Professional Success Podcast

Professional Success Podcast

By Sheila Boysen-RotelliBusinessEducationHow ToCareers
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Professional Success Podcast episodes

  • How To Give and Receive Linkedin Recommendations

    Host Sheila Boysen-Rotelli is giving you advice on how to give and receive strong LinkedIn recommendations. Make sure your LinkedIn profile tells the story of who you are and what your career focus is by adding some well-written recommendations!

    Episode Highlights:

    • Recommendations are vital to any job search, and LinkedIn has only become more popular for the process
    • Make your LinkedIn profile as complete as you possibly can by including recommendations
    • Any personal hiring situation you can think of involves asking for a recommendation from someone else
    • LinkedIn's Recommendation category helps enhance your personal and professional brand
    • There are a few aspects that make up a really good recommendation
    • The strongest ones are personal, genuine, and written in the first person
    • Because they need to be specific, recommendations are usually written by someone who knows the candidate very well
    • These need to align with the goals of the person that is receiving the recommendation
    • Stay professional and concise while giving the recommendation enough detail to have an impact
    • When asking someone else for a recommendation, it's important to remember a few things
    • Be specific and personal when choosing the person and what you would like the recommendation to include
    • Providing someone with talking points makes it easier for them to say yes and know they are helping you
    • When writing a recommendation for someone else, give specific details regarding your time with the candidate
    • Emphasize the growth and success that the candidate experienced when working with you
    • Make sure to include something personal about the candidate at the end to show that they are human

    3 Key Points:

    1. Recommendations play a vital role when anyone or any company is looking to hire. They help build trust before contact has even been made.
    2. Writing a recommendation for someone else can benefit you because it shows that you are willing to collaborate with others and also showcases your writing skills.
    3. When it comes time to ask someone else for a recommendation, be sure to give them points to focus on so they can help you best.

    Tweetable Quotes:

    • "Recommendations can go a long way. They're an important aspect of a job search process. Whenever possible, they're a great thing to have." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "A recommendation, just like the rest of your LinkedIn profile, enhances, impacts your professional brand." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "A strong recommendation aligns with the goals of the receiver." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Anytime you can make it easier for someone to help you, the better." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli

    Resources Mentioned:

    12 min
  • Organizing Your Job Search

    Host Sheila Boysen-Rotelli knows that searching for a new job can get messy, and that's why she is here to tell you how you can organize your job search for maximum efficiency!

    Episode Highlights:

    • There's no better place than to start with the why, as in, why do you need to be organized
    • Helps you to know what you want to accomplish from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed
    • Distractions at home can pile up all around you, especially when you are sitting at home all day
    • Organizing your job search provides balance to your day, like making sure to schedule time for things you enjoy
    • Set yourself up for a happy and positive job search
    • There are many ways that you can get organized, depending on who you are
    • Create a dedicated space in your home that you know is solely for your work and job search
    • Set daily, weekly, and longer-term goals for yourself that you can keep referring back to
    • It's easy to lose momentum, especially during a long job search, but there are ways to avoid that
    • If your routine is working for you, do not change it or you risk throwing your whole search off
    • Putting on real clothes can help get you in the mindset of focusing on the task at hand
    • Discuss your job search and your schedule with the other people in your house
    • Networking, building new connections, applying to online job postings, and working with search firms are the 4 channels of job searching
    • Make sure that you are allocating your job-search time in the most effective and efficient way possible
    • At least 70% of your job-search time should be spent reaching out to your network
    • Allocate 20% of your time to planning, research, and professional development
    • Only 10% of your time should be spent applying to jobs online
    • Physically write out a list of companies and organizations that you could envision yourself working at

    3 Key Points:

    1. It's incredibly important to make time for the things you enjoy. You will begin to lose your "why" if you are constantly focusing on the job search.
    2. Keep your momentum going by staying consistent with a schedule that works, discussing that schedule with the people you live with, and even dressing in work clothes.
    3. More than 80% of jobs are acquired through the candidate's network, thus emphasizing the importance of utilizing current relationships.

    Tweetable Quotes:

    • "Research shows that organized people are happy people." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Setting goals and referring back to them often is one of the best ways to actually get down to the tactics of staying organized." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "In actuality, less than 20% of jobs are acquired through...these job posts online." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Contact Sheila at [email protected]
    • Fast Track Your Job Search: fasttrackyourjobsearch.com

    16 min
  • How To Tell If An Employer Is Inclusive

    Host Sheila Boysen-Rotelli is excited to talk about inclusive workplaces, but more specifically, how to tell if an employer is inclusive. At the end of the day, companies that do actively work to improve the diversity of their workplace have happier employees and achieve more success!

    Episode Highlights:

    • When looking for a new opportunity, it's important to evaluate the inclusivity of an organization
    • Workplace diversity is at the top of the priority list for those looking for new employment
    • There's a difference between hearing that someone is inclusive and seeing it
    • Look for a multitude of signs that show whether an organization is diverse or not
    • Check if the team is diverse at all levels of the organization based on the resources available to you, such as LinkedIn
    • Gauge how welcome the company makes you feel during the interview process
    • A lot can be said about a company culture based on how they greet you when you walk in the door
    • Do you feel like the company values the ideas and opinions of its employees?
    • You can tell a lot about a company based on how they respond to perspectives that are different than their own
    • Good employers leverage collaboration and teamwork to strengthen the company as a whole
    • Training and development programs show that the employers understand the never-ending process of learning
    • Professional development programs only add value to the employee and organization as a whole
    • Pay attention to employee demeanor during on-site interviews to scale how happy they are with their jobs
    • Don't hesitate to ask about all these things during the interview process
    • Take note of how openly they talk about inclusivity and diversity; those that are guarded show a red flag
    • Place value on companies whose actions speak louder than their words and practice what they preach

    3 Key Points:

    1. Leverage tools such as LinkedIn to see if there is diversity in experience, ethnicities, and cultures amongst the employees of the company.
    2. Take note of how a company makes you feel from the time you walk in the door to the time you get done with the interview process.
    3. Assess how teamwork and collaboration are accepted amongst the company leaders. Be wary of red flags like leaders that act as dictators.

    Tweetable Quotes:

    • "The more inclusive a workplace is, the more successful the organization is going to be, the more happy their employees are going to be." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "It can be a challenge to gauge a company's policies on something that's as complex and really multifaceted as diversity and inclusion." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Look for openness and constructive feedback and how that's perceived." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Inclusive employers understand...that learning is a never-ending process." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Contact Sheila at [email protected]
    • Fast Track Your Job Search: fasttrackyourjobsearch.com
    20 min
  • How to Increase your Virtual Charisma

    Host Sheila Boysen-Rotelli is discussing real charisma, that being, more authentic than what you get from a book or webinar. Even those who are very charismatic in person have a hard time displaying it over a computer screen!

    Episode Highlights:

    • Zoom fatigue has taken over the world with everyone moving to online work all day
    • Learning how to command a Zoom room is completely different than doing the same thing in-person
    • Physical charisma is very difficult to directly translate over a computer screen
    • Many people surround themselves with visual stimuli, stand confidently, and dress professionally to display charisma
    • Stage presence can be transferred over the screen in a variety of different ways
    • Your face needs to take up roughly ⅓ of your screen, especially if there are multiple people on the screen
    • Expensive lighting isn't needed, but making sure you are in the best light possible will work to your advantage
    • Nodding and smiling come more naturally in-person, but also need to be emulated virtually
    • If you tend to be more expressive with your hands, move the laptop back a little bit to capture that
    • Try to avoid an unengaged face by consistently keeping a light smile throughout
    • Investing in a decent microphone or headphones with great microphones is a great way to make sure your voice displays charisma
    • Emphasize points and make the conversation more engaging by varying your pitch and speech patterns
    • Making eye contact via video is difficult, especially if you have a large screen and multiple documents to look at
    • Make an effort to look at the camera more often rather than have your eyes moving all over the screen
    • Acknowledge what others said by paraphrasing and saying it back to them
    • Making others feel seen and heard through paraphrasing makes them more likely to listen to what you have to say
    • Meetings can lose impact by asking too many questions and focusing on too many things
    • Use the power of 3 to tighten up communication in virtual meetings
    • Make 3 points at a time, only ask 3 questions, etc.
    • Personally address individual people by spotlighting their video; this will make them feel more important
    • Email, text, and social media are great tools to enhance our virtual substance
    • Being intentional with words, questions, and tones in your virtual meetings is vital to your perceived charisma

    3 Key Points:

    1. It takes a completely different set of skills and attributes to display e-charisma, that being charisma over the computer, than it takes to display in-person charisma.
    2. Nodding, smiling, great lighting, and appropriate distance from the camera are a variety of ways to display charisma over the screen.
    3. Eye contact goes a long way in person, but even more over a screen, given how many screens and documents there are to look at during a virtual meeting.

    Tweetable Quotes:

    • "How can we translate this idea of commanding and captivating a room virtually?" - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "When we are in-person, we are so used to receiving and giving those visual clues...that's very difficult to do in video." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "A smile can do wonders in communicating things like charisma." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Contact Sheila at [email protected]
    • Fast Track Your Job Search: fasttrackyourjobsearch.com
    23 min
  • Increasing Your Career Visibility

    Host Sheila Boysen-Rotelli is talking about increasing your career visibility, that being, the number of people in your company and field that know the skills that align with your career goals!

    Episode Highlights:

    • Visibility starts with creating a crystal clear career goal and working towards it
    • Most of the time that people are passed over for big opportunities, it's because the decision-makers aren't aware of their capabilities
    • What stops many people from setting their career goals and increasing visibility is the sheer lack of knowledge on how to do it
    • Take charge of where your career is going rather than going with the flow
    • Use the feedback that you have received about your performance to close the gaps
    • Decide what problems you want to solve in your organization and you will have some direction
    • Do you know what other people know you for?
    • Make visible the skills and habits that align with your goal; someone is always watching
    • Know where you want to go next while going above and beyond where you already are
    • Identify your audience based on your target goal, whether they are above or below you
    • Determine what factors influence the decisions of decision-makers by taking note of everything in meetings
    • Demonstrate your leadership skills by training others on the skills that you are proficient at
    • Be aware of other sources of input that contribute to these decisions and outcomes
    • Cross-collaboration between teams is a great way to expand your circle and gain unique perspectives
    • The insight you gain from other teams might give you an idea that you may not have on your own
    • Always seize the opportunity to get noticed while making sure not to step on any toes
    • Stay aware that managers don't always have your career advancement at the front of their mind
    • Share your aspirations and goals closer to when you set them than when you approach them
    • Give your manager an opportunity to take an out, thus taking the pressure off them
    • Increase your likeability and leadership presence by actively recognizing other people
    • Share project updates and wins at meetings, making sure to include everyone's name
    • Leverage LinkedIn and other social media channels to increase your visibility by joining groups

    3 Key Points:

    1. People are always watching and taking notes of your behaviors and actions. Make sure you are visibly practicing the habits that align with your goal.
    2. Do your best to expand your visibility outside of your inner circle through cross-collaboration. You never know who's input is valued when it comes to your advancement.
    3. Think like an owner in the sense that you stay willing to partake in anything that helps the business grow.

    Tweetable Quotes:

    • "If you don't have a clear goal or a clear target in mind for your next step, it's very likely that others aren't thinking about it either." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Part of your strategy needs to include being visible with qualities that align with your goal." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "The first step to advancement in any arena is to be a star where you're already at." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Share your aspirations long before you expect for them to materialize." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Contact Sheila at [email protected]
    • Fast Track Your Job Search: fasttrackyourjobsearch.com
    24 min
  • Getting Unstuck from a Career Rut

    Host Sheila Boysen-Rotelli is sharing her best strategies to help those that find themselves stuck in a career rut. Rediscover your self-worth before you strategically go after what you desire!

    Episode Highlights:

    • It's incredibly common for those who feel stuck to feel unworthy of what they actually want
    • The world is constantly telling all of us to suck it up and move forward, but these pain points must be addressed
    • Women have a tendency to put other people's needs before their own, something that Sheila fell victim to
    • Dedicate a lot of energy and effort towards self-advocacy so that you know you're own worth
    • Understand your market worth and how much your expertise is worth to your employer
    • It is sometimes difficult to be your own advocate because no one wants to seem selfish or needy
    • Think about the times that you have advocated for others in their own lives
    • Women fare better when advocating for other people according to research
    • Identify your pain points and then make the decision that you will not tolerate them anymore
    • Human beings are terrified of losing something that they already have to the point that they don't seek something better
    • Get specific about what needs to change in your life and career
    • Boredom is a sign that something needs to change and acts as a beacon towards what needs to change
    • Define where your line in the sand is by writing out your needs and wants
    • Treat potential change like a science experiment with hypotheses and implementation
    • Try your best to understand what's important to the person or people that you are approaching about potential changes
    • Be considerate of the time of the day or month or year and what that time is like for the other person
    • Keep your approach positive and lead with your why that benefits not only you but benefits everyone
    • Make an effort to be clear about what it is that you want and avoid any vague requests
    • Don't limit yourself to just one option, so be prepared to present other choices if your best-case is denied

    3 Key Points:

    1. It's important to focus on why you are worthy of getting unstuck so that when it's time to make a move, you truly believe in yourself.
    2. Take the time to write out your paint points, your wants, and your needs so you can identify your line in the sand.
    3. Building relationships in a healthy and honest manner helps those seeking change to be strategic in who and how they are asking.

    Tweetable Quotes:

    • "To begin advocating for what you want out of your work, you have to believe you deserve it." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Replacing an employee costs about 33% of that employee's annual salary." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Bring that same effort and that same energy to our own self-advocacy as we would advocating on someone else's behalf." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "People are more likely to take action on aspirational behaviors at the start of a new time period." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Contact Sheila at [email protected]
    • Fast Track Your Job Search: fasttrackyourjobsearch.com
    • How to Negotiate Salary
    • PayScale
    24 min
  • Navigating Imposter Syndrome

    Host Sheila Boysen-Rotelli is talking about that imposter syndrome that plagues so many people. Feelings of self-doubt are not uncommon and usually find themselves in some of the most successful people on earth. Remember, you're not alone and there are ways to battle Imposter Syndrome!

    Episode Highlights:

    • According to research, 70% of people have felt like an imposter at some point in their life
    • Sheila, a professor with a Ph.D. and countless awards, has felt imposter syndrome in her own life
    • Maya Angelou had more than 50 honorary degrees and wrote 11 books and still felt like an imposter
    • Imposter Syndrome causes someone of sound body and mind to attribute their success to luck
    • It's not a psychological illness, but more a reoccurring feeling of dread that mostly strikes high achieving people
    • People do not own their success, regardless of how successful the outside world views them
    • Feeling overwhelmed in a new venture is very common, but Imposter Syndrome is when those feelings don't go away
    • There are a plethora of questions that you can ask yourself to find out if you suffer from Imposter Syndrome
    • Are you uncomfortable accepting praise for your accomplishments?
    • Do you doubt your general intelligence?
    • Do you think people would be disappointed if they realized what you really know?
    • Look for patterns in different situations when you feel like an imposter the most
    • Imposter Syndrome feelings are a result of our own life experiences
    • There might be some genetic or physical component that you are born with
    • Studies have shown that there is a direct correlation between confidence and serotonin production
    • Socialization, or pressures from the world around us, can help shape the way we view ourselves
    • While it may seem random, there are certain situations that trigger Imposter Syndrome
    • It is very common when you are learning something new or immersed in a new environment
    • Being the only person of your ethnicity or gender can make someone feel like they don't belong
    • Imposters tend to over-prepare, stay silent, or even avoid situations where they have to speak
    • Many times, the Imposter Syndrome feelings are not even logical, so they can be countered with logic
    • People who stick to only the things that they know and are comfortable with are more likely to leave their jobs
    • There are a variety of strategies to get rid of Imposter Syndrome and recognize the things that make you unique
    • Make a list of the skills that you have developed and training that you have received; research how many people can do this
    • List your accomplishments, the people you've helped, past performance reviews, etc.
    • Get unstuck from the fear of failure and take on new challenges
    • Start small and build your resilience from the ground up; hearing "no" is not a failure
    • Most likely, you will not ever stop having Imposter Syndrome feelings completely

    3 Key Points:

    1. Imposter Syndrome is a psychological state that makes people think they are a fraud and is not something that is visible from the outside.
    2. Both genetic/physical factors and socialization can contribute to self-beliefs that lead to Imposter Syndrome.
    3. Novelty situations tend to bring about self-doubt, those being, learning a new skill, or working with a new team.

    Tweetable Quotes:

    • "This can strike people at all levels, from students...all the way up to CEOs." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "You're not alone. You're with a tribe...and this awareness will make it easier for you to deal with Imposter Syndrome thoughts in a healthy way." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Self-doubt is magnified whenever your expertise or your ability is challenged." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Failure is not the end of the world, so pick something small and just go out and act on it." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Contact Sheila at [email protected]
    • Fast Track Your Job Search: fasttrackyourjobsearch.com
    25 min
  • The Importance of Great First Impression

    Host Sheila Boysen-Rotelli is diving into the importance of a great first impression, something that holds true across all areas of life.

    Episode Highlights:

    • First impressions aren't just about what you say, but how you say it
    • Human beings make judgments about people within the first few seconds of meeting them
    • Researchers at Oregon State University conducted an experiment to see if there was a correlation between first impressions and interview success
    • They evaluated interviewee behavior, performance, rapport, and professional skills
    • Random evaluators who only saw the first impression gave the same rating as trained evaluators who saw the entire interview
    • Candidates tend to focus too much on the interview and not enough on nailing the first impression
    • At the end of the day, you want to be confident with your first impression and how you come across to others
    • The First Impression Model consists of 2 aspects
    • People are trying to decide how confident you are based on your body language, handshake, posture, and vocal power
    • Subconsciously, everyone likes to be around confident people that are engaging to be around
    • There are several methods to practice to appear more confident
    • Non-verbal signals such as body language are so important to a first impression
    • Winning athletes take up a lot of space when they feel pride, expanding their body and lifting their heads up
    • Losing athletes shrink their body down when they feel shame, rolling their shoulders forward and hanging their heads
    • Fronting is when you angle your toes, torso, and top towards the person that you are trying to engage
    • Enhance your engagement with eye contact which helps you connect and read their body language
    • Handshakes might be a thing of the past in a post-pandemic world, but they might not completely go away
    • The Journal of Cognitive Neuroscience showed that across cultures, strangers are able to connect at a deeper level via handshakes
    • Get palm-to-palm as quickly as possible; never give them just your fingertips
    • Keep the handshake vertical by keeping your thumb pointed up and your pinky pointed down
    • It depends on the situation, but it's important not to overdo the handshake by pumping too many times
    • Reciprocate the other person's firmness and this will show them that you respect their preferences
    • Dry your hands completely before shaking someone's hand
    • There are a plethora of methods to sound confident and to use your vocal power to make a good impression
    • Your facial expression when you speak translates the tone of what you say
    • The majority of a conversation comes after a first impression, so it's important not to fall back into a monotonous tone
    • Avoid social scripts and questions that barely warrant real answers
    • Think about questions that bring up some sort of excitement for the person that you are talking to

    3 Key Points:

    1. It only takes a few seconds for human beings to make snap judgments about each other, so first impressions are vitally important.
    2. Sheila used to focus all of her energy on what to say and not how to say it, resulting in a generally boring first impression.
    3. 2 non-verbal ways to appear confident are fronting, or angling your body towards the person you are trying to engage, and making eye contact.

    Tweetable Quotes:

    • "We decide if we like someone, if we trust them, or if we would want to work with them in the first 15-20 seconds of meeting them." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "First impressions make all of your interactions easier. No matter how well you answer an interview question...if you have a bad first impression, it's almost impossible to recover." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "The moment we mutually gaze with someone, we feel more connected to them." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "We're constantly listening for vocal signs of emotion." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Contact Sheila at [email protected]
    • Fast Track Your Job Search: fasttrackyourjobsearch.com
    30 min
  • How to Successfully Negotiate Salary

    Host Sheila Boysen-Rotelli is talking about how to successfully negotiate that salary that you have worked so hard for. Don't just jump at the first number they throw your way!

    Episode Highlights:

      • Sheila made the mistake that most people do with their first job by jumping at the first offer
      • We all make negotiations every single day in our own lives
      • There are some basics and important elements when negotiating a job offer
      • Use the plethora of available tools to research your job value in the market
      • Know the market value of the position itself and not so much on you as a person
      • Reach out to your network and research your market value from a different perspective
      • Not everyone in your network is going to want to discuss their pay, but you don't need many
      • Tell your network connections what you are seeing in your online research
      • It might take you disclosing first to get past the pay secrecy in society
      • Build a case as to why you deserve an above-average salary
      • Use your past accomplishments and praise from past employees
      • Emphasize your unique perspectives and personality that you bring to the table
      • Show that you are educated and continue to educate yourself and grow
      • Avoid the salary conversation during the interview process
      • Deflect by politely refusing to answer the expected salary question
      • Reassure them that they are not wasting their time and that fit is more important than salary
      • Pivot away from the salary conversation by asking an open-ended question about the position
      • Try putting the ball back in their court by asking them the salary range for the position
    • Employers want to avoid the negotiation process, so you need to buy yourself time
    • Gratitude will let them know how excited you are about the opportunity
    • Ask for the offer in writing so that you can review all the details and to decrease the offer from being rescinded
    • Set up a follow-up time to discuss the offer live, whether it be in-person or over the phone
    • There are many more factors in negotiating other than funds
    • Make sure that they know that you have other items to discuss regarding the contract
    • Consider the full-benefits package
    • Education and investment funding
    • Gym membership and meal reimbursement
    • Limit these negotiations to a few exchanges, no one likes to have their time wasted

    3 Key Points:

    1. The only time that you have the power to negotiate your salary structure is when you receive the job offer, so take advantage.
    2. Never let them know that you need the job out of desperation. Focus on what you bring to the table.
    3. Do your best to avoid the conversation of salary until an offer has been made by deflecting, reassuring, and pivoting.

    Tweetable Quotes:

    • "We are negotiating every single day of our lives. We might just not be thinking about it in quite that way." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "If you want to ask for an above-average salary, you've got to explain why you are an above-average worker." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "You don't want to start discussing money before an offer has been made." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "You want to acknowledge without being overly affirmative." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Taking any new job can impact your life in huge ways...so don't hesitate to demand the time you need to fully prepare to negotiate." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Contact Sheila at [email protected]
    • Fast Track Your Job Search: fasttrackyourjobsearch.com
    • Bureau of Labor Statistics
    • PayScale
    29 min
  • How to Have a Career Conversation with Your Manager

    Host Sheila Boysen-Rotelli is talking about how to have a career conversation with your manager. It might be nerve-racking, but at the end of the day, your career is in your own hands!

    Episode Highlights:

    • Building a sustainable career means more than just showing up on time and doing a good job
    • If there is something that you want then just ask for it, it never hurts to ask
    • Hope is not a strategy and should not be relied on when you are trying to get something that you want
    • You need to be the person to take charge because, at the end of the day, it's your career
    • There are plenty of reasons that you might want to have this conversation with your boss
    • You're at a point in your career when you want more responsibility
    • You feel that a lack of updated skills has you stuck where you are
    • It's time for a pay increase, as you see everyone around you being rewarded in a similar fashion
    • Ask yourself a few emotionless questions before you bring up your request to your manager
    • What's the key issue that you want to address?
    • What are the external factors that you need to consider? (Is this the right person to ask? Is this the right time? What does success look like?)
    • There are rules in this conversation that will set the right tone and give you the best chance to succeed
    • Tread lightly when it comes to small talk as this is a natural side effect of nervousness
    • Recognize the things that your boss needs to hear in order to understand and support your request
    • Pay close attention to your body language and remember that it's not a fight, it's a request
    • Set up the conversation in a way that will keep the conversation on track
    • Present your case and your goal from the perspective that will benefit both sides
    • Provide supportive data without overwhelming them with numbers
    • Allow your boss to give you feedback by making sure to check in with them throughout the conversation
    • Acknowledge that you understood the feedback to keep the conversation on track
    • Prepare yourself to act appropriately in the case that your request might be denied
    • Make an attempt to understand why your request has been turned down
    • Just because it is not granted now does not mean it will not be granted in the future
    • Thank them for their time, regardless of the outcome

    3 Key Points:

    1. Just ask your manager when you want something regarding your career. It never hurts to ask and simply hoping won't get you anywhere.
    2. There are a plethora of factors to consider before having a conversation with your boss, such as timing, their power to help, and what success even looks like to you.
    3. Approach your boss with empathy and remember that they are human and are most likely under quite a bit of stress. This is simply a request, not a fight.

    Tweetable Quotes:

    • "Sometimes, to get what we want, we have to ask for it directly." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "It is hard to ask for what we think we're worth or what we think we need." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "We can either wait for good things to find us or we can go out and pursue them with intention and purpose." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli
    • "Asking for feedback can feel scary...that's a risk that we're just going to have to take." - Sheila Boysen-Rotelli

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Contact Sheila at [email protected]
    • Fast Track Your Job Search: fasttrackyourjobsearch.com
    24 min

About Professional Success Podcast

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The Professional Success Podcast is presented by Sheila Boysen-Rotelli, Owner of Professional Success Coaching. This weekly podcast covers all things career management including job search strategies,…