Ready. Set. IVF: Mind-Body Tools for Navigating Fertility Treatments, Surrogacy and Pregnancy Loss

The main reaction you experience when it comes to IVF is stress. Because let's face it, IVF is stressful.

And as you know, stress affects your fertility.

Welcome to part one of a five-part series, The Infertility Stress Series.

Over the next four episodes I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes we make when it comes to reducing stress, including the things you're doing right now that don't just fail to help, they might actually be keeping you stuck.

Each episode reveals a different one. But first, we need to start here, with what's actually happening in your brain and body when stress takes over.In this episode:

• Why fear, anxiety, worry and stress aren't actually the same thing, and why knowing the difference matters
• The two-part nervous system that's running the show without you even realising it
• What your amygdala does the second your phone rings and your clinic's name pops up
• Why you can't "think" your way calm in that moment, and the science behind why
• The pattern that separates a healthy stress response from the one keeping you stuck in IVF, and why understanding it means you can stop punishing yourself for not feeling calmer

Links mentioned in this episode:

Email me at [email protected] or send me a message on Instagram @msjenniferrobertson if you'd like to learn more about working together.

Other links and resources:

⁠Download our free IVF-Prep checklist and get IVF-ready without the overwhelm⁠

⁠1:1 coaching⁠

Do you flinch every time your birthday rolls around because it feels like one more year without a baby in your arms?

For seven years, I dreaded my birthday - it didn't feel like a celebration, it felt like a countdown.

This week in honor of my 50th Birthday, I'm getting honest about every fear I had about being an "older mum" and why most of it turned out to be noise.

In this episode:

• The age I started trying to conceive, and why the world had already convinced me it was too late
• The 10 things I actually love about becoming a mum later in life
• The study that suggests older mums might live longer, not shorter
• What I know now that I wish someone had told me back then

Other links and resources:

Click here to follow me on Instagram⁠

Download our free IVF-Prep checklist and get IVF-ready without the overwhelm⁠⁠

1:1 coaching⁠

If you find it hard to explain what Infertility and IVF feels like, and struggle to get the support you really need from your friends and family, this episode is for you.

Actually, it's for your loved ones.

So share it with them, because I explain:

• Why the grief your loved one is carrying is real grief, not an overreaction, and the one sentence that explains it
• The phrase to say instead of "just relax" or "stay positive" (and why those two lines land so badly)
• What not to say when she tells you this cycle might not work
• Why baby showers can feel like a war zone for her right now, and how to support her without pressure or judgement
• The one question to ask instead of "any updates?" that she'll actually want to answer

Links mentioned in this episode:
Follow me on Instagram at msjenniferrobertson.

Check out my book, The Injustice of Infertility.

Email [email protected] to ask about support for your loved one.

Other links and resources:

Click here to follow me on Instagram⁠

⁠Download our free IVF-Prep checklist and get IVF-ready without the overwhelm⁠

⁠1:1 coaching⁠

Do you have a rocky relationship with hope? Does even hearing the word make you want to roll your eyes?

The longer you're trying to conceive, the harder hope gets to hold onto, and everyone telling you to "just have hope" isn't helping.

In this episode I'm busting four myths we believe about hope, so you can walk away feeling a little more hopeful for real reasons, not because you chanted an affirmation in the mirror.

In this episode:

• Why hope isn't actually a warm fuzzy feeling (and what the research says it really is)
• The flawed logic behind blaming a failed cycle on "not having enough hope"
• The one big difference between hope and optimism that changes everything
• Why doing IVF at all means you already have more hope than you think
• The real reason it hurts more when a cycle fails, and it's not because you let yourself hope

Links mentioned in this episode:

Want support putting this into practice?

Book a free 30-minute call with me

Other links and resources:

⁠Click here to follow me on Instagram⁠

Download our free IVF-Prep checklist and get IVF-ready without the overwhelm⁠

⁠1:1 coaching⁠

If you've just decided to do IVF and are feeling equal parts terrified, hopeful, overwhelmed, relieved and disappointed all at the same time... this episode is for you.

You don't want to do IVF, yet, here you are. It's a choice, but it's not really.

And very few people understand how confusing this feels. But I do.

So I'm sharing a love letter I wrote for the woman who has just made the decision to do IVF.

This is everything I wish I had been told going into it.

By the end of this you're going to feel seen. Normal. Understood. Relieved.

Links mentioned in this episode:

Download our free IVF-Prep checklist and get IVF-ready without the overwhelm⁠

Other links and resources:

⁠Click here to follow me on Instagram⁠

⁠Join the waitlist for She is... Ready: an online program to keep you calm and grounded through IVF's hardest moments⁠

⁠1:1 coaching⁠

Do you ever lie awake at 3am running through every worst case scenario your brain can invent, then wake up exhausted from a disaster that hasn't even happened?

If your brain jumps straight from "what if this monitoring scan shows no follicles" to planning how you'll break the news to everyone you know and get through another cycle, this episode is for you.

I'm sharing the single best piece of advice I've ever heard for handling anxiety.

In this episode:

• Why your brain turns into an anxiety machine the second you start IVF, even if you've never struggled with anxiety before
• The mindset reframe that will forever change the way you look at worst case scenarios for good, so you can finally stop bracing for impact
• The one thing you're doing that is making this harder than it needs to be, and how you can stop
• A mantra you can use the next time you spiral, so you put down the worry

Links mentioned in this episode:Doors to She is... Ready are open now and close on 30 August. Become your most emotionally resilience self. www.jenniferrobertson.co/she-is-ready

Other links and resources:

• ⁠Click here to follow me on Instagram⁠
• ⁠Download our free IVF-Prep checklist and get IVF-ready without the overwhelm⁠
• ⁠Join the waitlist for She is... Ready: an online program to keep you calm and grounded through IVF's hardest moments⁠
• ⁠1:1 coaching⁠

Are you googling pregnancy symptoms at 3am?

The two week wait is its own special kind of torture. Every twinge sends you into a spiral.

This episode is your survival guide for getting from transfer to testing without losing your mind.

In this episode:

• Why your body becomes a puzzle you're desperate to solve, and why that never actually works
• The real reason uncertainty feels unbearable, and it's not what you think
• My non-negotiable boundaries around googling, testing and checking the trash can (yes, really)
• How to build a plan before the wait starts, so you're not making decisions from panic
• Why aiming for neutral, not positive, might be the kindest thing you do for yourself

Links mentioned in this episode:
➡️➡️ Secure your spot for my free training session to help you become emotionally resilient through IVF's uncertainty.

Other links and resources:

• ⁠Click here to follow me on Instagram⁠
• ⁠Download our free IVF-Prep checklist and get IVF-ready without the overwhelm⁠
• ⁠Join the waitlist for She is... Ready: an online program to keep you calm and grounded through IVF's hardest moments⁠
• ⁠1:1 coaching⁠

Have you ever stared at a baby shower invite with a pit of dread sitting in your stomach, said yes when every part of you screamed no, then spent the whole party in the bathroom holding it together?

This episode is a spicy one and I'm not sorry. I'm giving you full permission to skip the baby shower, and I'm showing you exactly how to decline without the guilt eating you alive.

In this episode:

• The six beliefs keeping you trapped in "Ihave to go anyway" and why every single one of them is wrong
• Why what you've been calling guilt this wholetime isn't actually guilt at all   
• The exact wording to use so you can decline in away that feels honest, not harsh
• What a good friend really looks like when you'rethe one struggling 
• Why pushing through isn't strength, and what todo instead

Links mentioned in this episode:

➡️ FREE TRAINING SESSION to stop second guessing every IVF decision:

CLICK HERE TO SECURE YOUR SPOT ⬅️

Other links and resources:

• ⁠Click here to follow me on Instagram⁠
• ⁠Download our free IVF-Prep checklist and get IVF-ready without the overwhelm⁠
• ⁠Join the waitlist for She is... Ready: an online program to keep you calm and grounded through IVF's hardest moments⁠
• ⁠1:1 coaching⁠

When was the last time you thought about something that wasn't about IVF or your fertility? If you're struggling to remember, this episode is a must listen.

Somewhere along the way, without you even realising it, IVF stops being part of your life and becomes your whole life. Your relationship, your friendships, your job, the things you used to love, they all get swallowed up by one goal... to have a baby.

So if you've been consumed by IVF, in this episode I break down exactly how it happens and what you can do about it, including:

• The "fertility consumption life cycle" and why every part of your life eventually ends up being driven by your desire to have a baby.
• Why chasing a goal you can't control is quietly wearing you down, and the shift that changes everything
• How you can stop feeling resentful of all the changes you're making to have a baby, and feel more motivated to do them
• The exact boundaries you can set to create fertility-free zones in your relationship, friendships and nighttime routine
• How to stop your IVF admin from bleeding into every part of your day

Link's mentioned in this episode:

Secure your spot for my free training and STOP IVF from ruling your life

Other links and resources:

1. ⁠Click here to follow me on Instagram⁠

2. ⁠Download our free IVF-Prep checklist and get IVF-ready without the overwhelm⁠

3. ⁠Join the waitlist for She is... Ready: an online program to keep you calm and grounded through IVF's hardest moments⁠

4. ⁠1:1 coaching⁠

There's a hard way through IVF, and there's a path of least resistance. How to do IVF in a way that doesn't break you.

If you're pushing through, researching at 3am, and adding more to your plate every time a result doesn't go your way, this one's for you.

Here are three things I'd do differently if I was starting IVF again, and I'd put money on the fact you're doing the exact opposite of all of them.

In this episode:

• Why support isn't a luxury add-on, it's part of the treatment (and belongs in the same budget column as your supplements)
• The coping mechanisms that feel productive but are secretly keeping you stuck in stress
• The sneaky pattern I call "doing more" and why it might be working against you
• The difference between frantic and intentional IVF prep
• The 80/20 principle that matters more than any perfect protocol

Links mentioned in this episode:

The Consistency Code framework - https://www.jenniferrobertson.co/ready-set-ivf-the-consistency-code

Other links and resources:

• ⁠Click here to follow me on Instagram⁠
• ⁠Download our free IVF-Prep checklist and get IVF-ready without the overwhelm⁠
• ⁠Join the waitlist for She is... Ready: an online program to keep you calm and grounded through IVF's hardest moments⁠
• ⁠1:1 coaching⁠