Queen City Poly

In this episode, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey answer a listener question on how to handle a polyamorous-identified person that  doesn’t seem to want their partner dating others. It’s a common myth that polyamorous people are more enlightened than monogamous people. We dispel those myths while Brian processes his own relationship woes.

In episode 18, Coach Kaey and Brian discuss how they have managed money in previous relationships. Polyamorous or not, money and relationships intermingle, but a taboo exists when it comes to talking about it. This week on Queen City Poly, Brian O'Neil and Coach Kaey answer questions like: Who pays for the first date? In a relationship, who buys the condoms? If you buy a woman a drink, what should you expect?

In episode 17, Coach Kaey asks Brian to reflect on his two year anniversary of ethical non-monogamy. How have his views on love, relationships, sexuality, women, dependency, and more changed since he began his journey.

In episode 16, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey discuss the awkwardness of meeting your metamours. What's a metamour? A metamour is your partner’s partner. The duo tackles expectations when meeting a metamour and communicating your boundaries inside this type of relationship.

In episode 15, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey discuss when enough is enough in relationships. We all have our different reasons for leaving and for staying, but knowing our own boundaries and those of our partners is extremely helpful. Our diversity in values and personal experiences shape our decisions regarding when we stick it out and when we tell people to go kick rocks.

In episode 14 of Queen City Poly, Brian O'Neil & Coach Kaey discuss New Relationship Energy (NRE), the strong, almost giddy feeling of excitement and infatuation common in the beginning of a new romantic relationship, which can lasts anywhere from a few months to several years. We’ve all felt this before, it’s what romantic comedies are made of. What is the biological chemistry that happens when we fall in love? Is love a drug? Brian O'Neil & Coach Kaey talk about their own experiences with NRE and give advice and tips for riding the waves of NRE into relationships without wreaking havoc on your other relationships or your life.

Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey celebrate a new chapter that is both exciting and terrifying. Brian O’Neil is still obsessed with where Lee surrendered to Grant during the Civil War and Coach Kaey still does not care. In episode 13 of Queen City Poly, Brian O’Neil and Coach Kaey dissect the dark romantic comedy Catching Feelings, written, directed, and staring Kagiso Lediga, which follows an urbane young academic and his beautiful wife (played by Pearl Thusi), as their lives get turned upside down when a celebrated and hedonistic older writer (played by Andrew Buckkland) moves into their Johannesburg home with them.