Proactive Eye™

Experiencing abuse is NOT a joke. It can paralyze you, traumatize you, and prevent you from enjoying or living life to the fullest. Raising awareness of any forms of abuse, sharing relatable stories, the mindset of the victim and survivor, and things you can do to help are the premise of this podcast. Doing a recap and sharing my reflections in today's episode will help you to understand why I do this and will continue doing so. Next year will be a little different. I give a hint how in this episode.

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National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge

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National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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Grannyism - The truth of the matter is there are people who have no respect for others or their boundaries and consider themselves privileged enough to cross those boundaries no matter what the victim says or does to prevent the occurrence, what their employer says about having no tolerance of it on the job, or even if they have been in trouble for committing these acts before. They just do not care. So when people are blamed for this ugly occurrence that has happened to them you pretty much just made things worse. ~ Elegant Granny

Last week's episode

National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge

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Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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Reference: Inside Southern. (n.d.) Rape culture, victim blaming, and the facts. Inside Southern. https://inside.southernct.edu/sexual-misconduct/facts

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault.

According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child.

From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse. 

A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence.

Last week's episode

National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge

Publications

Support Proactive Eye podcast

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Email: [email protected]

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/

Sexual Assault and Sexual Violence are important to talk about. So many people feel ashamed of what has happened to them or have been threatened of what will happen to them if they tell their story. No one, absolutely no one, should ever feel like they are worthless, have no value, or not important because of this traumatic event. It does not matter what gender, age, race, nationality, sexual orientation, or creed, no one deserves to be treated with this form or any form of abuse.

This episode will be the start of a new series which involves the 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Awareness Avocation.

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Publications

Support Proactive Eye podcast

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Email: [email protected]

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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This is the last installment of the Transitions series. Survivors of abuse have a hard time letting go of feelings just like everyone else. This is why in a previous episode I stated that the first 90 days are very crucial. Just because it was necessary to end the relationship and the survivor is now in a safe place does not mean their feelings for the one they left has ended. It takes time. And the longer a survivor has been with that person, the harder it is to heal. Love is not something you can turn off or on like a light switch. It is a matter of a growth and maturity which requires patience. Getting over that person involves the same thing. This time instead of having patience towards the other person you are in a relationship with, it is important that the survivor understands it is time to redirect that patience towards themselves. And to best support them, supporters – survivors need a lot of patience from you.

For those of you who are survivors, Granny wants to say – YOU GOT THIS! You are embarking on a new journey now so be proud of yourself. Yes it feels like hell because you still love them, but that’s ok. That just confirms you’re still human. What is not ok, is you still being in a space where they or anyone else can harm you in any shape or form.

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Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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Today’s episode will be back on track with the transition series, and today’s topic is rebuilding a relationship with yourself. Getting back to the most important person in your life – YOU – is a big deal because what generally happens as you are in an abusive relationship, absolutely everything is about the abuser and no one else, so the importance of your/kids existence (or the relationship with yourself) tend to fade. With this in mind, I will share a few things that could help.

Quarter 1 Q&A

Transitions - Confusion to Clarity

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If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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The questions for this episode seem to be more about triggers, and they are pertaining to the work I do outside the podcast. For those who do not know, I am a Restoration Strategist supporting victims and survivors of abuse as they transition from toxic relationships. I also share resources with their supporters (friends, family, or coworkers) with resources to help them transition successfully. Just so you know, the website is being updated and will have new services released in Quarter 2. The tentative date is April 1, but I will keep you updated on the actual date of release.

The link to the last Q&A: Birthday Q&A

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Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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Now that the victim has become a survivor, what to deal with first can be very confusing amid the other overwhelming factors surrounding them. Today's episode will take you through the main thing a survivor should deal with first to assure their success of transitioning after a life of abuse.

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Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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One of the many, many, many things a survivor of abuse deals with is fear. Not knowing if their abuser will track them down and harm them again; if they will threaten to harm their family members; stop their flow of money by causing them to lose their job/business; steal the children away if there are any involved; sending others to taunt them for leaving – these are the things survivors either deal with or are in fear of happening once they have left the toxic situation. Today, I am using this episode to speak to the survivor and the supporter to help them get from fearful to fearless.

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Proactive Eye Podcast Blog

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Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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As difficult as it is leaving out of a toxic relationship, it is equally hard evolving into a healed individual; mainly because as someone works on healing, they have to confront all the darkness they went through and process ‘out loud’ how it makes them feel and how they want to change it now that they have the opportunity to do so. Today’s episode will be about transitioning from toxicity to wholesomeness.

Last week's episode

Proactive Eye Podcast Blog

Publications

Support Proactive Eye podcast

Support Heal With Granny

Email: [email protected]

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Heal With Granny 

LinkedIn 

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Instagram - @proactiveeye

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