In today’s show, I’m excited to share with you Five Facts about Friction that I’ve discovered along my story PATH, and how they can help reframe your own story journey.
So let me ask you this: in times of conflict, do you run towards it? Or run in the other direction? (I’m definitely the latter.)
The very word itself – “Friction” – is an uncomfortable one, isn’t it? It suggests something resistant and abrasive even. For some reason, it makes me think of sandpaper.
But without friction, there would be no stories which I’ll talk about a bit more in just a moment. And what’s more without friction, we would have no solutions to share with our audience.
The fact is that friction is not only unavoidable, it is also absolutely necessary for the creation of great businesses.
So today I’m going to outline 5 friction facts and how conflict can help us create not only better story brands, but more effective businesses as well:
1. Friction helps define who we become. In fact, if you look back on your life, I guarantee you’ll be able to think of at least a few moments of great friction or conflict. Usually, times of resistance in our lives are accompanied by heightened emotions which commits them to our memories/
2. The second fact about friction is that it forces us to find solutions. After all, friction is very often caused by conflict, and when we’re in conflict, there’s really no way out but to find a solution After all, without friction in the form of challenges or problems or barriers, we wouldn’t ever need to activate our problem-solving skills, would we? If I’m honest, it’s the friction that’s forced me to find solutions I might not otherwise have found. And today, those solutions are the basis of my own business, and I get to share them with my clients every single day.
3. The third fact about fiction is that it helps us get traction. And let’s be honest, without traction, it’s impossible to move forward. Whether you’re driving a go-kart or an SUV, you’ve gotta have traction. When you’re driving on a slippery surface, it’s friction that stops the tire rubber from sliding on the road surface and as a result, we stop slipping and start moving forward. And the same is true in our own lives.
4. The fourth fact is that friction helps us slow down. Be honest. When was the last time you were bombing down the highway without another car in sight, only to realize you were driving waayyyy above the speed limit? But the benefits of slowing down include: that it allows us to pause and reflect; it helps us catch our breath; and it allows us to connect with others on a deeper level. The overall impact is that we’re able to steer clear of burn-out and make peaceful progress rather than scaling faster than necessary.
5. The fifth fact about friction is that it can help spark new ideas. When we come up against a tough challenge, the conflict that’s generated is going to cause us to look at things in a different way. Getting outside of our regular patterns of life and work though can inevitably spark new ideas and ways of doing things. Sometimes, things NEED to change in order for growth to happen. And in other cases, it’s just time to deal with an age-old problem that we’ve been ignoring for way too long.
So if you’ve been dealing with a lot of conflict in your life or business lately, just remember: where there’s friction, there’s a story: a story about how you grew, how you pivoted, how you made some necessary changes in your life, and ultimately, how you emerged from a challenge better than before.
So go ahead and embrace friction as a friend rather than a foe. Because your story’s not over yet.