Quintessential Being

If you squirm at the thought of having difficult conversations or you’ve never been able to say ‘No’ without justifying the shit out of yourself then chances are you experience some trouble asserting your boundaries. Here’s what you may not know though... if you don’t learn how to say ‘No’ your body will say it for you -  in the form of physical disease or illness. Let that sink in for a minute! 

Hailey Magee is a certified Codependency Recovery Coach, she helps people find freedom, confidence and self-respect by setting clear boundaries and speaking their truth in relationship. Hailey has walked her own journey, putting her truth into action and empowering herself to dream big, speak boldly and live radiantly!
 So whilst this topic of  ‘Boundaries’ might feel like a buzzword right now they most certainly aren’t just good practice to keep us safe... Hailey unveils for us in this epic conversation;

🖤How we hold ourselves when we need to change our boundaries but aren’t quite there yet

🖤The entry point to asserting better boundaries for yourself in existing relationships that aren’t used to it

🖤Highlights how your partner & other relationships benefit from you having strong, healthy boundaries

🖤The difference between having a boundary or a wall up

🖤What those icky feelings like anger and resentment are actually telling you

Hailey Magee: http://www.haileymagee.com/

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//TRIGGER WARNING// In honour of WORLD Suicide Prevention Day myself and brave soul Liz Lane of Liz Lane studio got together to have this hard and heavy conversation about mental health, suicidal thoughts and art. Liz is a creative - a poet, musician... using self expression in any and all mediums to heal. She also happens to have Bi-Polar. It has been reported that often the instance between someone taking their own life or not is a mere 1% difference - the power of that 1% is immense. What does that mean for us? It means we need to ask the question 'Are you ok?' It means listening to someone without judgement, without trying to find solutions for them or giving them advice. The truth is Mental Health is a HUGE issue in our communities, and there are great resources out there to help navigate these conversations around suicidal thoughts, for yourself and for the ones you love. Lifeline is on hand 24/7 just call 13 11 14 - The mighty is an amazing online forum, Headspace another great one, especially for youths - if you don’t have strong,  emotionally supportive family and friends THESE organizations are just that and they are FREE! 

Be kind to yourself today, ask a friend if they’re ok, know that you are NOT alone if you’ve had the feeling that things are out of control or unmanageable but understand that YOUR MIND IS LYING TO YOU when it says death is a better option. 

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Whether there is separation, divorce or simply different parenting styles at play... navigating the path of nurturing your children through an intense period of life to co-parent in the best way possible is tough. We ALL want the best for our kids. But especially when a relationship has gone sour, being on the same page and communicating well can feel insurmountable! Welcome Tanya Wilson, a qualified psychotherapist and coach who has successfully helped hundreds of parents cross the bridge of uncertainty from profound pain to peace. Tanya illuminates for us the honest truth that all too often, even though we may have left the relationship that was hurting us... it ultimately does not mean that dynamic will magically change overnight. In a particularly stressful part of the parenting journey it is a process, where everyone is different and tackling one thing at a time is the only way to reach the end game of the safety and wellbeing of your children! 
Tanya walks us through;

🖤 How to stop hitting your head against a brick wall when it comes to your ex (you broke up for a reason!)
🖤 The idea that coparenting is like a flow-chart, depending on yes or no answers we all have different solutions to meet us our particular circumstance
🖤 How to assess whether there is narcissistic tendencies or abuse impeding you to move forward 
🖤 What to do to ease ‘Transition days’ 
🖤 How to empower your children when new relationships are a reality in your blended family dynamic 

She also kindly gives us access to her new e-book ‘The New Self-care’ a must for Mamas AND her communication scripts to help those conversations with even the hardest personalities.

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Feeling lost is an epidemic, it is the very foundation on which new age spirituality was born. Never before have we been in a time where every Life Coach, Influencer and Spiritual Mentor promises to show us the way. To bring us to the buried gold. Could it be as simple as the fact that we just aren’t allowing ourselves the freedom of being guided by our very own treasure map? This map is our VALUES! A value system is defined as a hierarchy of characteristics and behaviours that motivate and guide our decisions. The big decisions in life are often always the hardest but they don’t have to be… because we all yearn for a life that feels effortless. We all feel challenged in particular areas of life - some more so than others. Is it possible to CHOOSE the challenges that will leave us feeling stronger, building more self-worth and resilience than ever before, propelling us into inspired action that aligns with our truth? Well yes. 

In this episode Addie Reeves chats to us about how our value system steers the trajectory of our life. She explains how tapping into the significance of our value hierarchy can create new and exhilarating pathways to genuine personal success, in whatever form that definition means to us individually.

Addie Reeves: https://www.addiereeves.com/

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Most of us have a vision of what we want life to look like, how we want to feel moving through this graceful mess we call life... but sometimes we can get stuck. Stuck on the to-do lists, stuck on the demands of family life - putting everyone else first. Stuck on feeling like a failure because life is so busy and why is there just no TIME?! Stuck on that comment Jenny made over coffee yesterday that just won’t dislodge from your brain… fucking STUCK sucks! I know because I am often stuck too. That’s why I am bringing you Claire Byrt from Project Work Life - a bonafide badass boss babe - she has made it her business to connect women to their hearts and dive into the essence of what matters most, like REALLY matters most. Not just the shit you ‘think’ you need to do but what your heart (and soul for that matter) actually wants! What your heart needs in order for you to flourish. To stop filling up life with ‘things’ and start feeling good showing UP in life’s moments, aligned to the uniqueness that is YOU!
What does taking time out ACTUALLY do for your life, yourself, your heart and all the things that are going around you in your world? We find out! Stillness is a practice and allowing your body to slow down is invaluable to create coherence and flow straight from the heart into your expansive corner of the world.
In this episode we talk about the debilitation of fear (newsflash: there is no hack out of having fear ride along with you!) and Claire gives us some sweet, sweet action steps (she is an action gal) to take right now to connect in and try this heart-based living on for size!

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We have all heard the saying "It takes a village" when it comes to raising the littles but living life as a village didn't just benefit new parents, it helped the collective to be in tune with one another, honouring uniqueness whilst working as one.
We are more technologically connected than ever before trained to give feedback in the form of likes and comments, but unlike our history we have never felt so alone and isolated when it comes to community and support. The rates of diagnosed depression and anxiety in Australia alone beg the question... where has the village gone? This episode I talk to Australian actor and television personality Imogen Bailey regarding her passion project 'The Women's Circle'  - Imogen is all about reviving this ancient ritual with a modern twist to re-connect, support and hold space for women. Creating communities that honour the safe and trusted expanse of sisterhood, giving those involved a voice of equality and allowing them to just be themselves – accepted, loved and received just as they are. She gives us insight into her own personal journey with social anxiety and unfurls for us the magic that is the womens circle no matter if your a spiritual sista or suburban Mama!

Imogen Bailey: https://imogen-bailey.com/

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Tantrums. Back chat. Sleepless nights. Constantly wondering if your kids are ACTUALLY deaf because they never seem to hear a word you say... Aahhhhh parenting, don't you just love it?! In the tough moments our kids can make us question the very essence of ourselves. We so often think our child's behaviour reflects our inherent value, forming a direct connection between how they act with who we are as a person. This leads to constant stress, worry, anger, frustration and even sadness.
But what if we looked at all these behaviours through a different lens... one that told us that their behaviour is just a form of communication? Albeit an annoying one! This form of communication tells us needs are not being met, and this lens helps up seperate our story from that of our child's so that instead of defending and justifying our reactions, we approach their cry for help cool, calm and collected. Jackie Hall from the Parental Stress Centre joins us to share some of her experience of early Motherhood... feelings of overwhelm and absolute failure that propelled her into a career helping other parents leave the shame, guilt and fear behind to embrace the experience of raising the littles!

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Girl meets boy, girl falls in love, life is magical…  girl gets triggered by unmet childhood needs, girl leaves boy to search for ‘The One’ (again) and lives unhappily ever after. Sound familiar?? Relationships are one of the most beautiful and scared things we experience here on this earthly plain, they are also the single most powerful teachers we have. For better or worse they bring out ALL THE THINGS… the unresolved emotional issues we have left over from years gone by, showing up again and again to make us whole again. Love Addiction is a thing. And believe it or not it is actually quite common – defined as the expectation that someone else can solve your problems and provide unconditional positive affection at all times… to truly take care of you. A fantasy many women have. When this unrealistic need isn’t met, love addicts find themselves feeling resentful, and as a result create unnecessary conflict in their intimate relationships. In this episode we talk to Melissa Essence about what love addiction is, how it may be showing up in life, that you can  - in fact navigate successful relationships through this AND she gives us some excellent insights and pillars of support.

Imago based therapy – finding the love you want…

Free community support for Love Addicts in Australia

Robin Norwood - Women who love too much

*none of these links are affiliates, just providing support and information if you wish to explore this topic further

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Have you ever felt like if you could just master your mind life would feel better? Our brains are the most fascinating and complex organ in the human body and to learn how to harness the power of it would be... well, phenomenal! Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP claims to help do just this, eliminate bad habits for good, create self-awareness and feedback that allows for easier, clearer communication with not only yourself but others too! This episode we dive into the world of the 'unconscious mind' with Liza Perks from Enhanced Life Coaching - a hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner and Psych-K specialist - she walks us through how NLP has served her life by removing worry and gives us a quick, easy take-home tool that can reduce stress in minutes. These powerful mind techniques, can help you remove guilt, shame, and anger by building new positive neurological pathways in your brain.

Nikki OBrien: https://www.instagram.com/quintessential_being_bynikki/
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Embracing everything this human experience throws at us can be tough going, especially when New Age Spirituality is telling us 'happiness' is just one more affirmation away! What if you could create the space to feel everything, the entire spectrum of emotions without judgement, blame and criticism? How would that change your relationship to yourself, and others? Best selling author and Consciousness Queen Holly Nunan talks to us about arriving in wholeness. She breaks down the myths of controlling our minds and feelings that block us expressing the true essence of ourselves and publicly declares war on labelling 'negative' or 'positive' emotions.

Holly Nunan: http://thehollyeffect.com/what-others-are-saying/

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