Raising Confident Teens

On this week's podcast we interview the amazing self-taught musician Xaris Waltman. She talks about how she just went out as a young kid and did the work - massive action over time brought results. Even though she only played to small groups to start with she kept at it and now at nineteen she is able to support herself and her dreams. She gives some great advice on what to do when people repeatedly tell you "no". Stay tuned to the very end of the podcast because we are doing a giveaway for one of her cds.

Keith and Rachel take over the podcast to talk about their story. They discuss the darkest time of their lives which they have never talked about publicly to anyone before. In the past, they have taken these experiences and used them to help adults through teaching classes in a church setting. Their desire is to share the things that they have learned with the next generation so that they can be successful and avoid all the pain and heartache that their family experienced

On podcast episode eight, we interviewed Josh Apple about what it takes to be a member of a Special Operations Force team. Josh serves in the Air Force as a Combat Controller. Combat controllers are rarely talked about, but they serve a vital role alongside other special operation force teams. These guys are the ones who call in the airstrikes, provide command and control, direct air traffic, and set up airfields, among other things. Josh has been a recipient of both a Bronze Star and a Combat Action Medal.

He discussed what a young person can do to prepare if they want to join a Special Operations Force team. The most important part is being able to deal with the mental demands. He shared with us how to make it easier by getting yourself into a routine and schedule. We talked about how you have to decide how bad you want it and what your motivation is for doing it. If this is something that you want to pursue, do your research to find a position that you can be passionate about. Then start training so that you can exceed the required physical standard. Set goals for yourself and realize that it will not happen quickly.

We also discussed how seeing the world and having experiences that test your endurance will give you greater confidence and self-respect. The military has training down to a science. When young people goes through military training, they learn that they are capable of so much more than they thought possible. When people willingly submit themselves to the process instead of fighting it, they learn what they can attain.

We are so thankful for guys and gals like Josh who are bravely serving our country! If you would like to hear the rest of the interview, it is available here.

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On this episode we discuss the last year on our No Sugary Drink challenge. A year ago, three of us decided that we were going to challenge each other to see who would be the first to drink a sugary drink. It became a battle to see who has more willpower. All three of us are still at it, and I'm going to share several of the tips we learned this year that apply to anyone trying to accomplish a goal.

Tip #1-The people that succeed in life, do not succeed because they have more will power than others. They succeed because they have systems and plans that help them. For example, it you want to eat healthier or save money by packing a lunch, make it the night before or keep some healthy snacks in your car.

Tip #2-Narrow your focus. Don't try to improve yourself in a bunch of different areas at once. You may need to improve in all those areas. However, if you try to do it all at once you will get overwhelmed and end up quitting all of them. Just try to work on no more than a couple of areas at a time.

Tip #3-Find people who will encourage you. They don't necessarily have to be doing it with you, but they need to be encouraging you towards your goal. If a friend is always wanting you to do something that does not make you a better person, it's time to find a new friend.

Commit today to working on one of your goals. It's amazing how quickly a year will pass. Will you look back with regret that you never started or satisfaction that you were able to improve yourself?

Zachary Reinhart (who we have highlighted on the blog before: https://www.bedaringlife.com/2019/06/29/a-daring-profile-zachary-reinhart) joined us on the podcast to discuss teens in foster care. He gave us some insight into the confusing feelings and emotions that teens experience when they are put into care.

Teens who are just coming into care struggle with the transition; we need to respect their need to privacy while they process through the traumatic changes they are experiencing. We also talked about just being present and supportive of teens going through this experience and being willing to “sit with them in the darkness.”

We discussed how the people in his church have helped him heal and made him feel like he was not alone because of how much they care for him and all the foster kids in the community. He also gave us advice on things we can do to help teens in foster care who may be in similar situations.

He discussed how he came to the conclusion that, “You can’t let anybody else choose your happiness for you. You have to consciously make a decision to wake up every day and say, “Who am I going to be today? Who do I want to be today?”

The message he most wanted to share with everyone going through hard times – “God has not forgotten you.”

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This week on the podcast we discussed in more depth a principle that we had talked about in a past blog post: https://www.bedaringlife.com/2019/06/07/closed-mouths-dont-get-fed. I have been doing this more consciously recently, and have been amazed at the results. If you have a goal and can work together with someone to get it accomplished, take a chance and ask! This is one of the biggest confidence boosting things that you can do. Are you any worse off for asking? If you don’t ask, that’s an automatic “No.” The fear of being rejected often cripples us so much that it keeps us from our purpose. Most people are not the scary monsters that we make them out to be in our heads. Many people would love to help, especially if you ask politely and you consider what you can offer them in return. No matter what their answer is, always treat them graciously.

How does this apply to you? Be willing to apply for the job or the internship. (Act like a professional when you do it. That’s a subject for another day.) Ask your cell phone provider for a lower rate. So many times we just think that we have to accept whatever the offer is, but I know people who have gotten their cell, utilities, car payments, and mortgage loan rates lowered just by asking. Ask that person you like out on a date. If you are struggling with a concept, ask your teacher for help. Be willing to take a risk. When you start making it a habit, you will realize it really isn’t that scary after all.

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Transcript of Episode:

Episode Four – Guest Interview Sarah Spayd

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Books referenced in show:

The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

Atomic Habits by James Clear

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