We all go through times of feeling like we don't have what we need. Scarcity does a number on our brain. It makes us slower and worse at problem-solving when we most need to have our wits about us. This podcast illuminates what's really going on, offers some clarity on how to sort out what you really need from what you think you need, and some strategies to manage scarcity mindset. And no, the answer isn't "think abundance."

Didn't get the job? The new relationship you thought had long-term potential fizzled? Didn't get the thing that you were going for or hoping would happen? It ray-e-ained on your wedding day (a la Alanis Moressette)? Disappointment is a real part of life, with real brain chemistry that makes it hurt, sometimes without relief. Is the answer to lower your expectations to protect yourself from pain?

How we talk to ourselves and how we frame our thoughts about our circumstances has a defining influence on whether we get what we want. Listen in for some practical suggestions for changing the conversation.

Borrowing from personal finance advice, it's truly in your best interest to do those things daily that set you up for the day/week/year/ life you want to have.

To make changes you want, you have to have hope that it's possible. But you can't have change without some fear. How do you balance pursuing what you want when you are afraid that it won't work out?

What can Team Martina teach us today about cutting ourselves some slack AND working toward a future we want? Lesbian wisdom from the 80's is right here for you!

Why *do* we want what we want? And if we can figure out how to be happy (or maybe just not miserable) right where we are, does that take away our desire to create something new for ourselves? 

When we decide to make a change, it's because we think we'll feel better after we make it happen. So what's happening when we set a goal and don't make it? Using a desire to lose weight as an example, this episode explores where things go off track and offers a different way to think about approaching it.