What happens when the thing you have been hoping for actually starts happening?

Most of us expect success, growth, love, and new opportunities to feel exciting…

But sometimes they feel terrifying.

In this episode, we talk about the unexpected panic that comes when life starts working - the moment where old patterns, self-doubt, and imposter syndrome try to pull us back into what feels familiar.

We talk about learning to receive:
✨ Compliments without minimizing yourself
✨ Opportunities without questioning if you deserve them
✨ Success without sabotaging it
✨ Growth without shrinking back into who you used to be

Because maybe the panic isn’t telling you that you’re on the wrong path.

Maybe it’s showing you that you’re becoming someone new.

Connect with us:
Instagram:
@epscoaching
@brave.harbour

Why do we crave validation from others?

Why do we care so much about what people think?

From childhood praise and wanting to make people proud… to chasing success, relationships, money, followers, and achievements — so many of us spend years looking outside ourselves for proof that we are enough.

In this episode, Kami and Melissa dive into the psychology behind why humans seek validation and how the need for approval can show up in every area of life.

We talk about:

✨ Where our need for validation starts
✨ The connection between validation, attention, and belonging
✨ How people pleasing impacts confidence and self-worth
✨ Seeking validation in business, relationships, money, and success
✨ Why external validation can become a trap
✨ Learning how to trust yourself and build internal validation

The truth is… wanting validation does not make you weak. It makes you human.

We are wired for connection, encouragement, and community.

The shift happens when we stop needing approval from others to determine our worth and start learning how to validate ourselves.

Because the biggest question isn’t:
“Do people approve of me?”

It’s:

“Do I approve of the person I am becoming?”

🎙️ Join Kami and Melissa for honest conversations around personal growth, mindset shifts, authenticity, self-awareness, relationships, entrepreneurship, and becoming more of who you truly are.

Connect with us:
Kami — @epscoaching
Melissa — @brave.harbour

Who are you without the mask?

The mask of being perfect.
The mask of having it all together.
The mask of becoming the person everyone else expected you to be.

In this episode, we continue our conversation on authenticity and explore the moments when we realized we weren’t always living as ourselves - we were living as the versions we thought we had to become.

We talk about confidence, identity, showing up online, judgment, people pleasing, and learning to separate who you truly are from who the world told you to be.

Because the goal isn’t to become someone new.

Sometimes the real journey is finally coming back to yourself.

What does it take to try something new?

According to Kami and Melissa... a little bit of delusion.

In this episode, we explore why every dream, business, podcast, and big life change starts with believing in something before there is proof it will work.

We share stories about imposter syndrome, fear of judgment, looking ridiculous, and taking action long before confidence arrives.

Because the truth is:

Confidence doesn't come before action.
Confidence comes from action.

If you've ever worried about what people might think, questioned whether you're qualified, or felt called to do something bigger, this conversation is for you.

Sometimes the people who change their lives are simply the people willing to look a little crazy first.

In Episode 11 of Probably Most Definitely Overthinking This, Kami and Melissa explore the emotional weight so many women carry every day—the pressure to achieve more, earn more, give more, and somehow keep everyone happy while doing it.

Through personal stories and honest reflection, they discuss people-pleasing, productivity, motherhood, entrepreneurship, self-worth, and the importance of filling your own bucket before trying to pour into everyone else's.

This episode is a reminder that you don't need permission to take the pressure off. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is stop creating chaos, let go of unrealistic expectations, and allow the world to meet you where you are.

If you've been feeling overwhelmed, stretched too thin, or like you're never doing enough, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone.

Have you ever delayed a decision because you needed one more opinion?

In this episode, Kami and Melissa unpack why so many of us struggle to trust ourselves. From business decisions and life changes to relationships, clutter, and personal growth, they explore the ways we seek validation before taking action.

The conversation touches on people-pleasing, hyper-independence, emotional maturity, intuition, and the reality that sometimes there is no perfect answer - just the courage to make a choice and learn from it.

If you've been stuck in analysis paralysis, waiting for certainty, or asking everyone else what they think before listening to yourself, this episode offers a refreshing reminder:

You are more capable than you think, and your current situation is not your final destination.

Hosted by Kami Schatz and Melissa Hayes.

When your thoughts won't shut up... but you keep showing up.

Is authenticity online actually authentic anymore?

In this episode of Probably Most Definitely Overthinking This, Kami and Melissa unpack the blurry line between being genuinely yourself and performing authenticity for an audience.

From crying videos and curated vulnerability to viral content, personal branding, and the pressure to always be “real,” this conversation gets honest about what authenticity actually looks like in today’s social media world.

We explore the difference between connection and validation, why not everything needs an audience to be meaningful, the truth about chasing viral content, and what authentic marketing really means when you’re building a business or personal brand.

We also dive into processing life publicly vs. privately, emotional boundaries online, and why sustainable connection will always outperform performative attention.

If you’ve ever questioned what’s real online or caught yourself overthinking how you show up... this episode is for you.

What if happiness isn’t something you achieve… but something you allow yourself to experience?

In this episode, Kami and Melissa unpack the pressure so many of us feel to “finally be happy” once we hit the next goal, make more money, lose the weight, build the business, heal the trauma, or become more confident.

But what happens when you get there… and still don’t feel the way you thought you would?

This conversation dives into overthinking happiness, nervous system safety, childhood experiences, expectations, emotional triggers, entrepreneurship, self-sabotage, and the exhausting cycle of always moving the finish line.

From deeply personal stories to honest reflections about success, relationships, achievement, and emotional safety — this episode is a reminder that maybe happiness was never supposed to look perfect or cinematic.

Sometimes happiness is slower than that.

Sometimes it’s coffee in silence.
A calm nervous system.
A home-cooked meal.
A moment where your brain finally stops scanning for the next problem.

And maybe… that’s enough.

Welcome back to Probably Most Definitely Overthinking This.

Episode 7: The Thought That Won’t Leave You Alone

Why do some thoughts refuse to let go?

In this episode of Probably Most Definitely Overthinking This, we talk about the mental spirals that start small and somehow turn into full-blown emotional documentaries in our heads.

From overthinking taxes, delegation, awkward conversations, social media, business decisions, relationships, and life transitions… we unpack what it actually feels like to live with a brain that won’t stop thinking.

We dive into:
• entrepreneur brain & decision fatigue
• imposter syndrome
• anxiety vs intuition
• mental blocks & overwhelm
• why smart people overthink
• fear of getting things wrong
• overthinking as protection
• learning to show up anyway

We also share some very real (and slightly chaotic) stories about job interviews, SAT tests, business ownership, emotional overwhelm, shower thoughts, and the random spirals our brains create out of absolutely nothing.

If your brain has ever convinced you that one text message, one decision, or one unfinished task meant your entire life was falling apart… this episode is for you.

Connect with us:
Kami → @epscoaching
Melissa → @brave.harbour

Thanks for spiraling with us 💭

We say we’re “trying” all the time…
but are we actually trying or just thinking about it?

In this episode, we unpack what trying really looks like in real life. Not the polished version. The messy, uncomfortable, sometimes hilarious version where you either take the step… or talk yourself out of it.

We get into:

• The difference between fake trying vs. real trying
• How overthinking keeps you stuck in “almost”
• Why confidence doesn’t come first - action does
• The split-second moment where everything can change
• What trying actually looks like in business, relationships, and everyday life

We share real stories, call ourselves out (a lot), and remind you that trying doesn’t mean changing your whole life overnight…

It means doing one thing differently today.

Because at the end of the day -
you’re either doing it… or you’re not.

Connect with us on Instagram:

Kami @epscoaching

Melissa @brave.harbour