Re-Enchant Your Life

Today you're being reminded to not let the judgements of others define you.

Accept that people are going to judge you, but you don't have to let their judgement define you.

The more you commit to Your SHEro's Journey the more you'll find yourself making choices that prioritise you and your needs, and these choices may go against what other people expect of you and from you.

Perhaps you'll do things that break from the expectations of your family or those of society.

Maybe you'll prioritise your own experiences and growth over other people's comfort.

Maybe you'll learn to express a side of you that you have not shown before and this may make other people uncomfortable.

Do it anyway.

People are going to judge you.

Do it anyway.

You may trigger other people who are invested in you staying the same.

They may not like the changes you choose as it goes against their world view or upsets their routines.

Do it anyway.

People may judge you as a way of trying to control or manipulate your behaviour and choices.

They may judge you because they don't understand your choices.

They may judge you because they need to do much of their own inner work.

They may judge you because they need to begin their own SHEro's Journey but have yet to commit to it.

Do it anyway.

People will judge your choices, and the reasons they do are their reasons and not a reflection of who you are.

Do not let the judgements of others define who you are or how you think about yourself.

In this very moment, pause, and take a breath. As you let go of other people's judgements.

Today's SHEro Action:

Today's SHEro action is to notice where you've been holding back because of the expectation of, or the actual judgements of others.

Consider what it is that you need so that you can move forward in alignment with your truth.

Maybe it's nurturing more resilience and courage within yourself.

Perhaps the guidance of a trusted friend, mentor or coach.

Perhaps you need to have a conversation with the person to discuss choices, feelings and your on-going relationship.

Pause, and take a breath. As you confidently and unapologetically live your life.

Today's Affirmation:

"I move forward with confidence"

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Today you're being reminded to embrace your dreams.

They are your dreams.

They have been given to you.

You've dreamt them, been inspired by them, you know them to be yours.

Your dreams have been given to you because you have the ability to make them a reality. To bring them to life in this world.

It doesn't mean that it will be easy, but it will be possible.

You may have to push yourself out of your comfort zone, learn new skills, or ask for help, but I have no doubt you can make them happen.

When other people don't understand your dreams and vision for your life, the future and the world that you want to live in, don't worry they're not meant to, it's not their dream, it was given to you.

They've been given their own dreams, it's up to them if they follow theirs.

Don't allow other people's negative thoughts, fears and limiting patterns to be projected onto your own dreams.

Of course, listen to trusted advice, seek guidance and support. But be choosey of who you listen to. You do not have to listen to everyone.

Listen to the advice of people who share your values, who you admire, who have walked the path before you, who are where you want to go.

Focus on your dreams, nurture your dreams, and enjoy your dreams, they are yours to enjoy and dance with.

In this very moment, pause, and take a breath. As you reconnect with your deepest dreams and desires.

Today's SHEro Action:

Today's SHEro action is to reconnect with your dreams.

Remind yourself of why they're important to you.

What they will give to you and how this will ripple out and improve the quality of the relationships you have with your friends and family. How you creating your dreams does more than just benefit your life.

Reflect on how your own dreams can have a positive ripple effect on the people you meet, your communities and the world around you.

Focus on how your dreams can improve your life, but also the lives of others.

Connect with how your dreams will allow you to support, lift and inspire yourself and others.

Remember why this dream is important to you and why it has been given to you.

Pause, and take a breath. As you revel in your own dream.

Today's Affirmation:

"I commit to my dreams"

https://rebeccaanuwen.com/your-dreams-are-yours

Today you're being reminded to give yourself credit.

To give yourself credit and recognise how far you've come.

To celebrate all you've achieved and overcome.

How you've grown, pushed your own limits, and overcome more than you thought possible.

How every challenge and obstacle, every celebration and experience, every success and learning has allowed you to know yourself more than before.

You may still have a way to go to reach your goals or bring your intentions into being, but just stop and allow yourself to recognise the progress that you've made.

It's easy to be aware of and focus on what you don't have or haven't achieved yet.

It can be easy to compare yourself to people who appear to be further along, or closer, to what you want for yourself, but take this moment to appreciate what you've done too.

Think of all the challenges you've overcome.

The learning, knowledge and experience that you have acquired; about yourself, life and various topics.

Recognise the resilience and strength that you've had to develop, so that you can stand where you are today.

No part of your journey is wasted.

It has brought you to where you are today. Stronger, wiser, and more confident in yourself and your abilities.

Don't allow yourself to downplay or dismiss all that you've done.

You've done it. You are here. You need to give yourself the recognition that you deserve for being here, right now.

In this very moment, pause, and take a breath. As you recognise all that you've done.

Today's SHEro Action:

Today's SHEro action is to recognise just how far you've come.

Think back over the last 12 months and make a list of all the things you've achieved and completed. The big and the small.

Consider all the things you've learnt.

The places you've been and the people you've met.

The books you've read or listened to, the podcasts or shows you've consumed.

Look back through your diary or journal and remind yourself of all the things you've done, got through and celebrated.

Pause, and take a breath. As you recognise just how far you have come.

Today's Affirmation:

"I honour myself and all that I have done, overcome and achieved"

https://rebeccaanuwen.com/give-yourself-credit

Today you're being reminded to respond with awareness.

To respond to life consciously, and not through emotional habits and learned behaviour.

Often when a situation occurs, you respond to them the way you always have.

Responding in a particular way may have been appropriate in the past, but how often do you stop to ask if the response is still appropriate today.

We can often learn our emotional responses as children, either as a way to get what we wanted or to avoid something we didn't. Or they can be a learned behaviour as we watched how our own parents or caregivers behaved in certain situations.

These responses may not be appropriate or even healthy responses for you today.

Today you have more experience, knowledge and resources to draw upon than you did when you were a child.

So, take a moment and make sure that you respond consciously, and in a way that supports you and who you're becoming.

In this very moment, pause, and take a breath. As you allow yourself to become conscious of any outdated and habitual responses.

Today's SHEro Action:

Today's SHEro action is to pay attention to how you respond, especially to emotive topics such as money and love.

Think about your beliefs and behaviours around these topics and consider if they are even yours, or have you just been repeating what you've learnt, or are you doing what you have always done?

Are your responses, conscious and considered, are they made from a place of awareness or are they default patterns that you unconsciously fall into?

Pause, and take a breath. As you ask yourself "Is this mine?"

Today's Affirmation:

"I consciously choose how I respond to situations"

https://rebeccaanuwen.com/respond-with-awareness

Today you're being reminded to be real.

It can be more important to focus on being real than on being nice.

Nice is what women are often taught to be.

The good girls, the looking after people, the prioritising the needs of others before themselves.

They can be taught be pleasant and not make a fuss.

To be the peacekeepers, the bridge builders.

Authenticity is replaced with a façade of niceness.

Boundaries are trodden on, if they even existed at all.

It's time to honour yourself, your feelings and your energy.

Protect your space.

Be discerning about who or what you allow in, or at least what of theirs you take on.

Be true to yourself.

Show up in the realness of who you are.

You can still be nice, but this time it will come from a place deep within, fuelled by love and connection, and not from a place of 'should'.

You will be nice from a place of power and choice, and not a place of fear, habit or expectation.

In this very moment, pause, and take a breath. As you allow yourself to be real.

Today's SHEro Action:

Today's SHEro action is to acknowledge those areas where you wear the façade of 'niceness'.

Where you put others needs before yourself, because it's expected of you.

Where you don't speak up about your thoughts, feelings or needs, because you're concerned about how you will be received.

How can you be more real today, in a way that feels safe and authentic to you?

Perhaps it could be in what you do, what you wear, or who you spend your time with.

Maybe it's spending time journaling about your truth so that you start to be real and honest with yourself first.

Pause, and take a breath. As you allow yourself to drop any façades that aren't yours to carry.

Today's Affirmation:

"I choose being real over being nice"

https://rebeccaanuwen.com/be-real

Today you're being reminded that it's natural to change.

As you experience more of life and discover more about who you are, you aren't supposed to stay the same.

As you move forward in life, your needs, dreams and desires change as you do, and that's okay.

You learn and grow.

Your failures and successes transform you.

Your lived experiences refine what you truly desire.

The more you learn, and unlearn, about your experience of life and the experiences of those around you, the more you hone what's really important to you.

Just because something was true for you in the past, doesn't mean that it's still true for you now.

Just because you invested in time, energy and money in following a certain path in your life, doesn't mean you have to stick with it forever more.

Just because it's expected of you, doesn't mean you have to comply.

All of your learning and experience is valuable, you just might not use it in the way you first expected you would.

Pause, and take a breath. As you allow yourself to change.

Today's SHEro Action:

Today's SHEro action is to reflect on your life and get honest about what you want to change.

Relationships, career choices, hobbies, do they still bring you joy and light you up, or have your needs and desires changed?

Have you outgrown any area of your life?

Have any areas become stale and become more of a chore?

Decide if you need to recommit and breathe fresh life into them, or do you need to accept that you've changed and it's now time to move on?

Pause, and take a breath. As you allow yourself to be honest.

Today's Affirmation:

"I embrace my growth and the change it brings"

https://rebeccaanuwen.com/its-natural-to-change

Today you're being reminded to be loyal to your future.

To be loyal to your future and not let your past define you.

We all have a past filled with a wide range of experiences. Some you may be proud of, others you may now ask yourself what on earth you were ever thinking.

You may have regrets for past actions or inactions, for conversations and words said in haste, for behaviours that now make you cringe.

You did the best you could with the information you had.

Or at least you would do things differently now.

Your past has shaped you, but it doesn't have to define you.

Focus on who you are now and who you're becoming.

Be loyal to the future vision you have for yourself and your life.

You cannot change the choices you made in the past, but you can change those behaviours, and make different choices as you move forward.

Pause, and take a breath. As you recommit to your future.

Today's SHEro Action:

Today's SHEro action is to spend some time daydreaming about the future you want to create for yourself.

More important than the 'things' that you want for that future, focus on the feelings and values that you want front and centre of your life.

Who do you want to become, how do you want to contribute, what are your days filled with?

Allow these dreams and feelings to become part of your everyday life right now, today.

Allow them to expand and grow as they pull you forward, rather than being pulled back and stuck in the past.

Pause, and take a breath. As you allow your future to inspire you forwards.

Today's Affirmation:

"I commit to my future and who I am becoming"

https://rebeccaanuwen.com/be-loyal-to-your-future

Today you're being reminded to focus on today.

Often you can be so focused on the enormity of where you want to be, what you want to achieve, your 1 year, 5 year, 10 year goals, that you feel too overwhelmed to actually take action.

But you won't master life in a day, so focus on mastering the day and then keep going one day at a time.

You wouldn't expect to master the violin in a week, so give yourself a break, and acknowledge that as a human, you're ever evolving and that you're still learning and growing, and will do until the day you die.

Mistakes are inevitable.

They're allowed.

There will always be something new to work towards, a new goal or desire that catches your attention.

Give yourself permission to not have everything together, and to not be where you want to be.

Focus on where you are and what you do well.

Acknowledge all that you do right.

Acknowledge the progress you've made and continue to make.

You're not the same women you were last year.

You're probably not the same woman you were six months ago, possibly even one month ago.

Often it can be overwhelming at the thought of all that you want to be and do, but focus on the here and now.

Focus on what you can do today.

Focus on how you can weave more of the feelings and values that are important to you, into your day, rather than thinking everything seems too far out of reach.

Pause, and take a breath. As remind yourself how far you've come.

Today's SHEro Action:

Today's SHEro action is to acknowledge how far you've come.

Look back over the last 12 months and notice all that you have learnt, done and achieved.

Notice how much you've grown as a person, what skills you've gained, maybe you've become more confident, feel more connected or trust yourself more.

Look back through your calendar to really appreciate all that you've done and how far you've come.

Pause, and take a breath. As you allow yourself to recognise your own growth.

Today's Affirmation:

"I fully recognise and appreciate all that I do and have done"

https://rebeccaanuwen.com/focus-on-today

Today you're being reminded that routine can be dangerous.

Take a moment to consider your routines, the things you habitually do without ever really having to think about it.

Routines can be supportive. They allow you to do things with ease and little, or less, effort.

However, routines can also sneak you into habitual patterns, and prevent you from seeing new opportunities.

They can get you stuck in a rut physically, emotionally, energetically and spiritually.

Routines can make you complacent about your thoughts, beliefs and the consequences of your actions.

They can make you think that it's safer and more comfortable to be in your comfort zone.

This can make routines more dangerous than risk.

Risk makes you consider the options available to you, it reminds you of what you have to lose, and also what you have to gain.

Risk makes you consider if the outcome is important enough for you to actually take action.

It allows you to consider if you are living a life aligned with your values and your truth.

Risk brings your conscious awareness to how you're currently living and it presents an opportunity for growth.

Even if you decide against taking the risk, you have looked at your options and made a conscious choice based on what's important to you.

Routine doesn't often allow this type of regular reflection.

In this very moment, just pause and take a breath, as you consider what routines you find yourself in.

Today's SHEro Action:

Today's SHEro action is to think about your routines.

Evaluate if these routines, whether they be activities, thoughts or actions, serve you or prevent your growth.

Are these routines aligned with your truth, your values and desires?

Which are you consciously keeping, and which need a makeover, a shake-up, or removing altogether?

Pause, and take a breath. As you open yourself up to opportunities and growth.

Today's Affirmation:

"I choose growth over routine"

https://rebeccaanuwen.com/routine-is-dangerous

Today you're being reminded not to fear your own power.

You are a powerful being.

You have the ability to create and destroy within you.

And yet, as natural as this power is, as much as it is an inherent part of your being, you may have been taught to fear your power, and to avoid it altogether.

This can be especially true for women who have traditionally been told they should be caring, loving and nurturing.

The mothers, the caregivers, the compassionate friend, the people who should put other's before themselves. Who are often taught that as women they're expected to prioritise the comfort and well-being of others over themselves.

Power can be seen as a dominant force, aggressive in nature, and both of these are generally considered by 'polite society' as not becoming of a woman.

And to this I would swear, but instead I will choose to say – what a load of rubbish.

As a woman you have the power to create, whether that's children, poetry, stories, cakes, art or ideas.

That power to take an idea, a seed, and birth it into the world is incredible.

This is not a power over, or a dominating power.

It is power with.

A power that co-creates, that harnesses the energies that swirl around you and within you.

Yes, this power can be fierce, think of a mumma bear protecting her cubs, or the power of a mother nature.

This power is needed to bring change, to protect that which you care about.

Don't supress your power, when you do so, you turn it inwards, and all sorts of symptoms can occur because of that.

Embody your power, dance with your power, make friends with your power.

What does it want you to do?

What does it want to co-create with you?

How does it want you to embody it?

Your power is already within you, it's time for you to embrace it.

In this very moment, just pause and take a breath, as you feel into your inherent power.

Today's SHEro Action:

Today's SHEro action is to think about your relationship with your power.

What are your experiences with women who you consider to be powerful?

As you were growing up who were the powerful women in the books and films you read and watched?

Did they have power over others, or power with others?

On a scale of 1-10 how powerful do you feel?

What needs to change to increase that number?

Pause, and take a breath. As you open yourself up to your own power.

Today's Affirmation:

"I am a powerful woman"

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