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This one is tough. How do you deal with the loss of someone you know or love who died by suicide? I can start by telling you how it made me feel – helpless, scared, angry, abandoned, guilty, etc. I never knew what caused my loved ones to leave me this way, and it is possible I will never know.

My prayer is that this episode will give you some options on how to recover after your loss.

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American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Website 

My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474. 

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Feel free to email me at [email protected] with comments, questions, or concerns you would like addressed.

Elegant Granny Linktree

Email: [email protected]

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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This week we are discussing how to help someone you believe is thinking of suicide by recognizing signs and symptoms, and things you can do to help.

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My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474. If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Feel free to email me at [email protected] with comments, questions, or concerns you would like addressed.

Elegant Granny Linktree

Email: [email protected]

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

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References:

U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. (n.d.) Suicide prevention: If you know someone in crisis. National Institute of Mental Health. Retrieved from https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/suicide-prevention/index.shtml

“Survivors of intimate partner violence are twice as likely to attempt suicide multiple times, he points out, and cases of murder-suicide are most likely to occur in the context of abuse.” ~ Dr. Richard McKeon (Chief of the suicide prevention branch at the U.S. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)

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My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.

Feel free to email me at [email protected] with comments, questions, or concerns you would like addressed.

Elegant Granny Linktree

Email: [email protected]

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Heal With Granny 

LinkedIn 

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Facebook - @proactiveeyepodcast

References:

Salvatore, T. (2018 May 14). Intimate partner violence: A Pathway To Suicide. In The Federal Law Enforcement Bulletin. Retrieved from  https://leb.fbi.gov/articles/featured-articles/intimate-partner-violence-a-pathway-to-suicide

Clay, R. (2014). Suicide and intimate partner violence. American Psychological Association, 45(10), 30, Retrieved from https://leb.fbi.gov/articles/featured-articles/intimate-partner-violence-a-pathway-to-suicide

This week we are diving right into financial abuse and how to recover from it. Actually, I’m going to share some things I’m doing to recover from it. Now let’s dive right in because this is one a lot of victims and survivors struggle with either before they come out of a toxic relationship or once they come out of it.

BankRate - Personal Finance 

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My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.

Feel free to email me at [email protected] with comments, questions, or concerns you would like addressed.

Elegant Granny Linktree

Email: [email protected]

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Heal With Granny 

LinkedIn 

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Facebook - @proactiveeyepodcast

References:

Gordon, S. (2020 May 06). How to identify financial abuse in a relationship. In VeryWell Mind, retrieved from  https://www.verywellmind.com/financial-abuse-4155224

Little, K. (2020 January 20). Starting over: How to rebuild your finances after experiencing financial abuse, in BankRate Personal Finance. Retrieved from https://www.bankrate.com/finance/credit-cards/rebuild-finances-after-financial-abuse/

Spiritual abuse is not limited to a certain religion or denomination. Any person, of any belief system, is capable of perpetrating spiritual ( or religious) abuse, just as anyone can be the victim of it.

My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.

Feel free to email me at [email protected] with comments, questions, or concerns you would like addressed.

Last week's episode

Elegant Granny Linktree

Email: [email protected]

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Heal With Granny 

LinkedIn 

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Instagram - @proactiveeye

Twitter - @proactiveeye

Periscope - @proactiveeye

Facebook - @proactiveeyepodcast

References:

National Domestic Violence Hotline (2015). What is Spiritual Abuse? In Get Help Today. Retrieved from https://www.thehotline.org/2015/11/12/what-is-spiritual-abuse/

Defined by One Love Foundation, emotional abuse is any abusive behavior that isn’t physical, which may include verbal aggression, intimidation, manipulation, and humiliation, which most often unfolds as a pattern of behavior over time that aims to diminish another person’s sense of identity, dignity and self-worth, and which also results in anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, and post-traumatic stress (PTSD).

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Elegant Granny Linktree

Email: [email protected] 

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National 

Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE 

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child 

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE 

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/  

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny 

Connect with me:

Heal With Granny 

LinkedIn 

Alignable 

Instagram - @proactiveeye  

Twitter - @proactiveeye  

Periscope - @proactiveeye  

Facebook - @proactiveeyepodcast  

References:

Crisis Text Line. (n.d.) How to Deal With Emotional Abuse. Crisis Text Line.Retrieved from https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/emotional-abuse/#what-is-emotional-abuse-1

One Love Foundation. (2020). Help a Loved One: What Emotional Abuse Really Means. One Love. Retrieved from https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/emotional-abuse-really-means/

Bear, A.L. (2016). Helping Loved Ones in Emotionally Abusive Relationships: Navigating a Potential Minefield. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/charm-harm/201612/helping-loved-ones-in-emotionally-abusive-relationships

Men suffer from abuse so much more than we realize. As socially responsible citizens, we should support these men change mythical narratives by dispelling the behaviors and ideologies causing them to experience society's perception of them. 

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Elegant Granny Linktree

Email: [email protected] 

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

For those needing an exit plan to assist you creating a plan to escape your abuser – X-It Strategist

For those needing a Life Coach to support you moving forward to a successful lifestyle after a life of abuse –  Live Life Luvd

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

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References:

Keene, C., Ortiz, I., & Styles, E. (2017). Serving Male-Identified Survivors of Intimate Partner Violence. National Resource Center on Domestic Violence. Retrieved from https://vawnet.org/sites/default/files/assets/files/2017-07/NRCDV_TAG-ServingMaleSurvivors-July2017.pdf

It may appear that men do not suffer at the hands of their abuser as much as women, but that could quite possibly be further from the truth. There are a few reasons why I say this.

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Elegant Granny Linktree

Publications 

Purchase copy of You Can Anthology <-- preorder now thru Aug. 1, 2020 for $20; after Aug. 1 for $25

Interview for Release of Upcoming Anthology You Can

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

For those needing an exit plan to assist you creating a plan to escape your abuser – X-It Strategist

For those needing a Life Coach to support you moving forward to a successful lifestyle after a life of abuse –  Live Life Luvd

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

LinkedIn 

Alignable

Instagram - @proactiveeye 

Twitter - @proactiveeye 

Periscope - @proactiveeye 

Facebook - @proactiveeyepodcast 

References:

NCADV 

Goldsmith, T. (2020). Men As Victims of Abuse in relationships. PsychCentral.Retrieved from https://psychcentral.com/lib/men-as-victims-of-abuse-in-heterosexual-relationships/

Bates, E. A. (2019). “No one would ever believe me”: An exploration of the impact of intimate partner violence victimization on men. Psychology of Men & Masculinities. https://doi-org.ezp.waldenulibrary.org/10.1037/men0000206

My life has changed in many ways peacefully as I spend a lot of time recovering from Intimate Partner Violence (IPV). A lot of people misconstrue that you can just wish healing and it happens. Further from the truth. It is a continuous process and it involves a lot of work. 

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Elegant Granny Linktree

Publications:

Love's Celebration - The Book

Love's Celebration - The Workbook

Purchase copy of You Can Anthology <-- preorder now thru Aug. 1, 2020 for $20; after Aug. 1 for $25

Interview for Release of Upcoming Anthology You Can

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE

National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child

National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE

National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 

Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 

******************************************************************************************************************************************************************** HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

LinkedIn 

Alignable

Instagram - @proactiveeye 

Twitter - @proactiveeye 

Periscope - @proactiveeye 

Facebook - @proactiveeyepodcast 

Resources for the show:

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence