Pursue You

Today I am talking with a special guest, Claire Ficker to discuss the Enneagram! The enneagram is a personality assessment. You may remember when I brought my husband on the podcast to discuss the DISC assessment on Episode 11. This is totally different, but equally as amazing. I am so passionate about connection and the enneagram is a wonderful way to learn more about yourself, more about others and to better connect with those around you.

This is Episode 22 and in this episode we are talking about leadership! You might say, "I am not a leader!" John Maxwell says "leadership is influence." Whether you stay at home or you run a crazy big business or maybe you just have friends…you have influence! You are a leader! One of my favorite concepts I have read about in the past few years is from an incredible book called Multiplier by Liz Wiseman. It is a Wall Street Journal best-seller. The subtitle reads, "How the best leaders make everyone smarter." Today I outline 8 ways we may be accidentally diminishing those around us.

I just got done recording this episode with Maryellen Dance, a licensed mental health counselor that I met years ago. We just recently reconnected in a local mastermind group and I just knew she was someone I wanted to bring on and share with you all. You've all heard me talk about therapy and what an important role it plays in my life, my development, my growth, my relationships and its funny because with me being so open about it, I really have seen how many preconceived notions we carry around about what it means to go to therapy, what qualifies us to have to go to therapy, etc, etc, -- so get excited, because this episode is jam packed full of good tid bits about what therapists wish you knew about therapy and how it might change your perception of who therapy is for, and how to go about getting started.

Today we're talking about video. If you've been in a business or you've had some big growth, even if it's just been a little while, it's always so fascinating to go back and look on what you were doing years ago. Whether it be 10 years ago, 5 years ago, even last month, what did your days consist of? What were your priorities and your habits? How did you run your life and business together? One of the things I look back on so often is the early days of my real estate career. I was 22 years old. I had moved out of my parents' house and joined a real estate brokerage and was clueless about it. One thing though I am so proud of, though, is that early on in my business I started to incorporate video into my branding, my marketing, my service to clients, and it has always been a big part of my business. Over the years, it's morphed. Whether it be from the business growing, myself growing, or just technology and the change in modern marketing, but I feel like it's had a dramatic impact on my business and that's why I want to share it with you today. I want to show you how you might be able to incorporate it into your world and business.

In Episode 15, I shared about asking for what you want. I went through the simple steps of understanding why it's important to you, getting clear on what it is you want and then making a plan to just ASK for it. But, in our conversations, and from what I know to be true in my own life, there's this extra LITTLE piece that presents a huge challenge to us. We can literally do everything right, we know exactly what it is we want to ask for, why it's just so, so important to us, but sometimes, our fear of what the reaction will be on the other side, paralyzes us. Today I want to share some advice I've learned about how we can help ourselves overcome this fear of rejection and it's in the form of a little game called rejection therapy.

Today's episode was inspired by one of our listeners, Bethany. Bethany and I were talking about organizing our thoughts as we were listening to podcasts and audio books and I started to share with her some quick tips of how I organize on the go and she was like MANDY, THAT'S WHAT I WANT TO HEAR! So, maybe you're the same? You're starting to do more 'thinking', maybe more reading, or consuming of content, but feel like it goes all over the place. Maybe you feel anxious about to do lists and are worried that you're going to forget something because it's written all over the place. Well this episode is for YOU. Like I always say, this isn't an episode on the BEST way to do something, it's all about what I'm doing and what works for me, but I share it to hopefully inspire you to figure out your best way. So, here's how I'm organizing on the go, as of January 2020. I hope you'll listen in, find your system and come join us in the Pursuers Community and share what challenges you have, what successes you're finding, and all that good stuff!

If you've heard me speak, you know that I LOVE being busy. I love activities, productivity, and efficiency. After four years of pregnancy and nursing babies, I was so excited for 2019 to 'max out' my life and jam pack as much possible into my life. And you don't have to have had a human to have gone through this experience, it could have been from a sickness, challenging family situation, etc. but you might be able to relate to when you literally, physically cannot 'max out' your life the way that you think you have to in order to succeed. I knew that margin wasn't a luxury, and I knew that it was a necessity, but I had no idea how to implement it in my life. I didn't know how to go from my life of exhaustion, chaos, and a mindset of I have to be working, to having margin and rest. Learning this and creating this margin wasn't easy for me, it was a process and a journey, but I'm going to share with you some questions to help you reflect on your current life so that you can design a life of margin in 2020.

I am starting today's episode with a story about my daughter, and I hope that this story about her inspires you to not be afraid to use your own voice in your family, in your job, or anywhere else that you find yourself wanting to ask something of someone else. I want us to not be afraid to ask for what we want. Sometimes it takes us awhile to figure out what we want, but when we do, what do we do with it? What do you do when you're wanting a promotion or a raise, or when you need something from your clients or your spouse? What do you do when you want something from your friends? Once we identify what we want, how do we get closer to getting it or making that happen? In today's episode, I'm sharing six steps for asking for what you want.

In Episode 14 last week I shared my top 5 personal reads of 2019 as well as my history with reading and how it's been a journey for me to become a "reader". Today I'm re-enforcing the important things to consider as you start or continue on your reading journey, and also sharing with you the top 5 business books I read as a part of my goal to pursue growth in my business. I hope this list will help you tune into the conversations these books and their authors are starting and maybe add a few of them to your own reading list for this year.

I'm going to start today's episode with a question? What was your favorite book that you read in 2019? What if I asked what was your favorite book of all time? What would your answer be? The reason I want to ask you this is because a few years ago I would have had to think back to college when I was forced to read books, and I would only read the cliff notes version, and after an assignment I'd forget it all. Once I got into business, I read books here and there, but I want to share today how I used to think about reading, because I don't want you to feel intimidated by a personal reading list and just skip over this episode. I want you to know that reading wasn't always a natural thing I loved to do. I was too busy. You're probably feeling the exact same way. As I'm recording this year in 2019, however, I have read more books this year than I have ever read in one year. Reading impacted me in such a positive way this year that I want to inspire you and share with you some books that you may want to check out in 2020.