Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

• Do You Want Accomplish Something Important?
   
  • Most People Do
  • Why do some people succeed and others fail?
  • Dealing with Fear and Rejection
• Defensive Applications
   
  • Interpersonal Conflict is the universal phobia
  • Doing realistic mental scenarios is uncomfortable
  • Doing realistic scenarios is uncomfortable

Giving and receiving unsolicited advice

• Social media
   
  • Don’t listen to people you don’t know or haven’t proven themselves
  • Don’t give or receive judgement on others, especially public ally
  • Shut up and listen; only give advice to those who want it
• If you give advice, you bear responsibility to the ones you give it to
   
  • Don’t speak about things you don’t know
  • When giving advice, give lots of caveats

Don’t give me shit!

• Whenever someone gives you something, there is an expectation of repayment
   
  • I don’t want to be friends with people who can’t benefit me
  • I don’t want to be friends that I can’t benefit
  • Be friendly, but friendship is earned
• Many people will try to tell you how to train and live your life
   
  • Decide for yourself
  • Question everything

Being flexible in life

• Learn to be flexible
   
  • Accept reality for what it is and adjust
  • Don’t be a victim of normalcy bias
  • Short term and long term / acute and chronic changes
• Defensive applications
   
  • Fights never go the way you think they will
  • Always evaluate and adjust
  • Did it hit? Did it work?

Being held back by bitterness

• Being bitter is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die
   
  • Loyalty and its importance
  • Loyalty is a two way street
  • What do you do when others are disloyal
  • Moving on without being bitter
• What does this have to do with dog training?
   
  • Dog reflects the handler
  • Issues we see in the dog are usually our own issues
  • What character flaws are you struggling with?

Thinking vs Doing

• What is the difference between knowing and being told something?
   
  • I get comments and contacts all the time who obviously spend more time behind a keyboard than a lead
  • Being told how to defend vs knowing how to defend
  • Get out and DO
  • Practice
  • Fail

Stop expecting people to like you

• If everyone likes you, you have no conviction or passion
   
  • Conviction and passion are both divisive
  • It is OK to disagree with someone else, you can still be friends
  • It is OK if people don’t like you, it is unavoidable and not to be feared
• Most people water down their ideas thoughts and messages because they are afraid someone might not like it.
   
  • Often the messages and ideas that most help you and others are the ones you’re afraid to share
  • Being rejected hurts emotionally, but helping others is far better