Raw Conversations with Corinne Blum

Nothing changes when we are in a state of resistance and yet sometimes we have to go through the resistance state to clarify what it is that we want to change.

But in order for change to occur, we must stop resisting what is. We have to allow, accept and feel into what is happening right here, right now. Only then can we make a choice as to how we want to respond to our current reality. We have to stand on two feet first before we can take a step forwards.

This goes both for our external and internal world. So much of our suffering arises out of being in a state of tension because we don’t want this or that experience. We don’t want this feeling. We don’t want this situation. We don’t what is here to be this way, we want it to be that way, for example. But if you haven’t already noticed, it doesn’t really work does it? Resistance doesn’t change anything it just creates more suffering.

So if we want things to change, we have to stop fighting against ourselves and our current reality. We have to soften and find that point of relaxation that allows flow to come in which gives us that sense and feeling of moving forwards.

Sometimes we’ll be walking in the dark. We’ve got to learn to trust it.

Sometimes it will take a good long while before we can stop the resisting, because we might be undoing decades worth of habit, routine and patterning. Wherever you’re at is perfect. Begin there.

In this episode I go into the simple yet profound ways of letting go of resistance and allowing, instead. It comes down to choice and of course, awareness.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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We all have needs but many of them are unconscious, stemming from childhood, and we play them out through our ‘reactive’ behaviour in relationship.

Needs are just a feeling that we require in a particular moment and situation. Unmet needs are a feeling we needed that we didn’t receive (most especially in childhood). The need could be for safety, validation, love, assurance, connection, truth worthiness…and so on. But when our needs are unconscious and we haven’t learnt yet how to give ourselves those needs, we expect others to fulfil them for us. We’re still playing out the child looking to its parent to fulfil the emotional need that wasn’t met in a moment of fear, confusion, aloneness. A moment when we didn’t feel loveable enough, significant enough or competent enough. When we needed presence and instead we were met with what might have felt like a vacancy and being left alone with an overwhelming experience.

Getting to know our deeper needs is a ‘peeling back the layers of the onion’ kind of process. We can start with our unconscious behaviour which normally shows up as reactivity. Then we go deeper and notice what is the emotion, the feeling, where are they coming from, what are they trying to express to us and what is the emotional need at the core.

This process is about building a conversation and creating a language with ourselves—our emotions, fears, triggers, beliefs, wounding etc. Once we have the language, we learn how to give ourselves what we need which almost always will be a feeling.

It’s a complex topic with so many layers but we can begin with small steps. Getting to know ourselves along the way, inviting our inner child to grow into the adult we are today, that is capable of meeting our own needs and learning how to communicate them with our partner; ultimately creating healthy, mature, secure relationships.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

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If we believe that there are parts of us that are good and parts of us that are bad, if we believe that certain emotions are positive and therefore ok to feel and others are negative and therefore should be gotten rid of, we are living in duality within ourselves.

When we’re in duality, we see things in black and white, good and bad, right and wrong and inevitably what that produces, is judgment.

When we judge parts of ourselves, we sever and fragment ourselves which is what makes us feel “broken” and less whole

But we’re not broken, just like we’re not unloveable or unworthy. We are innately whole, worthy and loveable. But through our pain, hurt, confusion, fear, abandonment etc, we began to store parts of us away in the shadow of our being, fragmenting our sense of wholeness and worse, finding ourselves in an inner conflict with parts of us we deem shameful, bad, or wrong.

Moving from duality and judgment to wholeness and compassion requires that we no longer exile parts of us away into the shadows. It requires us to embrace and heal our wounds and all that healing is, is loving our entire selves, most especially our sore spots.

In this episode I look at both the micro and the macro of how our inner duality and judgment gets reflected by the duality and judgment we see out in the world. And how though is may seem simple, how living from heart and embodying love, truly will change the world because heart and unconditional love simply cannot judge, destroy or hate without feeling the pain of doing so.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

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Life isn’t linear, but cyclical and sometimes squiggly. It isn’t a constant forward and upward moving line, either. It ebbs and flows. It travels across various terrains. Sometimes it’s easeful and we’re riding a nice, long wave to the shore, and in other moments it’s tempestuous.

Cultivating resilience and endurance is learning how to dance with life. Knowing that we’re in partnership with life, the Universe, God (choose your word). We’re co-creating this experience as we go along.

But if we get too rigid in our ideas that life ‘should’ and ‘has to’ go in a particular way, the 5 year plan, the 10 year plan, and then life all of a sudden doesn’t happen that way, we get easily thrown. We wonder what’s wrong. We question why. But life was never predictable, or controllable, or linear in the first place.

Radical trust starts with our relationship with ourselves. Building our unique language with ourselves, learning to listen and then learning to trust what we hear.

Navigating life is about bringing these three together: resilience, endurance, trust. Knowing that they a part of the dance, all of which require our presence, self-awareness and the willingness to flow with life rather than resist against it.

Tune in for more as I dive into what the inner work that we need to do is, how we can become our own obstacle, redefining the way we view life and the questions we can ask ourselves along the way.

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

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Self-trust is not something that happens over night, most especially in a society that doesn’t encourage us to listen to our true selves. It is something that is cultivated over time.

First we have to get to know our true Self, which lies beneath all the false layers of who we think we should be for others.

Next, we have to show up with presence and kindness with enough consistency that we begin to recognise that we can rely on ourselves. We see that we’re no longer ignoring or neglecting, judging or criticising but we’re showing up with compassion and love, instead.

Over time, we begin to trust.

In this episode, I go into the ways in which we don’t trust ourselves, the ways in which we can learn how to, and what trusting ourselves looks like in physical form.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

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“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ― Rumi

No matter what it is that we’re seeking in life, be it love, work, home, we often expend so much energy trying to “find” it. In the process of “looking,” we get tired, we lose hope, faith and the belief that what we’re seeking, we’ll find.

In this episode I offer you an analogy to help you stop seeking and start receiving, instead. I also clarify what I believe to be some misconceptions around the Law of Attraction and how perhaps my view on it might be a bit different.

We’re all able to manifest, it just requires that we lovingly do the inner work, embody our true, Authentic Self, accept our humanity as something that isn’t “bad” or “wrong” and instead learn how to be with all of it with love and compassion. It also takes radical trust, letting go of feeding the fear and stepping into a state of being that knows that no matter what, it’s all going to be okay.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

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Stress, anxiety, worry, fear, all have a way of taking up a lot of our time and vitality if we let them. But we often try to “deal” with these by masking the symptoms. We’re a Bandaid culture that doesn’t often like to take the time to go a little deeper into the core of WHY we feel stressed, anxious, worried or scared.

In this episode I talk about how stress plays out in our lives, how we tend to deal with it and how we can deal with—or, be with (listen to the full episode to see what I mean by this)—it, in a different more useful way.

We spend so much of our lives worrying about the future rather than being in the present with ourselves, cultivating a healthy relationship with ourselves and discovering that true inner peace isn’t dependent solely on the external but primarily on our state of mind and state of being.

“Stress isn’t what is happening to you, it’s how you are responding to what’s happening around you.”

Stress, therefore, is a mode of thinking, behaving and reacting to life’s circumstances. The good news is, we have “control” over our state of mind and being. It takes some discipline, courage, patience and compassion—we have to be willing to put in the work. But eventually, once we create a consistent daily practice, we’re no longer at the mercy—the tail wagging the dog—of our behaviour. The practice of being with our experience and showing up for ourselves with presence, becomes second nature and life becomes a lot more easeful.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

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How often do you find yourself pretending? You might not be conscious of it but we often don’t share how we really are, not only with others but sometimes, more importantly, with ourselves. We’ll distract ourselves from the discomfort, we’ll push down the pain, we’ll avoid the sadness…but there’s no ‘away.’ There is only repression and at one point or another, we will have to face what’s inside of us otherwise it will find a way out; most likely in an unpleasant way.

We live in a pain avoidant society. We deify ‘doing.’ We haven’t been taught how to be with and move through our emotions. How to sit with our pain, sadness, loss and grief.

In this episode I’m inviting you to think about dropping into the metaphoric dark room within you (listen to the episode to see what I’m referring to here) and listen. Listen to your feelings and emotions. Pay attention to your pain. Give a voice to your sadness, anger and even rage. All of these are messengers asking for your attention to go deeper. Deeper inside of yourself where you’ll find home, comfort and the confidence to just be you.

No more pretending.

No more needing to be something that you are not.

Just you, as you are, fully worthy of just being you.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

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*Correction: around 30 minutes what I meant to say is:” never has it felt bad to put my ego to the side and apologise when I was wrong. When I found humility and maturity. I think my brain thought I said it out loud but I don’t think the words came out that way! 😊. A lot of our suffering comes from the over identification with our thoughts, feelings and behaviours. We believe we ARE them…but we’re not.

This human experience is a dance, a conversation, between the essence of who we truly are and the personality that gives us an identity as a person in this human experience.

Now that might sound far out, but the reason why it’s so useful to understand this, is that it creates enough space for you to be able to observe your personality, behaviour and all the thoughts and feelings that come with it, WITHOUT being run by them, or drowned by them or being taken for a ride by them.

We have to be willing to go inside. We have to be willing to observe, self-reflect and make the unconscious, conscious. Some might be thinking, “That’s a hell of a lot of work and it sounds kind of scary, why the hell would I do that?! Being “asleep” is so much easier, so much more comfy….”

Only it’s not.

Waking up to ourselves can feel challenging, confronting and like a lot of work, at first. But it really is the only path to freedom and peace. It is the way to feel the relief you’ve been seeking. Because all of a sudden we’re riding the wave vs being bashed around by it. All of a sudden we have hold of the reins, rather than being thrown around by an uncontrollable stallion.

This path of being human is a humbling one and the ego likes to put up a good fight. It likes to be “right.” But when we do the inner work and grow, when we can say in certain situations, “I’m sorry, I made a mistake, I was wrong,” we open our hearts, we create connection and we reside in a kind of “isness” that holds the pure truth of who we are. And from that place we emanate love more freely. We become the beings we have always been but only forgotten along the way.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

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I believe that the more we get to know ourselves, the more liberation, happiness, fulfilment and peace we create for ourselves.

When I was introduced to the Enneagram in my early/mid twenties, it gave me a context to understand myself more. I felt so relieved in a way, thinking, “Oh wow, I’m not the only one that feels this way?!” But more so, it helped me understand the underbelly of who I am. How to work with my shadow, understand what motivates me and how to take care of myself better, amongst many other gifts.

Tools such an the Enneagram are not meant to pigeonhole us but to help us understand who we are better so that we can grow, evolve and move more into who we truly are in the essence of our being.

The more we cultivate self-awareness and consciousness, the more we have to work with. It’s not about judging our personality- our quirks, foibles, fears, anxieties, needs, desires etc-but the exact opposite. It’s about embracing all parts of us as a means to come closer to who we truly are. To return back home within ourselves to the place, and being that we are, that is innately worthy, loveable and significant.

The Enneagram is a wonderful way to not only get to know ourselves better, but it helps us understand others better too. When we understand our differences, we are more able to be compassionate rather than judgmental. It can be incredibly helpful in relationship as well - sometimes a life and relationship saver!

In a world so at the ready to criticise one another for our differences, don’t you think it would be lovely to turn that around and create more compassion, instead?

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

www.corinneblum.com

Facebook: @corinneblum @corinneblumcoach

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