What does healing actually mean? There are so many modalities and what works for one might not work for another. But the angle I’m offering is that healing requires us to sit with our pain, and in a pain avoidant society/culture, this is sometimes a big ask. At the very least it’s something we need to learn, and be supported, to do more often.

There is no circumventing our pain and though the prospect of sitting with it might be scary or uncomfortable for you, I have seen and felt myself that it often always leads to relief because what we’re finally doing, is acknowledging our own existence.

We’re no longer pretending to be ok, or acting like someone else that might be deemed more acceptable to society. We get to be in our authentic truth and that is a very liberating and empowering feeling to reside within.

You’re not going to fully heal until you pull the thorn out from your wound and pulling the thorn out requires that you go on a journey within yourself.

We have to walk into the forrest where all the shadows that scare us are. We need to get to know them and become comfortable with them and recognise that what we were afraid of wasn’t our pain but the unknown, itself. Because once we get to know our pain we get to know ourselves, and once we get to know ourselves we feel less alone because we realise that when we connect to all the various parts of ourselves (like putting the pieces of the puzzle together or gluing the broken fragments of a vase back together again) we feel whole.

Healing is a catalyst for growth. It’s an open door that invites you to get to know yourself better. It’s a journey and an awakening. It will require courage, which requires heart, but the journey will lead you to the state of peace you have been seeking. It will guide you back home.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

It all comes down to our inner child. How we get triggered, why we get defensive, the emotional reactions we find ourselves repeating. The core of our patterns and reactions is our wounding which is when the child within us felt hurt, abandoned, rejected, unloved etc.

Doing the inner child work is what leads to our healing. It’s the most direct path but it’s a process that is experiential not conceptual. It doesn’t happen in the mind but in the body.

And it takes time….It may seem like nothing is happening and you’re not getting anywhere but because it’s experiential, you have to move through the experience for the penny to eventually drop. It’s not something you can just read in a book and then shelf it, as a dear friend of mine said. You have to live it, embody it, practice it again and again and you will reach a marker when you can FEEL it and then it all of a sudden makes sense not just intellectually but experientially. And that’s when you’re whole life begin to change in a more visible way because now your patterns are conscious, you understand how to take care of yourself and you know that no matter what, you’re there for yourself and you can get through anything.

It’s an ongoing journey of getting to know yourself more deeply, continually showing up for yourself with love, gentleness, patience, acceptance and kindness so that you begin to trust yourself and therefore feel safe within yourself.

You are cultivating a lifelong long relationship until death do you part.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

I want to piggyback off of yesterday’s episode (Vulnerability, Stretching Beyond our Comfort Zone, Connecting to our Essence) and talk about perception.

How we perceive ourselves, others and our experiences, creates the reality we live in. If our perception is not coming from a clear, as objective as possible, lens, we can paint a very different reality that is based on a false story and limited belief vs the truth that is before us.

Basically, if we’re not perceiving things from a place of love, kindness towards ourselves and self-worth, we may create a lot of unnecessary suffering.

The invitation is to be curious about how you perceive yourself and how that may differ from the feedback you’re receiving from others. And that goes both ways btw.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

I sang in front of an audience this past Saturday and I want to share my personal story about my experience; which involves vulnerability, stretching ourselves beyond our comfort zone and connecting to the essence of who we truly are.

What makes all of that possible is allowing Love to be the container for our experience. Because love (self-love) said to me as I was nervous as all hell and wondering if I could really do this: “It’s ok, no matter what happens I’m here for you. I’ll support you, love you, accept you no matter what.”

Love allowed me to exhale and be me. It encouraged me to be vulnerable, stretch myself beyond my comfort zone and allow the essence of who I am to come out and play and be free.

I can’t tell you how enlivened it made me feel. It was food for my soul!

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

I want to share what came through for me as I was meditating this morning and journaling just now.

Every year a word spontaneously comes up for me as the theme of the year. Now I don’t really follow the calendar new year, but my birthday falls just after the new year so that’s probably where I draw the inspiration for this new cycle.

This year my word is Love. Which seems so obvious because I talk about it a lot but something felt very specific about it.

I want love to be the thread that weaves this year together.

In this episode I will talk about love and what keeps us from being in a state of love.

One thing I will say here as it seemed so important when I heard it in my mind (or my heart 😉) is that I know that love can be scary, and being in a state of love can also be confronting in a weird way, because it beckons us to let go of anything and everything that keeps us small and in our story of victimisation, hurt, wounding etc. But what I heard so clearly is that love requires courage and the heart is willing to be both courageous and loving. So do it! Live from love. Create from love. Be love.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

I will refer to this New Year as the calendar new year because if we follow the rhythms of nature, the true new year would be the Spring equinox.

Based on that, I want to talk about how sometimes resolutions become more of a pressure and expectation that we end up falling short of, and which therefore leaves us feeling rather shitty, rather than setting intentions that truly support our growth.

Also, if we’re not in tune or in harmony with the rhythms of nature, we might be expecting ourselves to do something which the energy simply isn’t there to support us in, because this is a time of gestation. We are planting seeds that will emerge into the world in Spring when life rebirths itself, but for now, the attention is really on creating nourishing soil for the those seeds to eventually grow out of.

It’s an inward time. A more yin rather than yang energy.

So this podcast is an invitation to tune into yourself and really take care and pay attention to your deeper needs.

Just because something is done a certain way in society doesn’t mean it’s right for you or that it’s right in general. Listen to you! The guidance you need is there.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

What are our associations with love?

Why do we associate love with pain?

Do we mix up attachment and love, or various feelings and emotions that we’re experiencing, with love?

In this podcast I dive into the essence of love and all the various aspects that we associate with love and how we sometimes get them all tangled up.

I also talk about how to be the source of love as well as how pain acts as a catalyst to breakdown the barriers of our heart which aren’t really protecting us but keeping us out of our own inner home.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

In our society, December is one of the busiest months. There’s shopping, social events (that include lots of sugar and alcohol), family get-togethers (which for some are stressful) travel etc. It’s busy!

But if we look at nature, everything is slowing down. It’s the darkest time of the year and therefore a very inward time of year.

What society is doing, is in complete opposition to what nature is doing.

But we are nature. We’re not separate from it. So part of taking care of ourselves, is paying attention to what is going on in nature as a reflection of our inner nature. Or you could say it the other way around as really they are one and the same.

Taking care of ourselves is about attuning to our needs, cycles, rhythms…It’s about listening in and paying attention and ultimately giving ourselves what we need.

It’s about building a relationship with ourselves that is full of love, care, commitment and trust.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

I wish I could give you a formula but really, to me, the practice of giving ourselves love is more of an experience.

Firstly, it’s a practice and what any practice requires is consistency.

Second, loving ourselves is an act of generosity: it’s self-giving.

We are learning how to give ourselves love by showing up consistently (so that we can build trust), accepting our entire experience and self (letting go of judgment) and through showing up consistently and accepting ourselves, we begin to naturally love ourselves.

The obstacles will be our limiting beliefs (I’m not worthy, good enough, loveable enough. I’m rejected, abandoned. I don’t belong etc) but the obstacle is the way. It’s the portal in to your deeper self and when you arrive there and recognise that all you’re really needing is your own loving attention (just like you crave from a partner or parent), loving yourself simply becomes the daily practice of being present with your experience without judgment.

If judgment arises, then get curious. Be the adult, the parent you wish you’d had, the partner you’re longing to have.

Whatever it is that you’re seeking outside of yourself, give that to yourself, first. Be the adult that will make the choice to take care of these parts of you that need your loving attention.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

What is the shadow? Why do we avoid it? And why does it run our lives until we make it conscious?

In this episode of Raw Conversations with Corinne Blum, we’ll look at these three questions and why doing the shadow work is so important for our happiness and well being.

A preview into this episode:

The shadow isn’t the sum of all the “negative,” bad parts of who you are and should aim to get rid of. The shadow simply represents all the parts of you that you don’t want to look at because they are the parts of you that hurt.

We don’t often want to look at our discomfort because, well, it can be painful, scary, vulnerable and often feel shameful and that’s why we avoid our shadow.

But the shadow isn’t something to push away. It is something to walk towards with curiosity and compassion for it holds the key to our transformation and happiness.

By accepting our shadow as a scared, hurt part of us that simply needs our loving attention, we have the opportunity to transmute our pain and fear into a comforting sense of true self-acceptance and love-from the inside out.

Ultimately, by embracing our shadow and accepting our entire selves, we are cultivating a healthy relationship with ourselves; creating a bond and an inner trust that runs so deep within ourselves, that we never truly feel alone or unloved again.

Loving you from afar,

Corinne