Raw Conversations with Corinne Blum

Dating isn’t so easy these days for singles. Some of you might be from a generation that you remember what dating was like before smart phones and dating apps; it could only happen organically. Some of you might be from a generation where you’ve never met someone in an organic way but only through apps. It’s a strange time for dating for everyone.

But no matter which way you choose to date, how to do it authentically is really the core question and motivation.

In this episode I go into what some of the challenges are, how modern society has gotten very anti-social or socially awkward because many people don’t even look up anymore, let alone chat to one another. I talk about how our perception is greatly affected by the stories we tell ourselves, the emotions that enhance those stories and the beliefs that lie at the core of them.

When we recognise that our stories aren’t serving us, we get to choose to not believe in them anymore. When we stop believing in them, we stop feeding them and then we get to take on an entirely new perspective that is motivated by a belief that actually does serve us.

I also talk about just being YOU!

Tune in for more…

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

Instagram: @corinneblum @theauthenticselfcoach

This is really only the beginning of a much vaster conversation. Really, I’d like to speak more to women and men directly, and gather their stories and share more based on what I learn from them. Already I’ve had men especially, reaching out wanting to share their thoughts and experiences.

Both women and men alike, have their plight. And I believe much of it comes down to an unhealthy society that emasculates men and masculinises women. In the process, both the masculine and feminine within us all, have been vilified. We’ve been pulled away from our innate nature and our natural gifts, values and roles that we offer each other as men and women, have been confused.

It’s a big topic and I’m here to just start the conversation and encourage you to begin speaking amongst one another. I believe we need to share our challenges, pain and suffering, listen to them without competition, offer compassion and learn how to build a bridge back to each other again.

Because really, wouldn’t it be nice to just learn how to love each other more?

Tune in for more…

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

Instagram: @corinneblum @theauthenticselfcoach

Yesterday I hit the wall and I felt vulnerable for it. I had a good cry.

Today I’m sharing a little about hitting the wall. About not knowing or of knowing that somehow “here” doesn’t feel right, but I can’t yet see where “there” is and how to get there.

I don’t have answers but all I can say is that many, if not all of us, are undergoing great transition and the dragging on of it is frustrating. It can feel like we’re constantly running up again walls, that there’s no clarity, that you can exhaust every option and you still meet the wall.

Know that if you’re feeling like this that you’re not alone. We’ll get through the other side eventually. In the meantime I’m asking myself what are the lessons? How can I let go more? Try less? Trust…Surrender…Allow.

It’s simple but it’s certainly not easy, that’s for damn sure!

So some days are like this: hard, tearful, frustrating. But I believe that if we share our stories, our vulnerability, that we can support one another because we’re all carving a new path…even if we haven’t a clue where the hell we’re going!

Tune in for more…

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

Instagram: @corinneblum @theauthenticselfcoach

There is an illusion that comes through wanting to control others or the environment around us. What I mean by that is, we believe that if we can control someone or something else around us, that we’ll feel safe.

But safety can’t be conditional and dependent on something outside of us because the reality is we don’t have control of anyone or anything outsides of ourselves. We only have control over ourselves and how we choose to respond to situations and people in our lives.

So what we’re really look for is not to control but to feel safe and the first point of safety needs to come from within ourselves.

So when we feel pulled to control, the invitation is to ask ourselves in what ways are we scared? What do we need? How can we give ourselves that need so that we feel safe and ok in this moment.

I go much deeper into all of this along with looking at attachment styles, communication and more.

Tune in for more…

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

Instagram: @corinneblum @theauthenticselfcoach

Confidence isn’t something you acquire from the outside. Confidence naturally comes when you become comfortable within yourself, and in order to feel comfortable within yourself, you have to get comfy with the parts that make you feel uncomfortable.

That’s a mouthful!

You can say affirmations, sure. You can do things that make you feel good, sure. Ultimately though, confidence arises when we’ve learned to sit with our deeper discomfort: our fear, pain, sadness and wounding.

We’re flexing a new muscle when we “stay with” our experience. We’re building trust with ourselves when we stay without judgment or criticism. We’re showing ourselves that we’re trustworthy when we stay long enough that we recognise we’re not abandoning, rejecting or neglecting our inner most tender parts of ourselves.

When we get comfortable staying there, we’ll be far more comfortable in other situations, be it: dating, a job interview, being in a social group etc. If you’re comfortable within yourself no matter what arises, even if you feel terribly embarrassed, you’re going to begin to feel good within yourself because you won’t be resisting who you are. Instead, you’ll embrace who you uniquely are (quirks and all), allowing you to accept and inevitably love all parts of you and feel comfortable within your own skin. All this will lead you to feel confident and which in turn, will support you in showing up in life in more authentic, ‘true to you’ ways.

Why waste a life being someone that you’re not in order to impress someone that ultimately won’t be right for you? “A privilege of a lifetime, it to be who you truly are.” (Jung).

Tune in for more…

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

Instagram: @corinneblum @theauthenticselfcoach

What is intimacy?

What does it require?

Why are we afraid of it?

Why is intimacy so important?

Intimacy is all about heart and it requires us to reside in our heart so that we can connect to others. But our hearts are both powerful and tender so there is great vulnerability and even risk that comes with intimacy.

Ultimately, intimacy begins with being intimate with ourselves and being intimate with ourselves asks us to drop into our heart and be honest with ourselves.

“Into Me I See” is a term being used a lot to breakdown the meaning of intimacy. So as with most things, the journey starts within.

How honest are you with yourself?

Are you living in your heart?

Can you be vulnerable with yourself?

Can you hold and take care of your fears?

These are just some of the questions that lead us to greater intimacy within ourselves and therefore deeper, more meaningful intimacy with others (whether romantic or platonic).

In the end, intimacy leads us to human connection—a fundamental need we have as humans.

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Instagram: @corinneblum @theauthenticselfcoach

You’re not a project because you’re not broken and therefore there’s nothing to fix, or even accomplish.

I wish I could give you a step 1,2,3 on how to do this life business, but if it were that linear, life would come with a manual.

For me, this work isn’t about “doing,” at least it doesn’t start from there. It’s about “being.” How are we “being” with ourselves. Are we being kind or mean? Are we critical or accepting? How we treat ourselves deciphers how “happy” or at peace we are within ourselves.

And btw, once we’ve learned how to be in a state of “being,” the “doing” naturally follows. How we are within ourselves will flow into our behaviour, it will positively affect and reframe our belief systems, shift our triggers and reactions and we’ll begin to show up very differently in life because we will be relating to ourselves in new ways. As within, so without.

Whatever you’re looking for from the outside is most likely what you are needing on the inside—from YOU.

In this episode I talk about where to begin and how a simple reframe can make all the difference.

Tune in for more…

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach
Instagram: @corinneblum @theauthenticselfcoach

The main things that keep us from feeling liberated within ourselves are: our story, judgment and expectations.

There will always be an element of struggle and suffering in life, but there’s no need for the unnecessary suffering that comes through all the ways in which we keep ourselves small, put ourselves down or feel like we’re failing at life.

One of the greatest intentions I

hold in my work, is to support us in liberating ourselves from that unnecessary suffering so that we can be in our joy, or at the very least, so that we can feel at peace with and within ourselves.

Tune in for more…

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

Instagram: @corinneblum @theauthenticselfcoach

Sometimes we simply don’t have the capacity to meet someone’s needs and vice-versa.

When we do the inner work, we begin to see life and others through a clear, more neutral lens. Our perspective is less tinted and tainted by our own wounds, triggers and unmet needs. When we’ve healed our wounds and tended to our triggers and know how to show up for ourselves with acceptance, love and care, we can see things for what they are rather than the story we’ve made up about us, that person, the relationship, life etc.

The next step is that we can maybe tap into our natural, innate being that has compassion for ourselves and others.

When we do the work we can recognise other people’s capacity. What their ability is and where they’re at on their own journey of growth. When we can see what their capacity is (or isn’t), we stop taking things personal. And when we stop taking things personal, we can let go of the story of the past, or the false story of ourselves that are no longer serving us. Instead, we come from a place of worth, understanding and ultimately, care.

Tune in for more…

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

Instagram: @corinneblum @theauthenticselfcoach

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What if there was nothing wrong with you?

What if there was no problem to fix, or nothing to get rid of?

What if you knew that you are innately good enough and worthy but maybe there are just parts of you that need your loving attention?

How would that change things?

And how would it feel to know that you are not your behaviour? That sure, we all need to be accountable for our behaviour, but that our inherent worth isn’t based on what we do but who we are at the core of our being.

When we create enough space between the essence of who we truly are and our behaviour, then we can change, alchemise and transform our behaviours, habits, patterns etc. But if we’re identified with our behaviour, it’s hard to change anything because we’ll take everything personal.

Tune in for more…

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Instagram: @corinneblum @theauthenticselfcoach

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach