In this episode, our guest is Stephen Thomas, who bravely shares his journey through struggles with pornography and same-sex attraction. Stephen opens up about his Christian upbringing, the shame he felt for his early porn use, and the pivotal role of community, faith, and vulnerability in his healing process. 

He recounts how early exposure to pornography led to a cycle of hiddenness and shame, and how opening up to his family and seeking therapy marked the beginning of his recovery. Stephen's story is a powerful reminder of the grace of God and the importance of authentic connections and support in overcoming deep personal struggles.

To learn more about Stephen and his coaching services, visit StephenThomasConsulting.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Personal journey of overcoming struggles with pornography and same-sex attraction.
• Impact of upbringing in a Christian household on sexual identity and shame.
• The significance of vulnerability and honesty in relationships.
• The role of community and support in the healing process.
• The internal conflict between desires and societal expectations.
• The importance of confession and accountability in recovery.
• Addressing underlying emotional issues related to addiction.
• Strategies for maintaining sobriety and fostering meaningful connections.
• Advice for men at different stages of their recovery journey.
• Resources available for further support and coaching in overcoming sexual brokenness.

More Resources:

• Get Free, Stay Free Masterclass
• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive
• Grace-Based Recovery 8-Week Online Study Groups

Related Podcasts:

• The Sex Talk You Never Got
• Am I Gay? (with Garry Ingraham)
• How Group Work Will Transform Your Recovery Journey

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2024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000

(We are currently at nearly 40% of the goal!)

This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need?

To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you!

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In today’s episode, my guests are Mark and Jill Savage, a couple that understands struggle, betrayal, and restoration. They talk about their incredible journey, betrayal, and the journey to rebuild trust. Mark opens up about his midlife crisis and infidelity after 28 years of marriage, while Jill shares the deep pain and the process of healing. 

They emphasize the importance of personal growth, accountability, and transparent communication. Mark's transformation began with a personal "resurrection" moment one Easter Sunday, leading to consistent efforts to regain Jill's trust. Their story is a testament to the power of God’s faithfulness and commitment in overcoming marital challenges, offering hope and practical insights for couples facing similar struggles.

To learn more about Mark and Jill and their resources, visit JillSavage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• The journey of Mark and Jill Savage through marriage challenges, including infidelity.
• The impact of betrayal on family dynamics and emotional well-being.
• The process of rebuilding trust after infidelity and the time it requires.
• The importance of transparency and accountability in restoring trust.
• Individual growth as a crucial element in healing and relationship improvement.
• The role of effective communication and vulnerability in strengthening relationships.
• The nature of trust as a gradual process that cannot be forced.
• The significance of personal responsibility and self-improvement in overcoming marital issues.
• Offering hope and resources for couples facing similar challenges.
• The transformative power of faith and commitment in rebuilding a marriage.

More Resources:

• RebuildingTrust.us
• No More Perfect Marriages* by Mark & Jill Savage
• Marriage 2.0 Intensive

Related Podcasts:

• Rebuilding Your Marriage After Betrayal Podcast Playlist
• A Journey of Redemption and Healing
• How Can Therapeutic Disclosure Help Heal Marriages Affected by Sexual Betrayal?

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In this episode, I welcome Kim Hansen Petroni, an expert in betrayal trauma healing. We dive into the challenges many women face when dealing with emotionally lifeless marriages or divorce. Kim shares her personal journey and professional insights, emphasizing the importance of safety, grief, and reconnecting with God and self. 

We discuss the common lack of support from the church and the critical need for understanding and compassion. Kim offers practical tools for healing across physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational aspects. This episode is a beacon of hope, reminding women that healing from betrayal and a stronger sense of self and community are within reach.

To learn more about Kim and her resources, visit NotaCasseroleWidow.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Betrayal trauma healing, particularly for women in difficult marriages.
• Personal experiences and professional background of the guest in psychology and counseling.
• The impact of betrayal trauma on women's emotional and spiritual well-being.
• The three main stages of healing from betrayal trauma: 1) safety and stabilization, 2) grief and mourning, and 3) reconnecting with the outside world.
• Challenges faced by women during divorce, including identity loss and lack of community support.
• The role of the church in supporting women experiencing betrayal trauma.
• The importance of self-care and emotional support during the healing process.
• Practical tools for physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational healing.
• The significance of community and shared experiences among women dealing with betrayal trauma.
• Messages of hope and empowerment for women navigating their healing journeys.

More Resources:

• Not a Casserole Widow* by Kim Hansen Petroni
• CoachingHope4U.com
• Online Care Groups for Wives

Related Podcasts:

• Is There Hope After Divorce Due to Sexual Betrayal?
• Life and Hope After Divorce: Reese and Sharon's Story
• New Course: 40 Days of Healing for Wives

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2024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000

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To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you!

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In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the theme of temptation, especially regarding male sexuality and the internal conflicts it sparks. Through a role-playing exercise, we illustrate the dialogue between the mind, body, and spirit during moments of temptation. 

We highlight the struggle between seeking pleasure and maintaining spiritual discipline. Stephen emphasizes the importance of standing firm and seeking peace, while I underscore the role of the Holy Spirit and community support in overcoming temptation. This episode offers valuable insights and practical tools for managing desires and fostering a healthier relationship with yourself.

For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Exploration of temptation, particularly in the context of male sexuality.
• Internal conflict between the mind, body, and spirit during moments of temptation.
• Role-playing exercise to illustrate the dialogue among different parts of the self.
• The cyclical nature of temptation and the struggle for self-control.
• The concept of the "wounded boy" representing emotional pain and longing for comfort.
• The importance of spiritual discipline and self-control in managing desires.
• The role of the Holy Spirit in guiding individuals through temptation.
• The significance of community and connection in overcoming isolation during struggles.
• Encouragement to engage in self-reflection and recognize inner conflicts.
• A call to action for individuals to pursue a healthier relationship with their desires and spiritual journey.

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for Men
• Sexual Integrity Webinar for Men
• Dealing with Temptation Podcast Bundle

Related Podcasts:

• Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction
• What to Do in the Moment of Temptation
• Understanding Body, Soul, and Spirit

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2024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000

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To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you!

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In this episode, our guest is Ben Locke, author of "In Our Suffering Lord Be Near: Prayers of Hope for the Hurting." Ben shares his amazing journey from being a dedicated soccer player to facing severe injuries, abuse, and emotional trauma. These experiences led him to a deep exploration of suffering, mental health, and faith.

We discuss the importance of processing emotions, the transformative power of prayer, and the role of therapy in healing. Ben’s story is a testament to finding hope and connection through shared human experiences and Christian faith. Join us for an inspiring conversation on resilience and recovery.

Ben’s book can be found on Amazon or wherever books are sold. If you want to receive Ben’s weekly prayer devotional, visit EvensongJournal.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Personal journey through suffering, injury, and trauma
• Experiences as a soccer player and the impact of injuries
• Challenges related to mental health and emotional struggles
• The role of prayer in coping with suffering
• Importance of processing emotions and seeking therapy
• Connection between suffering and shared human experiences
• Role of faith and relationship with God through struggles
• The transformative power of prayer and honest communication with God
• The significance of community and support in dealing with suffering
• Hope and healing as outcomes of confronting and sharing struggles

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for men
• Find a Group
• A Sacred Sorrow* by Michael Card

Related Podcasts:

• Let's Pray
• Recovery Discovery 019: Prayer
• The Immanuel Approach in Recovery

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In this episode, I'm thrilled to welcome Dr. Linda Seiler, a remarkable advocate for addressing LGBTQ struggles through a Christian worldview. We dive into her personal journey, where she shares her experiences with gender identity confusion and her transformation after coming to faith in Christ. 

Dr. Seiler discusses her book, "Transformation: A Former Transgender's Response to LGBTQ," highlighting her struggles, the power of Christ, and the importance of compassion and truth when addressing such complex and personal struggles. Our conversation emphasizes a clear gospel approach to sexual brokenness, offering hope and understanding for those navigating similar challenges. There is good news in the gospel – Jesus really does transform us!

For more information about Linda and her ministry, visit RestoryMinistries.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Dr. Linda Siler's personal journey with gender identity and sexuality.
• The impact of her conversion to Christianity on her identity and struggles.
• Discussion of her book "Transformation: A Former Transgender's Response to LGBTQ."
• The concept of being "born again" and its implications for identity in Christ.
• Misconceptions surrounding LGBTQ identities and the potential for change.
• The five streams of church responses to LGBTQ issues: condemnation, affirmation, accommodation, mortification, and transformation.
• The importance of compassion and understanding in addressing sexual brokenness.
• The role of the gospel in transforming lives and identities.
• Encouragement for individuals to engage with and support those struggling with their sexuality.
• Resources for further exploration of LGBTQ issues within a faith context.

More Resources:

• TRANS-formation: A Former Transgender Responds to LGBTQ* by Dr. Linda Seiler
• LindaSeiler.com
• Quick Guides

Related Podcasts:

• Exposing the Gender Lie (with Brandon Showalter)
• Navigating Identity & Sexuality - A Compassionate Approach for Parents
• Am I Gay? (with Garry Ingraham)

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In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the complexities of personal growth, focusing on how childhood experiences shape adult behavior. We discuss insights from the "Gateway to Freedom" workshop, emphasizing the importance of recognizing our own choices while understanding the influences of our upbringing. 

I admire Stephen’s work on DoctorMarriage.org and how he offers practical tools and tips for men wanting to live a full life of integrity. In our conversation, we explore themes of belonging, identity, and the emotional struggles many face. We highlight the coexistence of sadness and hope, encouraging listeners to embrace self-discovery and seek support for healing and transformation. 

To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Personal responsibility and its complexities
• Impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior
• Distinction between personal choices and external influences
• Insights from the "Gateway to Freedom" workshop
• Emotional struggles related to belonging and identity
• The pain of rejection and its lasting effects
• The relationship between sadness and hope
• Coping mechanisms developed in childhood and their consequences
• The journey of self-discovery and healing
• Importance of seeking support and community for personal growth

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for men
• Sad, but Hopeful post on DoctorMarriage.org
• Grace-Based Recovery Online Groups

Related Podcasts:

• Why Men Need to Practice Sadness
• Whole Man Recovery Pt 3: Emotional
• Navigating Grief, Fear, and Transformation

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In this episode, we chat with the amazing Elizabeth Woning about her incredible journey of faith and sexuality. Elizabeth, once an openly lesbian woman who attended seminary, shares her experiences reconciling her sexuality with her faith in God. 

We delve into her transformative encounters with God, the challenges of navigating faith within the LGBTQ+ community, and the importance of self-acceptance in light of the gospel. Elizabeth's story highlights the power of experiencing God's love and the ongoing journey of understanding one's true identity. Her insights offer hope and guidance for anyone grappling with similar issues. Join us for this earnest and enlightening conversation!

For more information about Elizabeth and her movement, visit ChangedMovement.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Exploration of the intersection between faith and sexuality.
• Personal journey of an openly lesbian woman in a religious context.
• Experiences in seminary and the LGBTQ+ community.
• The impact of transformative encounters with God.
• Reevaluation of beliefs regarding identity and self-acceptance.
• The role of God's love in shaping personal identity.
• Challenges faced by individuals with life-dominating issues related to sexuality.
• Importance of relational understanding of God versus a philosophical approach.
• Strategies for creating safe environments for discussions about identity.
• Encouragement for individuals to seek a deeper communion with God.

More Resources:

• Changed Book: #OnceGayStories
• Navigating LGBTQ video course
• Changed Stories

Related Podcasts:

• From Broken Home to Broken Sexuality to Wholeness in Christ
• Am I Gay? (with Garry Ingraham)
• What is Sexual Discipleship?

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In this episode, I chat with Phil and Priscilla Fretwell about their incredible journey of healing and redemption from sexual brokenness in their marriage. They are the founders of Savage Marriage Ministries and help other couples overcome their past and fight for their future.

In our conversation, Phil opens up about his long-term struggle with pornography and the devastating impact it had on their relationship. Priscilla shares her raw emotions of betrayal and anger, and how she found the strength to forgive. Together, they highlight the importance of honesty, vulnerability, and seeking help. Their story is a powerful reminder that even in the darkest times, transformation and healing are possible through faith and open communication.

To learn more about Phil and Priscilla and their ministry, visit SavageMarriageMinistries.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Personal struggles with pornography and its impact on marriage
• The journey of confession and the importance of transparency
• Emotional wounds and their influence on behavior
• The role of accountability and seeking help in recovery
• The process of healing from betrayal and anger
• The significance of communication in rebuilding trust
• The impact of struggles on family dynamics and relationships
• The transformative power of vulnerability and honesty
• The development of a new ministry to support others facing similar challenges
• Encouragement for others to pursue healing and restoration in their relationships

More Resources:

• Savage Marriage* by Phil and Priscilla Fretwell
• Savage Marriage Podcast
• Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for men
• Wives Care Online Groups

Related Podcasts:

• The Journey to Stay (with Steve & Lisa Goldberg)
• Out of the Dust: One Couple's Story of Radical Redemption
• 4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage

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In this episode, I welcome Sam Jolman, a therapist, author, and father, to discuss his book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality." Sam shares his journey into counseling, emphasizing the importance of meaningful conversations about sexuality. 

We explore the impact of shame and purity culture, and the distinction between normal arousal and lust. Sam highlights the need for competent counseling and open dialogue to foster a healthier understanding of men's sexual formation. This episode is a heartfelt call to reclaim the beauty and complexity of human sexuality as God designed it.

To learn more about Sam and the book, visit SamJolman.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Importance of open conversations about sexuality
• Personal experiences and backstory of the speaker as a therapist and father
• The role of competent counseling in addressing sexual issues
• Impact of shame and purity culture on men's understanding of sexuality
• Distinction between normal arousal and lust
• Concept of the "wow response" to beauty and attraction
• Nature of sexuality as a means for emotional and relational connection
• Influence of generational patterns of shame on sexual education
• Guidance for parents on discussing sexuality with children
• Encouragement for ongoing dialogue about sexuality rather than a single conversation

More Resources:

• The Sex Talk You Never Got* by Sam Jolman
• Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for men
• Our Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher West

Related Podcasts:

• Understanding God's Design for Sex in Today's Confused Culture
• God's Design for Emotional Growth and Sexuality
• What is Sexual Discipleship?

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