Today I told a friend about going through rape as a child.

And she took well, in the sense of truth and acceptance, as something that’s normal, a part of me.

But it’s also released me – from secrets, from shame, and the pain that I carry with me.

Every single time I share this story, and by now, most people in my life they know, I get a sense of relief – let go of the burden I carry.

Because I can look to the future.

Have you ever shared your story, my friend?

To feel truly heard, understood?

I hope that you find the opportunity to share your truth with someone – be it a friend, or your therapist.

Because this might be helping you to go further, into the future you want without the extra burden that gets bundled onto our shoulders as we’re making our own way through life…

My friend, if there is something that you want get off of your chest, I am here.

Your future, your life it is worth it – and we should never keep at it alone!

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Did you know that sharing something you just learned with a fellow human can help you integrate this knowledge at a much deeper level?

Because you understand how it works and what it represents, but explaining it makes you find a place for it in your, to fit in with the rest of your experience.

And I think that it’s true for events that take place in our own life…

Say, have you ever noticed how sharing a personal story with friend, or a loved one made you see it in a different light?

We are finding a new perspective onto our journey, it can help us make sense, and in some way, put in place where it belongs – in the past.

One of the reasons why my experience of going through rape as a child has been keeping a stranglehold over my life is because I never told anyone about it.

What is it that I was afraid of?

Admitting the truth, as if it’s crime – I know that you and me, that us survivors:

We deserve better.

To speak our truth, to get clarity of your journey, and keep going the path into healing.

This is our truth this week – get in touch with your story in a way that is helping you heal:

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How come is it that we don’t get to experience the depth and the beauty of life in the way we deserve after going through trauma?

And why do so many of us go through life and suffer, without the help that we so desperately need in order to heal?

Here is one reason – because we get turned away.

For it was the family doctors – I muster the courage to speak not because of strength, but pure desperation:

The woman I loved has left me for somebody else, and I’m in the bottomless pit of depression, drinking, and grief.

I blurt out the ways that I suffer – the nightmare from my past, and suffocating from panic, the fear of being alone.

He looks at me like a puzzle.

There is no need for questions, and so he hands me a piece of paper – here, this should help.

I walk out to find out a prescription – a drug I don’t want, or care for.

One swift move, and it’s in the bin.

I do this without thinking, not knowing what it is that I’m seeking, but somehow I know that this isn’t it.

Us, survivors of trauma, are real people – we are not broken, so we don’t need to be fixed.

We want to be understood, we want to feel heard, assured that we are okay.

And when you’re dismissed, judged, ignored, whether it is by doctor, loved one, or someone you meet – the first time we seek help is often the last.

At least for a while – for me, it is decades.

And all of that time, I never had the chance to find out about therapy, and how it can help us heal from struggle, and hurt.

To find yourself not as a tag in somebody’s file, but as a fragile and intricate human who wants to be heard and supported to find their own path to heal.

A human being who, above all, deserves to be happy.

It’s you, me, all of us who have suffered, who know what it’s like.

We deserve more, even if we have been knocked back!

For years, I was afraid to try therapy, to learn about different options, afraid I’m too broken, too late, afraid of being labelled…

It stuck.

But it was a conversation with a survivor who urged to reconsider, explore and to try.

It’s helping me heal, feel more calm, and make past to feel more like the past – as something that’s already happened, not overreaching into the now.

Being in this moment, alive, feeling that you belong, in this world today!

This is what we deserve.

I know that it’s hard to take next step, but it just might be the step you need to live a happier, more fulfilled life that you truly deserve.

For more on my journey of finding healing through therapy, check out this episode of The Happy YOU podcast.

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