Why Most Feedback Fails & How to Fix It

Why do carefully crafted feedback conversations so often backfire? In this episode, I break down the real reasons most feedback fails – and it's not about delivery techniques or sandwich methods. Discover how identity threats, power dynamics, and past experiences transform feedback from helpful information into perceived attacks.

You'll learn:

• Why traditional feedback approaches miss the fundamental human dynamics at play
• The four feedback types and their specific blind spots
• How to shift from feedback delivery to growth partnership
• Practical approaches for different stages of your feedback journey

Whether you're a team leader struggling with performance conversations or a high achiever wanting to become more receptive to input, this episode offers a completely fresh approach to making feedback actually work.

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In this episode of Ready When You Are, we dive into the disconnect many high achievers feel between their outward success and inner satisfaction. From the exhaustion of maintaining a "highlight reel" life to the deep-seated identity issues that make achievement feel hollow, we explore why traditional advice fails and how to create success that actually feels good inside. Tune in to learn how to bridge the gap and start defining success on your own terms.

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Why is saying no so difficult for smart, successful people? This episode goes beyond time management tips to explore what's really happening when boundaries feel impossible. From the fear beneath the 'yes,' to the identity tied to helping others, to the control issues making delegation feel risky - we get real about why knowing better isn't enough. With practical approaches based on what's actually driving your 'yes' pattern, this episode transforms how you think about boundaries.

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High achievers know they need rest, but somehow can't seem to take it. In this episode, we explore the recovery gap - why smart people struggle to rest despite knowing better. From the science of cognitive depletion to the hidden drivers behind recovery resistance, we get real about what's keeping you stuck in the cycle of burnout and what to do about it. No generic self-care advice. Just honest conversation about transforming your relationship with rest.

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You know that thing where you're crushing it at everything but secretly wondering why it feels so damn hard? Yeah, we're going there. Let's talk about high achievers and the real cost of excellence - because being 'good' at everything might be wrecking you more than you think.

From pushing yourself too hard (hello, perfectionism) to wondering why success feels empty despite doing all the 'right' things, we're getting honest about what's actually going on. Because here's the truth: excellence might have gotten you here, but it's time to figure out why it's not feeling so excellent anymore.

No surface solutions. No 'just do less' BS. Just real talk about breaking free from the excellence trap and creating success that doesn't require sacrificing yourself.

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She Doesn't Settle

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Ever wonder why knowing what to do isn't enough to actually change? Why you keep hitting the same walls despite trying all the 'right' things? Let's get real about where you actually are in your journey - because that changes everything.

In this episode, I'm sharing the continuum I use - from auto-pilot (where success works but feels mechanical), to rigid (where you know something's off but can't shift), to adaptive (where real change begins), to integrated (where success finally feels natural). Understanding where you are on this journey? It's going to help you get the most out of every future episode.

We'll talk about what each stage really looks like, what it takes to move forward, and how to recognize yourself in this work. Because when you understand where you're really starting from? That's when real change becomes possible.

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Hi! I'm Kelly. I'm excited to be kicking off this new podcast after ending a long run (4 years and 205 episodes) of She Doesn't Settle.

Ready When You Are is an invitation to be done with one-size-fits-all advice and discover what actually works for YOU. I've been doing this work for a long time (yes, I've got the education, the certifications -- I'm not some "influencer" who decided because I did a thing I should coach others to do the thing). That said, I've been through and done a lot of things. :) (You can confirm at my website below.)

Everyone's got the 'perfect' formula for success in work, health, and life. (Spoiler: They're wrong.) On this podcast, I'll be having honest conversations about figuring out what actually works for YOU - because crushing it shouldn't mean crushing yourself.

You're smart. You've tried all the right things - the health hacks, the productivity tips, the influencer advice. Yet here you are, still hitting the same walls. Still avoiding tough conversations. Still pushing too hard. Still wondering why achieving more means enjoying it less.

Through real talk about why you do what you do - from the control issues you can't shake to the rest you can't seem to take - we will explore how understanding yourself changes everything. No surface solutions. Just honest conversations about breaking free from patterns that keep you stuck.

For high achievers who know there has to be a better way.

Are you ready?

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