunities, does not seek. In short, concentrate and get used to the practice of learning, endless opportunities will follow you tremendously.